My spouse has a low sperm count and me - irregular menstruation.What is the BEST advice u can give for us couple who had a hard time having a baby?
My husband and I were married 11 years before we got pregnant. 3 years before I became pregnant my doctor said that my chances of becoming pregnant ';though not impossible was highly improbable'; I had several factors going against me: PCOS(irregular periods is part of this), overweight, diabetic, high blood pressure and my age. I finally admitted to myself that it wasn't go to happen. I quit thinking about it, crying about it and being angry about the situation. Then back in Feb. 08 I felt different, not sick, just something felt different. I went to my doctor where I had my prescriptions refilled, went the drug store, paid to have them filled and on a lark I bought a pregnancy test - just to be safe. I took it that night and I was pregnant. Despite my Doctor asking me at one point ';are you the poster-child for high risk pregnancy?'; My son was born at 36 weeks October 08. I was 38 when he was born and turned 39, 11 days later.
My advice, and perhaps it's contradictory. Relax, try not to stress about what is or is not happening. Don't view every period that comes as a failure to be mourned. Keep a positive attitude. And at the same take care of yourself as if tomorrow you're going to become pregnant. Eat right, exercise do whatever you can to make your body ready to carry that baby. Any underlying medical conditions, work on getting them sorted. Trust me, the healthier you are before you become pregnant the better it will go for you. I was caught by surprise and everyday was a day I worried about my health ending my pregnancy.
The book: What to Expect when Your Expecting has a a few chapters on things to do before you become pregnant. If might worth a look. Also, getting your health in check now will also play to your advantage if you at some point seek medical help in getting pregnant. Good LuckWhat is the BEST advice u can give for us couple who had a hard time having a baby?
I suppose you are asking abt how to have baby,infertility, Right?
You should visit Dr Christopher Chen,he is very popular for IVF / fertility services .
Well known and He has published widely in medical journals and books .Visit him to have a discussion.
Well you've had the baby so just the same advise you's give to anyone, but with a bit of extra congratulations.
Make sure you get your sleep when baby is sleeping!
Friday, January 8, 2010
Advice for babysitting a gay couple's kid?
I was asked to babysit for a male gay couple's 3rd grade child. Is there any advice in how i should handle this. Should i act differently? Do children with gay parents act differently than others?
Also, it's just going to be me and the kid, so any suggestions on what to do/what i should bring for us to do?
Thank you!Advice for babysitting a gay couple's kid?
Regardless of the kid's parents' sexual orientation, you need to be responsible and make sure the child is mindful of your authority and does what he or she is told.
My thing is though that if you are not comfortable with the kid's parents being gay you need to be fair to everyone involved and decline this babysitting job.
If you are cool, don't do anything differently from what you would ordinarily do with a straight couple's child. Bring some games to play with. You may need to help him/her with the homework.Advice for babysitting a gay couple's kid?
They act the same as children of straight parents. If you want, bring a same sex friend in and kiss jk. Actually they'd probably handle it better than so many in religion or most other topics. Why not see who can make the better Lady GaGa wig? Or just some game, nothing special. Remember just a kid, not a gay representative.
**SARCASTIC** The last time I checked, kids who have gay parents act TOTALLY different towards people who babysit them. You should watch your back because you never know when they are gonna pounce! I would bring mirrors and flashlights. Do not bring candy! Gay couples' kids do not like candy! Hide your valuables and whatever you do... listen carefully... do not let them out of your sight.**SARCASTIC**
Do you see how silly my answer was? I felt the same way about your question. I am not trying to be mean. Kids are kids. Nothing will change that. Just be yourself and have fun! Good luck!
Oh come on, don't be silly. a kid is a kid. bring a card game, or other game, some books to read, a craft to do.
help the kid with his or her homework if they have any and play some video games or watch a movie. don't ask the kid what is like to have gay parents cause it rude and try to bring snacks
If you dont know what to do, or not to do with a 3rd grade child, you should NOT be babysitting. Who cares if he has two dads.
I would be worried if him/her was my child.
I wouldnt imagine he'd be any different from a normal child, i have no idea what to do with kids for fun tho, im useless at that sort of thing, sorry hehe
Well, they shouldn't act differently from any other kid, but if you're concerned, why not ask the parents? They should be able to give an overview of the child's interests and behavior.
That's messed up. Did they adopt a kid with 5 legs? 3 eyes? Or 10 arms? If not there just A KID. Treat them like any other child. They are not aliens.
its just like any other kid! treat it like any other kid, but i wouldn't like ask it about his mommy or anything, but i'm sure you knew about that one lol good luck!
Don't treat them any differently then you would any other child.
Treat the kid the same way you'd treat a straight couple's kid - as a kid.
Of course you shouldn't act differently. Behave as you would around any 3rd grade child!
Get one of those cage things they make for small children and rifle through the gin cabinet.
just act normally. bring something like a computer game or such to entertain the kid.
oh my god..its a child..treat him like you would any child..just cause he has gay parents doesnt mean you have to do things differently..Weirdo!!!
Why would you act differently? Is the kid a mutant?
no, there would be no difference. there normal kids just like u or me.natural lipstick
Also, it's just going to be me and the kid, so any suggestions on what to do/what i should bring for us to do?
Thank you!Advice for babysitting a gay couple's kid?
Regardless of the kid's parents' sexual orientation, you need to be responsible and make sure the child is mindful of your authority and does what he or she is told.
My thing is though that if you are not comfortable with the kid's parents being gay you need to be fair to everyone involved and decline this babysitting job.
If you are cool, don't do anything differently from what you would ordinarily do with a straight couple's child. Bring some games to play with. You may need to help him/her with the homework.Advice for babysitting a gay couple's kid?
They act the same as children of straight parents. If you want, bring a same sex friend in and kiss jk. Actually they'd probably handle it better than so many in religion or most other topics. Why not see who can make the better Lady GaGa wig? Or just some game, nothing special. Remember just a kid, not a gay representative.
**SARCASTIC** The last time I checked, kids who have gay parents act TOTALLY different towards people who babysit them. You should watch your back because you never know when they are gonna pounce! I would bring mirrors and flashlights. Do not bring candy! Gay couples' kids do not like candy! Hide your valuables and whatever you do... listen carefully... do not let them out of your sight.**SARCASTIC**
Do you see how silly my answer was? I felt the same way about your question. I am not trying to be mean. Kids are kids. Nothing will change that. Just be yourself and have fun! Good luck!
Oh come on, don't be silly. a kid is a kid. bring a card game, or other game, some books to read, a craft to do.
help the kid with his or her homework if they have any and play some video games or watch a movie. don't ask the kid what is like to have gay parents cause it rude and try to bring snacks
If you dont know what to do, or not to do with a 3rd grade child, you should NOT be babysitting. Who cares if he has two dads.
I would be worried if him/her was my child.
I wouldnt imagine he'd be any different from a normal child, i have no idea what to do with kids for fun tho, im useless at that sort of thing, sorry hehe
Well, they shouldn't act differently from any other kid, but if you're concerned, why not ask the parents? They should be able to give an overview of the child's interests and behavior.
That's messed up. Did they adopt a kid with 5 legs? 3 eyes? Or 10 arms? If not there just A KID. Treat them like any other child. They are not aliens.
its just like any other kid! treat it like any other kid, but i wouldn't like ask it about his mommy or anything, but i'm sure you knew about that one lol good luck!
Don't treat them any differently then you would any other child.
Treat the kid the same way you'd treat a straight couple's kid - as a kid.
Of course you shouldn't act differently. Behave as you would around any 3rd grade child!
Get one of those cage things they make for small children and rifle through the gin cabinet.
just act normally. bring something like a computer game or such to entertain the kid.
oh my god..its a child..treat him like you would any child..just cause he has gay parents doesnt mean you have to do things differently..Weirdo!!!
Why would you act differently? Is the kid a mutant?
no, there would be no difference. there normal kids just like u or me.
What is your advice for a young couple in college moving to Cali. or Florida??
Me and my boyfriend currently rent an apt. in Arlington, TX and attend UTA. We were thinking about relocating because we want a change of scenery, Texas is lovely, but we want to experience real beaches and real city life. I am majoring in nursing and my boyfriend is majoring in engineering. We were contemplating Florida or Cali. I would also like advice on what schools to go to and what part of the two states would best fit us. Oh yeah, I am 18 and he is 19 and we are basically supporting ourselves with help from his father. I know that Cali is expensive but that's why I need you guy's opinions. HELP PLEASE!!!!What is your advice for a young couple in college moving to Cali. or Florida??
If you go to CA I would look somewhere in Southern CA b/c the beaches in Northern CA are pretty cold and foggy. I've heard there is a high demand for nurses in CA so finding a job might be easy. Some healthcare company's like Kaiser Permanente will pay for your education in exchange for a guarantee to working for them for a certain amount of time, so I would look into programs like that b/c they might foot the bill for schooling and even housing. But first I would move and work for 6months to a year first to establish residency; out of state tuition can be very expensive. I think in CA most public colleges and universities require at least 6 months of living in CA or maybe a year, their websites will have that info.
UC San Diego is a very good school for engineering but it's also very difficult to get in. You might be able to directly tranfer from UTA, but if not then you can always go to a community college for a few years and transfer. It's really easy to tranfer from a CA community college to a public university, either a UC (University of CA) school or a CSU (CA State University) school. You will always save on tuition by doing that. For nursing I would check out San Diego State University (SDSU). But there are tons of good schools all over the state; I went to college in San Diego so that's why I am suggesting those. But if you decide on LA or Orange County there are also many UC's and CSU schools up there.
I would look at schools in San Diego though, the cost of living is less than LA or Orange COunty. Housing and renting are cheaper and it's much less crowded and congested than LA/OC. SD is great; amazing weather, nice and friendly people, tons of activities to do, and great beaches. There are also a lot of tranplants from all over the country in SD; I see Texas license plate's all the time when I'm driving, at least one or two a day, so you'll probably meet some people form your neck of the woods.
After you decide on where to locate I would check out all the schools and see what their residency requirements are for in-state tuition. Then see if they offer the programs you are looking for.What is your advice for a young couple in college moving to Cali. or Florida??
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Although people are giving her ';thumbs down';, Snowball gave you excellent advice, I hope you heed it. (I know, ';But I love him';. Famous last words).
Having said that, as very young students you are both living on a tight budget. As you already said, California is EXTREMELY expensive. A half way decent apartment in a fairly safe area will run you well over $1,000 a month. Gasoline is the highest in the country.
If you must relocate go to Florida. The cost of living is much lower, and there is no state income tax. If you are both still together after graduation, there will be just as great a demand for your professions in Florida as in California. As young people just starting out, California would quickly eat you alive.
Honey, I think the best advice I can give you is that you shouldn't be arranging your entire life around a man when you are only 18 years old. I'm very serious about that, and I speak as a wise, 30 year old professional Black Woman who has seen It All. You following that 19 year old young man all over America is way too much. Dont you know he might be sick of you in a few years--maybe even 1 year? Dont you know that by you giving him everything under the sun--free sex 24 hours a day, a free maid, and paying half his bills--that will make him take you For Granted? --and it doesnt matter how many times he' saying ';I love you';--girl if he loved you, he'd be arranging a wedding to marry you. And dont you know you could end up with a baby and being a ';baby-momma';.
You need to be focusing on your own life, your goals, your career, and trying to discover who you are WITHOUT A MAN--and most importanly--develop a relationship with the Almighty so that no matter what comes your way--you will always survive and be happy.
Peace
California:
San Francisco, the most beautiful and fun city in America.
Sierra's
Yosemite
All kinds of Beaches, many C/O
The Mojave and Death Valley
Big Demand for nurses
Rare quakes
High cost of living
Florida:
Gators
Fire ants
Tornados
Hurricanes
Humidity
Miami
Beaches
Flat as a board
Everglades
High cost of living.
If you go to CA I would look somewhere in Southern CA b/c the beaches in Northern CA are pretty cold and foggy. I've heard there is a high demand for nurses in CA so finding a job might be easy. Some healthcare company's like Kaiser Permanente will pay for your education in exchange for a guarantee to working for them for a certain amount of time, so I would look into programs like that b/c they might foot the bill for schooling and even housing. But first I would move and work for 6months to a year first to establish residency; out of state tuition can be very expensive. I think in CA most public colleges and universities require at least 6 months of living in CA or maybe a year, their websites will have that info.
UC San Diego is a very good school for engineering but it's also very difficult to get in. You might be able to directly tranfer from UTA, but if not then you can always go to a community college for a few years and transfer. It's really easy to tranfer from a CA community college to a public university, either a UC (University of CA) school or a CSU (CA State University) school. You will always save on tuition by doing that. For nursing I would check out San Diego State University (SDSU). But there are tons of good schools all over the state; I went to college in San Diego so that's why I am suggesting those. But if you decide on LA or Orange County there are also many UC's and CSU schools up there.
I would look at schools in San Diego though, the cost of living is less than LA or Orange COunty. Housing and renting are cheaper and it's much less crowded and congested than LA/OC. SD is great; amazing weather, nice and friendly people, tons of activities to do, and great beaches. There are also a lot of tranplants from all over the country in SD; I see Texas license plate's all the time when I'm driving, at least one or two a day, so you'll probably meet some people form your neck of the woods.
After you decide on where to locate I would check out all the schools and see what their residency requirements are for in-state tuition. Then see if they offer the programs you are looking for.What is your advice for a young couple in college moving to Cali. or Florida??
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Although people are giving her ';thumbs down';, Snowball gave you excellent advice, I hope you heed it. (I know, ';But I love him';. Famous last words).
Having said that, as very young students you are both living on a tight budget. As you already said, California is EXTREMELY expensive. A half way decent apartment in a fairly safe area will run you well over $1,000 a month. Gasoline is the highest in the country.
If you must relocate go to Florida. The cost of living is much lower, and there is no state income tax. If you are both still together after graduation, there will be just as great a demand for your professions in Florida as in California. As young people just starting out, California would quickly eat you alive.
Honey, I think the best advice I can give you is that you shouldn't be arranging your entire life around a man when you are only 18 years old. I'm very serious about that, and I speak as a wise, 30 year old professional Black Woman who has seen It All. You following that 19 year old young man all over America is way too much. Dont you know he might be sick of you in a few years--maybe even 1 year? Dont you know that by you giving him everything under the sun--free sex 24 hours a day, a free maid, and paying half his bills--that will make him take you For Granted? --and it doesnt matter how many times he' saying ';I love you';--girl if he loved you, he'd be arranging a wedding to marry you. And dont you know you could end up with a baby and being a ';baby-momma';.
You need to be focusing on your own life, your goals, your career, and trying to discover who you are WITHOUT A MAN--and most importanly--develop a relationship with the Almighty so that no matter what comes your way--you will always survive and be happy.
Peace
California:
San Francisco, the most beautiful and fun city in America.
Sierra's
Yosemite
All kinds of Beaches, many C/O
The Mojave and Death Valley
Big Demand for nurses
Rare quakes
High cost of living
Florida:
Gators
Fire ants
Tornados
Hurricanes
Humidity
Miami
Beaches
Flat as a board
Everglades
High cost of living.
For a young (18yo) white couple, is it safe to travel to Plettenberg Bay in South Africa? Advice please? :)?
Her mother is not too keen. Any good information regarding the safety/goodness of Plett?
For a young (18yo) white couple, is it safe to travel to Plettenberg Bay in South Africa? Advice please? :)?
Yeah okay Nick麓s the man, he is right. Plett is a fantastic place, it is safe, but still be care full. The question is.........How are you gonna travel to Plett and from where ? For a young (18yo) white couple, is it safe to travel to Plettenberg Bay in South Africa? Advice please? :)?
Plett, as its affectionately known, is one of the most sought after holiday destinations in SA, especially with South Africans - but also with many international tourists who are in the know. Plett is the place where many South Africans own a holiday home - well, the more well heeled as Plett property is VERY expensive - its an exclusive destination. It is SAFE and there is no question about this - just be sensible as you would in any other foreign place.
Nick's right! You'll find more friendship than trouble there,same as the hundreds of young people backpacking around SA right now will already have found. All we hear in Britain is the bad news.How many car journeys do people make which go unreported because nobody got killed or injured? Any at all? Ever been in a plane which didn't crash? I bet that wasn't in the news either. News distorts reality.I met loads of Brits,French,Americans,you name it,male and female,and never heard a bad luck story from any of them,in over a month of travelling around SA and Mozambique. If you treat people decently you'll be fine. I've given the same answer on here a few times now,and I've got loads of invites from South Africans both in Britain and SA who've been so pleased to find a Brit on here telling people what a friendly place it is. You need normal street sense,same as in London, Manchester,or New York,but don't be frightened of the place. You'll have a great time. It's beautiful around Plett,and well worth going. I'm looking forward to getting back there.
Oh what rubbish the above two people speak!
I have a house in Plett, and we go down every year in December. I stay in Johannesburg, so its great to get out of the city! We have never had any trouble, nor has anyone ever been harmed. We leave our house unattended all year round and still return to find everything in its place.
We wander the streets at night and feel very safe, so what the other two people answered is utter nonsense!
Who compares Afghanistan to South Africa? NO comparison! And whoever told you that story about there being 5 guards around you, wow, you need to brush up on your homework dude...
I am a Canadian who spends about 6 months of the year in South Africa and have for many years. If you are not a racist looking for trouble, chances are that you will not find any either.
Like travelling in any foreign country there are some sensible things you can do to keep it that way. Leave the cute safari suit at home and wear regular casual. Just as thieves and pick pockets target obvious strangers in New York, L.A or Paris or London, making yourself look like a target may make you one here too. If you are driving, do not pick up hitch hikers. If you see someone with a car broken down on the side of the road, do not stop to help. Instead call the police or report it at a toll booth if you are on a toll road. Don't wander around alone after dark. Don't flash your money and leave the Rolex at home - buy a Timex. Keep an eye on your luggage.
You will love Plettenberg Bay. Go to google.co.za and put it in the search and you will find a host of sites that will tell you what there is to do and see and that is a lot. It is on the Garden Route. Do not forget to take a camera. There are some fantastic pictures to be had here.
http://goplett.co.za/wiki2/index.php/Go-鈥?/a>
I'm a South African in his mid-twenties. I never knew of Plett until late last year when I started a friendship with a couple who are former members on this forum. I had since been to the place twice. It is far safer than Joburg. In fact what Nick said is true.
Just google and find suitable places to visit and stay at when there.
Firstly, Plett is THE best place on earth so don't miss out! If you're driving just be careful and exercise caution on the roads.
Nick is right,,,read his answer careful
i agree. its not the best place to go. but it beats going to afganistan or something. i have heard that in some places, you need to be guarded from others and so that you dont do anything to infringe on their bliefs so they stick 5 or more guards around you and escort you places. it usually only happens with large groups of 15 or more.
What Nick says is true apart from the fact that it IS considerably more dangerous by comparison EVERYWHERE compared to pre '94.That's just a fact.
They say that south africa is the rape capital of the world. I wouldn't go there based on that.
For a young (18yo) white couple, is it safe to travel to Plettenberg Bay in South Africa? Advice please? :)?
Yeah okay Nick麓s the man, he is right. Plett is a fantastic place, it is safe, but still be care full. The question is.........How are you gonna travel to Plett and from where ? For a young (18yo) white couple, is it safe to travel to Plettenberg Bay in South Africa? Advice please? :)?
Plett, as its affectionately known, is one of the most sought after holiday destinations in SA, especially with South Africans - but also with many international tourists who are in the know. Plett is the place where many South Africans own a holiday home - well, the more well heeled as Plett property is VERY expensive - its an exclusive destination. It is SAFE and there is no question about this - just be sensible as you would in any other foreign place.
Nick's right! You'll find more friendship than trouble there,same as the hundreds of young people backpacking around SA right now will already have found. All we hear in Britain is the bad news.How many car journeys do people make which go unreported because nobody got killed or injured? Any at all? Ever been in a plane which didn't crash? I bet that wasn't in the news either. News distorts reality.I met loads of Brits,French,Americans,you name it,male and female,and never heard a bad luck story from any of them,in over a month of travelling around SA and Mozambique. If you treat people decently you'll be fine. I've given the same answer on here a few times now,and I've got loads of invites from South Africans both in Britain and SA who've been so pleased to find a Brit on here telling people what a friendly place it is. You need normal street sense,same as in London, Manchester,or New York,but don't be frightened of the place. You'll have a great time. It's beautiful around Plett,and well worth going. I'm looking forward to getting back there.
Oh what rubbish the above two people speak!
I have a house in Plett, and we go down every year in December. I stay in Johannesburg, so its great to get out of the city! We have never had any trouble, nor has anyone ever been harmed. We leave our house unattended all year round and still return to find everything in its place.
We wander the streets at night and feel very safe, so what the other two people answered is utter nonsense!
Who compares Afghanistan to South Africa? NO comparison! And whoever told you that story about there being 5 guards around you, wow, you need to brush up on your homework dude...
I am a Canadian who spends about 6 months of the year in South Africa and have for many years. If you are not a racist looking for trouble, chances are that you will not find any either.
Like travelling in any foreign country there are some sensible things you can do to keep it that way. Leave the cute safari suit at home and wear regular casual. Just as thieves and pick pockets target obvious strangers in New York, L.A or Paris or London, making yourself look like a target may make you one here too. If you are driving, do not pick up hitch hikers. If you see someone with a car broken down on the side of the road, do not stop to help. Instead call the police or report it at a toll booth if you are on a toll road. Don't wander around alone after dark. Don't flash your money and leave the Rolex at home - buy a Timex. Keep an eye on your luggage.
You will love Plettenberg Bay. Go to google.co.za and put it in the search and you will find a host of sites that will tell you what there is to do and see and that is a lot. It is on the Garden Route. Do not forget to take a camera. There are some fantastic pictures to be had here.
http://goplett.co.za/wiki2/index.php/Go-鈥?/a>
I'm a South African in his mid-twenties. I never knew of Plett until late last year when I started a friendship with a couple who are former members on this forum. I had since been to the place twice. It is far safer than Joburg. In fact what Nick said is true.
Just google and find suitable places to visit and stay at when there.
Firstly, Plett is THE best place on earth so don't miss out! If you're driving just be careful and exercise caution on the roads.
Nick is right,,,read his answer careful
i agree. its not the best place to go. but it beats going to afganistan or something. i have heard that in some places, you need to be guarded from others and so that you dont do anything to infringe on their bliefs so they stick 5 or more guards around you and escort you places. it usually only happens with large groups of 15 or more.
What Nick says is true apart from the fact that it IS considerably more dangerous by comparison EVERYWHERE compared to pre '94.That's just a fact.
They say that south africa is the rape capital of the world. I wouldn't go there based on that.
What advice would you give a couple who is about to get married?
I would say never let one day's problems or anger--carry over to the next day.
And to adopt the phrase ';divorce is not an option.';What advice would you give a couple who is about to get married?
Just tonight I was telling my sis-in-law to be next month that it is easier to be holy when you're single. When you marry the sanctification process changes. You constantly have to keep the mindset of being sacrificial and think of the other's interests more highly than your own. When you lose sight of that then the flesh comes in and here comes selfishness, out goes selflessness.
The 1st year is easiest than the 'he's only thinking of himself' mindset starts settling in. And that is a battle all its own.
My dear friend who will be 80 on the 4th (I'll be 41 on the 8th) always encourages me to think of the Lord and put my focus on that I'm doing it all for Him. That's the best advice yet hardest to live by.What advice would you give a couple who is about to get married?
';Talk about everything, and listen non-judgmentally.';
enjoy
Make sure before you marry you discuss what you want to do and any ideas that you have for the future, make sure that the person you are marrying respects your ideas even if they differ from your own and that you discuss family options and consider your age for children, after 35 many women have complications in pregnancy. Make sure you meet all family and friends even if they are far away from where you live. make sure your partner has completely severed any ties with ex wives/girlfriends etc, make sure any exes know you are going to be married.
And to adopt the phrase ';divorce is not an option.';What advice would you give a couple who is about to get married?
Just tonight I was telling my sis-in-law to be next month that it is easier to be holy when you're single. When you marry the sanctification process changes. You constantly have to keep the mindset of being sacrificial and think of the other's interests more highly than your own. When you lose sight of that then the flesh comes in and here comes selfishness, out goes selflessness.
The 1st year is easiest than the 'he's only thinking of himself' mindset starts settling in. And that is a battle all its own.
My dear friend who will be 80 on the 4th (I'll be 41 on the 8th) always encourages me to think of the Lord and put my focus on that I'm doing it all for Him. That's the best advice yet hardest to live by.What advice would you give a couple who is about to get married?
';Talk about everything, and listen non-judgmentally.';
enjoy
Make sure before you marry you discuss what you want to do and any ideas that you have for the future, make sure that the person you are marrying respects your ideas even if they differ from your own and that you discuss family options and consider your age for children, after 35 many women have complications in pregnancy. Make sure you meet all family and friends even if they are far away from where you live. make sure your partner has completely severed any ties with ex wives/girlfriends etc, make sure any exes know you are going to be married.
I really want to loose a couple of pounds (no more than 5) i need advice?
The problem is I have no motivation, sometimes I make my gym bag get dressed but never actually make it to the gym,
I don't have any friends or family that I could go with
What motivates you to go to the gym?
What are some tips you have for weight loss?
What are some workouts that burn a lot of calories without having to be at the gym for hours?
ThanksI really want to loose a couple of pounds (no more than 5) i need advice?
my main motivation is every time I look in the mirror. what I see looking back at me screams so loud, it's hard to ignore.
jogging works well for me, or swimming, I like that too. below are some general estimations for how many calories are being burned.... they totally depend on how hard you work and how much you weigh..
me doing an exercise the same as a guy that weighs 150, i'd burn a lot more calories.
One thing that works for me is: before I eat, I drink a large glass of water, then if I'm still hungry, I won't eat as much as I would have.
also, fyi:
1 pound = 3500 calories.
If you burn more calories than you eat, you will lose weight.
ie, if you eat 2000 calories per day and burn 2500, you will lose 1 pound every week.
the average person burns 1500-2000 calories per day, just being alive.
powerwalking can burn 200-500 calories per hour.
exercise bike can burn 200-600 calories per hour.
swimming can burn 100-800 calories per hour.
jogging/running can burn 300-1200 calories per hour.
*********VERY IMPORTANT************
when trying to lose weight, very important to drink lots and lots of water ! ! !
You should drink at least 10 glasses per day, like 1 glass every hour !
This helps your body get rid of the fat when you are burning calories.I really want to loose a couple of pounds (no more than 5) i need advice?
The 18in4 diet 18 pounds in 4 days not to bad i must say you must follow it tho to work www.18in4.com
Eat less and an hour of cycling a day is enough.
Combining a reasonable exercise program with a good weight loss diet is the secret to boosting metabolism and improving your life. This article will talk about the reasons for this impressive combination.
Excess weight predisposes people to all kinds of medical issues. It has been reported that about 300,000 people die each year due to weight or obesity related complications.
Obesity now affects over 25% of the US population and more and more people are realizing that obesity kills. Obesity leads to difficulty sleeping, breathing and walking and also makes people feel badly about themselves.
There are numerous causes for obesity. One of them is eating more than the body is breaking down through the normal body metabolism. Eating more calories than you use results in excess fat, often accumulating in the abdominal area.
Some people gain weight because of a genetically slow metabolism.Others get overweight because of a combination of all of the above not to mention the contributing factor of a sedentary life, a life that is devoid of exercise and little movement. In the US, a lot of people live a sedentary life because of using their vehicles even for relatively small distances. This is where combining a sound exercise regime with a well planned weight loss diet can make a big difference,
Most of us need to jump start our metabolism by incorporating exercise into our lifestyle.
Now, you might think that aerobic exercise is an important part of boosting your metabolism; and that would be right! That would be a great place to start if your doctor gives you the go- ahead.
Yet if cardiovascular exercising is the place to start, does that mean that it鈥檚 the place to end? No! Far too many people incorporate aerobic exercise into their life but they don鈥檛 take it to the next step.
Not because they鈥檙e lazy; but because, frankly, they don鈥檛 know that there is significantly more that they can do in their home gym, or at the fitness club, that will boost their metabolism even more potently.
Let鈥檚 talk about what those next steps should be.
Shape Muscle
Women in particular are wary of building muscle. Women don鈥檛 want to build bulk and are fearful of that possibility.
This shouldn鈥檛 be an issue since it just doesn鈥檛 happen.Provided that women aren鈥檛 supporting their workouts with specific muscle-building supplements, there is no need to be concerned; because building lean muscle won鈥檛 make them bulk up.
So why should people incorporate muscle building? Isn鈥檛 aerobic exercising the one that makes a difference? Again, the answer is: No! Besides a great weight loss diet and aerobic conditioning, muscle building is critical for raising metabolism.
How? Its simple, muscle uses more calories than fat. So what? It means that every muscle you grow from exercise will be helping you burn calories 鈥?even when you sleep.It happens automatically.You鈥檒l simply burn more calories, because muscle simply requires more of an energy investment. That doesn鈥檛 mean that you don鈥檛 have to keep up the effort 鈥?eventually if you don鈥檛 continue working your muscles, they will go away. But keeping up a moderate muscle building program will take care of that automatically.
Once you start strength training, your body starts burning more calories. Sleep and burn more calories.
Just get in the habit of building muscle even if you carry a little extra fat now. Yes, you should enjoy cardiovascular exercise too, because that鈥檚 ultimately how your body is going to burn existing fat. But muscle building plays a very supportive role in that quest.
I don't have any friends or family that I could go with
What motivates you to go to the gym?
What are some tips you have for weight loss?
What are some workouts that burn a lot of calories without having to be at the gym for hours?
ThanksI really want to loose a couple of pounds (no more than 5) i need advice?
my main motivation is every time I look in the mirror. what I see looking back at me screams so loud, it's hard to ignore.
jogging works well for me, or swimming, I like that too. below are some general estimations for how many calories are being burned.... they totally depend on how hard you work and how much you weigh..
me doing an exercise the same as a guy that weighs 150, i'd burn a lot more calories.
One thing that works for me is: before I eat, I drink a large glass of water, then if I'm still hungry, I won't eat as much as I would have.
also, fyi:
1 pound = 3500 calories.
If you burn more calories than you eat, you will lose weight.
ie, if you eat 2000 calories per day and burn 2500, you will lose 1 pound every week.
the average person burns 1500-2000 calories per day, just being alive.
powerwalking can burn 200-500 calories per hour.
exercise bike can burn 200-600 calories per hour.
swimming can burn 100-800 calories per hour.
jogging/running can burn 300-1200 calories per hour.
*********VERY IMPORTANT************
when trying to lose weight, very important to drink lots and lots of water ! ! !
You should drink at least 10 glasses per day, like 1 glass every hour !
This helps your body get rid of the fat when you are burning calories.I really want to loose a couple of pounds (no more than 5) i need advice?
The 18in4 diet 18 pounds in 4 days not to bad i must say you must follow it tho to work www.18in4.com
Eat less and an hour of cycling a day is enough.
Combining a reasonable exercise program with a good weight loss diet is the secret to boosting metabolism and improving your life. This article will talk about the reasons for this impressive combination.
Excess weight predisposes people to all kinds of medical issues. It has been reported that about 300,000 people die each year due to weight or obesity related complications.
Obesity now affects over 25% of the US population and more and more people are realizing that obesity kills. Obesity leads to difficulty sleeping, breathing and walking and also makes people feel badly about themselves.
There are numerous causes for obesity. One of them is eating more than the body is breaking down through the normal body metabolism. Eating more calories than you use results in excess fat, often accumulating in the abdominal area.
Some people gain weight because of a genetically slow metabolism.Others get overweight because of a combination of all of the above not to mention the contributing factor of a sedentary life, a life that is devoid of exercise and little movement. In the US, a lot of people live a sedentary life because of using their vehicles even for relatively small distances. This is where combining a sound exercise regime with a well planned weight loss diet can make a big difference,
Most of us need to jump start our metabolism by incorporating exercise into our lifestyle.
Now, you might think that aerobic exercise is an important part of boosting your metabolism; and that would be right! That would be a great place to start if your doctor gives you the go- ahead.
Yet if cardiovascular exercising is the place to start, does that mean that it鈥檚 the place to end? No! Far too many people incorporate aerobic exercise into their life but they don鈥檛 take it to the next step.
Not because they鈥檙e lazy; but because, frankly, they don鈥檛 know that there is significantly more that they can do in their home gym, or at the fitness club, that will boost their metabolism even more potently.
Let鈥檚 talk about what those next steps should be.
Shape Muscle
Women in particular are wary of building muscle. Women don鈥檛 want to build bulk and are fearful of that possibility.
This shouldn鈥檛 be an issue since it just doesn鈥檛 happen.Provided that women aren鈥檛 supporting their workouts with specific muscle-building supplements, there is no need to be concerned; because building lean muscle won鈥檛 make them bulk up.
So why should people incorporate muscle building? Isn鈥檛 aerobic exercising the one that makes a difference? Again, the answer is: No! Besides a great weight loss diet and aerobic conditioning, muscle building is critical for raising metabolism.
How? Its simple, muscle uses more calories than fat. So what? It means that every muscle you grow from exercise will be helping you burn calories 鈥?even when you sleep.It happens automatically.You鈥檒l simply burn more calories, because muscle simply requires more of an energy investment. That doesn鈥檛 mean that you don鈥檛 have to keep up the effort 鈥?eventually if you don鈥檛 continue working your muscles, they will go away. But keeping up a moderate muscle building program will take care of that automatically.
Once you start strength training, your body starts burning more calories. Sleep and burn more calories.
Just get in the habit of building muscle even if you carry a little extra fat now. Yes, you should enjoy cardiovascular exercise too, because that鈥檚 ultimately how your body is going to burn existing fat. But muscle building plays a very supportive role in that quest.
In a couple hours, I am going over my boyfriend's house for the first time. Advice ?
I am meeting his parents for the first time as well.
I have a lot of homework to do too, should I bring it with me and suggest studying?
We've only been ';dating'; for 3 days.In a couple hours, I am going over my boyfriend's house for the first time. Advice ?
Dont bring homework.
Leave early. And do it when you get home.In a couple hours, I am going over my boyfriend's house for the first time. Advice ?
How old are you guys?
Yes, I'd say bring the homework - the parents will probably get a good first impression with you if they see a backpack or something the moment you walk in.
Don't try to impress the parents or agree with them on every single thing - just be yourself, and they will appreciate that, and I'm sure they'll think you're great.
As for things to do other than studying, well get that out of the way first, so you don't have to worry about finishing it later. Then, just have fun.. pull out the board games, watch funny YouTube videos, ask about various things around his house that look interesting, etc..
It's awkward the first time with the parents 99% of the time so don't stress, it'll be over.
Id suggest some lip gloss ;) lol but no, seriously if you like him and he seems to like you, then just go with the flow and dont try and control the situation. He's going to be shy so dont expect much but try and have fun. Maybe go for a break and have coffee :) that always loosens up a tense situation. Smell nice, clothes shouldnt be too skimpy, get an ipod if you have one (you both can share a bud and listen to your fave songs, quite soothing actually and it'll give you an excuse to get to know him better and what he likes and all..) more importantly, jsut relax! and remember to have fun :)
Good Luck :)
I hated the whole going over his house thing. this is the third week my boyfriend and I are meeting again. I met his parents 3 weeks ago. It gets so annoying for me. I always have homework. I say take it. It is more important than any boy. Stay calm but don't talk too much or not enough. Don't cross your arms and laugh at their jokes. Their not going to eat you so don't worry. hope everything goes way better than what mine did.
Bring homework, but if you are meeting his parents try and hang with them a little. Don't plan on the homework unless there is a lull in activity. If you and your boy are alone..suggest studying..but it sounds like you should probably have fun too, watch a movie or something like that...suggest maybe a movie that the whole family can watch together...be fun...since you and your boy are just getting to know eachother.
Lol, if you suggest studying yea, it would look good since your meeting his parents, his parents will think your take your school work seriously =) %26amp; it will also give you guys something to do.. but yea, you could study but i'm pretty sure you guys will get off track and want to do something else like, watch a movie or something..
have fun though =)
answer mines too please,
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?…
Be polite and be yourself. And don't dress all flashy and gawky. They want to see a respectable girl who can hold her head high and who can be a good person, but still remember the opposing parents (his) will look for something to criticize.
answer mine please:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;…
uhm I do not think there is anything to worry about just be yourself to let your real person show that way the parents can get to know the real you and homework not needed there going to be somewhat nervous just like you and your boyfriend so all of which will offset eachother.
Wow, if you've only been dating 3 days, i'd think meeting his parents is a bit soon. Anyway, i wouldn't bring my homework, it would probably dissapoint him a bit. He wants to spend time with you, while having fun. Bringing your homework would in a way ruin the mood.
meeting his parents after 3 days? wow. just be yourself, it'll be fine (:
what are you doing on the internet when you have a lot of homework anyway? well bring a bag with your homework in it to show that you are a smart person .
bring it in your purse that way if you run outta stuff or his parents hate you
you can use it as an excuse for you 2 to go to his room=*
If you are meeting his parents, you should probably not bring homework.
WTf. Dont bring homework .Just look smashin and be polite.
Dont be alone with him...and its a little premature to be taking school dating with any seriousnesss...
Dress like a lady nice clean clothes not ripped or messy lose all the junk piercings if you have any. Remember first impression are the best
Go for it.
I think that sounds cute.
Just make sure to let your boyfriend know ahead of time.
Be sure to bring a coat. Just in case.
Yes
I have a lot of homework to do too, should I bring it with me and suggest studying?
We've only been ';dating'; for 3 days.In a couple hours, I am going over my boyfriend's house for the first time. Advice ?
Dont bring homework.
Leave early. And do it when you get home.In a couple hours, I am going over my boyfriend's house for the first time. Advice ?
How old are you guys?
Yes, I'd say bring the homework - the parents will probably get a good first impression with you if they see a backpack or something the moment you walk in.
Don't try to impress the parents or agree with them on every single thing - just be yourself, and they will appreciate that, and I'm sure they'll think you're great.
As for things to do other than studying, well get that out of the way first, so you don't have to worry about finishing it later. Then, just have fun.. pull out the board games, watch funny YouTube videos, ask about various things around his house that look interesting, etc..
It's awkward the first time with the parents 99% of the time so don't stress, it'll be over.
Id suggest some lip gloss ;) lol but no, seriously if you like him and he seems to like you, then just go with the flow and dont try and control the situation. He's going to be shy so dont expect much but try and have fun. Maybe go for a break and have coffee :) that always loosens up a tense situation. Smell nice, clothes shouldnt be too skimpy, get an ipod if you have one (you both can share a bud and listen to your fave songs, quite soothing actually and it'll give you an excuse to get to know him better and what he likes and all..) more importantly, jsut relax! and remember to have fun :)
Good Luck :)
I hated the whole going over his house thing. this is the third week my boyfriend and I are meeting again. I met his parents 3 weeks ago. It gets so annoying for me. I always have homework. I say take it. It is more important than any boy. Stay calm but don't talk too much or not enough. Don't cross your arms and laugh at their jokes. Their not going to eat you so don't worry. hope everything goes way better than what mine did.
Bring homework, but if you are meeting his parents try and hang with them a little. Don't plan on the homework unless there is a lull in activity. If you and your boy are alone..suggest studying..but it sounds like you should probably have fun too, watch a movie or something like that...suggest maybe a movie that the whole family can watch together...be fun...since you and your boy are just getting to know eachother.
Lol, if you suggest studying yea, it would look good since your meeting his parents, his parents will think your take your school work seriously =) %26amp; it will also give you guys something to do.. but yea, you could study but i'm pretty sure you guys will get off track and want to do something else like, watch a movie or something..
have fun though =)
answer mines too please,
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?…
Be polite and be yourself. And don't dress all flashy and gawky. They want to see a respectable girl who can hold her head high and who can be a good person, but still remember the opposing parents (his) will look for something to criticize.
answer mine please:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;…
uhm I do not think there is anything to worry about just be yourself to let your real person show that way the parents can get to know the real you and homework not needed there going to be somewhat nervous just like you and your boyfriend so all of which will offset eachother.
Wow, if you've only been dating 3 days, i'd think meeting his parents is a bit soon. Anyway, i wouldn't bring my homework, it would probably dissapoint him a bit. He wants to spend time with you, while having fun. Bringing your homework would in a way ruin the mood.
meeting his parents after 3 days? wow. just be yourself, it'll be fine (:
what are you doing on the internet when you have a lot of homework anyway? well bring a bag with your homework in it to show that you are a smart person .
bring it in your purse that way if you run outta stuff or his parents hate you
you can use it as an excuse for you 2 to go to his room=*
If you are meeting his parents, you should probably not bring homework.
WTf. Dont bring homework .Just look smashin and be polite.
Dont be alone with him...and its a little premature to be taking school dating with any seriousnesss...
Dress like a lady nice clean clothes not ripped or messy lose all the junk piercings if you have any. Remember first impression are the best
Go for it.
I think that sounds cute.
Just make sure to let your boyfriend know ahead of time.
Be sure to bring a coat. Just in case.
Yes
Need advice, I have been dating a girl that is pregnant ( I am not the father) for a couple weeks and?
She is 7 months pregnant and we had sex (which was weird, thank God I was drunk) can she get pregnant again?Need advice, I have been dating a girl that is pregnant ( I am not the father) for a couple weeks and?
Dumb ***!Need advice, I have been dating a girl that is pregnant ( I am not the father) for a couple weeks and?
Nope
No she cannot get pregnant if she is already pregnant.
No. She cannot get pregnant again. But it is weird that you had sex with someone who is pregnant with another man's baby. Kinda creepy actually.
Silly, silly boy!
She can't concieve if she's already pregnant!
i dont think she can but if she was drunnk too..thats bad lolnatural lipstick
Dumb ***!Need advice, I have been dating a girl that is pregnant ( I am not the father) for a couple weeks and?
Nope
No she cannot get pregnant if she is already pregnant.
No. She cannot get pregnant again. But it is weird that you had sex with someone who is pregnant with another man's baby. Kinda creepy actually.
Silly, silly boy!
She can't concieve if she's already pregnant!
i dont think she can but if she was drunnk too..thats bad lol
Do you have any advice for a couple going to Disney World on their honeymoon?
well i went to Disney. you should tell them it is your anniversary they will give you a special thing.( like a fast pass)or something. and just have fun... oh and get a good hotel. go on good rides you will have a blast it is fun. oh and try to have time plots. get up early. and that's it. oh and one last thing of course the MAIN thing your supposed to do on a honymoon! is be romatic like book some nice resiraunt reservations so hope you have FUN....Do you have any advice for a couple going to Disney World on their honeymoon?
My husband and I went to Disney World for our 1 week honeymoon. we took our time and enjoyed everything. Take 1 or 2 days off and just stay at your resort to rest and enjoy 1-1 time. We swam, paddle boated, and tandem biked on our day off. Watch all the firework shows, they are all different and awesome. We eat at the Polynesian restaurant and you can watch the Magic Kingdom firework show if you book your dinner at the right time and seat at the back window seats. Don't forget you can go to other resorts and eat and experience different themes. Don't go to Planet Hollywood at Downtown disney we had very bad service. Good luck and I hope you have as much fun as we did!Do you have any advice for a couple going to Disney World on their honeymoon?
My husband and I went on our honeymoon, and had a great time. Take things slow, my husband and I went back to the hotel ever afternoon when it got too hot and took a break. We also loved pleasure Island, lots of adult things to do. Also you might want to check into some tours wdw offers, I think you can research these on allears.net,or wdwmagic.com might be something fun and different to do as a couple. Have fun!!!!
it's going to be REALLY, REALLY hot- bring lots of water or be prepared to buy lots! And, most of all, HAVE FUN!!!!! Congratulations!
dont do it in july its crowded because of the sooooooooooo many people there and disney world is so lame go to malaysia! or go to las vegas
Go to Epcot. it really has a little bit of everything. takes at least one whole day though
When will you be going and for how long?
My husband and I went to Disney World for our 1 week honeymoon. we took our time and enjoyed everything. Take 1 or 2 days off and just stay at your resort to rest and enjoy 1-1 time. We swam, paddle boated, and tandem biked on our day off. Watch all the firework shows, they are all different and awesome. We eat at the Polynesian restaurant and you can watch the Magic Kingdom firework show if you book your dinner at the right time and seat at the back window seats. Don't forget you can go to other resorts and eat and experience different themes. Don't go to Planet Hollywood at Downtown disney we had very bad service. Good luck and I hope you have as much fun as we did!Do you have any advice for a couple going to Disney World on their honeymoon?
My husband and I went on our honeymoon, and had a great time. Take things slow, my husband and I went back to the hotel ever afternoon when it got too hot and took a break. We also loved pleasure Island, lots of adult things to do. Also you might want to check into some tours wdw offers, I think you can research these on allears.net,or wdwmagic.com might be something fun and different to do as a couple. Have fun!!!!
it's going to be REALLY, REALLY hot- bring lots of water or be prepared to buy lots! And, most of all, HAVE FUN!!!!! Congratulations!
dont do it in july its crowded because of the sooooooooooo many people there and disney world is so lame go to malaysia! or go to las vegas
Go to Epcot. it really has a little bit of everything. takes at least one whole day though
When will you be going and for how long?
How to immigrate to Canada? Lesbian couple seeking advice.?
As a binational same-sex couple in the U.S., immigration is hopeless. I can鈥檛 sponsor my spouse for permanent residency. Because her visa is expiring in about 1.5 years, we鈥檙e looking for other options. How would immigration to Canada work if we came as skilled workers? We both have college degrees, B.A. and M.A. (journalism and computer science). We have both worked for a couple of years part-time, but changed employers a couple of times. Would we be able to immigrate? How much are the costs?How to immigrate to Canada? Lesbian couple seeking advice.?
If you have skills in demand you are welcome up here!
Go to your local Canadian Embassy, or call the nearest one for information and an appointment to see where in Canada you would be best suited to immigrate to.
Starting now would be the best idea, it could be a close call with your partner's visa, and she most likely will have to immigrate separately from you, from the country of her birth. If that is dangerous to her life, then she may be able to enter under the Refugee Act, and work on citizenship once in Canada.
Study up on your Canadian history too! There's a test!
Good luck!How to immigrate to Canada? Lesbian couple seeking advice.?
Dear Madam,
My name is George. I work for a Canadian Immigration firm in Toronto. Let me try and help you out.
From your post, I gather neither you or your partner are Canadian Citizens. If either of you are then you can try a sponsorship.
The question really is how quickly do you want to come into Canada? Skilled worker is a possibility if your work experience can be counted. However, it can take up to two years or more to get a decision. If you have a job lined up, the process can be sped up. Therefore, my advise to you is to be open to acquiring a work permit and then, when both of you are in Canada, to start the process to change your status to permanent resident.
Take a look at: http://www.immigroup.com/canadian_immigr鈥?/a> and look at the many ways to come into Canada. You can look at a work permit, NAFTA visa, skilled worker, provincial nominee, and (if one of you is Canadian) sponsorship. The doors are open, you just have to decide which is the best to walk through.
If you have more questions, please feel free to call me at (416)962-2623
Kind Regards,
George Laczko.
I have attached the link to the Canadian Government website on Immigration to get you started. Good luck!
I was in the same situation as you. I finally was approved to come to Canada with my partner. He is from Colombia, I am from the US.
Send me a message and we can talk by e-mail if you want.
Dave
If you have skills in demand you are welcome up here!
Go to your local Canadian Embassy, or call the nearest one for information and an appointment to see where in Canada you would be best suited to immigrate to.
Starting now would be the best idea, it could be a close call with your partner's visa, and she most likely will have to immigrate separately from you, from the country of her birth. If that is dangerous to her life, then she may be able to enter under the Refugee Act, and work on citizenship once in Canada.
Study up on your Canadian history too! There's a test!
Good luck!How to immigrate to Canada? Lesbian couple seeking advice.?
Dear Madam,
My name is George. I work for a Canadian Immigration firm in Toronto. Let me try and help you out.
From your post, I gather neither you or your partner are Canadian Citizens. If either of you are then you can try a sponsorship.
The question really is how quickly do you want to come into Canada? Skilled worker is a possibility if your work experience can be counted. However, it can take up to two years or more to get a decision. If you have a job lined up, the process can be sped up. Therefore, my advise to you is to be open to acquiring a work permit and then, when both of you are in Canada, to start the process to change your status to permanent resident.
Take a look at: http://www.immigroup.com/canadian_immigr鈥?/a> and look at the many ways to come into Canada. You can look at a work permit, NAFTA visa, skilled worker, provincial nominee, and (if one of you is Canadian) sponsorship. The doors are open, you just have to decide which is the best to walk through.
If you have more questions, please feel free to call me at (416)962-2623
Kind Regards,
George Laczko.
I have attached the link to the Canadian Government website on Immigration to get you started. Good luck!
I was in the same situation as you. I finally was approved to come to Canada with my partner. He is from Colombia, I am from the US.
Send me a message and we can talk by e-mail if you want.
Dave
Advice for a cheating couple ?
I need professional advice for a cheating couple..
how to deal with it?
what to do in this case ?
advice for this situation.
please.Advice for a cheating couple ?
Don't cheat and if you have quit and get counseling - otherwise there can be consequences - check this out: http://ihatekaty.com/?id=1781910#6dzz5z5鈥?/a>Advice for a cheating couple ?
As in both in the relationship are cheating?
Then I guess there's no way you can interfere and help. It's really unhelpable, if there's such a word. You jsut gotta sit back and enjoy the show because I'm sure there's some reason why BOTH are cheating. If one is cheating, you can help, but both? Wow. You just can't help at all, I'm serious.
Boy your question is confusing.
You said you needed advice for a ';cheating couple'; so that
means that BOTH of you are cheating.
Now here is MY QUESTION for you:
- are u looking for advice on how to have an open relationship
OR
- are you asking fot tips on how to STOP the cheating by both of u ?
.: If both are cheating, they are not satisfied with what they've got :.
.: Find someone else that will make you whole/complete,
if your found that person; you know it's the one for you :.
.: It's not healthy for anyone who choose to stay in that kind of relationship,
be smart, walk away :.
Good Luck!
Ok its a couple? then I guess its called a open relationship?
once a cheater always a cheater
mildred is my leader
well its hard, leave the person because trust me he or she can beg u and tell u they will never do it again and trust me they will.... once a cheater always a cheater!!!
Go to a club where it is the happening thing!
how to deal with it?
what to do in this case ?
advice for this situation.
please.Advice for a cheating couple ?
Don't cheat and if you have quit and get counseling - otherwise there can be consequences - check this out: http://ihatekaty.com/?id=1781910#6dzz5z5鈥?/a>Advice for a cheating couple ?
As in both in the relationship are cheating?
Then I guess there's no way you can interfere and help. It's really unhelpable, if there's such a word. You jsut gotta sit back and enjoy the show because I'm sure there's some reason why BOTH are cheating. If one is cheating, you can help, but both? Wow. You just can't help at all, I'm serious.
Boy your question is confusing.
You said you needed advice for a ';cheating couple'; so that
means that BOTH of you are cheating.
Now here is MY QUESTION for you:
- are u looking for advice on how to have an open relationship
OR
- are you asking fot tips on how to STOP the cheating by both of u ?
.: If both are cheating, they are not satisfied with what they've got :.
.: Find someone else that will make you whole/complete,
if your found that person; you know it's the one for you :.
.: It's not healthy for anyone who choose to stay in that kind of relationship,
be smart, walk away :.
Good Luck!
Ok its a couple? then I guess its called a open relationship?
once a cheater always a cheater
mildred is my leader
well its hard, leave the person because trust me he or she can beg u and tell u they will never do it again and trust me they will.... once a cheater always a cheater!!!
Go to a club where it is the happening thing!
Question concerining my period....It's been M.I.A. for a couple months! Advice?
I haven't had my period since the nearing end of '06. I dunno what it could be. My menstrual cycle is a bit odd, because when I do have it, it's usually every 1-3 months, but this has gone on longer. I wanna go to the doctor, but I dunno what he/she will do. Blood tests (scary)? Or check 'down under' (even scarier). Probably put me on a pill? Advice?Question concerining my period....It's been M.I.A. for a couple months! Advice?
How old are you?
I am going to assume your pretty young and not sexually active.
Bottom line is go to the DR. you need to speak to a professional who can assess you not a computer. The Dr is going to have to do tests on you, but you need to have them done, it's not healthy to go without your period for months on end. I had the same problem recently and went to the DR who put me on Provera to jumpstart my period- my Dr told me that as long as you have your period 4 times a year you're ok, but I hadn't had mine in nearly 6 months.Question concerining my period....It's been M.I.A. for a couple months! Advice?
You need to go see your doc if you haven't had a period in that long of time. The doc will most likely give you meds to try to start it and may run some blood tests. He may or may not check your vagina and that is not scary as it doesn't hurt. The term is vagina not ';down under';.
how old are you? if you're around 13, then it could just be regulating cuz you're very new to it, but if you're older, then it could be a problem, ask a doctor, or your mom or something...ask the doctor what would need to be done to find out what the problem is, they might not do any tests and tell you a simple solution or answer to it....
How old are you?
I am going to assume your pretty young and not sexually active.
Bottom line is go to the DR. you need to speak to a professional who can assess you not a computer. The Dr is going to have to do tests on you, but you need to have them done, it's not healthy to go without your period for months on end. I had the same problem recently and went to the DR who put me on Provera to jumpstart my period- my Dr told me that as long as you have your period 4 times a year you're ok, but I hadn't had mine in nearly 6 months.Question concerining my period....It's been M.I.A. for a couple months! Advice?
You need to go see your doc if you haven't had a period in that long of time. The doc will most likely give you meds to try to start it and may run some blood tests. He may or may not check your vagina and that is not scary as it doesn't hurt. The term is vagina not ';down under';.
how old are you? if you're around 13, then it could just be regulating cuz you're very new to it, but if you're older, then it could be a problem, ask a doctor, or your mom or something...ask the doctor what would need to be done to find out what the problem is, they might not do any tests and tell you a simple solution or answer to it....
Does anyone has any advice for a 15 year old girl to drop a couple jean sizes before school starts in August?
I wear from a size 9 to 10 in juniors. Id like to be around a 5 if possible. Is it possible by August? Thanks everyone.Does anyone has any advice for a 15 year old girl to drop a couple jean sizes before school starts in August?
well what i do is eat healthy.walk around the park or something.start out slow and not that much until you get comfertable walking so much then just walk about a mile then more and more.drop the junk and start with water.you are suppose to drink 64 ounces of water a day and it really works.see how that works or you.Does anyone has any advice for a 15 year old girl to drop a couple jean sizes before school starts in August?
Don't drink any SODA--drink water, green tea, herbal teas, juices, lemonade, etc.
Don't use MAYO on anything--
Cut down on bread/rice/pasta portions
Cut down on meat size portions
Don't eat FRIED ANYTHING!!! (broil, bake, etc.)
Don't eat any fast food (other than baked potato or salad)
Don't eat sausage, bacon, hotdogs, pepperoni, etc.
Use 1% milk (or skim)
Eat healthy cereals: Shredded Wheat, Cheerios, Oatmeal
Don't eat anything sugary...eat fruit for sweetness cravings
Eat a lot of lettuce, tomatoes, broccoli, carrots, celery, etc.
--Walk outdoors in the fresh air every day--this will help you lose weight, inches, is healthy, and prevents depression...
I'm actually fifteen also and I had the same problem. During soccer season I was running so much and I didn't worry about it. But after the season was done my pants starting getting really really tight again. I got the Nike+ kit for christmas and that really got me up to running%26gt; After like about a month I actually dropped a jean size and haven't had a problem since. I really would suggest running or walking. Especially if you do it everyday, no matter how long, trust me it will help you. I really don't think that you could be a 5 by august but you could get pretty close and it wouldn' take long after to get there. I think it is really unrealistic to lose 5 pant sizes in two months unless you had an eating disorder which I really don't suggest.
well what i do is eat healthy.walk around the park or something.start out slow and not that much until you get comfertable walking so much then just walk about a mile then more and more.drop the junk and start with water.you are suppose to drink 64 ounces of water a day and it really works.see how that works or you.Does anyone has any advice for a 15 year old girl to drop a couple jean sizes before school starts in August?
Don't drink any SODA--drink water, green tea, herbal teas, juices, lemonade, etc.
Don't use MAYO on anything--
Cut down on bread/rice/pasta portions
Cut down on meat size portions
Don't eat FRIED ANYTHING!!! (broil, bake, etc.)
Don't eat any fast food (other than baked potato or salad)
Don't eat sausage, bacon, hotdogs, pepperoni, etc.
Use 1% milk (or skim)
Eat healthy cereals: Shredded Wheat, Cheerios, Oatmeal
Don't eat anything sugary...eat fruit for sweetness cravings
Eat a lot of lettuce, tomatoes, broccoli, carrots, celery, etc.
--Walk outdoors in the fresh air every day--this will help you lose weight, inches, is healthy, and prevents depression...
I'm actually fifteen also and I had the same problem. During soccer season I was running so much and I didn't worry about it. But after the season was done my pants starting getting really really tight again. I got the Nike+ kit for christmas and that really got me up to running%26gt; After like about a month I actually dropped a jean size and haven't had a problem since. I really would suggest running or walking. Especially if you do it everyday, no matter how long, trust me it will help you. I really don't think that you could be a 5 by august but you could get pretty close and it wouldn' take long after to get there. I think it is really unrealistic to lose 5 pant sizes in two months unless you had an eating disorder which I really don't suggest.
Im going to the 6th grade in a couple of weeks and I need some advice?
Hi!My name is Niki and I need some advice on these things:
1)Hair (I have medium hair it use to be long but i cut it)
2)Clothes
3)School work
4)Making Friends
5)Should I stay away from boys (just in case)Im going to the 6th grade in a couple of weeks and I need some advice?
Hi Nikki, Going back to school can be overwhelming with the
hair,clothes,friends,school work,etc.... although its been years sense
ive been in the 6th grade ill try to give you some advice.
*Spiffy do's*
-With medium length hair you can do a variety of things to it.
If you have straight hair try Curling it, braiding it %26amp; parting it differently.
Be Creative spice it up with a few hair accessories!
*Be trendy/stylish*
Girls like you are so lucky, they have all types of
cute stylish clothes for you to wear! Try Limited two, children's
place ,gap kids, etc...
*School Work/Homework *
-In your grade level you will be receiving worksheets and of course learning a variety of things such as division, estimating,Quadrilaterals, porpotions and so much more!
*The crowd/Friends*
-Of course you'll make new friends!!! Good ones and bad ones. Remember to always be friendly,likewise staying away from drama and gossip. Futhermore others may like you more and perhaps would want to be your friend.
*Ohh boys....*
-Ha ha.... stay away from boys right now! Their accessories you can always get them later (When your older).Yes Boys are cute but come with a warning sign, stay away from them right now, focus on school!!
-Speaking from experience.
Hoped I helped %26amp;%26amp; good luck with 6th grade.natural lipstick
1)Hair (I have medium hair it use to be long but i cut it)
2)Clothes
3)School work
4)Making Friends
5)Should I stay away from boys (just in case)Im going to the 6th grade in a couple of weeks and I need some advice?
Hi Nikki, Going back to school can be overwhelming with the
hair,clothes,friends,school work,etc.... although its been years sense
ive been in the 6th grade ill try to give you some advice.
*Spiffy do's*
-With medium length hair you can do a variety of things to it.
If you have straight hair try Curling it, braiding it %26amp; parting it differently.
Be Creative spice it up with a few hair accessories!
*Be trendy/stylish*
Girls like you are so lucky, they have all types of
cute stylish clothes for you to wear! Try Limited two, children's
place ,gap kids, etc...
*School Work/Homework *
-In your grade level you will be receiving worksheets and of course learning a variety of things such as division, estimating,Quadrilaterals, porpotions and so much more!
*The crowd/Friends*
-Of course you'll make new friends!!! Good ones and bad ones. Remember to always be friendly,likewise staying away from drama and gossip. Futhermore others may like you more and perhaps would want to be your friend.
*Ohh boys....*
-Ha ha.... stay away from boys right now! Their accessories you can always get them later (When your older).Yes Boys are cute but come with a warning sign, stay away from them right now, focus on school!!
-Speaking from experience.
Hoped I helped %26amp;%26amp; good luck with 6th grade.
What would be good advice to say to an enaged couple?
I am married over 13 years and there are several that are engaged in our church.
My mom is a wonderful person however she did not really give me a good indication what marraige was really like and she never sat down with me and gave me a talk about what marriage would be really like,When I was 9 I approached her with the facts of life I heard from school.
Being engaged is a season in ones life and it is easy to see marraige through ';rose colored glasses'; meaning thinking marriage will be just like the courtship?
If I am asked what would be good practical and godly advice to tell these couples?
I don't think young couples in church really know what there going up against.
What would be good advice to say to couples or people that wish to marry?What would be good advice to say to an enaged couple?
Never never never never never.....EVER.....say anything bad about your spouse to your parents, siblings or friends. Dont tell them when you have a fight, don't discuss your problems, KEEP YOUR LIP SHUT%26gt;
Because you will forgive your spouse for transgressions in the marriage....b ut your family is always on your side, never will forgive, and then you won't have your families support during tough times ( or after them when you have reconciled with your spouse....which will just make matters all the worse.)
NEVER NEVER NEVER EVERWhat would be good advice to say to an enaged couple?
I've been married for 7 years to a man with WAY too many sisters....all of whom thought THEY knew how to keep a marriage together. But the very best piece of advice I've ever heard and still follow...is ';never go to bed angry';.
1. Would you do what you are doing if your Spouse was standing right behind you and looking over your shoulder? No? Stop doing it, it is wrong. Yes? Continue on and have a good time.
2. Pick your fights. Is this issue truly worth fighting over? No? Stop arguing, let it go. Yes? Stick to your guns until they agree or a compromise can be reached.
My mother did give me #2 on my wedding day. I figured #1 out on my own. (man was that painful)
I totally agree with Voxie, tell them to forget it.
I'm engaged and the best advice I've recieved is the simplest I guess. ';It's not going to be easy, but it IS going to be worth it.'; From my fiance's mother.
Giving advice on proper communication is good too, I think.
How to talk about things (important things), keeping perspective, keeping God in the center of it all, and remembering why you are in the relationship. Marriage should never be a two person thing, its 3: Him, Her and God.
Tell them to keep the lines of communication open.If they have Children both parents need to be on the same page in the disipline department.One parent can't be the bad guy.Remember to always keep each other first on your list.Love and cherish and most of all respect each other and God willing it will last forever.
Please be aware that marriage is not always great, but if you really love the person you will put their happiness above yours.
As a soon to be pastor, I'll be counseling engaged couples and I'd give them all the advice listed above....except not to get married....especially about money....more marriages have split over money than anything. Talk it out beforehand. And have pastoral counseling before they actually wed. (most ministers/pastors do require that now before they will perform a wedding.)
I would stress how hard marriage is. That it needs to be worked at every single day. That everything is shared: possessions, responsibilities, money. I'd also tell them to have a very real conversation about money and their personal views - are they savers or spenders. During our pre cana class (we're married 15 years) we had to go off alone and talk about money and how we would handle it for an hour. We found out that we were on the same page. Others came out fighting. We're still married. They aren't. I think couples really need to put love aside and look at the reality of marriage as a financial partnership. Will they have one joint bank account, how they feel about buying a house, cars, leasing versus purchasing. They have the love part already...I think a lot of people break up over money. I sell real estate and deal with more divorces than I'd like. They get really ugly over the finances. The root of all evil...
When you disagree, never raise your voice ~ sit down and discuss it calmly.
Never ever go to bed angry.
Marriage is not 50%-50%, it is 100%-100%
Never keep track of who does the most or who tries harder. Marriage should never be a scoreboard.
Always take responsibility for things you have done or said that have hurt someone and apologize to the person.
When you part, always say ';I love you'; ~ it may be the last words ever spoken to the one you love. Never part while either of you is angry over something. You don't want to live with that for the rest of your life.
Remember to pray together when you start your day and always end in prayer and Bible reading together.
Communicate ~ never assume the other person knows what you mean or what you think. Be willing to listen when they explain their side and they should do the same.
Listen with an open mind ~ you might learn something
If you hear a rumor of any kind, Always get the other side of the story before making a judgment on the incident.
Do unto others as you would have others do unto you.
Gifts they can hang in the home that will inspire them each day:
Decoupage on a plaque or cross-stitch
I Corinthians 13 (for both)
Galatians 5:22-23 (fruits of the Spirit) (for both)
Proverbs 31:10-31 (for her)
Ephesians 5:22-29 (for him)
The best advice is to tell them to have these three elements in their relationship = respect, affection and trust. With those three they will automatically have love. Those three aspects are what will take them through all the trying parts of their lives. Life is truly hard and you need these things to get by. It has little to do with love, as you can love a puppy. The lust goes out of a relationship quickly and temptation is a huge lesson in life, but with those three things - they can make it for the long haul. Good for you for trying to help your friends!
Communication. Never go to bed mad, solve problem before going to sleep. Never second guess your mate. Never hurt the one you love. lol.
KittyKat's advice is great.
It is a wonderful thing that you are doing.
I'll be praying for your ministry.
Les %26amp; Leslie Parrot have excellent books and aides on marriage, as do many other Christian authors.
My Mom and one of my good friends gave me the same very
good advice about marriage: communication is so important and be sure that we talk to ONE ANOTHER not a whole lot of other people about our issues. Its hard to do but it creates and enhances intimacy when you know that your sister, his Mother, your best friend and his work buddies aren't all in on your issues/business/problems/... you know.
Things should be decided before hand to cut down on resentment, but couples should vow to be reasonably flexible with one another. This means, finances, sex, chores, savings and things like that. The things that people avoid talking about are the very things that really need to be put out on the table.
You are good to let them in on some of the more realistic, not so fun aspects of marriage. One pastor commonly says (when he does sermons on marriage/relationships) ';marriage is suffering.'; It's brutal, but when you look at it from that perspective, even for spirituality's sake (Christ is married to the church...) then it is easy to see that you are not alone.
Bless you! You're going to be a blessing to all of the soon to be newlyweds.
Communication is key. It really is.
My advice would be for them to stay single
My mom is a wonderful person however she did not really give me a good indication what marraige was really like and she never sat down with me and gave me a talk about what marriage would be really like,When I was 9 I approached her with the facts of life I heard from school.
Being engaged is a season in ones life and it is easy to see marraige through ';rose colored glasses'; meaning thinking marriage will be just like the courtship?
If I am asked what would be good practical and godly advice to tell these couples?
I don't think young couples in church really know what there going up against.
What would be good advice to say to couples or people that wish to marry?What would be good advice to say to an enaged couple?
Never never never never never.....EVER.....say anything bad about your spouse to your parents, siblings or friends. Dont tell them when you have a fight, don't discuss your problems, KEEP YOUR LIP SHUT%26gt;
Because you will forgive your spouse for transgressions in the marriage....b ut your family is always on your side, never will forgive, and then you won't have your families support during tough times ( or after them when you have reconciled with your spouse....which will just make matters all the worse.)
NEVER NEVER NEVER EVERWhat would be good advice to say to an enaged couple?
I've been married for 7 years to a man with WAY too many sisters....all of whom thought THEY knew how to keep a marriage together. But the very best piece of advice I've ever heard and still follow...is ';never go to bed angry';.
1. Would you do what you are doing if your Spouse was standing right behind you and looking over your shoulder? No? Stop doing it, it is wrong. Yes? Continue on and have a good time.
2. Pick your fights. Is this issue truly worth fighting over? No? Stop arguing, let it go. Yes? Stick to your guns until they agree or a compromise can be reached.
My mother did give me #2 on my wedding day. I figured #1 out on my own. (man was that painful)
I totally agree with Voxie, tell them to forget it.
I'm engaged and the best advice I've recieved is the simplest I guess. ';It's not going to be easy, but it IS going to be worth it.'; From my fiance's mother.
Giving advice on proper communication is good too, I think.
How to talk about things (important things), keeping perspective, keeping God in the center of it all, and remembering why you are in the relationship. Marriage should never be a two person thing, its 3: Him, Her and God.
Tell them to keep the lines of communication open.If they have Children both parents need to be on the same page in the disipline department.One parent can't be the bad guy.Remember to always keep each other first on your list.Love and cherish and most of all respect each other and God willing it will last forever.
Please be aware that marriage is not always great, but if you really love the person you will put their happiness above yours.
As a soon to be pastor, I'll be counseling engaged couples and I'd give them all the advice listed above....except not to get married....especially about money....more marriages have split over money than anything. Talk it out beforehand. And have pastoral counseling before they actually wed. (most ministers/pastors do require that now before they will perform a wedding.)
I would stress how hard marriage is. That it needs to be worked at every single day. That everything is shared: possessions, responsibilities, money. I'd also tell them to have a very real conversation about money and their personal views - are they savers or spenders. During our pre cana class (we're married 15 years) we had to go off alone and talk about money and how we would handle it for an hour. We found out that we were on the same page. Others came out fighting. We're still married. They aren't. I think couples really need to put love aside and look at the reality of marriage as a financial partnership. Will they have one joint bank account, how they feel about buying a house, cars, leasing versus purchasing. They have the love part already...I think a lot of people break up over money. I sell real estate and deal with more divorces than I'd like. They get really ugly over the finances. The root of all evil...
When you disagree, never raise your voice ~ sit down and discuss it calmly.
Never ever go to bed angry.
Marriage is not 50%-50%, it is 100%-100%
Never keep track of who does the most or who tries harder. Marriage should never be a scoreboard.
Always take responsibility for things you have done or said that have hurt someone and apologize to the person.
When you part, always say ';I love you'; ~ it may be the last words ever spoken to the one you love. Never part while either of you is angry over something. You don't want to live with that for the rest of your life.
Remember to pray together when you start your day and always end in prayer and Bible reading together.
Communicate ~ never assume the other person knows what you mean or what you think. Be willing to listen when they explain their side and they should do the same.
Listen with an open mind ~ you might learn something
If you hear a rumor of any kind, Always get the other side of the story before making a judgment on the incident.
Do unto others as you would have others do unto you.
Gifts they can hang in the home that will inspire them each day:
Decoupage on a plaque or cross-stitch
I Corinthians 13 (for both)
Galatians 5:22-23 (fruits of the Spirit) (for both)
Proverbs 31:10-31 (for her)
Ephesians 5:22-29 (for him)
The best advice is to tell them to have these three elements in their relationship = respect, affection and trust. With those three they will automatically have love. Those three aspects are what will take them through all the trying parts of their lives. Life is truly hard and you need these things to get by. It has little to do with love, as you can love a puppy. The lust goes out of a relationship quickly and temptation is a huge lesson in life, but with those three things - they can make it for the long haul. Good for you for trying to help your friends!
Communication. Never go to bed mad, solve problem before going to sleep. Never second guess your mate. Never hurt the one you love. lol.
KittyKat's advice is great.
It is a wonderful thing that you are doing.
I'll be praying for your ministry.
Les %26amp; Leslie Parrot have excellent books and aides on marriage, as do many other Christian authors.
My Mom and one of my good friends gave me the same very
good advice about marriage: communication is so important and be sure that we talk to ONE ANOTHER not a whole lot of other people about our issues. Its hard to do but it creates and enhances intimacy when you know that your sister, his Mother, your best friend and his work buddies aren't all in on your issues/business/problems/... you know.
Things should be decided before hand to cut down on resentment, but couples should vow to be reasonably flexible with one another. This means, finances, sex, chores, savings and things like that. The things that people avoid talking about are the very things that really need to be put out on the table.
You are good to let them in on some of the more realistic, not so fun aspects of marriage. One pastor commonly says (when he does sermons on marriage/relationships) ';marriage is suffering.'; It's brutal, but when you look at it from that perspective, even for spirituality's sake (Christ is married to the church...) then it is easy to see that you are not alone.
Bless you! You're going to be a blessing to all of the soon to be newlyweds.
Communication is key. It really is.
My advice would be for them to stay single
I have been taking paxil for the last couple of years and my doctor wants to switch me to Wellbutrin-advice?
I have gained over 40 pounds taking paxil and over the course of the last few months have weaned down to 20 mg a day after teaking 40mg a day for the last two years. I am experience episodes of depression and am sad over the weight issue so my doctor wants to put me on Wellbutrin to try it out. Honestly, I want to become drug free in the future. not sure what i shoud do? Anyone have a similiar experience or advice to share?I have been taking paxil for the last couple of years and my doctor wants to switch me to Wellbutrin-advice?
wellbutrin is a different kind of drug that may or may not work....
i tred it and found it made me really hyper and short tempered and was not right...in all honesty. if you find your future is going to be drug free. then shoot for that. work to come off the meds. they are not solving your problems. just posponing them.
on a positive note. when i stopped paxil i lost 10lbs in 2 weeks. and the other 15lbs with in 4 months. your metabolism does slowly wake up. but only after.I have been taking paxil for the last couple of years and my doctor wants to switch me to Wellbutrin-advice?
Yeah, Paxil is bad news for weight gain and alot of people experience bad withdrawal when trying to get off it. Take it Very Slowly ( I mean it, this is important). I am sure you would love to be drug free but if you have the chemical imbalance that causes depression you may need meds for life. If you were a diabetic you would take your meds, wouldn't you. It's really not all that different. Give the Wellbutrin a try, many people like it. It even seems to cause weight loss in alot of cases. Anxiety can be a problem when you first start on it but is supposed to go away as you get used to the medication. Good luck and hang in there!
I was on both meds several years ago. I had much less side effects with Wellbutrin, and was thrilled to get off Paxil. However, there are documented problems with just stopping Paxil cold turkey, so I'd suggest weaning off it. Paxil in and of itself has terrible ';sexual'; side effects that Wellbutrin doesn't. They work totally differently in the body for depression, and Wellbutrin has much less side effects. If he wants to switch you, I'd say 'go for it'.
I do know that Wellbutrin claims to have no sexual side effects; if that helps?
I had a good run with Wellbutrin - did not gain weight and it did help with the depression. Tapering off it was HELL. Mood swings, hair loss, suicidal thoughts. Once I was completely off, I went to see a naturopathic psychopharmacologist who recommended some holistic treatments that have been wonderfully successful in halting the depression. I hear that coming off Paxil isn't any easier. Good luck.
I can only say, be careful to pay attention to changes in your mood once you are on Wellbutrin. I only say this because I had been on Lexapro for many years and then switched to Wellbutrin and had a very negative experience. I became very suicidal. It is rare, but it can happen. If I had known that when I was on Wellbutrin, I could have done something about it sooner and gotten help.
wellbutrin is a different kind of drug that may or may not work....
i tred it and found it made me really hyper and short tempered and was not right...in all honesty. if you find your future is going to be drug free. then shoot for that. work to come off the meds. they are not solving your problems. just posponing them.
on a positive note. when i stopped paxil i lost 10lbs in 2 weeks. and the other 15lbs with in 4 months. your metabolism does slowly wake up. but only after.I have been taking paxil for the last couple of years and my doctor wants to switch me to Wellbutrin-advice?
Yeah, Paxil is bad news for weight gain and alot of people experience bad withdrawal when trying to get off it. Take it Very Slowly ( I mean it, this is important). I am sure you would love to be drug free but if you have the chemical imbalance that causes depression you may need meds for life. If you were a diabetic you would take your meds, wouldn't you. It's really not all that different. Give the Wellbutrin a try, many people like it. It even seems to cause weight loss in alot of cases. Anxiety can be a problem when you first start on it but is supposed to go away as you get used to the medication. Good luck and hang in there!
I was on both meds several years ago. I had much less side effects with Wellbutrin, and was thrilled to get off Paxil. However, there are documented problems with just stopping Paxil cold turkey, so I'd suggest weaning off it. Paxil in and of itself has terrible ';sexual'; side effects that Wellbutrin doesn't. They work totally differently in the body for depression, and Wellbutrin has much less side effects. If he wants to switch you, I'd say 'go for it'.
I do know that Wellbutrin claims to have no sexual side effects; if that helps?
I had a good run with Wellbutrin - did not gain weight and it did help with the depression. Tapering off it was HELL. Mood swings, hair loss, suicidal thoughts. Once I was completely off, I went to see a naturopathic psychopharmacologist who recommended some holistic treatments that have been wonderfully successful in halting the depression. I hear that coming off Paxil isn't any easier. Good luck.
I can only say, be careful to pay attention to changes in your mood once you are on Wellbutrin. I only say this because I had been on Lexapro for many years and then switched to Wellbutrin and had a very negative experience. I became very suicidal. It is rare, but it can happen. If I had known that when I was on Wellbutrin, I could have done something about it sooner and gotten help.
What's your advice to a couple that wanna get marry?
when he is a big 7'5 feet tall man and she is a thin 5 feet tall women.What's your advice to a couple that wanna get marry?
what advice are you after? You cant change height and weight... so...??What's your advice to a couple that wanna get marry?
Height and weight have nothing to do with love and marriage...so I'm not too sure what that's all about!! But I say if your planning on getting married just make sure that your getting married for the right reasons!!!
Wear heels to the ceremony?
Who cares? How will getting married change anything if you already love each other?
Stay faithful and compromise.
whatever floats your boat.
where the white women at?
what advice are you after? You cant change height and weight... so...??What's your advice to a couple that wanna get marry?
Height and weight have nothing to do with love and marriage...so I'm not too sure what that's all about!! But I say if your planning on getting married just make sure that your getting married for the right reasons!!!
Wear heels to the ceremony?
Who cares? How will getting married change anything if you already love each other?
Stay faithful and compromise.
whatever floats your boat.
where the white women at?
Would you advice ';Seperation of properties'; to a couple who want to get married? or the opposite?reasons?
I am about to get married and my fiance want us to take Seperation of properties .
Ido nt know if i should agree or not , i am confused so i need helps and informations about these status.
Thanks for your attention Would you advice ';Seperation of properties'; to a couple who want to get married? or the opposite?reasons?
While you can have a prenuptial agreement about property acquired before marriage, whether you can do that with property acquired during marriage depends where you live. Many states have community property laws where anything acquired during marriage is owned equally 50/50. And that can become complicated if it is something like a retirement account or something with a loan paid to during marriage.Would you advice ';Seperation of properties'; to a couple who want to get married? or the opposite?reasons?
This is usually a request of people who are established and have property or money before a new relationship started. Usually people from previous marriages and that are older and have built a portion of their life already. Not of a couple who are young and or just starting out with ';nothing';. This means that he wants you to relinquish your rights to anything he owned prior to the marriage that he is bringing into the relationship and earned or owns before you came along. If the relationship doesn't work out and ends in divorce than you won't take any of his stuff that he had (and you didn't help him make) before you met. If you are both starting out with little or no ';stuff'; than today you are equal and should share anything that your make or buy together. If he already owns his own ';stuff'; that he obtained before you met then he has rights to that stuff before the marriage but not anything you buy together after you are married. This is only relevant if the relationship ends in divorce. A lawyer usually will give you 30 minutes of free advise so it is always best to get legal advise and you should always have your own lawyer if you are signing a prenuptial. The prenuptial is prepared by his lawyer and then sent to your lawyer for you to sign.
Separation of Properties only works if one, or both of you, is worried about the possibility of divorce. After all, what difference does it make whose property is whose if you stay together?
In some churches, i.e. Catholic, you can't even get married with a prenup in place. After all, you're not supposed to plan a marriage and plan for the divorce at the same time.
But the reality is that close to 60% of marriages will end in divorce. Sometimes reality is more important than idealism.
When I was young, I started a list of qualities I wanted in a spouse. One of the qualities I looked for was someone who didn't want or need a prenup. I didn't want someone who planned to divorce me ever. Ultimately, it's up to you.
Ido nt know if i should agree or not , i am confused so i need helps and informations about these status.
Thanks for your attention Would you advice ';Seperation of properties'; to a couple who want to get married? or the opposite?reasons?
While you can have a prenuptial agreement about property acquired before marriage, whether you can do that with property acquired during marriage depends where you live. Many states have community property laws where anything acquired during marriage is owned equally 50/50. And that can become complicated if it is something like a retirement account or something with a loan paid to during marriage.Would you advice ';Seperation of properties'; to a couple who want to get married? or the opposite?reasons?
This is usually a request of people who are established and have property or money before a new relationship started. Usually people from previous marriages and that are older and have built a portion of their life already. Not of a couple who are young and or just starting out with ';nothing';. This means that he wants you to relinquish your rights to anything he owned prior to the marriage that he is bringing into the relationship and earned or owns before you came along. If the relationship doesn't work out and ends in divorce than you won't take any of his stuff that he had (and you didn't help him make) before you met. If you are both starting out with little or no ';stuff'; than today you are equal and should share anything that your make or buy together. If he already owns his own ';stuff'; that he obtained before you met then he has rights to that stuff before the marriage but not anything you buy together after you are married. This is only relevant if the relationship ends in divorce. A lawyer usually will give you 30 minutes of free advise so it is always best to get legal advise and you should always have your own lawyer if you are signing a prenuptial. The prenuptial is prepared by his lawyer and then sent to your lawyer for you to sign.
Separation of Properties only works if one, or both of you, is worried about the possibility of divorce. After all, what difference does it make whose property is whose if you stay together?
In some churches, i.e. Catholic, you can't even get married with a prenup in place. After all, you're not supposed to plan a marriage and plan for the divorce at the same time.
But the reality is that close to 60% of marriages will end in divorce. Sometimes reality is more important than idealism.
When I was young, I started a list of qualities I wanted in a spouse. One of the qualities I looked for was someone who didn't want or need a prenup. I didn't want someone who planned to divorce me ever. Ultimately, it's up to you.
Going to Tokyo four couple weeks,Advice Needed.
I am planning to go to tokyo for about 3 weeks, and I am plannign to go with my friend, but the thing is that I can't be together with his parents, so I am basically going to go by myself.
1.)A place to stay, but I don't want to stay at somewhere cheap.I heard of that Capsule Hotel, but I was not sure if it was possible to stay for 3 weeks, well, I guess it is, but just making sure.
2.)Rail Pass, now I heard this from my friend, any good place to buy it for cheap?
3.)Cell Phones. I heard rental service is not that cheap, so I thought of buying a prepaid overthere, but any other good ideas?
I need help of those 3. Thank you.Going to Tokyo four couple weeks,Advice Needed.
If you're under 18, you're going to have a major problem. Nothing is cheap in Japan. Unless you go to a 100 yen store.
A capsule room has no room for anything other than you. It won't hold luggage, ect. But they're the cheapest place to sleep.
1.)A place to stay, but I don't want to stay at somewhere cheap.I heard of that Capsule Hotel, but I was not sure if it was possible to stay for 3 weeks, well, I guess it is, but just making sure.
2.)Rail Pass, now I heard this from my friend, any good place to buy it for cheap?
3.)Cell Phones. I heard rental service is not that cheap, so I thought of buying a prepaid overthere, but any other good ideas?
I need help of those 3. Thank you.Going to Tokyo four couple weeks,Advice Needed.
If you're under 18, you're going to have a major problem. Nothing is cheap in Japan. Unless you go to a 100 yen store.
A capsule room has no room for anything other than you. It won't hold luggage, ect. But they're the cheapest place to sleep.
Can anyone offer me advice ? i need something to stop me craving sweets and takeaway a couple a weeks before?
my periods? any suggestions like supplements or shakes i really hate it cause i;m trying to lose weight and its a bummer when all your hard work goes down the drain. :(Can anyone offer me advice ? i need something to stop me craving sweets and takeaway a couple a weeks before?
Replace your sweet cravings with good substitutes. When you want something that help your sweet tooth, I recommend fruit. Plums,apples,oranges,mangoes,etc. Also flavored ricecakes such as caramel ricecakes work fine. Low calorie sweets is the key thing here so just be smart when you wanna eat something sweet. Good luck!!Can anyone offer me advice ? i need something to stop me craving sweets and takeaway a couple a weeks before?
yes, exactly! a fish oil pill a day keeps the cravings away..and should i ask you to fill yourself with lots of water and green tea from time to time...what you may be experiencing could be just thirst,not any type of craving at all..
Omega 3 fish oil capsules. We started taking them for other benefits and we realized it kills your desire for sweets.
its a hard thing to do
people give advice but its hard to do.
make negative associations with them. so if your favorite food is ice cream close yours eyes and imagine worms, hair, and feces mixed in it, TASTE IT, do this whenever you have cravings.
I know it's boring, but an apple and a banana a day will really help. The sugar content, although less, will partially help to replace your sweets etc.natural lipstick
Replace your sweet cravings with good substitutes. When you want something that help your sweet tooth, I recommend fruit. Plums,apples,oranges,mangoes,etc. Also flavored ricecakes such as caramel ricecakes work fine. Low calorie sweets is the key thing here so just be smart when you wanna eat something sweet. Good luck!!Can anyone offer me advice ? i need something to stop me craving sweets and takeaway a couple a weeks before?
yes, exactly! a fish oil pill a day keeps the cravings away..and should i ask you to fill yourself with lots of water and green tea from time to time...what you may be experiencing could be just thirst,not any type of craving at all..
Omega 3 fish oil capsules. We started taking them for other benefits and we realized it kills your desire for sweets.
its a hard thing to do
people give advice but its hard to do.
make negative associations with them. so if your favorite food is ice cream close yours eyes and imagine worms, hair, and feces mixed in it, TASTE IT, do this whenever you have cravings.
I know it's boring, but an apple and a banana a day will really help. The sugar content, although less, will partially help to replace your sweets etc.
Friends to FWB to a couple? Advice needed.....?
I have been friends with a guy since last August, and we were FWB soon after that. We're both law students at the same law school. However, a mutual friend in our school recently told me that he referred to me as his girlfriend, which was news to me, but pleasant news at that! Assuming this person heard correctly, I am not really sure how to address the situation with him - I don't want to mess up our friendship and I am also not sure if a relatively long FWB relationship is a very good way to start a romantic relationship. He is also 6 years younger than myself, which is another complication. Should I just ask him directly, or do I wait for him to ask me about it?Friends to FWB to a couple? Advice needed.....?
Ask him directly. It's better to know than to keep on wondering.
Ask him directly. It's better to know than to keep on wondering.
Need Christian married couple advice!!!!?
My husband and I have been married for a year now. I was pregnant when we got married so we now have a 7 month old son. My husband has a very demanding job and is gone MOST of the time. We have no family where we live so we hardly ever get alone time together without our son. Life is extremely stressful right now and we argue most of the time. We say things that hurt one another but always apologize afterward but that doesn't take away the damage done. He now says things to me that he never said before ... things i'd rather not mention, horribly disrespectful mean things. I know he doesn't mean the things he says and is speaking out of emotion but it still hurts!! I've tried talking to him about possibly getting a different job so that we can have more family time together but that isn't even an option right now. We are both terribly miserable with life and marriage but still are crazy in love! I pray about it all the time and keep telling myself it will get better but i'm almost out of hope and feel depressed!!! What should we do??? My husband is actually a counselor and i don't feel that we need marriage counseling but all the bickering and name calling and throwing divorce up in the air has to STOP!! Neither one of us even believe in divorce! HELP! I'm so miserable!!!Need Christian married couple advice!!!!?
You have to make time for each other. Even if that means you have to get up a bit earlier so you can spend a few minutes alone to talk and connect with each other before starting your day. You don't mention working so I'm assuming you don't. Perhaps get out there and get a hobby, something interesting and new to talk about when your husband gets home. I believe you can speak things into being, negative or positive. So only bring love and loving feelings into your home. It helps. Another great thing to do: pray together, out loud. Praying with your spouse is one of the most intimate times you can spend together. You learn their hopes and dreams and fears in the most honest form. They are allowing you see fully into the core of them by sharing their time with God with you.
Good luck honey. Marriage is tough, but if it was easy, everyone would do it!Need Christian married couple advice!!!!?
Why do people insist the are ';crazy in love'; when they have relationships like this, doesn't sound like love to me.
If you love one another you respect each other with your own heart and life. You do not treat each other this way.
Christian marriage huh? Pregnant when you got married and you totally disrepect each other? Doesn't sound like a christian marriage at all.
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You said, ';i don't feel that we need marriage counseling';....so why are you on the board? What are you asking people to do? Give advice? You said you didn't need it....
Re-read your post. You ask questions and also answer them. Shows you are not even open to possibilities or solutions....
Everyone needs a little counseling sometimes. Would a doctor perform heart surgery on himself? The point of counseling is to get unbiased advice. Which is impossible to do within the relationship.
for starters.....quit calling each other names. Walk away from the situation if you need to, but even when you argue you don't have to be hateful to one another.
he's a counselor? neither of you believe in divorce? but acting this way to each other with a baby in the middle is an option?
leave him.
Not to be rude but if you're Christian why were you pregnant before you got married?
I'm not religious myself but I know the bible well, so just saying.
You stated that you have ';GREAT communication';, yet you said: We say things that hurt one another but always apologize afterward but that doesn't take away the damage done. He now says things to me that he never said before ... things i'd rather not mention, horribly disrespectful mean things. I know he doesn't mean the things he says and is speaking out of emotion but it still hurts!!
Ummmmmm that doesn't sound like you have the communication thing right. The purpose of a counselor is to be the NEUTRAL person. You and your hsuband speak to each other with alot of emotion mixed in so even though you both are talking to each other, I think the problem is the LISTENING. Evidently neither of you are hearing what each other is saying.
It really goes back to the 1 Corinthian's chapter 13 type of love. Right now it seems like you both are being selfish with what you want. Your hubby is not willing to compromise with the job situation and you aren't willing to compromise either. Aggrivation of your situation hits and you both start attacking each other.
If your hubby is a counselor then he should know what to do. There are so many tools out here to help. Have you tried reading Dr Phil's book ';Relationship Rescue'; it's awesome for couples because it's like a counseling session in book format. The first 50% of the book helps you to focus on you FIRST and uncover what issues are within you from your past and present that are contributing to the breakdown of your marraige. Then the 2nd half of the book brings your spouse in and you both do the exercises, etc. to find out how you both work together. It's something both you and your hubby need to be committed to doing. You get a book and he gets one and DO THE WORK. There is no simple solution. But if your hubby is going to blow you off and he doesn't even think he has a problem ---- well you are screwed because you must first acknowledge you even have a problem.
Good luck.
Try counseling, it's the only way to work it out. If you choose not to try to work it out since he's being verbally abusive, leave.
I don't believe God likes divorce, but he doesn't dislike it more or less than the abuse. Your choices are to either stay in an abusive relationship or not since you won't seek counseling.
If your husband is a counselor he's fully aware of the damage he's doing to you and his child.
Ok first off...I'm sorry in advance, because this IS going to sound harsh. But it sounds like both of you could use a reality check, so here it is...
What you need to do is drop the idea that the two of you have great communication, because CLEARLY, your communication is terrible. If it was great, then he wouldn't be disrespecting you and saying ugly things to/about you when he means something else or just because he's stressed out. He doesn't know HOW to communicate. If he did, he wouldn't have any problem saying what he SHOULD say, instead if yammering hurtful things at you for reasons other than he means. And just because he's a counselor, that does not mean that the two of you couldn't benefit from one. As they say, you can't see the forest from the trees. I think that you really, really, really, REALLY need to drop your attitude that you don't need help, because sweetie, YOU NEED HELP. Stop being arrogant, and GET HELP!
Since you're Christian, you'll be familiar with this: ';God grant me the serenity to accept the things i cannot change, courage to change the things i can, and the wisdom to know the difference.'; I think you need to sit and think long and hard about that one.
Find a babysitter for your baby, and seek help. You could even ask your Pastor, if you go to Church, for his or her help - most of them are willing and eager to help you, and most of them have experience in it too. Lots of Christian couples do that.
Good luck, and I hope it gets better...
you may not like it but all i can say is grow up!
If you are both still crazy in love you wouldn't be bickering as much now would you? no.. you would realize that since you dont get to spend much time together that the time you do have together should be loving and caring not fighting.
Also i think your attitude about counseling isnt helping.. you never know until you try right?? and if it dosnt help it dosnt but what if it does....
oh and what does it matter that you have no family around so you have no alone time with yout son? have you not heard of a thing called a babysitter? or day care for that matter.. If you really want to work on your replationship you would be looking for a babysitter to watch the child so you and him can be alone together if thats what you want..
OR if you cant afford one....you say you are christian now im assuming that mean you go to church.. is there not anyone that you have met at church that woulndt mind looking after a cute little baby for a bit while mom and dad go out to eat or something???
Just keep praying, I recommend one book called the power of a praying wife by O'Martian, Very relevant for your matter. For a christian we don't believe in divorce and keep declaring the word of God in your marriage mentioning what God has joined together no men should put asunder. And remember you have your Hubie's rib and you are one flesh so you cant afford divorce and unnecessary quarrel . I hope all things would work together for your good.
I agree with Gina, you two need to work on the communication. Here is the task that our marriage counselor gave us when we needed help.
One night a week you sit down together and each of you gets 10-20 minutes to talk about an issue you have. You talk and explain things from YOUR point of view and your feelings. The other person can NOT talk at all and they can NOT use their 20 minutes as a rebuttal. This helps you both learn to LISTEN rather than wait for your chance to argue or defend yourself as well as gets the issue out in a non-confrontational way. This is not a fight, it is simply your chance to express how you feel about the issue at hand. Start with smaller issues such as chores and move gradually into the larger issues such as money or family. This will help learn to fight fair in the future. EVERY couple fights at some point but there are lessons to be learned when it comes to HOW you fight.
It took me a long time to realize that there is no shame in asking for help with your marriage,pride is an ugly thing.I applaud you for coming forward and asking. God bless and good luck to you:)
You have to make time for each other. Even if that means you have to get up a bit earlier so you can spend a few minutes alone to talk and connect with each other before starting your day. You don't mention working so I'm assuming you don't. Perhaps get out there and get a hobby, something interesting and new to talk about when your husband gets home. I believe you can speak things into being, negative or positive. So only bring love and loving feelings into your home. It helps. Another great thing to do: pray together, out loud. Praying with your spouse is one of the most intimate times you can spend together. You learn their hopes and dreams and fears in the most honest form. They are allowing you see fully into the core of them by sharing their time with God with you.
Good luck honey. Marriage is tough, but if it was easy, everyone would do it!Need Christian married couple advice!!!!?
Why do people insist the are ';crazy in love'; when they have relationships like this, doesn't sound like love to me.
If you love one another you respect each other with your own heart and life. You do not treat each other this way.
Christian marriage huh? Pregnant when you got married and you totally disrepect each other? Doesn't sound like a christian marriage at all.
????
You said, ';i don't feel that we need marriage counseling';....so why are you on the board? What are you asking people to do? Give advice? You said you didn't need it....
Re-read your post. You ask questions and also answer them. Shows you are not even open to possibilities or solutions....
Everyone needs a little counseling sometimes. Would a doctor perform heart surgery on himself? The point of counseling is to get unbiased advice. Which is impossible to do within the relationship.
for starters.....quit calling each other names. Walk away from the situation if you need to, but even when you argue you don't have to be hateful to one another.
he's a counselor? neither of you believe in divorce? but acting this way to each other with a baby in the middle is an option?
leave him.
Not to be rude but if you're Christian why were you pregnant before you got married?
I'm not religious myself but I know the bible well, so just saying.
You stated that you have ';GREAT communication';, yet you said: We say things that hurt one another but always apologize afterward but that doesn't take away the damage done. He now says things to me that he never said before ... things i'd rather not mention, horribly disrespectful mean things. I know he doesn't mean the things he says and is speaking out of emotion but it still hurts!!
Ummmmmm that doesn't sound like you have the communication thing right. The purpose of a counselor is to be the NEUTRAL person. You and your hsuband speak to each other with alot of emotion mixed in so even though you both are talking to each other, I think the problem is the LISTENING. Evidently neither of you are hearing what each other is saying.
It really goes back to the 1 Corinthian's chapter 13 type of love. Right now it seems like you both are being selfish with what you want. Your hubby is not willing to compromise with the job situation and you aren't willing to compromise either. Aggrivation of your situation hits and you both start attacking each other.
If your hubby is a counselor then he should know what to do. There are so many tools out here to help. Have you tried reading Dr Phil's book ';Relationship Rescue'; it's awesome for couples because it's like a counseling session in book format. The first 50% of the book helps you to focus on you FIRST and uncover what issues are within you from your past and present that are contributing to the breakdown of your marraige. Then the 2nd half of the book brings your spouse in and you both do the exercises, etc. to find out how you both work together. It's something both you and your hubby need to be committed to doing. You get a book and he gets one and DO THE WORK. There is no simple solution. But if your hubby is going to blow you off and he doesn't even think he has a problem ---- well you are screwed because you must first acknowledge you even have a problem.
Good luck.
Try counseling, it's the only way to work it out. If you choose not to try to work it out since he's being verbally abusive, leave.
I don't believe God likes divorce, but he doesn't dislike it more or less than the abuse. Your choices are to either stay in an abusive relationship or not since you won't seek counseling.
If your husband is a counselor he's fully aware of the damage he's doing to you and his child.
Ok first off...I'm sorry in advance, because this IS going to sound harsh. But it sounds like both of you could use a reality check, so here it is...
What you need to do is drop the idea that the two of you have great communication, because CLEARLY, your communication is terrible. If it was great, then he wouldn't be disrespecting you and saying ugly things to/about you when he means something else or just because he's stressed out. He doesn't know HOW to communicate. If he did, he wouldn't have any problem saying what he SHOULD say, instead if yammering hurtful things at you for reasons other than he means. And just because he's a counselor, that does not mean that the two of you couldn't benefit from one. As they say, you can't see the forest from the trees. I think that you really, really, really, REALLY need to drop your attitude that you don't need help, because sweetie, YOU NEED HELP. Stop being arrogant, and GET HELP!
Since you're Christian, you'll be familiar with this: ';God grant me the serenity to accept the things i cannot change, courage to change the things i can, and the wisdom to know the difference.'; I think you need to sit and think long and hard about that one.
Find a babysitter for your baby, and seek help. You could even ask your Pastor, if you go to Church, for his or her help - most of them are willing and eager to help you, and most of them have experience in it too. Lots of Christian couples do that.
Good luck, and I hope it gets better...
you may not like it but all i can say is grow up!
If you are both still crazy in love you wouldn't be bickering as much now would you? no.. you would realize that since you dont get to spend much time together that the time you do have together should be loving and caring not fighting.
Also i think your attitude about counseling isnt helping.. you never know until you try right?? and if it dosnt help it dosnt but what if it does....
oh and what does it matter that you have no family around so you have no alone time with yout son? have you not heard of a thing called a babysitter? or day care for that matter.. If you really want to work on your replationship you would be looking for a babysitter to watch the child so you and him can be alone together if thats what you want..
OR if you cant afford one....you say you are christian now im assuming that mean you go to church.. is there not anyone that you have met at church that woulndt mind looking after a cute little baby for a bit while mom and dad go out to eat or something???
Just keep praying, I recommend one book called the power of a praying wife by O'Martian, Very relevant for your matter. For a christian we don't believe in divorce and keep declaring the word of God in your marriage mentioning what God has joined together no men should put asunder. And remember you have your Hubie's rib and you are one flesh so you cant afford divorce and unnecessary quarrel . I hope all things would work together for your good.
I agree with Gina, you two need to work on the communication. Here is the task that our marriage counselor gave us when we needed help.
One night a week you sit down together and each of you gets 10-20 minutes to talk about an issue you have. You talk and explain things from YOUR point of view and your feelings. The other person can NOT talk at all and they can NOT use their 20 minutes as a rebuttal. This helps you both learn to LISTEN rather than wait for your chance to argue or defend yourself as well as gets the issue out in a non-confrontational way. This is not a fight, it is simply your chance to express how you feel about the issue at hand. Start with smaller issues such as chores and move gradually into the larger issues such as money or family. This will help learn to fight fair in the future. EVERY couple fights at some point but there are lessons to be learned when it comes to HOW you fight.
It took me a long time to realize that there is no shame in asking for help with your marriage,pride is an ugly thing.I applaud you for coming forward and asking. God bless and good luck to you:)
What advice would you give a young couple to help make their marriage a success ?
Communicate. The key is being able to say what is on your mind, and listen to what your partner has to say.
Once you have communicated you need to learn compromise. Once you enter into marriage you have to accept that you are not the only person with needs and desires. Finding a happy middle ground is critical.
Finally, even though you are now one half of your marriage team don't lose sight of yourself. Many young couples make the mistake of thinking that once you get married the only person you are supposed to be with and do things with is your spouse. You cannot be the best spouse unless you are the best you that you can be. We all need time by ourselves or the opportunity to pursue interests outside of our marriage. Don't get hung up on the fact that going out with friends means you don't want to be with your partner. A happy balance of alone time and together time makes for happier couples.What advice would you give a young couple to help make their marriage a success ?
Be unselfish and learn maturity. ALWAYS put the other one first.
Spend as much time together as possible, don't let friends get in the way.
Talk and LISTEN about everything.
Remember that a fight isn't ever about the thing you think you are fighting about - there are always underlying issues. For example, if you are fighting about money issues, the real reason is probably about hurt feelings about something else... like not getting enough attention, or something.
Above all, remember that just classically, men and women are different creatures. Men think differently, talk differently, feel differently - learn to appreciate and embrace the differences, not to change him into a 'girlfriend'.What advice would you give a young couple to help make their marriage a success ?
RESPECT EACH OTHER, LOVE UNCONDITIONALLY %26amp; BE FAITHFUL, AND DON'T SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF THAT CAUSES ALL THE ARGUMENTS !!! GOD BLESS YOU TWO !!!
It is not easy at first, but with time and love and communication and trust and more communication and trust, then it will get better, there will be times when you wonder why you got married and that will be when you are going through hard times, but just remember why you married your spouse in the first place, and counseling, and just working together as a team to make your marriage work.
I have been married for fifteen years now, and we had to work at it, I would say up to the 7th year of marriage was really hard!!! Once we got past that, we continued to work on our marriage, and realize that we both need eachother and need to make our marriage work because we have a daughter who is 10 years old now.
So, when you get married, and you have children, you have to work extra hard to make it work!
When married couples are having problems, I see it so many times on here, that the children suffer, and it is so unfornate, so many times couples get wrapped up in their own problems and they forget what a toll it is taking on the children!
So please, work together, do not give up, love eachother, love your children, and remember why you got married to your spouse in the first place, and communicate!!!!
Communication is so vital in any relationship!!!!
communicate with each other ,be faithful and never go to bed angry with each other.
The very first thing I'd say to them is that life isnt about being so serious all the time and it aint about being so funny all the time, Sex is sex and it aint love, love is love and it aint sex,..........money is money and if you have moeny you can be happy and have sex and go to comedy shows,......and then pay bills,......if you have enough money you dont have to go find sex anywhere but home, you can laugh at your spouse and she can laugh back at you or, you can both laugh together and or you can both go see a counselor together and when you're done, you can both say, well she's full of %26amp;%$# or whatever you wanna say and then you can go to I-hop and eat lunch and maybe even leave a tip.....or skip the counselor altogether and just go eat lunch......and, dont always sleep in the same room,......always leave the toilet seat down!
Establish good cooperation, feel for each other in ones absence,sacrifice for each other etc etc.
Perfection is an idea seldom encountered in the real world.
A marriage is learning to know and grow with your partner. Also, to remember everyday is a knew day as you are growing that relationship.
trust each other come what may. if you trust him completly then you would never doubt him and no doubts mean no questions and no questions mean no conflict.
trust : key word
understanding/respect
and commitment
less ego and low tone and necer compare nor bring family members(both side) between any silly fight..
Try to be a better listener .
Listen.
Talk.
Never ever accuse.
Always be supportive.
Do not go to bed angry.
Laugh lots.
Share everything you can.
Find ways to spend at least 30 minutes of everyday discussing how your day was.
Snuggle frequently.
Reach for each other in good times and bad.
Talk, talk, talk.
Listen, listen, listen.
Notice there is a lot of talking and listening in there.
Love constantly. And take the vows you made seriously.
spend time together and do things togeher,express their emotion.talk about their agreement and dis agreement.like and dislike.and most of all keep their love alives.and of course..have a break sometimes together .
Patient through good and bad times,unselfishness.faithfullness,pure love,dedication,sense of responsibilty and understanding are all the ingredients for a successful marriage.For a young couple,they need to adjust and learn to work hard in their own.They need to be compatible,same plans,same dreams,same hobbies.Since they are still young and want to have some leisures sometimes thy need to enjoy once in a while together so that they would not feel fed up in thei early marriage.They must have plan too in raising children.Save money for the future.
Remember, you become one. We ladies were created so man would not be alone. We are each other's help mates. A big problem I see here on yahoo answers is people still keeping in contact w/ old flames, or flirting w/ the opposite sex online. Just plain don't do either of those things. It's time to forsake all others as the old fashioned vow states. Also, a new thing I discovered yesterday, if either of you work, don't get into any conversation at work you would not want your spouse to find out about. Stay away from bad influences. Good Luck =)
BE BEST FRIENDS FIRST
I've been married for 8 weeks and here's the biggest thing I've learned so far... try to take your focus off yourself and look for ways to serve your husband/wife. It's amazing how much better things will go when this is your attitude.
Communicate, trust, understand, don't lose the bond, try to flavour your life every while and then.. and always tell the other partner how u feel about everything and anything and encourage him/her to do the same. Build a strong foundation, so that you can continue living together happily.
Once you have communicated you need to learn compromise. Once you enter into marriage you have to accept that you are not the only person with needs and desires. Finding a happy middle ground is critical.
Finally, even though you are now one half of your marriage team don't lose sight of yourself. Many young couples make the mistake of thinking that once you get married the only person you are supposed to be with and do things with is your spouse. You cannot be the best spouse unless you are the best you that you can be. We all need time by ourselves or the opportunity to pursue interests outside of our marriage. Don't get hung up on the fact that going out with friends means you don't want to be with your partner. A happy balance of alone time and together time makes for happier couples.What advice would you give a young couple to help make their marriage a success ?
Be unselfish and learn maturity. ALWAYS put the other one first.
Spend as much time together as possible, don't let friends get in the way.
Talk and LISTEN about everything.
Remember that a fight isn't ever about the thing you think you are fighting about - there are always underlying issues. For example, if you are fighting about money issues, the real reason is probably about hurt feelings about something else... like not getting enough attention, or something.
Above all, remember that just classically, men and women are different creatures. Men think differently, talk differently, feel differently - learn to appreciate and embrace the differences, not to change him into a 'girlfriend'.What advice would you give a young couple to help make their marriage a success ?
RESPECT EACH OTHER, LOVE UNCONDITIONALLY %26amp; BE FAITHFUL, AND DON'T SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF THAT CAUSES ALL THE ARGUMENTS !!! GOD BLESS YOU TWO !!!
It is not easy at first, but with time and love and communication and trust and more communication and trust, then it will get better, there will be times when you wonder why you got married and that will be when you are going through hard times, but just remember why you married your spouse in the first place, and counseling, and just working together as a team to make your marriage work.
I have been married for fifteen years now, and we had to work at it, I would say up to the 7th year of marriage was really hard!!! Once we got past that, we continued to work on our marriage, and realize that we both need eachother and need to make our marriage work because we have a daughter who is 10 years old now.
So, when you get married, and you have children, you have to work extra hard to make it work!
When married couples are having problems, I see it so many times on here, that the children suffer, and it is so unfornate, so many times couples get wrapped up in their own problems and they forget what a toll it is taking on the children!
So please, work together, do not give up, love eachother, love your children, and remember why you got married to your spouse in the first place, and communicate!!!!
Communication is so vital in any relationship!!!!
communicate with each other ,be faithful and never go to bed angry with each other.
The very first thing I'd say to them is that life isnt about being so serious all the time and it aint about being so funny all the time, Sex is sex and it aint love, love is love and it aint sex,..........money is money and if you have moeny you can be happy and have sex and go to comedy shows,......and then pay bills,......if you have enough money you dont have to go find sex anywhere but home, you can laugh at your spouse and she can laugh back at you or, you can both laugh together and or you can both go see a counselor together and when you're done, you can both say, well she's full of %26amp;%$# or whatever you wanna say and then you can go to I-hop and eat lunch and maybe even leave a tip.....or skip the counselor altogether and just go eat lunch......and, dont always sleep in the same room,......always leave the toilet seat down!
Establish good cooperation, feel for each other in ones absence,sacrifice for each other etc etc.
Perfection is an idea seldom encountered in the real world.
A marriage is learning to know and grow with your partner. Also, to remember everyday is a knew day as you are growing that relationship.
trust each other come what may. if you trust him completly then you would never doubt him and no doubts mean no questions and no questions mean no conflict.
trust : key word
understanding/respect
and commitment
less ego and low tone and necer compare nor bring family members(both side) between any silly fight..
Try to be a better listener .
Listen.
Talk.
Never ever accuse.
Always be supportive.
Do not go to bed angry.
Laugh lots.
Share everything you can.
Find ways to spend at least 30 minutes of everyday discussing how your day was.
Snuggle frequently.
Reach for each other in good times and bad.
Talk, talk, talk.
Listen, listen, listen.
Notice there is a lot of talking and listening in there.
Love constantly. And take the vows you made seriously.
spend time together and do things togeher,express their emotion.talk about their agreement and dis agreement.like and dislike.and most of all keep their love alives.and of course..have a break sometimes together .
Patient through good and bad times,unselfishness.faithfullness,pure love,dedication,sense of responsibilty and understanding are all the ingredients for a successful marriage.For a young couple,they need to adjust and learn to work hard in their own.They need to be compatible,same plans,same dreams,same hobbies.Since they are still young and want to have some leisures sometimes thy need to enjoy once in a while together so that they would not feel fed up in thei early marriage.They must have plan too in raising children.Save money for the future.
Remember, you become one. We ladies were created so man would not be alone. We are each other's help mates. A big problem I see here on yahoo answers is people still keeping in contact w/ old flames, or flirting w/ the opposite sex online. Just plain don't do either of those things. It's time to forsake all others as the old fashioned vow states. Also, a new thing I discovered yesterday, if either of you work, don't get into any conversation at work you would not want your spouse to find out about. Stay away from bad influences. Good Luck =)
BE BEST FRIENDS FIRST
I've been married for 8 weeks and here's the biggest thing I've learned so far... try to take your focus off yourself and look for ways to serve your husband/wife. It's amazing how much better things will go when this is your attitude.
Communicate, trust, understand, don't lose the bond, try to flavour your life every while and then.. and always tell the other partner how u feel about everything and anything and encourage him/her to do the same. Build a strong foundation, so that you can continue living together happily.
What is the best advice you could give a newly married couple?
Keep the lines of communication open at all times. Be patient with each other. Learn the difference between knowing what to say and knowing ';when'; to say it. Let go of your desire to be right all the time. Learn the difference between hearing each other and really listening to what the other person has to say. When you do fight, fight fairly, in a calm and cool headed manner and don't sweat the small stuff. Spend as much time as possible but learn to give each other space to do your own thing. Support each other's growth and remember that your commitment to each other doesn't end after the wedding ceremony. It starts everyday for the rest of your married lives...and last but not least...have lots of sex.What is the best advice you could give a newly married couple?
Just be patient and ignorant whenever needed
believe me that helps allot!!What is the best advice you could give a newly married couple?
dont cheat! unless your swingers and thats a totally different story..lol..
Allow each other the space to pursue their own interests and develop (and keep) their own friends, including friends of the opposite sex.. Or you will soon get bored of each other's company,
You people should be submissive to each other, share your worries together, play together, work hand to hand, correct the mistakes of each other, advice each other, see into each other's problem, trust each other, have confidence in each other, don't listen to what people may say about your partner if you really love him because the world is full of jealousy and people can destroy the two of you, always see before you believe do not hear and believe. Always be there fore each other and by so doing you will live happy for ever.
3 pieces of advice. always communicate, never go to bed mad at one another, and take money problems with a grain of salt. money is accounted for over half of divorces
Talk to each other about everything, and take care of each other's needs.
It's not easy, but when it is good, it is worth it.
Know you and know your spouse and love both completely. Compromise, communicate, and don't be afraid to have conversations that aren't romantic. Day to day living isn't romantic. Who's gonna take out the garbage or watch the kids isn't either, but it's something that is gonna come up and it's better to have a plan than to have to fight about it later. Also, discuss things that you're not supposed to talk about in ';polite conversation';. Religion, sex, politics, child rearing philosophies, and money. There's a lot that people don't think about in the first rush you get, but it's something that can cause many difficulties. There's also one more thing. Have a hobby, or a friend, or friends, something, anything that you can talk about that the other person doesn't already know about and that you can share with them. One of the big killers of marriages is boredom and one of the best ways to get bored with someone is to always know what they're going to say or do or think and finally to not care about any of it. Keep a little bit of a life of your own and you'll always have a little mystery.
get a pet that will provide for mundane conversation
just to enjoy every second you can ..
and try to make a love every time you can ,,
new dream
my heart...
my heart shout with happiness...
the lover came back again...
yearning to her meeting..
the heart fly hapiness ,and so happy to meet her...
meeting the lover , while the great gladness inside me ..
great happiness , which all lovers wish it ..
the lover came back again ..
again now we have our new dream...
by: hazem02@yahoo.com
By hazem02
http://www.thestarlitecafe.com/poems/101鈥?/a>
please visit my site and read more for me and leave me there your comments..
yours
hazem
Talk, Talk and Listen Listen. COMMUNICATE WITH EACH OTHER AND LISTEN TO EACH OTHER WITHOUT FIGHTING.
Good communication.
The best advice i could give to a married couple would be to split everything down the middle. don't have one worship the other like a queen or king and you degrade yourself. you share the responsibilities.
If you have a falling out, just put it back in and keep going,LOL
Be honest and open with each other... Listen to each other... And have great sex let me tell you lol....
A marriage is like a country. It has it's checks and balances and departments. Divide the labor and make it explicit who has what responsibility.
seek Gods guidence in all your affairs,children are created from the ';dwell'; of love.Don't forget to seek the truth as to who your lord is.And always remember the things that you find soo cute in each other.
.1. Never both be angry at the same time.
.2. Never yell at each other unless the house is on fire.
.3. If one of you has to win an argument, let it be your mate.
.4. If you have to criticize, do it lovingly.
.5. Never bring up mistakes of the past.
.6. Neglect the whole world rather than each other.
.7. Never go to sleep with an argument unsettled.
.8. At least once every day try to say one kind or complimentary
thing to your life's partner.
.9. When you have done something wrong, be ready to admit it and
ask for forgiveness.
.10. It takes two to make a quarrel, and the one in the wrong
is the one who does the most talking.
.
Success to your relationship, Manuchopra.
I totally agree with Susan. My husband and I have been married for almost 26 years. Keep a sense of humor and respect and trust each other. Someone mentioned that you should divide everything 50/50. It can't always be that way. Let's say your husband needs 80% so give him that extra attention. Sometimes you might need maybe 90% so he should give YOU the extra attention that you need. Each of you should know when this happens. Talking and keeping the communication open is also important. Don't start fights and laugh at his jokes. My husband and I can still talk for hours and have fun together. Sorry for rambling but I think these things are important.
I completely agree with Circlometry. Biggest thing is to expect boredom. It would be great if our spouses were as interesting for hours upon end, but they aren't. If you expect the boredom to set in, you won't be as hurt by it, and you'll fight about it less.
Hi Lovers, The best advice is to be nice to 1 another.Always tell each other you love them, at least once a day.Do little things for each other.Like on saturdays and sundays,Lets let your hubby take saturday,So mommy can get up and cook you a nice breakfast and serve it in bed for you.Then sunday,daddy will get up and make a nice breakfast for you and serve it in bed for you.You want to keep the love and romance in your life to stay alive and keep you as 1.You much have trust and honesty to make your marriage work.Believe me i know,Just trust me.Always have laughter in your house.Have a loving and caring relationship.If your ever have something that bothers 1 another,Don't be afraid to tell each other before it becomes a BIG problem.You want to kick it in the A S S before it festures into something bigger.Always love and honor each other.Have a happy and loving life together.
A Friend Clowmy
trust and strong communication skills is the key to a happy healthy life good luck
Always put your marriage (partner) first. Always be in each other's corner. This isn't as easy as it sounds. For instance, if your family is angry with her for some reason, stick up for her! It doesn't matter if she is right or wrong. You can share your concerns with her later, in private. Marriage can be hard and tedious, you have to put it first for it to be successful! It can also be wonderful!
Congratulations! May you love each other always!
Get a pre-nuptial agreement. Have sex 3 to 4 times a week. Go out to dinner at least 1 to 2 times a week and share house chores. Save a lot of money for a rainy day and buy your dream home if you're able.
Go to marital counseling - even if everything is going great. There are skills that are not part of our normal education that can help us make our marriages even more successful and positive.
Trust, onset %26amp; love , felling as the one
cute photo..um i dont know not married
Make love not babies
dont spend too much time together
but do try lots of new things together
CONNECT
KEEP ALL MONEY SEPERATE.. seperate checking accounts, seperate savings... etc.. that way when and or IF you divorce it saves the hassle. Personally I have been married over 17 years.. but we seldom argue over money which as ANY marriage councelor will tell you is what 90% of young married couples fight over.. the other 10 is sex.. can't help you there.. you either do it or you dont..OHHHH one more bit of advise... NEVER and I mean NEVER go to the bathroom either # 1 or #2 in front of your spouse.. that is just gross.. and if you walk in on them accidently.. GET OUT..
See the future not the past. Have the patience, understanding and try to make sacrifices for each other. Also try to respect each others views and u wan tot fight have healthy fight !!
Wishing u a vry happy married life!!
Just be patient and ignorant whenever needed
believe me that helps allot!!What is the best advice you could give a newly married couple?
dont cheat! unless your swingers and thats a totally different story..lol..
Allow each other the space to pursue their own interests and develop (and keep) their own friends, including friends of the opposite sex.. Or you will soon get bored of each other's company,
You people should be submissive to each other, share your worries together, play together, work hand to hand, correct the mistakes of each other, advice each other, see into each other's problem, trust each other, have confidence in each other, don't listen to what people may say about your partner if you really love him because the world is full of jealousy and people can destroy the two of you, always see before you believe do not hear and believe. Always be there fore each other and by so doing you will live happy for ever.
3 pieces of advice. always communicate, never go to bed mad at one another, and take money problems with a grain of salt. money is accounted for over half of divorces
Talk to each other about everything, and take care of each other's needs.
It's not easy, but when it is good, it is worth it.
Know you and know your spouse and love both completely. Compromise, communicate, and don't be afraid to have conversations that aren't romantic. Day to day living isn't romantic. Who's gonna take out the garbage or watch the kids isn't either, but it's something that is gonna come up and it's better to have a plan than to have to fight about it later. Also, discuss things that you're not supposed to talk about in ';polite conversation';. Religion, sex, politics, child rearing philosophies, and money. There's a lot that people don't think about in the first rush you get, but it's something that can cause many difficulties. There's also one more thing. Have a hobby, or a friend, or friends, something, anything that you can talk about that the other person doesn't already know about and that you can share with them. One of the big killers of marriages is boredom and one of the best ways to get bored with someone is to always know what they're going to say or do or think and finally to not care about any of it. Keep a little bit of a life of your own and you'll always have a little mystery.
get a pet that will provide for mundane conversation
just to enjoy every second you can ..
and try to make a love every time you can ,,
new dream
my heart...
my heart shout with happiness...
the lover came back again...
yearning to her meeting..
the heart fly hapiness ,and so happy to meet her...
meeting the lover , while the great gladness inside me ..
great happiness , which all lovers wish it ..
the lover came back again ..
again now we have our new dream...
by: hazem02@yahoo.com
By hazem02
http://www.thestarlitecafe.com/poems/101鈥?/a>
please visit my site and read more for me and leave me there your comments..
yours
hazem
Talk, Talk and Listen Listen. COMMUNICATE WITH EACH OTHER AND LISTEN TO EACH OTHER WITHOUT FIGHTING.
Good communication.
The best advice i could give to a married couple would be to split everything down the middle. don't have one worship the other like a queen or king and you degrade yourself. you share the responsibilities.
If you have a falling out, just put it back in and keep going,LOL
Be honest and open with each other... Listen to each other... And have great sex let me tell you lol....
A marriage is like a country. It has it's checks and balances and departments. Divide the labor and make it explicit who has what responsibility.
seek Gods guidence in all your affairs,children are created from the ';dwell'; of love.Don't forget to seek the truth as to who your lord is.And always remember the things that you find soo cute in each other.
.1. Never both be angry at the same time.
.2. Never yell at each other unless the house is on fire.
.3. If one of you has to win an argument, let it be your mate.
.4. If you have to criticize, do it lovingly.
.5. Never bring up mistakes of the past.
.6. Neglect the whole world rather than each other.
.7. Never go to sleep with an argument unsettled.
.8. At least once every day try to say one kind or complimentary
thing to your life's partner.
.9. When you have done something wrong, be ready to admit it and
ask for forgiveness.
.10. It takes two to make a quarrel, and the one in the wrong
is the one who does the most talking.
.
Success to your relationship, Manuchopra.
I totally agree with Susan. My husband and I have been married for almost 26 years. Keep a sense of humor and respect and trust each other. Someone mentioned that you should divide everything 50/50. It can't always be that way. Let's say your husband needs 80% so give him that extra attention. Sometimes you might need maybe 90% so he should give YOU the extra attention that you need. Each of you should know when this happens. Talking and keeping the communication open is also important. Don't start fights and laugh at his jokes. My husband and I can still talk for hours and have fun together. Sorry for rambling but I think these things are important.
I completely agree with Circlometry. Biggest thing is to expect boredom. It would be great if our spouses were as interesting for hours upon end, but they aren't. If you expect the boredom to set in, you won't be as hurt by it, and you'll fight about it less.
Hi Lovers, The best advice is to be nice to 1 another.Always tell each other you love them, at least once a day.Do little things for each other.Like on saturdays and sundays,Lets let your hubby take saturday,So mommy can get up and cook you a nice breakfast and serve it in bed for you.Then sunday,daddy will get up and make a nice breakfast for you and serve it in bed for you.You want to keep the love and romance in your life to stay alive and keep you as 1.You much have trust and honesty to make your marriage work.Believe me i know,Just trust me.Always have laughter in your house.Have a loving and caring relationship.If your ever have something that bothers 1 another,Don't be afraid to tell each other before it becomes a BIG problem.You want to kick it in the A S S before it festures into something bigger.Always love and honor each other.Have a happy and loving life together.
A Friend Clowmy
trust and strong communication skills is the key to a happy healthy life good luck
Always put your marriage (partner) first. Always be in each other's corner. This isn't as easy as it sounds. For instance, if your family is angry with her for some reason, stick up for her! It doesn't matter if she is right or wrong. You can share your concerns with her later, in private. Marriage can be hard and tedious, you have to put it first for it to be successful! It can also be wonderful!
Congratulations! May you love each other always!
Get a pre-nuptial agreement. Have sex 3 to 4 times a week. Go out to dinner at least 1 to 2 times a week and share house chores. Save a lot of money for a rainy day and buy your dream home if you're able.
Go to marital counseling - even if everything is going great. There are skills that are not part of our normal education that can help us make our marriages even more successful and positive.
Trust, onset %26amp; love , felling as the one
cute photo..um i dont know not married
Make love not babies
dont spend too much time together
but do try lots of new things together
CONNECT
KEEP ALL MONEY SEPERATE.. seperate checking accounts, seperate savings... etc.. that way when and or IF you divorce it saves the hassle. Personally I have been married over 17 years.. but we seldom argue over money which as ANY marriage councelor will tell you is what 90% of young married couples fight over.. the other 10 is sex.. can't help you there.. you either do it or you dont..OHHHH one more bit of advise... NEVER and I mean NEVER go to the bathroom either # 1 or #2 in front of your spouse.. that is just gross.. and if you walk in on them accidently.. GET OUT..
See the future not the past. Have the patience, understanding and try to make sacrifices for each other. Also try to respect each others views and u wan tot fight have healthy fight !!
Wishing u a vry happy married life!!
Mix relig, couples I need help!can not find good reason to have faith in god, fiance sad/worried. Any advice?
My fiance just recently, durring some hard times has found god again and is immensely worried about our afterlives. I have never found a need to believe in god and especialy not in the rules of her religion, shes catholic. She is sad because I can not share in her enthusiasim for religion and she is worried I will be damned to hell when I die. I get where she is coming from but as of now I still dont see a need to believe other than to please her and for the selfish reason of wanting to spend the rest of eternity with her in heaven.
I would like to hear from anyone but especialy from people in mixed religion relationships (one believes in one thing while the other believes in something entierly diff. or nothing at all) on how you would or do deal with a situation like this. Could you be happy if your significant other belived diffrently or, are you happy if this is your life? Any help is appreciated, thank you.Mix relig, couples I need help!can not find good reason to have faith in god, fiance sad/worried. Any advice?
hmm while me and my soon-to-be ex wife are both atheists or at least I am an atheist and she might be an agnostic instead, I will say this...
if you really love her then if I were you, I would talk it out and tell her exactly what you want. if you dont want to change your views(cause thats what itsounds like) either she needs to respect that part of you or you need to find someone that does. Relationships are always about compromise, but honestly I wouldnt want to sell myself short just for love...Mix relig, couples I need help!can not find good reason to have faith in god, fiance sad/worried. Any advice?
Dump her. Run as fast as you can and never look back!
Scripture says that the faith of a believing wife can sanctify the unbelieving husband.
Church can not save you nor attending church but it is how you worship God that saves you. It's not the building or religion that saves either. Catholic, Baptist, Seventh day Adventist, Christians etc. are all different translation of the same ';Jesus Christ';.
Religion involves Rule's and Regulations and the different religions have different R%26amp;R. So it's not where you worship its how you worship. Church is supposed to be the place where you will get information on how to worship God, but be carefull whose teaching what.
Don't get me wrong, I am not trying to discourage you from attending church with your fiance, I am trying to encourage you to worship God in Correctness. 1Corinthians 13 is one of the best places to get one's bearing.
There is one thing that's in your favor..... A woman that takes worshipping Christ serious will never cheat on you, but the down side is religion. Some churches do teach unmarried couples that sleeping together without being married is a sin. But there is a remedy to this dilema.
So I wish you well and I hope that you both find God and happiness together.
I would like to hear from anyone but especialy from people in mixed religion relationships (one believes in one thing while the other believes in something entierly diff. or nothing at all) on how you would or do deal with a situation like this. Could you be happy if your significant other belived diffrently or, are you happy if this is your life? Any help is appreciated, thank you.Mix relig, couples I need help!can not find good reason to have faith in god, fiance sad/worried. Any advice?
hmm while me and my soon-to-be ex wife are both atheists or at least I am an atheist and she might be an agnostic instead, I will say this...
if you really love her then if I were you, I would talk it out and tell her exactly what you want. if you dont want to change your views(cause thats what itsounds like) either she needs to respect that part of you or you need to find someone that does. Relationships are always about compromise, but honestly I wouldnt want to sell myself short just for love...Mix relig, couples I need help!can not find good reason to have faith in god, fiance sad/worried. Any advice?
Dump her. Run as fast as you can and never look back!
Scripture says that the faith of a believing wife can sanctify the unbelieving husband.
Church can not save you nor attending church but it is how you worship God that saves you. It's not the building or religion that saves either. Catholic, Baptist, Seventh day Adventist, Christians etc. are all different translation of the same ';Jesus Christ';.
Religion involves Rule's and Regulations and the different religions have different R%26amp;R. So it's not where you worship its how you worship. Church is supposed to be the place where you will get information on how to worship God, but be carefull whose teaching what.
Don't get me wrong, I am not trying to discourage you from attending church with your fiance, I am trying to encourage you to worship God in Correctness. 1Corinthians 13 is one of the best places to get one's bearing.
There is one thing that's in your favor..... A woman that takes worshipping Christ serious will never cheat on you, but the down side is religion. Some churches do teach unmarried couples that sleeping together without being married is a sin. But there is a remedy to this dilema.
So I wish you well and I hope that you both find God and happiness together.
I am leaving for California in a couple days, Can anyone give me advice on where to go in San Diego?
I am going to San Diego first, then we are going to San Francisco for a few days. I'm going with my boyfriend, but neither of us have ever been to CA, so I'm afraid we might miss out on some great stuff since we won't know where to go. Can anyone give me suggestions? I want to go to as many scenic places as possible, and to some nice beaches, restaurants, parks, etc. Any advice on where to go, park, visit, etc would be appreciated! Also, any advice on some cheap places as well? :) We want to go to nice places, but save some cash whenever possible because this trip is costing a fortune :)I am leaving for California in a couple days, Can anyone give me advice on where to go in San Diego?
San Diego Zoo, then on way north, Universal Studios is best in LA, take the coast up north and see Hearst Castle in San Simeon, go through 17 mile drive and stop in Monterey where the Aquarium rocks! Then head to Fisherman's Wharf and do the Alcatraz Tour in San Francisco. Those are my favorite things on that trip and I have lived here for 20 years.I am leaving for California in a couple days, Can anyone give me advice on where to go in San Diego?
san diego..........the moon buffet......great place to eat.......but i live in cali so i know really kool places.......first in san fransisco you'll wanna go on a ferry to the Alcatraz. then Fishermans Wharf.maybe chinatown.......then at sunset......the beach. so romantic. talk to me.
I live in California, kind of close to San Francisco. You picked a great time to visit! The weather is really perfect right now. I live more inland, where it's almost 90, but San Francisco will be in the low to mid-70's.
Be sure to visit the Golden Gate bridge, of course. You'll be able to see for miles in this weather. And Fisherman's Wharf. That's always nice. Sausalito is nice too. You get there by crossing the Golden Gate Bridge. If you've never been to Berkeley, that would be a nice cheap sight-seeing trip, just walking around Telegraph Avenue. I grew up in Berkeley. What a trip! Enjoy your visit!
Go out on a fishing boat.
Tijuana is only an hour away.
When headed north go to Universal Studios Theme Park
To the san diego zoo...
While in San Diego, check out the Gaslamp district for lots of eating and shopping choices. We ate at a chic pizza place there called Sammy's. Horton Plaza is a really nice outdoor mall not to far from the Gaslamp district. You can also do a harbor cruise for some breathtaking photo ops of the city skyline, as well as some interesting history. Cross the bridge to Coronado Island and you'll find some nice public beaches. There is also a great ice cream place there called Moo Time Creamery. If you like museums, Balboa Park has every possible museum you'd ever want to go to, plus it's a really nice place to take a walk (or drive). If you have time, take a drive up to La Jolla -- it's postcard beaufiful! Plus there are awesome shopping and dining choices there as well.
The standard places here are the zoo, the Wild Animal Park and Seaworld. What kind of restaurants are you looking for? There is something for every taste and price. There are several different tours available, Seal tour uses an old amphibious craft and goes on land and on the bay. There is the Harbor Excursion which is pretty cool. You'll want to visit Seaport village and the Embaradero for touristy shopping. If you have any specific questions, just contact me, I'm one of the few native San Diegans left!
The San Diego Zoo is the best. Have Fun
San Diego zoo, Balboa Park, Sea World. On certain days, some of the museums in Balboa park are free. Coronado and La Jolla have the best beaches, I think. For nice restaurant (although pricey), try George's at the Cove or the Marine Room in La Jolla. They have made the Gaslamp area in downtown really nice. Fashion Valley is the best mall in San Diego. Seaport Village can be a fun place to walk around.
San Diego zoo. Also next to that is Balboa Park which has lots of fun stuff.
In SF, the whole place is an amusement park.
You have to visit the San Diego Zoo and SeaWorld. Awesome places to go!! Do not go to legoland. That's the biggest waste of money to mankind. My son hated it and the rides are beyond slow. Also visit the Aircraft Carrier downtown. It's a museum and you get to walk around and see how it feels to be in the Navy. I was on one and when I take people there they can't believe how big it is. Enjoy!!! Lot's of good eating downtown around the Gas lamp district. Also that's were a lot of clubs and bars are to.
San Diego zoo, the Gaslamp Quarter, Seaport Village, Seaworld, Balboa Park. Stay at Motel 6 on Hotel Circle. Take a qucik day trip down to Mexico.
http://www.sitesofsandiego.com/
http://www.sandiego.org/nav/Visitors
http://www.letsplaydowntown.com/
http://gothere.com/sandiego/interactive_鈥?/a>
have fun in my town!
Go to the Harbor and get on the Old Town Trolley. It is an on and off tour that can be picked up at 8 different places. It is 2 hours if you stay on and don't get off. It even takes you to Coronado Island. It's worth the ride. They tell you all about San Diego and you get to see a lot of SightsIn Downtown . You will see the Zoo as it is a stop. You can get on and off all day, stopping at the places you want.
OOOOOH! GO TO SEA WORLD! AND THE ZOO! And for great food, go to Little Italy. For a more cultural setting, go to Balboa Park....IT'S SO FUN!!!!! It's right next to the Zoo. A fun hotel is the W. HAVE FUN!
San Diego Zoo, then on way north, Universal Studios is best in LA, take the coast up north and see Hearst Castle in San Simeon, go through 17 mile drive and stop in Monterey where the Aquarium rocks! Then head to Fisherman's Wharf and do the Alcatraz Tour in San Francisco. Those are my favorite things on that trip and I have lived here for 20 years.I am leaving for California in a couple days, Can anyone give me advice on where to go in San Diego?
san diego..........the moon buffet......great place to eat.......but i live in cali so i know really kool places.......first in san fransisco you'll wanna go on a ferry to the Alcatraz. then Fishermans Wharf.maybe chinatown.......then at sunset......the beach. so romantic. talk to me.
I live in California, kind of close to San Francisco. You picked a great time to visit! The weather is really perfect right now. I live more inland, where it's almost 90, but San Francisco will be in the low to mid-70's.
Be sure to visit the Golden Gate bridge, of course. You'll be able to see for miles in this weather. And Fisherman's Wharf. That's always nice. Sausalito is nice too. You get there by crossing the Golden Gate Bridge. If you've never been to Berkeley, that would be a nice cheap sight-seeing trip, just walking around Telegraph Avenue. I grew up in Berkeley. What a trip! Enjoy your visit!
Go out on a fishing boat.
Tijuana is only an hour away.
When headed north go to Universal Studios Theme Park
To the san diego zoo...
While in San Diego, check out the Gaslamp district for lots of eating and shopping choices. We ate at a chic pizza place there called Sammy's. Horton Plaza is a really nice outdoor mall not to far from the Gaslamp district. You can also do a harbor cruise for some breathtaking photo ops of the city skyline, as well as some interesting history. Cross the bridge to Coronado Island and you'll find some nice public beaches. There is also a great ice cream place there called Moo Time Creamery. If you like museums, Balboa Park has every possible museum you'd ever want to go to, plus it's a really nice place to take a walk (or drive). If you have time, take a drive up to La Jolla -- it's postcard beaufiful! Plus there are awesome shopping and dining choices there as well.
The standard places here are the zoo, the Wild Animal Park and Seaworld. What kind of restaurants are you looking for? There is something for every taste and price. There are several different tours available, Seal tour uses an old amphibious craft and goes on land and on the bay. There is the Harbor Excursion which is pretty cool. You'll want to visit Seaport village and the Embaradero for touristy shopping. If you have any specific questions, just contact me, I'm one of the few native San Diegans left!
The San Diego Zoo is the best. Have Fun
San Diego zoo, Balboa Park, Sea World. On certain days, some of the museums in Balboa park are free. Coronado and La Jolla have the best beaches, I think. For nice restaurant (although pricey), try George's at the Cove or the Marine Room in La Jolla. They have made the Gaslamp area in downtown really nice. Fashion Valley is the best mall in San Diego. Seaport Village can be a fun place to walk around.
San Diego zoo. Also next to that is Balboa Park which has lots of fun stuff.
In SF, the whole place is an amusement park.
You have to visit the San Diego Zoo and SeaWorld. Awesome places to go!! Do not go to legoland. That's the biggest waste of money to mankind. My son hated it and the rides are beyond slow. Also visit the Aircraft Carrier downtown. It's a museum and you get to walk around and see how it feels to be in the Navy. I was on one and when I take people there they can't believe how big it is. Enjoy!!! Lot's of good eating downtown around the Gas lamp district. Also that's were a lot of clubs and bars are to.
San Diego zoo, the Gaslamp Quarter, Seaport Village, Seaworld, Balboa Park. Stay at Motel 6 on Hotel Circle. Take a qucik day trip down to Mexico.
http://www.sitesofsandiego.com/
http://www.sandiego.org/nav/Visitors
http://www.letsplaydowntown.com/
http://gothere.com/sandiego/interactive_鈥?/a>
have fun in my town!
Go to the Harbor and get on the Old Town Trolley. It is an on and off tour that can be picked up at 8 different places. It is 2 hours if you stay on and don't get off. It even takes you to Coronado Island. It's worth the ride. They tell you all about San Diego and you get to see a lot of SightsIn Downtown . You will see the Zoo as it is a stop. You can get on and off all day, stopping at the places you want.
OOOOOH! GO TO SEA WORLD! AND THE ZOO! And for great food, go to Little Italy. For a more cultural setting, go to Balboa Park....IT'S SO FUN!!!!! It's right next to the Zoo. A fun hotel is the W. HAVE FUN!
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