However, we don't have a title. He claims that he wants to wait and grow together and let things flow. Which I was cool with for the first 7 months, now I am kind of fed up with his ****. Keep in mind that we do everything that a couple does, but still he isn't ready to make a commitment. I am not tring to marry him or whatever. I just want a secure relationship. Being that we are not in a relationship, but have been talking for a long *** time. He feels that it is okay for him to talk to other girls on the phone and have all these ';homegirls';. He knows that I don't like it but that isn't stopping him.the situation really hit home lastnight. I was on the phone with him and while we were talking he asked me how to spell something. I told him and it kind of sound like he was typing. I asked was he typing a paper, No, he said that he was just thinking out lound and trippin. I knew he was lying. we hung up and I texted him. he told me he was texting while talking to me. What should I do?I need some advice on this situation.I have been talking to this guy for a year and a couple of months now.?
Trust me!! I know. He just wants to talk to other girls and hes just keepin you around for comfort or so he can have somebody for the time being. I know b/c i was with someone like that. He wasted my time. Leave him now and then he will try to come crawling back cuz he'll see that you dont want him. But when he does, forget him. You'll find someone who love %26amp; cares for you just like I did. No matter how much you miss him..dont let him treat you like that. All women deserve better.I need some advice on this situation.I have been talking to this guy for a year and a couple of months now.?
I have been there...you probably arent the only girl!! If he isnt ready to say that you are actually a couple and there are other girls he is talking to..there is something wrong with that picture. If he likes you and you do the couples thing then he should be ready and willing to say that you are his girlfriend and have the respect to quit talking to or hanging out with these other girls. Does he hang out with them too? You need to leave him...and do it quick.
i didnt if read the rest of the story because i dont need to. its simple if you r having sex then stop, if you r not happy then leave and if you like migraines then keep dealing with him.
Friday, April 30, 2010
Ok, I've got the number/e-mail of a guy I like, but a couple of problems yet? Can you give me some advice?!
There's this really cute guy in my college class who Ive wanted to ask on a date all semester. Everytime we look at each other we smile. Anyway, I knew I had to start making a move this week because it's like very close to the last week, but in class I see some other dude (who has a girlfriend btw) all giddy and smiling as he is getting his number so they can play soccer this weekend. I don't know... it just bothered me for soem reason that he was asking for his number so happy. I felt that guy (who has a girlfriend) his leg up on mine once when I sat by him (may have been a mistake). Idk, but I told the guy I like how I overheard they were going to play soccer and asked if I could join. He was very receptive and asked for my number and e-mail. Anyway, he's e-mailed at told me where to meet for soccer but I would feel more comfortable if I met him away from the other dude and went on like a date to the movies. I'd also enjoy that a lot more, but what to say in the e-mail?Ok, I've got the number/e-mail of a guy I like, but a couple of problems yet? Can you give me some advice?!
dude, go to the soccer thing! who cares if the other guy is there, try to step up, not obviously of course, and then ask him if he wants to get a drink afterwards you know? Ask him right after playing soccer, that way it seems spontaneous and less carefully planned...you don't want to be obvious!Ok, I've got the number/e-mail of a guy I like, but a couple of problems yet? Can you give me some advice?!
don't doubt yourself just do it! Think like a straight guy would, and just don't worry about it, if you don't over-analyze things at this point, you should be fine!
Thank him, and go to the soccer game. Make a good impression THEN email him asking to meet him for coffee/lunch/ movies whatever. First go to this soccer match and have fun. Then he's got to know you a little bit more.eye liner
dude, go to the soccer thing! who cares if the other guy is there, try to step up, not obviously of course, and then ask him if he wants to get a drink afterwards you know? Ask him right after playing soccer, that way it seems spontaneous and less carefully planned...you don't want to be obvious!Ok, I've got the number/e-mail of a guy I like, but a couple of problems yet? Can you give me some advice?!
don't doubt yourself just do it! Think like a straight guy would, and just don't worry about it, if you don't over-analyze things at this point, you should be fine!
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Thank him, and go to the soccer game. Make a good impression THEN email him asking to meet him for coffee/lunch/ movies whatever. First go to this soccer match and have fun. Then he's got to know you a little bit more.
Ok, so I'm dying my hair a couple of different colors, and I need some overall general advice. Can you help?
First, let me start off by telling you that I'll have medium to dark brown hair, with small small black highlights all throughout. Then I'll also have two red streaks, that are somewhat larger, one in the front on the left side, right behind my ear, and one on the right side, farther back, closer to the back of my head. In those streaks I'll have three small blonde highlights. I know that this may sound like it'll look bad, but trust me, It'll look exactly how I want it to, if I do it properly. My mom wants me to do it at home, but I think that would be pretty hard, and I don't want it to get messed up at all. Soo, I'd like to get it done professionally. My first question is, how much do you think it would cost for me to do what I just mentioned, and where? I'm looking for the cheapest thing here, it doesn't have to be perfect, and defiantly not a place that's hard to make appointments for because I'm looking to do this in the next two weeks. Also, I was wondering..blonde's wear brown eyeliner, brunettes, same, and I assume that people with black hair wear black eyeliner. With my hair being all of those colors, I figured that I'd work with the dominant color, but I wasn't sure what type of makeup exactly would work well. Say..el natural as to not over do everything? Anyway, any advice you have would be greatly appreciated!! Thanks in advance!Ok, so I'm dying my hair a couple of different colors, and I need some overall general advice. Can you help?
Well no matter where you go, it will probably be expensive since many places charge by amount of highlights and number of colors. So I'd recommend going to a good place anyways since you'll have to pay alot. I recommend Toni %26amp; Guy if you have one where you live.
And there is no rule as to what color makeup anyone should wear, except redheads can't wear blue. Just go a bit lighter if you wear alot of makeup so you don't look real goth, you know?
Just put a dark brown or black liquid winged liner on the top lid and no liner on the bottom, just your waterline (the inner part of your eye) and some cappucino brown in the crease and blend in a SMALL SMALL amount of black on the outer corner and tapering as it continues inward, and add a light-champagne gold on the brow bone.
Follow with a 2-step mascara, like Maybelline XXL Lash Extensions in Black.Ok, so I'm dying my hair a couple of different colors, and I need some overall general advice. Can you help?
Well you kind of have to say what city you live in so that ppl answering this no what area the hair stylest has to be located but if its orlando floriday then my aunt could! lol and it doens sound crazy or weird i wanted some weird hair to but unlike you my parents wont let me thsi is it
http://www.emobucket.com/albums/userpics/10007/e8.jpg
its like urs in a way i think lol but its short
Not sure about what salon, since I have no idea where you live, but I would definitely have it professionally done.
As for the eyeliner, typically you go by your eye color not your hair color to decide what colors to use.
Well no matter where you go, it will probably be expensive since many places charge by amount of highlights and number of colors. So I'd recommend going to a good place anyways since you'll have to pay alot. I recommend Toni %26amp; Guy if you have one where you live.
And there is no rule as to what color makeup anyone should wear, except redheads can't wear blue. Just go a bit lighter if you wear alot of makeup so you don't look real goth, you know?
Just put a dark brown or black liquid winged liner on the top lid and no liner on the bottom, just your waterline (the inner part of your eye) and some cappucino brown in the crease and blend in a SMALL SMALL amount of black on the outer corner and tapering as it continues inward, and add a light-champagne gold on the brow bone.
Follow with a 2-step mascara, like Maybelline XXL Lash Extensions in Black.Ok, so I'm dying my hair a couple of different colors, and I need some overall general advice. Can you help?
Well you kind of have to say what city you live in so that ppl answering this no what area the hair stylest has to be located but if its orlando floriday then my aunt could! lol and it doens sound crazy or weird i wanted some weird hair to but unlike you my parents wont let me thsi is it
http://www.emobucket.com/albums/userpics/10007/e8.jpg
its like urs in a way i think lol but its short
Not sure about what salon, since I have no idea where you live, but I would definitely have it professionally done.
As for the eyeliner, typically you go by your eye color not your hair color to decide what colors to use.
I live with my ex husband. we live as a couple but my heart belongs to my ex boy friend. i need your advice?
I have an affair while i was married. my husband didn't know about it. We got divorce and I move in with my boy friend. we are so inlove. while waiting for my divorce to be final. but i wasn't ready to settle so i moved out to my BF place. went back to my ex husband place; live as a couple. but we're divorce. then one day my boy friend called my ex husband and he told everything that his not supposed to say. i thought that i can trust him. by not telling everybody about me. so i broke up with him. i know i'm not perfect %26amp; i made mistake. but i was wrong to give all that trust. now my ex husband %26amp; my ex boy friend want me back...
my question is my ex bf still inlove with me %26amp; we still talk but he doesn't know that i live with my ex husband. what should i do? I'm still inlove with him but deep inside i am afraid. thank you for you time reading my problem...I live with my ex husband. we live as a couple but my heart belongs to my ex boy friend. i need your advice?
You need to leave them both alone and start working on you. Step out of the situation so you can get it together.I live with my ex husband. we live as a couple but my heart belongs to my ex boy friend. i need your advice?
you should think about this....What would make ME happy.... if you are happy with yourself then you will know who would keep that happiness flowing... if you are with someone that has cheated with you while he knew you where married....do you really think he wont do the same to you? This bf has got to go! you need to cut all ties and as hard as it will be(trust me ive been through this) you will never fully trust this bf, how could you? he did cheat with a married woman once! As for your husband... was this a one time deal with just this one other guy? was it just the sex or did you emotionally cheat on your husband? maby he isnt satisfying your needs physically and emotionally. dont look for someone who Makes you happy....go for someone that is happy with themselves and that will allow you to be yourhappy self.
You need therapy. You don't know why you ended your marriage and neither does your ex-hubby. That situation needs to be resolved. As for your ex-bf, how do you know he's Mr. Right and not Mr. Right-Now? Personally, you need to spend sometime away from both of them. Collect yourself or seek therapy.
honestly ur perdicument is way to messy..........if i were you i would quit both and start over with someone new. too many disappointments and hard feelings and lies involved in the other two relationships......
Sure you are afraid, how can you use so many people at a time in life. You should take your heart wherevfer it belongs and leave these guys alone. Maybe the fear is that one or both of them might object to your behavior, at the same time!
Well, my question to you.....is who do you want to be with? If you want the boyfriend, go on back to him. But you need to make a choice. You could also choose to leave them both alone and go find someone new/fresh. The choice is yours. Good luck.
You need to choose how your heart really belongs with. Think about who you can trust and love forever, who you are really going to be happy with, but i would make a choice now and not play eaither of them. and if you cant make a choice drop them both and move on.
my question is my ex bf still inlove with me %26amp; we still talk but he doesn't know that i live with my ex husband. what should i do? I'm still inlove with him but deep inside i am afraid. thank you for you time reading my problem...I live with my ex husband. we live as a couple but my heart belongs to my ex boy friend. i need your advice?
You need to leave them both alone and start working on you. Step out of the situation so you can get it together.I live with my ex husband. we live as a couple but my heart belongs to my ex boy friend. i need your advice?
you should think about this....What would make ME happy.... if you are happy with yourself then you will know who would keep that happiness flowing... if you are with someone that has cheated with you while he knew you where married....do you really think he wont do the same to you? This bf has got to go! you need to cut all ties and as hard as it will be(trust me ive been through this) you will never fully trust this bf, how could you? he did cheat with a married woman once! As for your husband... was this a one time deal with just this one other guy? was it just the sex or did you emotionally cheat on your husband? maby he isnt satisfying your needs physically and emotionally. dont look for someone who Makes you happy....go for someone that is happy with themselves and that will allow you to be yourhappy self.
You need therapy. You don't know why you ended your marriage and neither does your ex-hubby. That situation needs to be resolved. As for your ex-bf, how do you know he's Mr. Right and not Mr. Right-Now? Personally, you need to spend sometime away from both of them. Collect yourself or seek therapy.
honestly ur perdicument is way to messy..........if i were you i would quit both and start over with someone new. too many disappointments and hard feelings and lies involved in the other two relationships......
Sure you are afraid, how can you use so many people at a time in life. You should take your heart wherevfer it belongs and leave these guys alone. Maybe the fear is that one or both of them might object to your behavior, at the same time!
Well, my question to you.....is who do you want to be with? If you want the boyfriend, go on back to him. But you need to make a choice. You could also choose to leave them both alone and go find someone new/fresh. The choice is yours. Good luck.
You need to choose how your heart really belongs with. Think about who you can trust and love forever, who you are really going to be happy with, but i would make a choice now and not play eaither of them. and if you cant make a choice drop them both and move on.
Yeah! I just had my baby boy last week and now I have a couple concerns If I could plz get some good advice?
I know I shouldn't really be complaining about this but he is ALWAYS asleep. I am pumping so much just to keep up my supply. Is this normal? He has many wet and poopy diapers. He was 3 weeks early but I was 37 weeks exactly when my water broke last Wednesday. Another concern I have is when he sleeps I catch him opening his eyes half way and he'll start to roll his eyes constantly. He does this a lot, is this normal? Thxs.Yeah! I just had my baby boy last week and now I have a couple concerns If I could plz get some good advice?
you sound just like i did.... almost 4 months ago... :) i even had my son as early as you did but....
it is normal to be sleeping A LOT. the only thing you should start to try to adjust though is the daytime sleeping. naps are normal, and he should still be sleeping the majority of the day... but try to keep it loud and bright. keep him stimulated as much as possible. this will show him ';LIGHT and LOUD and FUN'; is daytime.. ';QUIET and DARK and NO PLAY'; is nightime... or sleep time. :)
and dylan did the SAME thing with the eyes.. some people would be holding him and he'd be lookin at them 'laughing' and theyd be like awww hes smiling at me!! and i was like umm no.. hes asleep and dreaming.. haha.
its normal for them to have their eyes open. the rolling is when they are in REM sleep (RAPID EYE MOVEMENT).. which is the deepest sleep. i asked a couple doctors about because i was afraid i had a freak baby :) or that he was having a medical issue *seizures, etc.) and they just smiled and said that its the nerves and the muscles, and that he'll grow out of it.. and by 2 years he'll be sleepin with his eyes shut.
hes 4 months now and he rarely has his eyes open!! so dont worry about that ...
circumcision.. keep the vaseline on the diaper by his penis, it'll help keep it from getting 'stuck' to the diaper, and it's a lot more comfortable for him. i would say that dylan's was healed by the time his cord fell off... thats when they say it should be healed. make sure, once it's not as irritated, to pull back the skin a gently wipe underneath. fuzz and other stuff can get trapped under there.
if its red, it's usually okay too. if you start to see a lot of greenish discharge or bleeding, contact his pediatrician. its better to be safe than sorry.. but all in all, have fun, good luck, and congratulations on your little angel boy! :) Yeah! I just had my baby boy last week and now I have a couple concerns If I could plz get some good advice?
It bring a smile to my face when I read your question, but then I remember myself, when my first child was born. You look for anything and everything. You just want them to be OK. :)
It's normal for a child that age to have his eyes half way open. I've heard even older kids do it. The baby will sleep and only wake up for feeding. He will stay up longer in a week, but not too long. Let him sleep, that's when they grow. If he's eating good and his diaper is filled as you described -- appropriately, then he's just fine.
they generally will sleep a lot early on. I know it's concerning I felt the same way but take it while you can get it. My son (now 3 1/2 mos old) won't sleep at all during the day and is just a little terror at times. Enjoy the time now. My son also did and still does the eyes half open rolling back thing. It's creepy. but apparently very normal too.
My sons circumsision took about a week to heal completely. Even now it is sometimes red looking but I'm told its totally normal. He was snipped when he was 4 wks.
Congrats on your new baby and good luck:)
Everything you're saying is totally normal! My little man was 3 weeks early also. The sleeping all the time won't last forever! Haha. And the rolling of the eyes and opening one eye is something that their nerves do since they're still so new and developing. My son is 7 weeks and he doesn't do it as much but still occasionally. The circumcision takes about 7-12 days to heal! Congrats on your little man!!!
Yes, it's normal if he opens his eyes while he's asleep. My fiance's nephew did the same when he was a baby and it creeped my fiance out :)
As for the pumping- if you nurse baby on demand, you don't need to pump all the time to keep up your supply. Don't stress so much about it. Is baby eating 8-10 times a day? If he's got enough wet diapers, I'm sure you're fine. Don't stress about pumping :) You might end up with an over-supply and that's a pain in the boob to fix.
Congrats!!
I almost laughed reading this. I felt the same way. Enjoy the quiet time while you have it. Soon he will be all over, and will not want to sleep ever. My son at 6 months I am lucky if he takes 2 30 min naps a day, but again he barely wakes up at night at all. As you have said there are enough wet diapers, and poop diapers, so no need to worry, soon he will be all over everything, and will be fighting to not sleep. :) Good luck with your little blessing.
P.S. Good job on being a good mommy, I know it is odd to be so worried all the time. :)
My son was born at 38 weeks. He slept so much! I was so worried I talked to my doctor about it. He told me ';enjoy it while you can.'; He was right I now have an incredibly active healthy 31/2 year old. I also have a one year old daughter that does the whole eye rolling thing. It kind of freaks me out too! However the doctor says it is normal (sometimes I just close her eyelids with my fingers and they stay that way.) It sounds like everything is normal to me. Don't let yourself get stressed it will hurt your milk supply. As for the circumcision as long as it 's not red or angry looking , sometimes they can take a long time to heal. Good luck!
The sleeping thing is totally fine, sounds just like my son was for the first month. Congrats on breastfeeding!! The circumcision, well I don't believe in it but I do know to watch out for any bright redness, puss, or swelling, that are signs of infection (that happened with my nephew). Good luck with your new baby!
yeah he is fine! my daughter slept constantly the peeking and eye rolling is just there way of seeing there surroundings don't worry! i was the same way. but now that my daughter is going on 8 months i wish she would sleep more. just keep pumping to keep up your supply if you have any questions call your doctor that's what they are there for no questions are stupid questions when it comes to a baby. as long as he has wet diapers he is good!
Yes, it's normal! Babies sleep...that's all there is to it! When I had my daughter she would sleep for probably 22 out of the 24 hours in a day! As your son gets older he will stay awake longer and not sleep as much! And as far as him opening his eyes and rolling them...that's normal too! All kids do it...heck, my husband still sleeps with his eyes half open sometimes! LOL! It's completely normal, but if you want to ask a doctor just to reassure yourself then that wouldn't hurt either! Hope I helped...
Premies and alot of newborns will sleep alot at first. Get your rest now while you can because this will not last along time.Do not be concerned about his opening of his eyes. As he gets older, alot of this will disappear. Enjoy him, he will not be small like this forever. Good luck.
your aloud to be concerned ..but with him rolling his eyes..we all do it..but the difference is nobody is watching us sleep..hhahaha. Its totally normal my daughter did it..hes just dreaming and YES its normal for him to always sleeping!! jus wait till hes 3 months old and starts to take 20min power naps...congrats on the new one!
very normal after you baby is out he is very tired because going through the birth process is alot of work on them and they are just very tired expect that for a few more weeks
Enjoy all the sleeping your baby is doing now...because it won't last,there will come a day you will wish for the sleeping baby, like teething time.
Its all normal ;)
Congrats!
babies will eat when they r hungry and the rolling of the eyes is normal
you sound just like i did.... almost 4 months ago... :) i even had my son as early as you did but....
it is normal to be sleeping A LOT. the only thing you should start to try to adjust though is the daytime sleeping. naps are normal, and he should still be sleeping the majority of the day... but try to keep it loud and bright. keep him stimulated as much as possible. this will show him ';LIGHT and LOUD and FUN'; is daytime.. ';QUIET and DARK and NO PLAY'; is nightime... or sleep time. :)
and dylan did the SAME thing with the eyes.. some people would be holding him and he'd be lookin at them 'laughing' and theyd be like awww hes smiling at me!! and i was like umm no.. hes asleep and dreaming.. haha.
its normal for them to have their eyes open. the rolling is when they are in REM sleep (RAPID EYE MOVEMENT).. which is the deepest sleep. i asked a couple doctors about because i was afraid i had a freak baby :) or that he was having a medical issue *seizures, etc.) and they just smiled and said that its the nerves and the muscles, and that he'll grow out of it.. and by 2 years he'll be sleepin with his eyes shut.
hes 4 months now and he rarely has his eyes open!! so dont worry about that ...
circumcision.. keep the vaseline on the diaper by his penis, it'll help keep it from getting 'stuck' to the diaper, and it's a lot more comfortable for him. i would say that dylan's was healed by the time his cord fell off... thats when they say it should be healed. make sure, once it's not as irritated, to pull back the skin a gently wipe underneath. fuzz and other stuff can get trapped under there.
if its red, it's usually okay too. if you start to see a lot of greenish discharge or bleeding, contact his pediatrician. its better to be safe than sorry.. but all in all, have fun, good luck, and congratulations on your little angel boy! :) Yeah! I just had my baby boy last week and now I have a couple concerns If I could plz get some good advice?
It bring a smile to my face when I read your question, but then I remember myself, when my first child was born. You look for anything and everything. You just want them to be OK. :)
It's normal for a child that age to have his eyes half way open. I've heard even older kids do it. The baby will sleep and only wake up for feeding. He will stay up longer in a week, but not too long. Let him sleep, that's when they grow. If he's eating good and his diaper is filled as you described -- appropriately, then he's just fine.
they generally will sleep a lot early on. I know it's concerning I felt the same way but take it while you can get it. My son (now 3 1/2 mos old) won't sleep at all during the day and is just a little terror at times. Enjoy the time now. My son also did and still does the eyes half open rolling back thing. It's creepy. but apparently very normal too.
My sons circumsision took about a week to heal completely. Even now it is sometimes red looking but I'm told its totally normal. He was snipped when he was 4 wks.
Congrats on your new baby and good luck:)
Everything you're saying is totally normal! My little man was 3 weeks early also. The sleeping all the time won't last forever! Haha. And the rolling of the eyes and opening one eye is something that their nerves do since they're still so new and developing. My son is 7 weeks and he doesn't do it as much but still occasionally. The circumcision takes about 7-12 days to heal! Congrats on your little man!!!
Yes, it's normal if he opens his eyes while he's asleep. My fiance's nephew did the same when he was a baby and it creeped my fiance out :)
As for the pumping- if you nurse baby on demand, you don't need to pump all the time to keep up your supply. Don't stress so much about it. Is baby eating 8-10 times a day? If he's got enough wet diapers, I'm sure you're fine. Don't stress about pumping :) You might end up with an over-supply and that's a pain in the boob to fix.
Congrats!!
I almost laughed reading this. I felt the same way. Enjoy the quiet time while you have it. Soon he will be all over, and will not want to sleep ever. My son at 6 months I am lucky if he takes 2 30 min naps a day, but again he barely wakes up at night at all. As you have said there are enough wet diapers, and poop diapers, so no need to worry, soon he will be all over everything, and will be fighting to not sleep. :) Good luck with your little blessing.
P.S. Good job on being a good mommy, I know it is odd to be so worried all the time. :)
My son was born at 38 weeks. He slept so much! I was so worried I talked to my doctor about it. He told me ';enjoy it while you can.'; He was right I now have an incredibly active healthy 31/2 year old. I also have a one year old daughter that does the whole eye rolling thing. It kind of freaks me out too! However the doctor says it is normal (sometimes I just close her eyelids with my fingers and they stay that way.) It sounds like everything is normal to me. Don't let yourself get stressed it will hurt your milk supply. As for the circumcision as long as it 's not red or angry looking , sometimes they can take a long time to heal. Good luck!
The sleeping thing is totally fine, sounds just like my son was for the first month. Congrats on breastfeeding!! The circumcision, well I don't believe in it but I do know to watch out for any bright redness, puss, or swelling, that are signs of infection (that happened with my nephew). Good luck with your new baby!
yeah he is fine! my daughter slept constantly the peeking and eye rolling is just there way of seeing there surroundings don't worry! i was the same way. but now that my daughter is going on 8 months i wish she would sleep more. just keep pumping to keep up your supply if you have any questions call your doctor that's what they are there for no questions are stupid questions when it comes to a baby. as long as he has wet diapers he is good!
Yes, it's normal! Babies sleep...that's all there is to it! When I had my daughter she would sleep for probably 22 out of the 24 hours in a day! As your son gets older he will stay awake longer and not sleep as much! And as far as him opening his eyes and rolling them...that's normal too! All kids do it...heck, my husband still sleeps with his eyes half open sometimes! LOL! It's completely normal, but if you want to ask a doctor just to reassure yourself then that wouldn't hurt either! Hope I helped...
Premies and alot of newborns will sleep alot at first. Get your rest now while you can because this will not last along time.Do not be concerned about his opening of his eyes. As he gets older, alot of this will disappear. Enjoy him, he will not be small like this forever. Good luck.
your aloud to be concerned ..but with him rolling his eyes..we all do it..but the difference is nobody is watching us sleep..hhahaha. Its totally normal my daughter did it..hes just dreaming and YES its normal for him to always sleeping!! jus wait till hes 3 months old and starts to take 20min power naps...congrats on the new one!
very normal after you baby is out he is very tired because going through the birth process is alot of work on them and they are just very tired expect that for a few more weeks
Enjoy all the sleeping your baby is doing now...because it won't last,there will come a day you will wish for the sleeping baby, like teething time.
Its all normal ;)
Congrats!
babies will eat when they r hungry and the rolling of the eyes is normal
Dating Advice..In a Tough Spot.Never officially said we are a couple either...HELP!!!?
Ok, so I have been seeing a guy since mid March. We spend ALOT of time together. He invites me to stay at his place for almost a week at a time. We have been intimate earlier in the dating, but not so much lately. I help him keep his home clean, he uses my car cause he dont have one, and I take him to work. I basically am TOO good to him I guess. We havent fought or anything.
When he introduces me to people, he calls me his ';girl';. Not girlfriend. I dont know what he means. But yesterday after I took him to work to come home, he kissed me and things seemed ok. I have been a little suspicious of him. No reason to be(except he keeps his cell with him ALL the time, like he is scared Im gonna see something).
I made a ';fake'; myspace page and added him. He wrote me, told ';her'; she was attractive and seemed interesting. Wanted to chat more. Even told her he was going to this bar in the town he lives in, and wondered if she had ever been there. ';She'; asked him if he was single, he said yes and sked if she was.
What am I supposed to make of this? I know what I did seems a little overboard,. Do you think I was almost asking for it by doing this? The girl in the pics was hot, and his type. And had same interests as him. I have not heard from him at all today which is strange.
Please just tell me..what do i do? I could use some help. Thanks guys!Dating Advice..In a Tough Spot.Never officially said we are a couple either...HELP!!!?
He's playing you. The best thing for you would be to move on and don't look back. No matter how great a guy he is, if he's so willing to ';un-attach'; himself to a stranger online then he isn't really in a relationship with you. Sorry.Dating Advice..In a Tough Spot.Never officially said we are a couple either...HELP!!!?
Try http://www.RelationshipFrontiers.com
When he introduces me to people, he calls me his ';girl';. Not girlfriend. I dont know what he means. But yesterday after I took him to work to come home, he kissed me and things seemed ok. I have been a little suspicious of him. No reason to be(except he keeps his cell with him ALL the time, like he is scared Im gonna see something).
I made a ';fake'; myspace page and added him. He wrote me, told ';her'; she was attractive and seemed interesting. Wanted to chat more. Even told her he was going to this bar in the town he lives in, and wondered if she had ever been there. ';She'; asked him if he was single, he said yes and sked if she was.
What am I supposed to make of this? I know what I did seems a little overboard,. Do you think I was almost asking for it by doing this? The girl in the pics was hot, and his type. And had same interests as him. I have not heard from him at all today which is strange.
Please just tell me..what do i do? I could use some help. Thanks guys!Dating Advice..In a Tough Spot.Never officially said we are a couple either...HELP!!!?
He's playing you. The best thing for you would be to move on and don't look back. No matter how great a guy he is, if he's so willing to ';un-attach'; himself to a stranger online then he isn't really in a relationship with you. Sorry.Dating Advice..In a Tough Spot.Never officially said we are a couple either...HELP!!!?
Try http://www.RelationshipFrontiers.com
What is your financial advice for a soon to be married 24 year old couple?
My fiance and I are getting married 10/31/2008. We rent an apartment. We have a car loan, a personal loan, and I have a credit card. We owe about $25,000 in debt because of the loans and credit card. The interest on each is over 25% APR. We don't have any children yet. We have about $40 in savings. We have a keep the change account. We have $1,000 in a checking account. Which we still need to pay some bills out of that money. We make about $2,700 a month. We've paid all our bills on time for the last year. We don't have a 401K, IRA, CD, mutual funds, or stock. We would like to retire around 65. Both our credit scores are under 620. What can we do to improve our financial situation?What is your financial advice for a soon to be married 24 year old couple?
Work hard and save for a rainy day..What is your financial advice for a soon to be married 24 year old couple?
Combined put no less then 10% of your income in a retirement fund. More if possible, no less. Put 5% in a college fund, I learned that too late and will be paying interest loans off for the kids for 10 year on my share and they on theirs.
Being as both these funds can be deducted as tax deffered it will not cost as much as the math shows at 15%. Learn to do with out that little now or a lot later.
you need to learn to stop useing credit cards pay off car and try to be cheap skates as much as possible you will be much happier later hold off on a house till you can afford to pay at least 6 months of house payments with your savings just incase your job ever goes south
Get rid of them loans as a first priority and until you do, make sure you use contraception.
the other poster are correct.
However, here is a major problem with any goals that you have for saving and paying off debt.
You only earn 32,000 a year (if your figure was after taxes) or less then 40k a year before taxes.
You must focus on ways to increase your income. At 24 y/o, you need to think about additional education. Either college or trade school. Spend the next several years going back to school at night.
Spend the next several years living as cheaply as possible. Have your husband and you make a game out of it. Love isn't something that you have to buy.
You need a nest egg. Congratulations on your wedding too.
Before you get married, open a 401k with each of your employers. Put in a minimum amount of 3% each pay period. This is in case (Sorry) sometime in the future, you guys part ways. You wouldn't be able to make a claim on the others retirement.
Before or after you get married, open an IRA. I think the minimum deposit is $1,000 with most banks.
A 401k isn't enough to secure your future. You should each open an IRA.
Keep paying your bills on time and keep the credit card expenses to emergencies.
I wouldn't advise buying a house anytime soon even thought the prices are low. As it is, you barely have enough to save. A house also comes with additional expenses.
Shopping wise, wait on the clearance sales. Grocery-wise, buy the store brands and not the popular name brands (Most of the store brands are made by the same makers anyway). If you're having to eat out at a restaurant, find out what their larger dishes are and share. Keep the going out to a minimum once a month. Forget the fancy coffee. Take your coffee money and put it in a jar somewhere in case you need extra cash.
Go pick up a book about saving for the long term.
You absolutely positively HAVE to pay off the loans and CC's with the 25 % APR. Find the cheapest rent, ditch the car for one that runs but you can afford right now (Like 1500 or less). Write down all of your absolute expenses for the month like rent, electric and food and cut every other thing that is not a life's necessity OUT until the debt is paid off and you have at least 6 months of living expense money stowed away. That means no eating out, going to movies, buying clothes or impulse items at the store. At the grocery you shop the sales for the week and menu plan around them. Learn to extend food, eat rice and beans and buy things that are getting ready to be tossed. Do not take out any more credit, sign for any more loans. If you can, go get a second job (both of you) until you get the debt paid.
I KNOW that may sound ridiculous, but it isn't. You cannot possibly save for family and home much less retirement with that debt hanging over you. You two will feel like a million bucks when it is paid and you are free.
also - pack the lunch, write down every last cent that you spend and you and your husband sit down every week and review it to see how you did, how to improve and to make sure you two are on the same page.
Financial hardships are a big reason why people split. it is stressful and rough on love (esp. new marriage when there are already new stresses). Sit down with your guy, give yourselves a pep talk, write down your expenses and plan on paying it off and start immediately.
Good luck and congrats
The biggest thing is how you live, your saving/spending habits. You will need to establish good money habits. Make a budget and live by it. Live on less than you make.
Debt usually plays against you when you are trying to build wealth so that is the first thing to go. Dump as much money as you can towards the debt. If you are really serious about building wealth get rid of you car and buy a car you can afford. Cars don't appreciate in value but depreciate so they are a terrible thing to buy if you are trying to build wealth. If you can't pay for it you can't afford it therefore don't buy it.
You should check out daveramsey.com
Work hard and save for a rainy day..What is your financial advice for a soon to be married 24 year old couple?
Combined put no less then 10% of your income in a retirement fund. More if possible, no less. Put 5% in a college fund, I learned that too late and will be paying interest loans off for the kids for 10 year on my share and they on theirs.
Being as both these funds can be deducted as tax deffered it will not cost as much as the math shows at 15%. Learn to do with out that little now or a lot later.
you need to learn to stop useing credit cards pay off car and try to be cheap skates as much as possible you will be much happier later hold off on a house till you can afford to pay at least 6 months of house payments with your savings just incase your job ever goes south
Get rid of them loans as a first priority and until you do, make sure you use contraception.
the other poster are correct.
However, here is a major problem with any goals that you have for saving and paying off debt.
You only earn 32,000 a year (if your figure was after taxes) or less then 40k a year before taxes.
You must focus on ways to increase your income. At 24 y/o, you need to think about additional education. Either college or trade school. Spend the next several years going back to school at night.
Spend the next several years living as cheaply as possible. Have your husband and you make a game out of it. Love isn't something that you have to buy.
You need a nest egg. Congratulations on your wedding too.
Before you get married, open a 401k with each of your employers. Put in a minimum amount of 3% each pay period. This is in case (Sorry) sometime in the future, you guys part ways. You wouldn't be able to make a claim on the others retirement.
Before or after you get married, open an IRA. I think the minimum deposit is $1,000 with most banks.
A 401k isn't enough to secure your future. You should each open an IRA.
Keep paying your bills on time and keep the credit card expenses to emergencies.
I wouldn't advise buying a house anytime soon even thought the prices are low. As it is, you barely have enough to save. A house also comes with additional expenses.
Shopping wise, wait on the clearance sales. Grocery-wise, buy the store brands and not the popular name brands (Most of the store brands are made by the same makers anyway). If you're having to eat out at a restaurant, find out what their larger dishes are and share. Keep the going out to a minimum once a month. Forget the fancy coffee. Take your coffee money and put it in a jar somewhere in case you need extra cash.
Go pick up a book about saving for the long term.
You absolutely positively HAVE to pay off the loans and CC's with the 25 % APR. Find the cheapest rent, ditch the car for one that runs but you can afford right now (Like 1500 or less). Write down all of your absolute expenses for the month like rent, electric and food and cut every other thing that is not a life's necessity OUT until the debt is paid off and you have at least 6 months of living expense money stowed away. That means no eating out, going to movies, buying clothes or impulse items at the store. At the grocery you shop the sales for the week and menu plan around them. Learn to extend food, eat rice and beans and buy things that are getting ready to be tossed. Do not take out any more credit, sign for any more loans. If you can, go get a second job (both of you) until you get the debt paid.
I KNOW that may sound ridiculous, but it isn't. You cannot possibly save for family and home much less retirement with that debt hanging over you. You two will feel like a million bucks when it is paid and you are free.
also - pack the lunch, write down every last cent that you spend and you and your husband sit down every week and review it to see how you did, how to improve and to make sure you two are on the same page.
Financial hardships are a big reason why people split. it is stressful and rough on love (esp. new marriage when there are already new stresses). Sit down with your guy, give yourselves a pep talk, write down your expenses and plan on paying it off and start immediately.
Good luck and congrats
The biggest thing is how you live, your saving/spending habits. You will need to establish good money habits. Make a budget and live by it. Live on less than you make.
Debt usually plays against you when you are trying to build wealth so that is the first thing to go. Dump as much money as you can towards the debt. If you are really serious about building wealth get rid of you car and buy a car you can afford. Cars don't appreciate in value but depreciate so they are a terrible thing to buy if you are trying to build wealth. If you can't pay for it you can't afford it therefore don't buy it.
You should check out daveramsey.com
In an arranged marriage, if the couple is having marital problems, who do they consult for advice?
How does a couple in an Indian arranged marriage solve their marital problems? Do they:
A: Talk to their prospective inlaws or parents about it?
B: Do they ignore it hoping that it will eventually go away?
C: Do they adjust to their differences just to keep the peace?
D: Do they EVER consult a therapist?
How do problems get solved in a joint family? Does everyone pitch in and give their two cents worth?
Let's hear YOUR two cents worth!In an arranged marriage, if the couple is having marital problems, who do they consult for advice?
If you go down the line of a fully arranged marriage. The couple live with the boys parents and the new wife becomes part of their family not her old family. Now depending on how arranged a marriage is as it does vary a lot in the western world. Will depend on what they do if they have problems.
Fully arranged old style they put up and shut up. the women does as she should and looks after her husband. The husbands pays all the bills. They have children and just live there lives the best they can without much love. Wife will still give husband sex otherwise he will go and get it somewhere else. wife would not do the same.
Arranged but more modern style they walk talk it through themselves as would not want to admit to having problems may talk to say a sister for help and advice.
Arranged love marriage - the couple wanted to get married, they would talk it through with both lots of parents if they can.
Other then that like all relationships you have to try and sort out your problems.In an arranged marriage, if the couple is having marital problems, who do they consult for advice?
i prefer close relatives and person who refer to each other, don't involve friends when making final decision, close relatives are more concerned about their social status and both the parties will be very cautious in any decision,s while friends can be very liberal and that's the way to end the relationship b'case friends does not has to care about social status, this is who believes status is important in their life. I TRIED TO GET SOME RELATIVES OF MY WIFE BUT SHE HAS RELATIVES WHEN IT'S TIME TO INVITE OR GIVE GIFTS BUT NOT WHEN WE NEED THEM TO RESOLVE MANY MAJOR PROBLEMS.
They need to consult the individuals who made the arrangements and tell them that they made a horrible decision. No, they need to get marriage counseling from a professional.
I would think that it's the same as a Western marriage. Discuss it amongst themselves, perhaps individually getting opinions from their parents, and then resorting to therapy if necessary.
C: Do they adjust to their differences just to keep the peace?
Its arranged everyone is just going tell you how stupid you were for doing that. So you just deal with it....
go to whom arranged the marriage.........
anywhere, where free choice don't exist, peace of mind is absent, that's my 2 cents worth, for what it's worth........thanks for asking
i think C is appropriate for me
Holy crap....this isn't india first of all.
Second.....PHEWEEI!
Soap! Right now!
google: relationship skills
and LEARN HOW to make a good one!
get the heck out of there, fast
at first...(first 6 moths)we consulted our parents...coz we lived in the same city...then when we moved ,we grew up..lol ..now we solve it ourselves !!!!
hmmm problem ... it gets solved out like any other problem..the arranged marraige couple r no diffrent from love ones... i think the options B and C fit in .. and they fight over issues .. they r no diffrent than couples who get together with love...
in india u can,t diffrentiate between a love marraige coupple and arrange marraige couple ... until they tell u
EDIT: i have added some more stuff to my answer to ur other question.. i guess u gave it low rating so can,t see it.. didn,t mean to hurt ya but i felt saying that to u reading ur answers..
i know but was talking about genaral society..eye liner
A: Talk to their prospective inlaws or parents about it?
B: Do they ignore it hoping that it will eventually go away?
C: Do they adjust to their differences just to keep the peace?
D: Do they EVER consult a therapist?
How do problems get solved in a joint family? Does everyone pitch in and give their two cents worth?
Let's hear YOUR two cents worth!In an arranged marriage, if the couple is having marital problems, who do they consult for advice?
If you go down the line of a fully arranged marriage. The couple live with the boys parents and the new wife becomes part of their family not her old family. Now depending on how arranged a marriage is as it does vary a lot in the western world. Will depend on what they do if they have problems.
Fully arranged old style they put up and shut up. the women does as she should and looks after her husband. The husbands pays all the bills. They have children and just live there lives the best they can without much love. Wife will still give husband sex otherwise he will go and get it somewhere else. wife would not do the same.
Arranged but more modern style they walk talk it through themselves as would not want to admit to having problems may talk to say a sister for help and advice.
Arranged love marriage - the couple wanted to get married, they would talk it through with both lots of parents if they can.
Other then that like all relationships you have to try and sort out your problems.In an arranged marriage, if the couple is having marital problems, who do they consult for advice?
i prefer close relatives and person who refer to each other, don't involve friends when making final decision, close relatives are more concerned about their social status and both the parties will be very cautious in any decision,s while friends can be very liberal and that's the way to end the relationship b'case friends does not has to care about social status, this is who believes status is important in their life. I TRIED TO GET SOME RELATIVES OF MY WIFE BUT SHE HAS RELATIVES WHEN IT'S TIME TO INVITE OR GIVE GIFTS BUT NOT WHEN WE NEED THEM TO RESOLVE MANY MAJOR PROBLEMS.
They need to consult the individuals who made the arrangements and tell them that they made a horrible decision. No, they need to get marriage counseling from a professional.
I would think that it's the same as a Western marriage. Discuss it amongst themselves, perhaps individually getting opinions from their parents, and then resorting to therapy if necessary.
C: Do they adjust to their differences just to keep the peace?
Its arranged everyone is just going tell you how stupid you were for doing that. So you just deal with it....
go to whom arranged the marriage.........
anywhere, where free choice don't exist, peace of mind is absent, that's my 2 cents worth, for what it's worth........thanks for asking
i think C is appropriate for me
Holy crap....this isn't india first of all.
Second.....PHEWEEI!
Soap! Right now!
google: relationship skills
and LEARN HOW to make a good one!
get the heck out of there, fast
at first...(first 6 moths)we consulted our parents...coz we lived in the same city...then when we moved ,we grew up..lol ..now we solve it ourselves !!!!
hmmm problem ... it gets solved out like any other problem..the arranged marraige couple r no diffrent from love ones... i think the options B and C fit in .. and they fight over issues .. they r no diffrent than couples who get together with love...
in india u can,t diffrentiate between a love marraige coupple and arrange marraige couple ... until they tell u
EDIT: i have added some more stuff to my answer to ur other question.. i guess u gave it low rating so can,t see it.. didn,t mean to hurt ya but i felt saying that to u reading ur answers..
i know but was talking about genaral society..
Advice on how a 13 year old girl can loose a couple pounds?
I'm almost 14 years old I'm 5'2 and i'm 120 pounds,
I've put on about 15 pounds since the beginingg of this year.
I'm still growing I understand that but .......
in Marchh I began pigging out, I believe I was eating because of stress and emotional reasons.
Now all of this is haunting me lol. Gaining so much weight sucks! My jeans are tighter and I'm not comfortable. I'd like to loose 10 pounds.
I know that loosing weight doesn't work like magic, even though I'd wish it did it's going to take a lot of my part.
I started getting back on track, not eating junkfoood but eating healthier.
So I've been jogging building up my stamana again.
That'll come in handy when I go back to school.
Doing crunches. But what does that really do?
How much weight is it possible to loose in a month?
I'd like to focus on ';love handles'; my hips and my tummy.
I've gotten that wierd fat on your ribs. I want my flat tummy again ):
Any advice? Or something like personal expierience,
I'd appreciate :) haha. please %26amp;%26amp; THANKS!Advice on how a 13 year old girl can loose a couple pounds?
ATKINS DIET!
lost 35 pounds in 2 weeks by restricting carbs yeah for me!!!!
i am 15Advice on how a 13 year old girl can loose a couple pounds?
your still growing...try to make healthy food choices most of the time, stay active and have FUN!!! Drink lots of water and if you feel like you want to eat try making healthy versions of junk foods that you would eat. For instance if you want Pizza, get a pita bread or an english muffin with pizza sauce and low fat mozerella cheese. They you won't need to worry at all!
try eating healthy like wheat foods, and feggies, and always eat breakfast, but when ever you eat a meal try and only eat half of whatever you would normally eat, cut out the sugars and fatty foods...good luck and keep exercising that will definitely help
I've put on about 15 pounds since the beginingg of this year.
I'm still growing I understand that but .......
in Marchh I began pigging out, I believe I was eating because of stress and emotional reasons.
Now all of this is haunting me lol. Gaining so much weight sucks! My jeans are tighter and I'm not comfortable. I'd like to loose 10 pounds.
I know that loosing weight doesn't work like magic, even though I'd wish it did it's going to take a lot of my part.
I started getting back on track, not eating junkfoood but eating healthier.
So I've been jogging building up my stamana again.
That'll come in handy when I go back to school.
Doing crunches. But what does that really do?
How much weight is it possible to loose in a month?
I'd like to focus on ';love handles'; my hips and my tummy.
I've gotten that wierd fat on your ribs. I want my flat tummy again ):
Any advice? Or something like personal expierience,
I'd appreciate :) haha. please %26amp;%26amp; THANKS!Advice on how a 13 year old girl can loose a couple pounds?
ATKINS DIET!
lost 35 pounds in 2 weeks by restricting carbs yeah for me!!!!
i am 15Advice on how a 13 year old girl can loose a couple pounds?
your still growing...try to make healthy food choices most of the time, stay active and have FUN!!! Drink lots of water and if you feel like you want to eat try making healthy versions of junk foods that you would eat. For instance if you want Pizza, get a pita bread or an english muffin with pizza sauce and low fat mozerella cheese. They you won't need to worry at all!
try eating healthy like wheat foods, and feggies, and always eat breakfast, but when ever you eat a meal try and only eat half of whatever you would normally eat, cut out the sugars and fatty foods...good luck and keep exercising that will definitely help
Help! Advice, comments appreciated? Plz read on...This guy I know, I asked him around with a couple of others?
(purely as friends), I didn't know him that well but he seemed pretty normal so when he came over with my other friend it turned out my brother and his mate were there too. We wanted this guy to leave because he started to say really stupid and uncomfortable things so we asked him to leave. He wouldnt go but eventually we got him out of the door but he just tried to pick the lock and get back in. I told him to go and find some friends that like him and he kept trying to get in by attempting to pick the lock. He went around to the side door and got in and asked questions about giving him a second chance.
He started to cry and he eventually left and hen my brother went off at me for inviting him over. I thought he was reasonably normal but it turns out he has aspergers and bipolar. I feel really bad and im scared that people like my brothers friends are going to be mean to me about it and stuff. I feel like an idiot. What should I do?Help! Advice, comments appreciated? Plz read on...This guy I know, I asked him around with a couple of others?
Don't feel bad, it happens. Do make sure what kind of people you bring into your circle. especially when your brother is involved. As for what other people say you cant help it. Just know the people you show your home to.
He started to cry and he eventually left and hen my brother went off at me for inviting him over. I thought he was reasonably normal but it turns out he has aspergers and bipolar. I feel really bad and im scared that people like my brothers friends are going to be mean to me about it and stuff. I feel like an idiot. What should I do?Help! Advice, comments appreciated? Plz read on...This guy I know, I asked him around with a couple of others?
Don't feel bad, it happens. Do make sure what kind of people you bring into your circle. especially when your brother is involved. As for what other people say you cant help it. Just know the people you show your home to.
I need some advice about TTC #1, my husband & i have been talking about/trying for a couple months now but..?
we live 1500 miles apart, both in the military. he finally came home for 2 weeks. my last period was 28 june, i have a 30-33 day cycle. i averaged that my ovulation days are around the 11-13 or so.. we had sex on the night of the 11th and he had to leave the next day. i know it can last for a few days so i was wondering what the odds were of actually becoming pregnant,I know it is too early for any symptoms, but i have had a dull cramp like i do before i start my period for the past few days, sometimes it is like a sharp pain on my right side that only lasts for a few minutes, i was wondering if that could be ovulation or what? I plan on waiting to see if i miss my period or even longer to take a hpt since i have gotten my hopes up 2 times before..maybe this time it will happen.. not to mention we only see each other once every month to 2 months so i really hope it happens this time! any advice would be great! Thank You! good luck to everyone trying!I need some advice about TTC #1, my husband %26amp; i have been talking about/trying for a couple months now but..?
The pain indeed could be ovulation pain. It's best to have sex more than just one time. Sperm can survive for up to three days.Sex every other day is recommended to conceive. You do have a chance since you had sex around the time you think you ovulated. Try and wait until you miss AF before you take a HPT. Good luck and tons of baby dust for you!
The pain indeed could be ovulation pain. It's best to have sex more than just one time. Sperm can survive for up to three days.Sex every other day is recommended to conceive. You do have a chance since you had sex around the time you think you ovulated. Try and wait until you miss AF before you take a HPT. Good luck and tons of baby dust for you!
I waited at a stop light for a couple minutes, decided to slowly drive across. cop stops me. need legal advice
Ok. heres my story/question. a month ago i was pulled over for a red light. i told the cop that i waited for a couple minutes or so. i was drinking that night and blew a .079 but i passed all the field tests with flying colors. I need information on anything that could ease the pain of the ticket or any legal terms i could throw at the judge. or a website where i can research cases would be awesome. my case is on the 29th commin up.
Oh.. the cop also put ';Mild Traffic.'; There were no cars but him. And they searched my trunk after i was picked up by a relative.I waited at a stop light for a couple minutes, decided to slowly drive across. cop stops me. need legal advice
Get a lawyer who specializes in DUI -- it's not worth it to wing it.I waited at a stop light for a couple minutes, decided to slowly drive across. cop stops me. need legal advice
Count your lucky stars and chill. Don't be a horses backside and get cocky. You got a minor infraction, deal with it.
you were at fault for a moving violation
A red light means stop, until you receive the green light, then you may move off after checking to make sure that is is safe-to-do-so. Waiting for a couple minutes is inconsequential, you compromised a red light. In Western Australia you would have been arrested for Driving Under Influence, as the maximum reading you register is 0.5.
It doesn't matter what course of action you hope to tell the judge, the fact is and you have readily admitted it, is that you contravened a red light, and you were also under the influence of alcohol.
Plead Guilty, and then give your account of events, as in any case you can consider yourself disqualified from driving and your MDL (Motor Drivers Licence) Suspended for the required period.
The level of traffic at the time is irrelevant, again it comes back to fact that you contravened a red traffic light.
Oh.. the cop also put ';Mild Traffic.'; There were no cars but him. And they searched my trunk after i was picked up by a relative.I waited at a stop light for a couple minutes, decided to slowly drive across. cop stops me. need legal advice
Get a lawyer who specializes in DUI -- it's not worth it to wing it.I waited at a stop light for a couple minutes, decided to slowly drive across. cop stops me. need legal advice
Count your lucky stars and chill. Don't be a horses backside and get cocky. You got a minor infraction, deal with it.
you were at fault for a moving violation
A red light means stop, until you receive the green light, then you may move off after checking to make sure that is is safe-to-do-so. Waiting for a couple minutes is inconsequential, you compromised a red light. In Western Australia you would have been arrested for Driving Under Influence, as the maximum reading you register is 0.5.
It doesn't matter what course of action you hope to tell the judge, the fact is and you have readily admitted it, is that you contravened a red light, and you were also under the influence of alcohol.
Plead Guilty, and then give your account of events, as in any case you can consider yourself disqualified from driving and your MDL (Motor Drivers Licence) Suspended for the required period.
The level of traffic at the time is irrelevant, again it comes back to fact that you contravened a red traffic light.
I really need some advice! I am newly married & have been cheating with my neighbor for a couple months now.?
Before you judge, my marriage has been rocky since before we got married %26amp; serioulsy thought about calling it off. My husband has suffered with addiction problems %26amp; it keeps us on a rollercoaster ride. Because of this our relationship has suffered. We moved to a new town and it got worse. This is when I met my neighbor. We had an instant attraction to each other %26amp; had become only good friends but we both knew there was more there. He has a live in girlfriend %26amp; they have been together for 4yrs, but they don't have sex. Every time the 4 of us were together we would gravitate towards each other, but kept our boundaries, until recently. We both let the cat out of the bag.I have never cheated EVER on anyone, but can't resist with him. I think we are both comfortable in our relationships and scared to see if it's the real thing. But I have NEVER felt this way about anyone before %26amp; he says the same %26amp; has said he loves me. Is it possible it is only chemisty or lust. Or could it really be love?I really need some advice! I am newly married %26amp; have been cheating with my neighbor for a couple months now.?
let me give this some thought, and i will respond in about 1 hour
edit: Ashley, the concept that you have heard that love is blind is very true, one hopes that the other will change for the better but that is not the case. The greater always blesses the lessor, and evil company corrupts good character, it is an equally true, though opposing view.
you are blessing your addicted husband by helping him to exist in his addiction. whether you conceded that or not.
he is corrupting your character by not meeting your needs or creating an environment in which you are looking outside the bounds of your marriage for fullfillment.
either way, you are in a desperate state of being.
this is my opinion, and only my opinion. i do not believe you are in a marriage at all. it is my opinion that rather you are playing.
you need to get out of both of these relationships, what you are calling marriage which is not, and out of this ';attraction'; relationship as well. both of these are destructive for you in the long run.
i would encourage you to get some counselling and help you to find out what attracted you to this addicted type in the first place. I believe that whatever it is, is also in the second man though you may not yet see it. either way, it is moth to the flame and you will suffer loss if you continue in this path.
some here are saying end one before you open another door, but i'm telling you, to end both and find out why you are acting this way, what need you have and strengthen yourself so that you don't go through this over and over again.
2nd dude, the one with the live in girl friend, what is that all about. is he to leave her high and dry when the two of you hit it off, or do you move in with them?
someone living with an ex, sounds a bit creepy to me, though i do understand the financial aspect of living with someone to help defer costs...
ashley, you need to do some very heavy soul searching. email me if you want. i'm not judging you, and i will not. but you have asked for help, and i will give as much as you want to acceptI really need some advice! I am newly married %26amp; have been cheating with my neighbor for a couple months now.?
Good grief woman! If you don't want to be judged then you are in the wrong place! Why on earth would you get married if you were not sure to begin with? What are you a martyr? I hope to God that you don't have children. Just get a divorce and stop being a coward. Anyone who cheats is. Sounds like you both deserve each other because your neighbor is also cheating! I doubt it is love. You both need to decide what you want to do. If he is cheating now, what makes you think it will stop with you? If you end up together you will definitely have major trust issues! Oh well you made it now lay in it! You need to make sure your husband goes to rehab and gets the help he needs! After all YOU married him for better or for worse and you knew what you were getting into!!!!! Oh and it doesn't matter that you NEVER EVER cheated before. You did it and that is a fact! It is like saying, ';Sorry judge I have NEVER EVER stolen anything before!'; Give me a break! Grow up!!!!!
Not judging you but what respecting man would step in the middle of another person's marriage and have relations with that mans wife then sit at his table to eat and pretend nothings happened? If he's willing to cheat with you then he's willing to cheat on you which BTW he's cheating on both of you which each other no way could it be love because real love doesn't hurt the person it claims to have those feelings for. Neither does he respect himself, his live in lover, your husband or you.
Sounds familair....This happened to me but the details were a bit different as in we were both married. If you ask me..you will not be able to quit the relationship with your neighbor. It just wont. And if your unhappy with your husband...then your gonna have to end it. He's gonna find out about the two of you. And if you can end it with your husband with him not finding out would be ideal...but I can't help but think hes gonna find out. Now for your neighbor...hes gonna have to deal with his live in. Believe me when they find out..its gonna be hell. But if you two (Your neighbor) really love eachother...you WILL make it thru the transition. Its gonna get hairy but it will end. I hope there are no kids involved...that always makes things harder.......Good Luck. Follow your heart.
Have you ever thought that maybe you are just thinking this way about your neighbor because you wish your relationship with your husband was like that and you just want it so bad that you don't care who it's with? Think about it, do you really have chemistry with him or do you just want you r husband to care about you like that but you feel neglected because he's going through a rough time and doesn't have the mental strenght to do that right now? Just think before you do anything rational, think long and hard about your husband, your aspirations for your marriage, what would happen if you did decide to end it and went along with it, what would happen to your husband if you care about him, think about every little thing and every little scenario that could happen. Just promise me that you will spend time thinking about it all, try getting away from your neighbor for a few days and see how it goes, try talking to your husband, and see how that goes. Trust me, the situation with your husband will get better...just give it time and love and everything you see in your neighbor will finally come out through your husband.
I hope you make the right decision.
good luck
Why did you get married then if you knew you couldn't work it out?
You know the answer. Nobody will encourage you or cheating whatever the reason you may have. Instead of cheating, marry him. Ask him once and you will come to know the fact of life which you already know in your heart.
with your relationship being rocky before marriage, why did you marry? especially with all his problems. i understand where your coming from. if someone has addictions and you dont believe me it's never going to last anyway. as far as this neighbor only time will tell. do whatever makes you happy. don't live life miserable. it's not worth it and life is too short to be miserable.
You are playing with peoples emotions and that is wrong! Period! You should have separated or divorced before getting involved with someone else.
I think the biggest possibility of them all is the possibility that you married for all the wrong reasons. If you thought you should have called it off, then you should have. Do everyone a favor and get a divorce, whether or not you have chemistry with the guy you are cheating with.
Fix what is broken in your marriage or end it. He should do the same. If both your marriages are finished they you may explore a life with each other.
It's your own integrity you are stripping.
If we are not suppose to judge and your relationship was rocky before you got married why the H*** did you get married...I do not feel sorry and people like you are making me puke...whatever happens to you you deserve it...there are options you did choose the wrong one...f****** get divorce and stop feeling sorry for yourself,...you are not the victim here !!!
Only one way to find out....
he's getting some on the side.....sure, they don't have sex, she probably doesn't understand him either. the oldest trick in the book.
women like you frighten the h3LL outta me, the way you can rationalize anything and make it seem like its ok, in YOUR head.
sad sad way to live...sneaking off next door for a little diddle session before you come home to make supper. sickening.
it could be love but you shouldn't be cheating on him if you were having problems before the wedding you should of sat down with each other and talked about weather or not it was the right thing to do because it seems now that it wasn't right for you guys to get married
you don't want to be judged, yet put yourself out there to be. brilliant, any wonder he chose you. YOU are the one who got married to a drug abuser, it's nobody's fault but your own.
Why'd you get married? Seriously, all these problems probably existed prior to getting hitched, you should get unhitched since neither of you are committed or even know what you really want.
It could be real but you have to break it off with the others to find out. It's a gamble, but if this is what you want then go for it. You live once, live to the fullest and don't let anyone hold you back.
Why the hell did you get married in the 1st place? Marriage is a serious thing. If you are so much in love, get a divorce and get with this one. It think it is just lust, infatuation.
You need to close one door before going into another. So end your relationship with your husband because you are not being fair to yourself or him. Once you have ended that, move on and see if it works with the other guy. You should have never gotten married if it was rocky to begin with so either way you need to end or fix your marriage and move on if that is what you want to do. Life is too short to spend it with someone you are not happy with.
NEWLY married? and already cheating? husband is an addict?
Get out now... before you bring kids into it.
But leave for YOU - not because you think that he will leave her to be with you.
sounds like you screwed up and your looking for someone to give you the ';O.K.';, but really its not ok you need to put the past behind and work on your future or you need to come clean and see what your husband wants to do about it. whatever the outcome your neighbor wont want you when its all said and done. He'll have moved on to the next one in line.
You married someone that you do not love. Therefore, you set yourself up for trouble. The best thing that you can do is to divorce your husband and then decide whether you want to date this guy.
You cannot determine if you are ';in love'; while married to someone else.
Take care,
Troy
i get you think you love this neighbor whatever! time will mature you and you will realize you got married way too soon and never should have but thats no reason to cheat. Just tell your husband you dont' deserve him cuz youdont' and let him go be with someone who can be faithful and true to him
first of all, there is NEVER a reason for cheating. if you are really that unhappy you shouldn't have married him in the first place or you shoudl leave now. no, i don't think it's love. it's a case of ';the grass is grenner...';.
i never understand why ppl use the excuse i am not happy!!! if your not happy end it before being with someone else its a cowards way out
Honestly, it could be both - love or lust but from what you are telling me it looks like you 2 are both in need of what you are not getting from your partners- so this is probably not love or lust, but just trying to fill a void, an emptyness. Maybe you and your husband should not have gotten married if and while things were rocky because as you can see, those same problems will arise until fixed. I don't condone cheating on your husband because that just makes you the bad one. Try to fix it with him and then if that doesn't work you might want to leave.
As for this ';friend';, the longer you have relations with him the more serious your attachment will become and since you are both involved with other people, one of you is bound to be hurt. YOU CANNOT FIX SOMETHING WITHIN YOUR RELATIONSHIP BY GOING OUTSIDE OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP. Remember that. You need to decide which is more important to you. Good luck.
I AM going to judge...YOU are a loser. WHY get married if you had such problems before marriage? Did you think getting married would make it better? You wouldn't know what true love was if it was spat in your face. You are cheating and asking us could it be true love. Ask your hubby is it true love, ask the loser your cheating with girlfriend is it true love. Deal with your marriage, get a divorce or whatever the hell your going to do but dont be in loser mode and ask to not be judged.
';Before you judge';.
Too late. Buncha ridgerunners.
It's hard to say what it could be but you do know what is is at this point it is an affair! It's too late to just walk away b/c now you are married, it's too late not to start something you shouldn't have b/c it's already began. So now you have the here and now to work with and it this fellow is serious about you then he won't have a problem with walking away and if you are serious about him you as well won't have a problem getting a divorce, normally I would side aginst that but your situation is different and by the sounds of it you have already moved on... The best thing you can do now is talk to your other and ask him if he's serious, second best thing come clean to your spouce b/c you are living a lie and it's not fair to your husband either way no matter what your other says you souldn't drag along your husband b/c obviously it's over in your heart so let him move on as well it's only the right thing to do, as far as the other guy goes with his 4 year relationship obviously him not having sex with her is a lie, on occasions they do and you'd be crazy to think any thing different but the difference there is that he is not commiting adultry b/c they are not married but yet still all and all she is be cheated out of finding her own true happiness.... Therefor you have a choice live a lie and wait to be caught or back out and do the right thing and be honest you have to keep in mind that sometimes karma can be cruel so how cruel do you want yours to be? If it's love you and your lover will be together somehow someway in an honest manner if it isn't he isn't going to want to leave his g/f and you'll be broken hearted and even more confused then what you already are......
let me give this some thought, and i will respond in about 1 hour
edit: Ashley, the concept that you have heard that love is blind is very true, one hopes that the other will change for the better but that is not the case. The greater always blesses the lessor, and evil company corrupts good character, it is an equally true, though opposing view.
you are blessing your addicted husband by helping him to exist in his addiction. whether you conceded that or not.
he is corrupting your character by not meeting your needs or creating an environment in which you are looking outside the bounds of your marriage for fullfillment.
either way, you are in a desperate state of being.
this is my opinion, and only my opinion. i do not believe you are in a marriage at all. it is my opinion that rather you are playing.
you need to get out of both of these relationships, what you are calling marriage which is not, and out of this ';attraction'; relationship as well. both of these are destructive for you in the long run.
i would encourage you to get some counselling and help you to find out what attracted you to this addicted type in the first place. I believe that whatever it is, is also in the second man though you may not yet see it. either way, it is moth to the flame and you will suffer loss if you continue in this path.
some here are saying end one before you open another door, but i'm telling you, to end both and find out why you are acting this way, what need you have and strengthen yourself so that you don't go through this over and over again.
2nd dude, the one with the live in girl friend, what is that all about. is he to leave her high and dry when the two of you hit it off, or do you move in with them?
someone living with an ex, sounds a bit creepy to me, though i do understand the financial aspect of living with someone to help defer costs...
ashley, you need to do some very heavy soul searching. email me if you want. i'm not judging you, and i will not. but you have asked for help, and i will give as much as you want to acceptI really need some advice! I am newly married %26amp; have been cheating with my neighbor for a couple months now.?
Good grief woman! If you don't want to be judged then you are in the wrong place! Why on earth would you get married if you were not sure to begin with? What are you a martyr? I hope to God that you don't have children. Just get a divorce and stop being a coward. Anyone who cheats is. Sounds like you both deserve each other because your neighbor is also cheating! I doubt it is love. You both need to decide what you want to do. If he is cheating now, what makes you think it will stop with you? If you end up together you will definitely have major trust issues! Oh well you made it now lay in it! You need to make sure your husband goes to rehab and gets the help he needs! After all YOU married him for better or for worse and you knew what you were getting into!!!!! Oh and it doesn't matter that you NEVER EVER cheated before. You did it and that is a fact! It is like saying, ';Sorry judge I have NEVER EVER stolen anything before!'; Give me a break! Grow up!!!!!
Not judging you but what respecting man would step in the middle of another person's marriage and have relations with that mans wife then sit at his table to eat and pretend nothings happened? If he's willing to cheat with you then he's willing to cheat on you which BTW he's cheating on both of you which each other no way could it be love because real love doesn't hurt the person it claims to have those feelings for. Neither does he respect himself, his live in lover, your husband or you.
Sounds familair....This happened to me but the details were a bit different as in we were both married. If you ask me..you will not be able to quit the relationship with your neighbor. It just wont. And if your unhappy with your husband...then your gonna have to end it. He's gonna find out about the two of you. And if you can end it with your husband with him not finding out would be ideal...but I can't help but think hes gonna find out. Now for your neighbor...hes gonna have to deal with his live in. Believe me when they find out..its gonna be hell. But if you two (Your neighbor) really love eachother...you WILL make it thru the transition. Its gonna get hairy but it will end. I hope there are no kids involved...that always makes things harder.......Good Luck. Follow your heart.
Have you ever thought that maybe you are just thinking this way about your neighbor because you wish your relationship with your husband was like that and you just want it so bad that you don't care who it's with? Think about it, do you really have chemistry with him or do you just want you r husband to care about you like that but you feel neglected because he's going through a rough time and doesn't have the mental strenght to do that right now? Just think before you do anything rational, think long and hard about your husband, your aspirations for your marriage, what would happen if you did decide to end it and went along with it, what would happen to your husband if you care about him, think about every little thing and every little scenario that could happen. Just promise me that you will spend time thinking about it all, try getting away from your neighbor for a few days and see how it goes, try talking to your husband, and see how that goes. Trust me, the situation with your husband will get better...just give it time and love and everything you see in your neighbor will finally come out through your husband.
I hope you make the right decision.
good luck
Why did you get married then if you knew you couldn't work it out?
You know the answer. Nobody will encourage you or cheating whatever the reason you may have. Instead of cheating, marry him. Ask him once and you will come to know the fact of life which you already know in your heart.
with your relationship being rocky before marriage, why did you marry? especially with all his problems. i understand where your coming from. if someone has addictions and you dont believe me it's never going to last anyway. as far as this neighbor only time will tell. do whatever makes you happy. don't live life miserable. it's not worth it and life is too short to be miserable.
You are playing with peoples emotions and that is wrong! Period! You should have separated or divorced before getting involved with someone else.
I think the biggest possibility of them all is the possibility that you married for all the wrong reasons. If you thought you should have called it off, then you should have. Do everyone a favor and get a divorce, whether or not you have chemistry with the guy you are cheating with.
Fix what is broken in your marriage or end it. He should do the same. If both your marriages are finished they you may explore a life with each other.
It's your own integrity you are stripping.
If we are not suppose to judge and your relationship was rocky before you got married why the H*** did you get married...I do not feel sorry and people like you are making me puke...whatever happens to you you deserve it...there are options you did choose the wrong one...f****** get divorce and stop feeling sorry for yourself,...you are not the victim here !!!
Only one way to find out....
he's getting some on the side.....sure, they don't have sex, she probably doesn't understand him either. the oldest trick in the book.
women like you frighten the h3LL outta me, the way you can rationalize anything and make it seem like its ok, in YOUR head.
sad sad way to live...sneaking off next door for a little diddle session before you come home to make supper. sickening.
it could be love but you shouldn't be cheating on him if you were having problems before the wedding you should of sat down with each other and talked about weather or not it was the right thing to do because it seems now that it wasn't right for you guys to get married
you don't want to be judged, yet put yourself out there to be. brilliant, any wonder he chose you. YOU are the one who got married to a drug abuser, it's nobody's fault but your own.
Why'd you get married? Seriously, all these problems probably existed prior to getting hitched, you should get unhitched since neither of you are committed or even know what you really want.
It could be real but you have to break it off with the others to find out. It's a gamble, but if this is what you want then go for it. You live once, live to the fullest and don't let anyone hold you back.
Why the hell did you get married in the 1st place? Marriage is a serious thing. If you are so much in love, get a divorce and get with this one. It think it is just lust, infatuation.
You need to close one door before going into another. So end your relationship with your husband because you are not being fair to yourself or him. Once you have ended that, move on and see if it works with the other guy. You should have never gotten married if it was rocky to begin with so either way you need to end or fix your marriage and move on if that is what you want to do. Life is too short to spend it with someone you are not happy with.
NEWLY married? and already cheating? husband is an addict?
Get out now... before you bring kids into it.
But leave for YOU - not because you think that he will leave her to be with you.
sounds like you screwed up and your looking for someone to give you the ';O.K.';, but really its not ok you need to put the past behind and work on your future or you need to come clean and see what your husband wants to do about it. whatever the outcome your neighbor wont want you when its all said and done. He'll have moved on to the next one in line.
You married someone that you do not love. Therefore, you set yourself up for trouble. The best thing that you can do is to divorce your husband and then decide whether you want to date this guy.
You cannot determine if you are ';in love'; while married to someone else.
Take care,
Troy
i get you think you love this neighbor whatever! time will mature you and you will realize you got married way too soon and never should have but thats no reason to cheat. Just tell your husband you dont' deserve him cuz youdont' and let him go be with someone who can be faithful and true to him
first of all, there is NEVER a reason for cheating. if you are really that unhappy you shouldn't have married him in the first place or you shoudl leave now. no, i don't think it's love. it's a case of ';the grass is grenner...';.
i never understand why ppl use the excuse i am not happy!!! if your not happy end it before being with someone else its a cowards way out
Honestly, it could be both - love or lust but from what you are telling me it looks like you 2 are both in need of what you are not getting from your partners- so this is probably not love or lust, but just trying to fill a void, an emptyness. Maybe you and your husband should not have gotten married if and while things were rocky because as you can see, those same problems will arise until fixed. I don't condone cheating on your husband because that just makes you the bad one. Try to fix it with him and then if that doesn't work you might want to leave.
As for this ';friend';, the longer you have relations with him the more serious your attachment will become and since you are both involved with other people, one of you is bound to be hurt. YOU CANNOT FIX SOMETHING WITHIN YOUR RELATIONSHIP BY GOING OUTSIDE OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP. Remember that. You need to decide which is more important to you. Good luck.
I AM going to judge...YOU are a loser. WHY get married if you had such problems before marriage? Did you think getting married would make it better? You wouldn't know what true love was if it was spat in your face. You are cheating and asking us could it be true love. Ask your hubby is it true love, ask the loser your cheating with girlfriend is it true love. Deal with your marriage, get a divorce or whatever the hell your going to do but dont be in loser mode and ask to not be judged.
';Before you judge';.
Too late. Buncha ridgerunners.
It's hard to say what it could be but you do know what is is at this point it is an affair! It's too late to just walk away b/c now you are married, it's too late not to start something you shouldn't have b/c it's already began. So now you have the here and now to work with and it this fellow is serious about you then he won't have a problem with walking away and if you are serious about him you as well won't have a problem getting a divorce, normally I would side aginst that but your situation is different and by the sounds of it you have already moved on... The best thing you can do now is talk to your other and ask him if he's serious, second best thing come clean to your spouce b/c you are living a lie and it's not fair to your husband either way no matter what your other says you souldn't drag along your husband b/c obviously it's over in your heart so let him move on as well it's only the right thing to do, as far as the other guy goes with his 4 year relationship obviously him not having sex with her is a lie, on occasions they do and you'd be crazy to think any thing different but the difference there is that he is not commiting adultry b/c they are not married but yet still all and all she is be cheated out of finding her own true happiness.... Therefor you have a choice live a lie and wait to be caught or back out and do the right thing and be honest you have to keep in mind that sometimes karma can be cruel so how cruel do you want yours to be? If it's love you and your lover will be together somehow someway in an honest manner if it isn't he isn't going to want to leave his g/f and you'll be broken hearted and even more confused then what you already are......
I think i want to have a baby in a couple of years... but i'm scared.. do you have any advice?
my IUD expires October '10. my husband, myself, and many family members think that i may have a difficult time getting pregnant b/c of my past period woes (i've gone up to a year and a half without a period, for no reason what-so-ever, my GYN coudn't even figure out why it went AWOL). now i'm in the same situation, even though i have my IUD this is still all too familiar territory for me, and does not help ease my fertility concerns. i have been mulling over the decision in my head to not get my dental hygiene degree, get a medical coding and billing degree (which is half the time in school) and be a stay at home mom and have my first baby at 27 or 28. not many people i know would like to help me decide this because they all had their hopes on me being a dentist, then had to accept that i just wanted to be a hygenist. now this. i don't know what would be best for me, i'm only 25. i don't want to discuss it with hubby (of 3 years) just yet. i need to think. thoughts or advice?I think i want to have a baby in a couple of years... but i'm scared.. do you have any advice?
I think you're doing everything right.
Just make sure you get a degree in something you like doing. Hygienists are in demand and you can work part time if you like.
Planning on taking care of a child 24/7 and holding a part time home-based job is really tough.
Just make sure you make the decision based on YOUR wants, and not what would work if and when you become a mother. You may be right, and have problems ttc, and you find yourself with a job you hate on top of that. Not good.
Take care of yourself, and the children will be just fine. They need a happy mom.
TX MomI think i want to have a baby in a couple of years... but i'm scared.. do you have any advice?
firstly a baby is nothing like a puppy - if you mess up a puppy you can have it euthanized.. or at least its lifespan is only 18 years... if you mess up a kid - in 18 years its commiting crimes.
best thing for a kid is a stay at home parent.. yes!!!
best thing for you to do is SAVE MONEY NOW - seriously - cut the cable.. dont get ';coffee to go'; eat lots of soup (cheap meals) save up to buy a house.. have savings in the bank...
in the long run a degree is nice but if your hubby is ok finanacially and you can make the budget cuts your kid will be better off than a kid who has 2 parents working and can buy whatever.. having the parent is MORE important than having the stuff....eye liner
I think you're doing everything right.
Just make sure you get a degree in something you like doing. Hygienists are in demand and you can work part time if you like.
Planning on taking care of a child 24/7 and holding a part time home-based job is really tough.
Just make sure you make the decision based on YOUR wants, and not what would work if and when you become a mother. You may be right, and have problems ttc, and you find yourself with a job you hate on top of that. Not good.
Take care of yourself, and the children will be just fine. They need a happy mom.
TX MomI think i want to have a baby in a couple of years... but i'm scared.. do you have any advice?
firstly a baby is nothing like a puppy - if you mess up a puppy you can have it euthanized.. or at least its lifespan is only 18 years... if you mess up a kid - in 18 years its commiting crimes.
best thing for a kid is a stay at home parent.. yes!!!
best thing for you to do is SAVE MONEY NOW - seriously - cut the cable.. dont get ';coffee to go'; eat lots of soup (cheap meals) save up to buy a house.. have savings in the bank...
in the long run a degree is nice but if your hubby is ok finanacially and you can make the budget cuts your kid will be better off than a kid who has 2 parents working and can buy whatever.. having the parent is MORE important than having the stuff....
I went on a date a couple of weeks ago. it didnt go so well. it was sort of hard to talk. any advice?
it was hard to find something to talk about. and for next time someone give me advice. LOLI went on a date a couple of weeks ago. it didnt go so well. it was sort of hard to talk. any advice?
First dates are like interviews. You have to get to know one another. I would try to find out about his life. On a first date, you do not ask about deep details of a past relationship. You can ask, but just don't get too into the details. If he's not too talkative, then just talk away. DON'T COMPLAIN ABOUT WORK. Guys don't care and don't want to hear about it. Try not to date someone who comes off as shy, b/c they are quiet.I went on a date a couple of weeks ago. it didnt go so well. it was sort of hard to talk. any advice?
Usually there are a few things people talk about on a first date. you could ask about his childhood, about his school/work, motivation for going into that field of study or work area, goals for the future, and other questions along those lines. You could also talk about a recent movie you have seen together. Ask him what his favorite movie is, book, car, sport , that sort of thing. Talk about your day, ask him about his, just keep talking, it only gets awkward when there is a silence. Thats all i can think of, good luck.
First dates are like interviews. You have to get to know one another. I would try to find out about his life. On a first date, you do not ask about deep details of a past relationship. You can ask, but just don't get too into the details. If he's not too talkative, then just talk away. DON'T COMPLAIN ABOUT WORK. Guys don't care and don't want to hear about it. Try not to date someone who comes off as shy, b/c they are quiet.I went on a date a couple of weeks ago. it didnt go so well. it was sort of hard to talk. any advice?
Usually there are a few things people talk about on a first date. you could ask about his childhood, about his school/work, motivation for going into that field of study or work area, goals for the future, and other questions along those lines. You could also talk about a recent movie you have seen together. Ask him what his favorite movie is, book, car, sport , that sort of thing. Talk about your day, ask him about his, just keep talking, it only gets awkward when there is a silence. Thats all i can think of, good luck.
Going to the Doctor in a couple days to see about being put on some ';Anti-Depressants. Any advice?
I've been putting it off awhile, but I finally made an appointment to do see the Doc about depression. I have read into Antidepression pills a little and , WOW!!!! There are so many. I am hoping I can get some feed back. I don't want to feel like a zombie. I need to function at work so I can't be tired all day long. And I surely don't want to be on the kind that make you gain weight.
Can anyone help me from their personal experiences with AntiDepressants? I know every one is different, but my general concerns, as listed above are mainly side effects I'm trying to avoid. I want to be able to say NO!!!!! To my doctor if she drops the name of a pill that does carry all of the side effects I'm trying to avoid.
Thanks in advance,
AshleyGoing to the Doctor in a couple days to see about being put on some ';Anti-Depressants. Any advice?
Look out for suicidal thoughts or actions, but otherwise, normal SSRI's shouldn't cause many other issues.Going to the Doctor in a couple days to see about being put on some ';Anti-Depressants. Any advice?
I have been interning at a pharmacy, and I have learned that when it comes to medicine, pharmacists are the specialists, doctors diagnose. So I'd advise that if your doctor does prescribe a medication, talk to your pharmacist on the side affects, and other precautions. Good luck!
About 5 years ago I had depression with panic attacks. My doctor put me on Lexapro and it worked quickly and very well. I was on it for a year and experienced no bad side effects while I was on it, now when I stopped using it.
Can anyone help me from their personal experiences with AntiDepressants? I know every one is different, but my general concerns, as listed above are mainly side effects I'm trying to avoid. I want to be able to say NO!!!!! To my doctor if she drops the name of a pill that does carry all of the side effects I'm trying to avoid.
Thanks in advance,
AshleyGoing to the Doctor in a couple days to see about being put on some ';Anti-Depressants. Any advice?
Look out for suicidal thoughts or actions, but otherwise, normal SSRI's shouldn't cause many other issues.Going to the Doctor in a couple days to see about being put on some ';Anti-Depressants. Any advice?
I have been interning at a pharmacy, and I have learned that when it comes to medicine, pharmacists are the specialists, doctors diagnose. So I'd advise that if your doctor does prescribe a medication, talk to your pharmacist on the side affects, and other precautions. Good luck!
About 5 years ago I had depression with panic attacks. My doctor put me on Lexapro and it worked quickly and very well. I was on it for a year and experienced no bad side effects while I was on it, now when I stopped using it.
Married couple going into USAF. I have guaranteed job as an Air Traffic Controller. Any Advice?
My husband are both in the DEP for the USAF for just a couple more months. I am excited to go but a little at a loss for what to expect. I know that being an air traffic controller is (from what I've heard and read) a very stressful and demanding job. Not only that, I heard that there is a very high ';wash out'; rate for the Air Traffic Control tech school. If this is still true, why and how(other than just ';it's difficult';)? I am anxious to hear from anyone with any personal experience with this career in the Air Force. I would also like to hear any tips on how to keep a marriage a happy one (no current problems with my husband) with a job that could be very stressful (or for a couple in which both are in the Air Force). I know that patience and loving kindness is golden but any other hints or advice would be much appreciated. Thank you so much for any input and advice! =DMarried couple going into USAF. I have guaranteed job as an Air Traffic Controller. Any Advice?
People wash out of their Tech School, because they didn't study enough.
As to why ?
Because they are throwing completely new knowledge at you at alot faster rate than you are used to.
Heres an example, in high school, you might be told to read 10 pages during the week, in college, they would tell you to read 200 pages in a week.
Well Tech School is like college, you will be expected to absorb more knowledge and retain it, than you were ever expected to while in high school.
Be prepared to study 3 or 4 hours every night.
It is harder to washout of Tech School than you think it is.
One failure will not wash you out.
Tech School is divided into short blocks of instruction.
Usually about a week long, then you are tested on what you learned.
If you fail a test, you will repeat that week of school again and take the test again.
Usually you are allowed three failues during the course.
But thats not written in stone, if you fail the first test badly enough, you could be removed then.
Well the best way to keep your marriage happy, is to try to get based on the same base with your husband.
The Air Force will try to do that, but it is not guarenteed.
And then try to make sure you both work the same duty shift.
They are not gonna move someone from thier duty shift, just to make sure you work the same shift with your husband.
So you both might have to volunteer to work the night shift, to be able to work the same shift.Married couple going into USAF. I have guaranteed job as an Air Traffic Controller. Any Advice?
One of the main reasons that people wash out of ATC is because of the stress...you make an innocent mistake and people die. No pressure :-) They will wash people out that do not perform well under pressure because there will be stress. Everyday. You have to remember all kinds of minutia and deal with what's coming in/going out all at the same time. On the plus side, all the ATC I know really liked the job. What is your husband's AFSC?
People wash out of their Tech School, because they didn't study enough.
As to why ?
Because they are throwing completely new knowledge at you at alot faster rate than you are used to.
Heres an example, in high school, you might be told to read 10 pages during the week, in college, they would tell you to read 200 pages in a week.
Well Tech School is like college, you will be expected to absorb more knowledge and retain it, than you were ever expected to while in high school.
Be prepared to study 3 or 4 hours every night.
It is harder to washout of Tech School than you think it is.
One failure will not wash you out.
Tech School is divided into short blocks of instruction.
Usually about a week long, then you are tested on what you learned.
If you fail a test, you will repeat that week of school again and take the test again.
Usually you are allowed three failues during the course.
But thats not written in stone, if you fail the first test badly enough, you could be removed then.
Well the best way to keep your marriage happy, is to try to get based on the same base with your husband.
The Air Force will try to do that, but it is not guarenteed.
And then try to make sure you both work the same duty shift.
They are not gonna move someone from thier duty shift, just to make sure you work the same shift with your husband.
So you both might have to volunteer to work the night shift, to be able to work the same shift.Married couple going into USAF. I have guaranteed job as an Air Traffic Controller. Any Advice?
One of the main reasons that people wash out of ATC is because of the stress...you make an innocent mistake and people die. No pressure :-) They will wash people out that do not perform well under pressure because there will be stress. Everyday. You have to remember all kinds of minutia and deal with what's coming in/going out all at the same time. On the plus side, all the ATC I know really liked the job. What is your husband's AFSC?
I've been 2 guys, 1 for 3years and the other for a couple of months and i'm in love with both in need advice!
Don't cheat or it'll blow up in your face, nevertheless it's 'wrong' to do it in the first place!I've been 2 guys, 1 for 3years and the other for a couple of months and i'm in love with both in need advice!
Girl you can't eat your cake and have it too. You need to do the right thing and let one go. You are digging a huge hole for yourself the longer you allow this to go on. You can either let one go or end up losing both. The choice is yours..Good luckI've been 2 guys, 1 for 3years and the other for a couple of months and i'm in love with both in need advice!
Have them both move in with you.. Simple
find someone else!
I smell a threesome...
Well, I guess you are busy!! Need to decide whom you really want to settle with, if not, you will hurt both of them. Remember who harvests the wind will inherited tornados!!!
My only advice to you is to not be a whore. If you feel that you cannot stop being a whore then your only avenue is to drop out of your pitiful existence.
Define love.
figure out which one truely loves you back.
unconditional love that is returned is true love
In this case you are not a directed kind of person. Remember you may hurt them if you';ll not decide. If you really love them the way you do, you may not want any of the to be hurt. So decide now before it's to late. You might lost them both. I tell you it's more painful. BEFORE IT IS TOO LATE!!!!!!
are u sure u really know the one u've been involved w/ for 3 mons?????? evevn if you've had problems w/ the guy u've been w/ for 3 yrs, u must realize what u go through makes a relationship stronger. don't throw away something or someone you have history with.because if so the new one may shock u w/ some **** u never thought he was capable of.TRUST!!!! i've been there. good luck
for starters you obviously cant be inlove with both otherwise you wouldnt have cheated on your partner of 3 years if u really loved him, your sombody who doesnt take love seriously and your messing with 2 heads at the moment, maybe you get kicks out of it but those to men probly have deep feelings wich your just playing around with, my advice for you is stop being a hoe.
I had this same problem i was in love with my husband and the guy i was cheating on him with i was with my husband for 7 years and the guy for 1 year and i was a fool and let my husband now i am sitting at home all alone do you get the picture it not good to cheat because in the long run you are the one getting hurt. But I hope everything works out for you.
1st of all, i think you don't know what's called real love? a true/real love can only occur on 1 person...i believe the new guy u had was only an infatuation..on the other hand, the other guy shd be your better choice bcoz not many r/s can last a gd 3 yrs! many couples end their r/s probably 0.5 or less than 1.5 yrs. Do treasure the right candidate and don't jump into another new r/s or commitment with your eye closed! if the 3 yr old guy wasn't that great, i believe you'd not hang out with him for tat long rite? let your mind %26amp; heart do the calculations....but if you really think the new guy seems more suitable for you, it's your choice...gd luck!
Think about what you want your future to be like. Which one will stand by you through thick and thin? Romantic love will fade in time, so you must have a foundation to build on for a lasting relationship.
I would choose the guy who has concrete plans, not the one who just wants to have fun.
go for the one you knew for 3 yrs.
i feel wat you feel i'm in the same situation. Just take control. Try to picture in ur head which one you see yourself with in the future. like getting married and having kids this for sure figures out wich one you love more. I know it's hard the best of luck to you.
You know that you can only love one. Who can have two ';masters.'; They will either love one and hate the other or despise one and love the other.
I don`t think you could be in love with both of them and I think you should end at least one relationship because you are risking losing both. decide who you like the best and don`t treat them the way you wouldn`t be like to be treated. What would YOU do if you have a boyfriend and he has 2 GIRLfriends?!
Well as You have cheated on your long term guy Id say that relationship was pretty screwed anyway. The fact that you have been gutless enough to keep cheating on him for over a month says that you cant possibly love him your jsut holding onto him as he is safe. He deserves better and I think you should shack up with the new guy until you get bored of him and go off with someone else like the little vile trollop you are.
well u hv to saty on the 1st guy cos some1 u knw 4 long is better dan the 1 u just knw.so gurl think abt it so dat u won't lost the both at the same time.
you should figure out which one you feel the closest too and go from there
drop the new 1
Mr. Chivalry says, ';Think about a few things. Which one makes you happier? Which one will make a better supporter? Which one will make a better life partner? Who is a better provider and protector?';
Mr. Chivalry has spoken.
THE KEY QUESTION IS WHICH one do you love the most? and which one is more compatable with you (the most like you)? Opposites dont attract for more than a year usually. If opposites stay together it is usually cuz they are both givers and full of compromise. Astrology books can help with compatability. I wish people would tell their sign in questions. Then I could help a little more. When you choose which one, then lose the other one and stick with the best one for you. Good luck.
3 years is a good track record.
Ok here is the formula to decide! How old are you? If your Age %26lt; 23 you dont know what the hell love is and you should not worry about it.!
go with someone who u think is worth going out with and someone that really loves u...
just think it over in ur heart and ur mind
three years invested-keep him
How do they feel about you? Do they know that the other existed? Obviously you were dating one first then cheated with the second one - most of the time people cheat because the person they are with isn't meeting certains needs. Maybe you don't really love the first guy as much as you think you do. Take some time away from both and think about it. Good luck.
leave da new 1
Girl you can't eat your cake and have it too. You need to do the right thing and let one go. You are digging a huge hole for yourself the longer you allow this to go on. You can either let one go or end up losing both. The choice is yours..Good luckI've been 2 guys, 1 for 3years and the other for a couple of months and i'm in love with both in need advice!
Have them both move in with you.. Simple
find someone else!
I smell a threesome...
Well, I guess you are busy!! Need to decide whom you really want to settle with, if not, you will hurt both of them. Remember who harvests the wind will inherited tornados!!!
My only advice to you is to not be a whore. If you feel that you cannot stop being a whore then your only avenue is to drop out of your pitiful existence.
Define love.
figure out which one truely loves you back.
unconditional love that is returned is true love
In this case you are not a directed kind of person. Remember you may hurt them if you';ll not decide. If you really love them the way you do, you may not want any of the to be hurt. So decide now before it's to late. You might lost them both. I tell you it's more painful. BEFORE IT IS TOO LATE!!!!!!
are u sure u really know the one u've been involved w/ for 3 mons?????? evevn if you've had problems w/ the guy u've been w/ for 3 yrs, u must realize what u go through makes a relationship stronger. don't throw away something or someone you have history with.because if so the new one may shock u w/ some **** u never thought he was capable of.TRUST!!!! i've been there. good luck
for starters you obviously cant be inlove with both otherwise you wouldnt have cheated on your partner of 3 years if u really loved him, your sombody who doesnt take love seriously and your messing with 2 heads at the moment, maybe you get kicks out of it but those to men probly have deep feelings wich your just playing around with, my advice for you is stop being a hoe.
I had this same problem i was in love with my husband and the guy i was cheating on him with i was with my husband for 7 years and the guy for 1 year and i was a fool and let my husband now i am sitting at home all alone do you get the picture it not good to cheat because in the long run you are the one getting hurt. But I hope everything works out for you.
1st of all, i think you don't know what's called real love? a true/real love can only occur on 1 person...i believe the new guy u had was only an infatuation..on the other hand, the other guy shd be your better choice bcoz not many r/s can last a gd 3 yrs! many couples end their r/s probably 0.5 or less than 1.5 yrs. Do treasure the right candidate and don't jump into another new r/s or commitment with your eye closed! if the 3 yr old guy wasn't that great, i believe you'd not hang out with him for tat long rite? let your mind %26amp; heart do the calculations....but if you really think the new guy seems more suitable for you, it's your choice...gd luck!
Think about what you want your future to be like. Which one will stand by you through thick and thin? Romantic love will fade in time, so you must have a foundation to build on for a lasting relationship.
I would choose the guy who has concrete plans, not the one who just wants to have fun.
go for the one you knew for 3 yrs.
i feel wat you feel i'm in the same situation. Just take control. Try to picture in ur head which one you see yourself with in the future. like getting married and having kids this for sure figures out wich one you love more. I know it's hard the best of luck to you.
You know that you can only love one. Who can have two ';masters.'; They will either love one and hate the other or despise one and love the other.
I don`t think you could be in love with both of them and I think you should end at least one relationship because you are risking losing both. decide who you like the best and don`t treat them the way you wouldn`t be like to be treated. What would YOU do if you have a boyfriend and he has 2 GIRLfriends?!
Well as You have cheated on your long term guy Id say that relationship was pretty screwed anyway. The fact that you have been gutless enough to keep cheating on him for over a month says that you cant possibly love him your jsut holding onto him as he is safe. He deserves better and I think you should shack up with the new guy until you get bored of him and go off with someone else like the little vile trollop you are.
well u hv to saty on the 1st guy cos some1 u knw 4 long is better dan the 1 u just knw.so gurl think abt it so dat u won't lost the both at the same time.
you should figure out which one you feel the closest too and go from there
drop the new 1
Mr. Chivalry says, ';Think about a few things. Which one makes you happier? Which one will make a better supporter? Which one will make a better life partner? Who is a better provider and protector?';
Mr. Chivalry has spoken.
THE KEY QUESTION IS WHICH one do you love the most? and which one is more compatable with you (the most like you)? Opposites dont attract for more than a year usually. If opposites stay together it is usually cuz they are both givers and full of compromise. Astrology books can help with compatability. I wish people would tell their sign in questions. Then I could help a little more. When you choose which one, then lose the other one and stick with the best one for you. Good luck.
3 years is a good track record.
Ok here is the formula to decide! How old are you? If your Age %26lt; 23 you dont know what the hell love is and you should not worry about it.!
go with someone who u think is worth going out with and someone that really loves u...
just think it over in ur heart and ur mind
three years invested-keep him
How do they feel about you? Do they know that the other existed? Obviously you were dating one first then cheated with the second one - most of the time people cheat because the person they are with isn't meeting certains needs. Maybe you don't really love the first guy as much as you think you do. Take some time away from both and think about it. Good luck.
leave da new 1
My mom has came home the last couple days cranky but she won't tell me why! HELP ADVICE!!?
My mom works doing statements and working with money she has been dating this guy for about 2 months now, and for the past couple days she has been coming home cranky! Like seriously! And my grandma%26amp;grandpa live in their motorhome in our drive way, and my mom and my sister were geting into the car to go to a friends so i was getting in too! And my grandma saw i was upset and said why are you upset and i said mom came home cranky, and then my mom kicked me out of the car! Just because of that!!! Now for those of you who have followed my question my mom isn't the best mom, actually she is horrible! But idk what to do! btw i'm 14! I still have 4 years till i can move out!!! HEEEEEEEEELLLP!!!! Thanks!My mom has came home the last couple days cranky but she won't tell me why! HELP ADVICE!!?
your Mum is reacting that way cause something is obviously bothering her and she is feeling angry about everything in general. Just give her space to sort herself out. Make her a cup of coffee when she gets home then let her have her space.My mom has came home the last couple days cranky but she won't tell me why! HELP ADVICE!!?
b4 she comes home clean thew hous really good and cook dinner talk to her bout it over dinner and have a warm bath ready 4 her then have a girls nite shell tell you im sure thats wat i do wen my moms cranky!;)
just sit down with your mom and ask her what's wrong. try to talk to her and ask if you can help her with anything around the house to help reduce her stress.
mabe she's pregnant
your Mum is reacting that way cause something is obviously bothering her and she is feeling angry about everything in general. Just give her space to sort herself out. Make her a cup of coffee when she gets home then let her have her space.My mom has came home the last couple days cranky but she won't tell me why! HELP ADVICE!!?
b4 she comes home clean thew hous really good and cook dinner talk to her bout it over dinner and have a warm bath ready 4 her then have a girls nite shell tell you im sure thats wat i do wen my moms cranky!;)
just sit down with your mom and ask her what's wrong. try to talk to her and ask if you can help her with anything around the house to help reduce her stress.
mabe she's pregnant
I live with my ex husband. we live as a couple but my heart belongs to my ex boy friend. i need your advice?
I have an affair while i was married. my husband didn't know about it. We got divorce and I move in with my boy friend. we are so inlove. while waiting for my divorce to be final. but i wasn't ready to settle so i moved out to my BF place. went back to my ex husband place; live as a couple. but we're divorce. then one day my boy friend called my ex husband and he told everything that his not supposed to say. i thought that i can trust him. by not telling everybody about me. so i broke up with him. i know i'm not perfect %26amp; i made mistake. but i was wrong to give all that trust. now my ex husband %26amp; my ex boy friend want me back...
my question is my ex bf still inlove with me %26amp; we still talk but he doesn't know that i live with my ex husband. what should i do? I'm still inlove with him but deep inside i am afraid. thank you for you time reading my problem...I live with my ex husband. we live as a couple but my heart belongs to my ex boy friend. i need your advice?
You need to leave them both alone and start working on you. Step out of the situation so you can get it together.I live with my ex husband. we live as a couple but my heart belongs to my ex boy friend. i need your advice?
you should think about this....What would make ME happy.... if you are happy with yourself then you will know who would keep that happiness flowing... if you are with someone that has cheated with you while he knew you where married....do you really think he wont do the same to you? This bf has got to go! you need to cut all ties and as hard as it will be(trust me ive been through this) you will never fully trust this bf, how could you? he did cheat with a married woman once! As for your husband... was this a one time deal with just this one other guy? was it just the sex or did you emotionally cheat on your husband? maby he isnt satisfying your needs physically and emotionally. dont look for someone who Makes you happy....go for someone that is happy with themselves and that will allow you to be yourhappy self.
You need therapy. You don't know why you ended your marriage and neither does your ex-hubby. That situation needs to be resolved. As for your ex-bf, how do you know he's Mr. Right and not Mr. Right-Now? Personally, you need to spend sometime away from both of them. Collect yourself or seek therapy.
honestly ur perdicument is way to messy..........if i were you i would quit both and start over with someone new. too many disappointments and hard feelings and lies involved in the other two relationships......
Sure you are afraid, how can you use so many people at a time in life. You should take your heart wherevfer it belongs and leave these guys alone. Maybe the fear is that one or both of them might object to your behavior, at the same time!
Well, my question to you.....is who do you want to be with? If you want the boyfriend, go on back to him. But you need to make a choice. You could also choose to leave them both alone and go find someone new/fresh. The choice is yours. Good luck.
You need to choose how your heart really belongs with. Think about who you can trust and love forever, who you are really going to be happy with, but i would make a choice now and not play eaither of them. and if you cant make a choice drop them both and move on.eye liner
my question is my ex bf still inlove with me %26amp; we still talk but he doesn't know that i live with my ex husband. what should i do? I'm still inlove with him but deep inside i am afraid. thank you for you time reading my problem...I live with my ex husband. we live as a couple but my heart belongs to my ex boy friend. i need your advice?
You need to leave them both alone and start working on you. Step out of the situation so you can get it together.I live with my ex husband. we live as a couple but my heart belongs to my ex boy friend. i need your advice?
you should think about this....What would make ME happy.... if you are happy with yourself then you will know who would keep that happiness flowing... if you are with someone that has cheated with you while he knew you where married....do you really think he wont do the same to you? This bf has got to go! you need to cut all ties and as hard as it will be(trust me ive been through this) you will never fully trust this bf, how could you? he did cheat with a married woman once! As for your husband... was this a one time deal with just this one other guy? was it just the sex or did you emotionally cheat on your husband? maby he isnt satisfying your needs physically and emotionally. dont look for someone who Makes you happy....go for someone that is happy with themselves and that will allow you to be yourhappy self.
You need therapy. You don't know why you ended your marriage and neither does your ex-hubby. That situation needs to be resolved. As for your ex-bf, how do you know he's Mr. Right and not Mr. Right-Now? Personally, you need to spend sometime away from both of them. Collect yourself or seek therapy.
honestly ur perdicument is way to messy..........if i were you i would quit both and start over with someone new. too many disappointments and hard feelings and lies involved in the other two relationships......
Sure you are afraid, how can you use so many people at a time in life. You should take your heart wherevfer it belongs and leave these guys alone. Maybe the fear is that one or both of them might object to your behavior, at the same time!
Well, my question to you.....is who do you want to be with? If you want the boyfriend, go on back to him. But you need to make a choice. You could also choose to leave them both alone and go find someone new/fresh. The choice is yours. Good luck.
You need to choose how your heart really belongs with. Think about who you can trust and love forever, who you are really going to be happy with, but i would make a choice now and not play eaither of them. and if you cant make a choice drop them both and move on.
Yeah! I just had my baby boy last week and now I have a couple concerns If I could plz get some good advice?
I know I shouldn't really be complaining about this but he is ALWAYS asleep. I am pumping so much just to keep up my supply. Is this normal? He has many wet and poopy diapers. He was 3 weeks early but I was 37 weeks exactly when my water broke last Wednesday. Another concern I have is when he sleeps I catch him opening his eyes half way and he'll start to roll his eyes constantly. He does this a lot, is this normal? Thxs.Yeah! I just had my baby boy last week and now I have a couple concerns If I could plz get some good advice?
you sound just like i did.... almost 4 months ago... :) i even had my son as early as you did but....
it is normal to be sleeping A LOT. the only thing you should start to try to adjust though is the daytime sleeping. naps are normal, and he should still be sleeping the majority of the day... but try to keep it loud and bright. keep him stimulated as much as possible. this will show him ';LIGHT and LOUD and FUN'; is daytime.. ';QUIET and DARK and NO PLAY'; is nightime... or sleep time. :)
and dylan did the SAME thing with the eyes.. some people would be holding him and he'd be lookin at them 'laughing' and theyd be like awww hes smiling at me!! and i was like umm no.. hes asleep and dreaming.. haha.
its normal for them to have their eyes open. the rolling is when they are in REM sleep (RAPID EYE MOVEMENT).. which is the deepest sleep. i asked a couple doctors about because i was afraid i had a freak baby :) or that he was having a medical issue *seizures, etc.) and they just smiled and said that its the nerves and the muscles, and that he'll grow out of it.. and by 2 years he'll be sleepin with his eyes shut.
hes 4 months now and he rarely has his eyes open!! so dont worry about that ...
circumcision.. keep the vaseline on the diaper by his penis, it'll help keep it from getting 'stuck' to the diaper, and it's a lot more comfortable for him. i would say that dylan's was healed by the time his cord fell off... thats when they say it should be healed. make sure, once it's not as irritated, to pull back the skin a gently wipe underneath. fuzz and other stuff can get trapped under there.
if its red, it's usually okay too. if you start to see a lot of greenish discharge or bleeding, contact his pediatrician. its better to be safe than sorry.. but all in all, have fun, good luck, and congratulations on your little angel boy! :) Yeah! I just had my baby boy last week and now I have a couple concerns If I could plz get some good advice?
It bring a smile to my face when I read your question, but then I remember myself, when my first child was born. You look for anything and everything. You just want them to be OK. :)
It's normal for a child that age to have his eyes half way open. I've heard even older kids do it. The baby will sleep and only wake up for feeding. He will stay up longer in a week, but not too long. Let him sleep, that's when they grow. If he's eating good and his diaper is filled as you described -- appropriately, then he's just fine.
they generally will sleep a lot early on. I know it's concerning I felt the same way but take it while you can get it. My son (now 3 1/2 mos old) won't sleep at all during the day and is just a little terror at times. Enjoy the time now. My son also did and still does the eyes half open rolling back thing. It's creepy. but apparently very normal too.
My sons circumsision took about a week to heal completely. Even now it is sometimes red looking but I'm told its totally normal. He was snipped when he was 4 wks.
Congrats on your new baby and good luck:)
Everything you're saying is totally normal! My little man was 3 weeks early also. The sleeping all the time won't last forever! Haha. And the rolling of the eyes and opening one eye is something that their nerves do since they're still so new and developing. My son is 7 weeks and he doesn't do it as much but still occasionally. The circumcision takes about 7-12 days to heal! Congrats on your little man!!!
Yes, it's normal if he opens his eyes while he's asleep. My fiance's nephew did the same when he was a baby and it creeped my fiance out :)
As for the pumping- if you nurse baby on demand, you don't need to pump all the time to keep up your supply. Don't stress so much about it. Is baby eating 8-10 times a day? If he's got enough wet diapers, I'm sure you're fine. Don't stress about pumping :) You might end up with an over-supply and that's a pain in the boob to fix.
Congrats!!
I almost laughed reading this. I felt the same way. Enjoy the quiet time while you have it. Soon he will be all over, and will not want to sleep ever. My son at 6 months I am lucky if he takes 2 30 min naps a day, but again he barely wakes up at night at all. As you have said there are enough wet diapers, and poop diapers, so no need to worry, soon he will be all over everything, and will be fighting to not sleep. :) Good luck with your little blessing.
P.S. Good job on being a good mommy, I know it is odd to be so worried all the time. :)
My son was born at 38 weeks. He slept so much! I was so worried I talked to my doctor about it. He told me ';enjoy it while you can.'; He was right I now have an incredibly active healthy 31/2 year old. I also have a one year old daughter that does the whole eye rolling thing. It kind of freaks me out too! However the doctor says it is normal (sometimes I just close her eyelids with my fingers and they stay that way.) It sounds like everything is normal to me. Don't let yourself get stressed it will hurt your milk supply. As for the circumcision as long as it 's not red or angry looking , sometimes they can take a long time to heal. Good luck!
The sleeping thing is totally fine, sounds just like my son was for the first month. Congrats on breastfeeding!! The circumcision, well I don't believe in it but I do know to watch out for any bright redness, puss, or swelling, that are signs of infection (that happened with my nephew). Good luck with your new baby!
yeah he is fine! my daughter slept constantly the peeking and eye rolling is just there way of seeing there surroundings don't worry! i was the same way. but now that my daughter is going on 8 months i wish she would sleep more. just keep pumping to keep up your supply if you have any questions call your doctor that's what they are there for no questions are stupid questions when it comes to a baby. as long as he has wet diapers he is good!
Yes, it's normal! Babies sleep...that's all there is to it! When I had my daughter she would sleep for probably 22 out of the 24 hours in a day! As your son gets older he will stay awake longer and not sleep as much! And as far as him opening his eyes and rolling them...that's normal too! All kids do it...heck, my husband still sleeps with his eyes half open sometimes! LOL! It's completely normal, but if you want to ask a doctor just to reassure yourself then that wouldn't hurt either! Hope I helped...
Premies and alot of newborns will sleep alot at first. Get your rest now while you can because this will not last along time.Do not be concerned about his opening of his eyes. As he gets older, alot of this will disappear. Enjoy him, he will not be small like this forever. Good luck.
your aloud to be concerned ..but with him rolling his eyes..we all do it..but the difference is nobody is watching us sleep..hhahaha. Its totally normal my daughter did it..hes just dreaming and YES its normal for him to always sleeping!! jus wait till hes 3 months old and starts to take 20min power naps...congrats on the new one!
very normal after you baby is out he is very tired because going through the birth process is alot of work on them and they are just very tired expect that for a few more weeks
Enjoy all the sleeping your baby is doing now...because it won't last,there will come a day you will wish for the sleeping baby, like teething time.
Its all normal ;)
Congrats!
babies will eat when they r hungry and the rolling of the eyes is normal
you sound just like i did.... almost 4 months ago... :) i even had my son as early as you did but....
it is normal to be sleeping A LOT. the only thing you should start to try to adjust though is the daytime sleeping. naps are normal, and he should still be sleeping the majority of the day... but try to keep it loud and bright. keep him stimulated as much as possible. this will show him ';LIGHT and LOUD and FUN'; is daytime.. ';QUIET and DARK and NO PLAY'; is nightime... or sleep time. :)
and dylan did the SAME thing with the eyes.. some people would be holding him and he'd be lookin at them 'laughing' and theyd be like awww hes smiling at me!! and i was like umm no.. hes asleep and dreaming.. haha.
its normal for them to have their eyes open. the rolling is when they are in REM sleep (RAPID EYE MOVEMENT).. which is the deepest sleep. i asked a couple doctors about because i was afraid i had a freak baby :) or that he was having a medical issue *seizures, etc.) and they just smiled and said that its the nerves and the muscles, and that he'll grow out of it.. and by 2 years he'll be sleepin with his eyes shut.
hes 4 months now and he rarely has his eyes open!! so dont worry about that ...
circumcision.. keep the vaseline on the diaper by his penis, it'll help keep it from getting 'stuck' to the diaper, and it's a lot more comfortable for him. i would say that dylan's was healed by the time his cord fell off... thats when they say it should be healed. make sure, once it's not as irritated, to pull back the skin a gently wipe underneath. fuzz and other stuff can get trapped under there.
if its red, it's usually okay too. if you start to see a lot of greenish discharge or bleeding, contact his pediatrician. its better to be safe than sorry.. but all in all, have fun, good luck, and congratulations on your little angel boy! :) Yeah! I just had my baby boy last week and now I have a couple concerns If I could plz get some good advice?
It bring a smile to my face when I read your question, but then I remember myself, when my first child was born. You look for anything and everything. You just want them to be OK. :)
It's normal for a child that age to have his eyes half way open. I've heard even older kids do it. The baby will sleep and only wake up for feeding. He will stay up longer in a week, but not too long. Let him sleep, that's when they grow. If he's eating good and his diaper is filled as you described -- appropriately, then he's just fine.
they generally will sleep a lot early on. I know it's concerning I felt the same way but take it while you can get it. My son (now 3 1/2 mos old) won't sleep at all during the day and is just a little terror at times. Enjoy the time now. My son also did and still does the eyes half open rolling back thing. It's creepy. but apparently very normal too.
My sons circumsision took about a week to heal completely. Even now it is sometimes red looking but I'm told its totally normal. He was snipped when he was 4 wks.
Congrats on your new baby and good luck:)
Everything you're saying is totally normal! My little man was 3 weeks early also. The sleeping all the time won't last forever! Haha. And the rolling of the eyes and opening one eye is something that their nerves do since they're still so new and developing. My son is 7 weeks and he doesn't do it as much but still occasionally. The circumcision takes about 7-12 days to heal! Congrats on your little man!!!
Yes, it's normal if he opens his eyes while he's asleep. My fiance's nephew did the same when he was a baby and it creeped my fiance out :)
As for the pumping- if you nurse baby on demand, you don't need to pump all the time to keep up your supply. Don't stress so much about it. Is baby eating 8-10 times a day? If he's got enough wet diapers, I'm sure you're fine. Don't stress about pumping :) You might end up with an over-supply and that's a pain in the boob to fix.
Congrats!!
I almost laughed reading this. I felt the same way. Enjoy the quiet time while you have it. Soon he will be all over, and will not want to sleep ever. My son at 6 months I am lucky if he takes 2 30 min naps a day, but again he barely wakes up at night at all. As you have said there are enough wet diapers, and poop diapers, so no need to worry, soon he will be all over everything, and will be fighting to not sleep. :) Good luck with your little blessing.
P.S. Good job on being a good mommy, I know it is odd to be so worried all the time. :)
My son was born at 38 weeks. He slept so much! I was so worried I talked to my doctor about it. He told me ';enjoy it while you can.'; He was right I now have an incredibly active healthy 31/2 year old. I also have a one year old daughter that does the whole eye rolling thing. It kind of freaks me out too! However the doctor says it is normal (sometimes I just close her eyelids with my fingers and they stay that way.) It sounds like everything is normal to me. Don't let yourself get stressed it will hurt your milk supply. As for the circumcision as long as it 's not red or angry looking , sometimes they can take a long time to heal. Good luck!
The sleeping thing is totally fine, sounds just like my son was for the first month. Congrats on breastfeeding!! The circumcision, well I don't believe in it but I do know to watch out for any bright redness, puss, or swelling, that are signs of infection (that happened with my nephew). Good luck with your new baby!
yeah he is fine! my daughter slept constantly the peeking and eye rolling is just there way of seeing there surroundings don't worry! i was the same way. but now that my daughter is going on 8 months i wish she would sleep more. just keep pumping to keep up your supply if you have any questions call your doctor that's what they are there for no questions are stupid questions when it comes to a baby. as long as he has wet diapers he is good!
Yes, it's normal! Babies sleep...that's all there is to it! When I had my daughter she would sleep for probably 22 out of the 24 hours in a day! As your son gets older he will stay awake longer and not sleep as much! And as far as him opening his eyes and rolling them...that's normal too! All kids do it...heck, my husband still sleeps with his eyes half open sometimes! LOL! It's completely normal, but if you want to ask a doctor just to reassure yourself then that wouldn't hurt either! Hope I helped...
Premies and alot of newborns will sleep alot at first. Get your rest now while you can because this will not last along time.Do not be concerned about his opening of his eyes. As he gets older, alot of this will disappear. Enjoy him, he will not be small like this forever. Good luck.
your aloud to be concerned ..but with him rolling his eyes..we all do it..but the difference is nobody is watching us sleep..hhahaha. Its totally normal my daughter did it..hes just dreaming and YES its normal for him to always sleeping!! jus wait till hes 3 months old and starts to take 20min power naps...congrats on the new one!
very normal after you baby is out he is very tired because going through the birth process is alot of work on them and they are just very tired expect that for a few more weeks
Enjoy all the sleeping your baby is doing now...because it won't last,there will come a day you will wish for the sleeping baby, like teething time.
Its all normal ;)
Congrats!
babies will eat when they r hungry and the rolling of the eyes is normal
Dating Advice..In a Tough Spot.Never officially said we are a couple either...HELP!!!?
Ok, so I have been seeing a guy since mid March. We spend ALOT of time together. He invites me to stay at his place for almost a week at a time. We have been intimate earlier in the dating, but not so much lately. I help him keep his home clean, he uses my car cause he dont have one, and I take him to work. I basically am TOO good to him I guess. We havent fought or anything.
When he introduces me to people, he calls me his ';girl';. Not girlfriend. I dont know what he means. But yesterday after I took him to work to come home, he kissed me and things seemed ok. I have been a little suspicious of him. No reason to be(except he keeps his cell with him ALL the time, like he is scared Im gonna see something).
I made a ';fake'; myspace page and added him. He wrote me, told ';her'; she was attractive and seemed interesting. Wanted to chat more. Even told her he was going to this bar in the town he lives in, and wondered if she had ever been there. ';She'; asked him if he was single, he said yes and sked if she was.
What am I supposed to make of this? I know what I did seems a little overboard,. Do you think I was almost asking for it by doing this? The girl in the pics was hot, and his type. And had same interests as him. I have not heard from him at all today which is strange.
Please just tell me..what do i do? I could use some help. Thanks guys!Dating Advice..In a Tough Spot.Never officially said we are a couple either...HELP!!!?
Try http://www.RelationshipFrontiers.comDating Advice..In a Tough Spot.Never officially said we are a couple either...HELP!!!?
He's playing you. The best thing for you would be to move on and don't look back. No matter how great a guy he is, if he's so willing to ';un-attach'; himself to a stranger online then he isn't really in a relationship with you. Sorry.
When he introduces me to people, he calls me his ';girl';. Not girlfriend. I dont know what he means. But yesterday after I took him to work to come home, he kissed me and things seemed ok. I have been a little suspicious of him. No reason to be(except he keeps his cell with him ALL the time, like he is scared Im gonna see something).
I made a ';fake'; myspace page and added him. He wrote me, told ';her'; she was attractive and seemed interesting. Wanted to chat more. Even told her he was going to this bar in the town he lives in, and wondered if she had ever been there. ';She'; asked him if he was single, he said yes and sked if she was.
What am I supposed to make of this? I know what I did seems a little overboard,. Do you think I was almost asking for it by doing this? The girl in the pics was hot, and his type. And had same interests as him. I have not heard from him at all today which is strange.
Please just tell me..what do i do? I could use some help. Thanks guys!Dating Advice..In a Tough Spot.Never officially said we are a couple either...HELP!!!?
Try http://www.RelationshipFrontiers.comDating Advice..In a Tough Spot.Never officially said we are a couple either...HELP!!!?
He's playing you. The best thing for you would be to move on and don't look back. No matter how great a guy he is, if he's so willing to ';un-attach'; himself to a stranger online then he isn't really in a relationship with you. Sorry.
What is your financial advice for a soon to be married 24 year old couple?
My fiance and I are getting married 10/31/2008. We rent an apartment. We have a car loan, a personal loan, and I have a credit card. We owe about $25,000 in debt because of the loans and credit card. The interest on each is over 25% APR. We don't have any children yet. We have about $40 in savings. We have a keep the change account. We have $1,000 in a checking account. Which we still need to pay some bills out of that money. We make about $2,700 a month. We've paid all our bills on time for the last year. We don't have a 401K, IRA, CD, mutual funds, or stock. We would like to retire around 65. Both our credit scores are under 620. What can we do to improve our financial situation?What is your financial advice for a soon to be married 24 year old couple?
Work hard and save for a rainy day..What is your financial advice for a soon to be married 24 year old couple?
Combined put no less then 10% of your income in a retirement fund. More if possible, no less. Put 5% in a college fund, I learned that too late and will be paying interest loans off for the kids for 10 year on my share and they on theirs.
Being as both these funds can be deducted as tax deffered it will not cost as much as the math shows at 15%. Learn to do with out that little now or a lot later.
you need to learn to stop useing credit cards pay off car and try to be cheap skates as much as possible you will be much happier later hold off on a house till you can afford to pay at least 6 months of house payments with your savings just incase your job ever goes south
Get rid of them loans as a first priority and until you do, make sure you use contraception.
the other poster are correct.
However, here is a major problem with any goals that you have for saving and paying off debt.
You only earn 32,000 a year (if your figure was after taxes) or less then 40k a year before taxes.
You must focus on ways to increase your income. At 24 y/o, you need to think about additional education. Either college or trade school. Spend the next several years going back to school at night.
Spend the next several years living as cheaply as possible. Have your husband and you make a game out of it. Love isn't something that you have to buy.
You need a nest egg. Congratulations on your wedding too.
Before you get married, open a 401k with each of your employers. Put in a minimum amount of 3% each pay period. This is in case (Sorry) sometime in the future, you guys part ways. You wouldn't be able to make a claim on the others retirement.
Before or after you get married, open an IRA. I think the minimum deposit is $1,000 with most banks.
A 401k isn't enough to secure your future. You should each open an IRA.
Keep paying your bills on time and keep the credit card expenses to emergencies.
I wouldn't advise buying a house anytime soon even thought the prices are low. As it is, you barely have enough to save. A house also comes with additional expenses.
Shopping wise, wait on the clearance sales. Grocery-wise, buy the store brands and not the popular name brands (Most of the store brands are made by the same makers anyway). If you're having to eat out at a restaurant, find out what their larger dishes are and share. Keep the going out to a minimum once a month. Forget the fancy coffee. Take your coffee money and put it in a jar somewhere in case you need extra cash.
Go pick up a book about saving for the long term.
You absolutely positively HAVE to pay off the loans and CC's with the 25 % APR. Find the cheapest rent, ditch the car for one that runs but you can afford right now (Like 1500 or less). Write down all of your absolute expenses for the month like rent, electric and food and cut every other thing that is not a life's necessity OUT until the debt is paid off and you have at least 6 months of living expense money stowed away. That means no eating out, going to movies, buying clothes or impulse items at the store. At the grocery you shop the sales for the week and menu plan around them. Learn to extend food, eat rice and beans and buy things that are getting ready to be tossed. Do not take out any more credit, sign for any more loans. If you can, go get a second job (both of you) until you get the debt paid.
I KNOW that may sound ridiculous, but it isn't. You cannot possibly save for family and home much less retirement with that debt hanging over you. You two will feel like a million bucks when it is paid and you are free.
also - pack the lunch, write down every last cent that you spend and you and your husband sit down every week and review it to see how you did, how to improve and to make sure you two are on the same page.
Financial hardships are a big reason why people split. it is stressful and rough on love (esp. new marriage when there are already new stresses). Sit down with your guy, give yourselves a pep talk, write down your expenses and plan on paying it off and start immediately.
Good luck and congrats
The biggest thing is how you live, your saving/spending habits. You will need to establish good money habits. Make a budget and live by it. Live on less than you make.
Debt usually plays against you when you are trying to build wealth so that is the first thing to go. Dump as much money as you can towards the debt. If you are really serious about building wealth get rid of you car and buy a car you can afford. Cars don't appreciate in value but depreciate so they are a terrible thing to buy if you are trying to build wealth. If you can't pay for it you can't afford it therefore don't buy it.
You should check out daveramsey.com
Work hard and save for a rainy day..What is your financial advice for a soon to be married 24 year old couple?
Combined put no less then 10% of your income in a retirement fund. More if possible, no less. Put 5% in a college fund, I learned that too late and will be paying interest loans off for the kids for 10 year on my share and they on theirs.
Being as both these funds can be deducted as tax deffered it will not cost as much as the math shows at 15%. Learn to do with out that little now or a lot later.
you need to learn to stop useing credit cards pay off car and try to be cheap skates as much as possible you will be much happier later hold off on a house till you can afford to pay at least 6 months of house payments with your savings just incase your job ever goes south
Get rid of them loans as a first priority and until you do, make sure you use contraception.
the other poster are correct.
However, here is a major problem with any goals that you have for saving and paying off debt.
You only earn 32,000 a year (if your figure was after taxes) or less then 40k a year before taxes.
You must focus on ways to increase your income. At 24 y/o, you need to think about additional education. Either college or trade school. Spend the next several years going back to school at night.
Spend the next several years living as cheaply as possible. Have your husband and you make a game out of it. Love isn't something that you have to buy.
You need a nest egg. Congratulations on your wedding too.
Before you get married, open a 401k with each of your employers. Put in a minimum amount of 3% each pay period. This is in case (Sorry) sometime in the future, you guys part ways. You wouldn't be able to make a claim on the others retirement.
Before or after you get married, open an IRA. I think the minimum deposit is $1,000 with most banks.
A 401k isn't enough to secure your future. You should each open an IRA.
Keep paying your bills on time and keep the credit card expenses to emergencies.
I wouldn't advise buying a house anytime soon even thought the prices are low. As it is, you barely have enough to save. A house also comes with additional expenses.
Shopping wise, wait on the clearance sales. Grocery-wise, buy the store brands and not the popular name brands (Most of the store brands are made by the same makers anyway). If you're having to eat out at a restaurant, find out what their larger dishes are and share. Keep the going out to a minimum once a month. Forget the fancy coffee. Take your coffee money and put it in a jar somewhere in case you need extra cash.
Go pick up a book about saving for the long term.
You absolutely positively HAVE to pay off the loans and CC's with the 25 % APR. Find the cheapest rent, ditch the car for one that runs but you can afford right now (Like 1500 or less). Write down all of your absolute expenses for the month like rent, electric and food and cut every other thing that is not a life's necessity OUT until the debt is paid off and you have at least 6 months of living expense money stowed away. That means no eating out, going to movies, buying clothes or impulse items at the store. At the grocery you shop the sales for the week and menu plan around them. Learn to extend food, eat rice and beans and buy things that are getting ready to be tossed. Do not take out any more credit, sign for any more loans. If you can, go get a second job (both of you) until you get the debt paid.
I KNOW that may sound ridiculous, but it isn't. You cannot possibly save for family and home much less retirement with that debt hanging over you. You two will feel like a million bucks when it is paid and you are free.
also - pack the lunch, write down every last cent that you spend and you and your husband sit down every week and review it to see how you did, how to improve and to make sure you two are on the same page.
Financial hardships are a big reason why people split. it is stressful and rough on love (esp. new marriage when there are already new stresses). Sit down with your guy, give yourselves a pep talk, write down your expenses and plan on paying it off and start immediately.
Good luck and congrats
The biggest thing is how you live, your saving/spending habits. You will need to establish good money habits. Make a budget and live by it. Live on less than you make.
Debt usually plays against you when you are trying to build wealth so that is the first thing to go. Dump as much money as you can towards the debt. If you are really serious about building wealth get rid of you car and buy a car you can afford. Cars don't appreciate in value but depreciate so they are a terrible thing to buy if you are trying to build wealth. If you can't pay for it you can't afford it therefore don't buy it.
You should check out daveramsey.com
In an arranged marriage, if the couple is having marital problems, who do they consult for advice?
How does a couple in an Indian arranged marriage solve their marital problems? Do they:
A: Talk to their prospective inlaws or parents about it?
B: Do they ignore it hoping that it will eventually go away?
C: Do they adjust to their differences just to keep the peace?
D: Do they EVER consult a therapist?
How do problems get solved in a joint family? Does everyone pitch in and give their two cents worth?
Let's hear YOUR two cents worth!In an arranged marriage, if the couple is having marital problems, who do they consult for advice?
If you go down the line of a fully arranged marriage. The couple live with the boys parents and the new wife becomes part of their family not her old family. Now depending on how arranged a marriage is as it does vary a lot in the western world. Will depend on what they do if they have problems.
Fully arranged old style they put up and shut up. the women does as she should and looks after her husband. The husbands pays all the bills. They have children and just live there lives the best they can without much love. Wife will still give husband sex otherwise he will go and get it somewhere else. wife would not do the same.
Arranged but more modern style they walk talk it through themselves as would not want to admit to having problems may talk to say a sister for help and advice.
Arranged love marriage - the couple wanted to get married, they would talk it through with both lots of parents if they can.
Other then that like all relationships you have to try and sort out your problems.In an arranged marriage, if the couple is having marital problems, who do they consult for advice?
i prefer close relatives and person who refer to each other, don't involve friends when making final decision, close relatives are more concerned about their social status and both the parties will be very cautious in any decision,s while friends can be very liberal and that's the way to end the relationship b'case friends does not has to care about social status, this is who believes status is important in their life. I TRIED TO GET SOME RELATIVES OF MY WIFE BUT SHE HAS RELATIVES WHEN IT'S TIME TO INVITE OR GIVE GIFTS BUT NOT WHEN WE NEED THEM TO RESOLVE MANY MAJOR PROBLEMS.
They need to consult the individuals who made the arrangements and tell them that they made a horrible decision. No, they need to get marriage counseling from a professional.
I would think that it's the same as a Western marriage. Discuss it amongst themselves, perhaps individually getting opinions from their parents, and then resorting to therapy if necessary.
C: Do they adjust to their differences just to keep the peace?
Its arranged everyone is just going tell you how stupid you were for doing that. So you just deal with it....
go to whom arranged the marriage.........
anywhere, where free choice don't exist, peace of mind is absent, that's my 2 cents worth, for what it's worth........thanks for asking
i think C is appropriate for me
Holy crap....this isn't india first of all.
Second.....PHEWEEI!
Soap! Right now!
google: relationship skills
and LEARN HOW to make a good one!
get the heck out of there, fast
at first...(first 6 moths)we consulted our parents...coz we lived in the same city...then when we moved ,we grew up..lol ..now we solve it ourselves !!!!
hmmm problem ... it gets solved out like any other problem..the arranged marraige couple r no diffrent from love ones... i think the options B and C fit in .. and they fight over issues .. they r no diffrent than couples who get together with love...
in india u can,t diffrentiate between a love marraige coupple and arrange marraige couple ... until they tell u
EDIT: i have added some more stuff to my answer to ur other question.. i guess u gave it low rating so can,t see it.. didn,t mean to hurt ya but i felt saying that to u reading ur answers..
i know but was talking about genaral society..
A: Talk to their prospective inlaws or parents about it?
B: Do they ignore it hoping that it will eventually go away?
C: Do they adjust to their differences just to keep the peace?
D: Do they EVER consult a therapist?
How do problems get solved in a joint family? Does everyone pitch in and give their two cents worth?
Let's hear YOUR two cents worth!In an arranged marriage, if the couple is having marital problems, who do they consult for advice?
If you go down the line of a fully arranged marriage. The couple live with the boys parents and the new wife becomes part of their family not her old family. Now depending on how arranged a marriage is as it does vary a lot in the western world. Will depend on what they do if they have problems.
Fully arranged old style they put up and shut up. the women does as she should and looks after her husband. The husbands pays all the bills. They have children and just live there lives the best they can without much love. Wife will still give husband sex otherwise he will go and get it somewhere else. wife would not do the same.
Arranged but more modern style they walk talk it through themselves as would not want to admit to having problems may talk to say a sister for help and advice.
Arranged love marriage - the couple wanted to get married, they would talk it through with both lots of parents if they can.
Other then that like all relationships you have to try and sort out your problems.In an arranged marriage, if the couple is having marital problems, who do they consult for advice?
i prefer close relatives and person who refer to each other, don't involve friends when making final decision, close relatives are more concerned about their social status and both the parties will be very cautious in any decision,s while friends can be very liberal and that's the way to end the relationship b'case friends does not has to care about social status, this is who believes status is important in their life. I TRIED TO GET SOME RELATIVES OF MY WIFE BUT SHE HAS RELATIVES WHEN IT'S TIME TO INVITE OR GIVE GIFTS BUT NOT WHEN WE NEED THEM TO RESOLVE MANY MAJOR PROBLEMS.
They need to consult the individuals who made the arrangements and tell them that they made a horrible decision. No, they need to get marriage counseling from a professional.
I would think that it's the same as a Western marriage. Discuss it amongst themselves, perhaps individually getting opinions from their parents, and then resorting to therapy if necessary.
C: Do they adjust to their differences just to keep the peace?
Its arranged everyone is just going tell you how stupid you were for doing that. So you just deal with it....
go to whom arranged the marriage.........
anywhere, where free choice don't exist, peace of mind is absent, that's my 2 cents worth, for what it's worth........thanks for asking
i think C is appropriate for me
Holy crap....this isn't india first of all.
Second.....PHEWEEI!
Soap! Right now!
google: relationship skills
and LEARN HOW to make a good one!
get the heck out of there, fast
at first...(first 6 moths)we consulted our parents...coz we lived in the same city...then when we moved ,we grew up..lol ..now we solve it ourselves !!!!
hmmm problem ... it gets solved out like any other problem..the arranged marraige couple r no diffrent from love ones... i think the options B and C fit in .. and they fight over issues .. they r no diffrent than couples who get together with love...
in india u can,t diffrentiate between a love marraige coupple and arrange marraige couple ... until they tell u
EDIT: i have added some more stuff to my answer to ur other question.. i guess u gave it low rating so can,t see it.. didn,t mean to hurt ya but i felt saying that to u reading ur answers..
i know but was talking about genaral society..
Advice on how a 13 year old girl can loose a couple pounds?
I'm almost 14 years old I'm 5'2 and i'm 120 pounds,
I've put on about 15 pounds since the beginingg of this year.
I'm still growing I understand that but .......
in Marchh I began pigging out, I believe I was eating because of stress and emotional reasons.
Now all of this is haunting me lol. Gaining so much weight sucks! My jeans are tighter and I'm not comfortable. I'd like to loose 10 pounds.
I know that loosing weight doesn't work like magic, even though I'd wish it did it's going to take a lot of my part.
I started getting back on track, not eating junkfoood but eating healthier.
So I've been jogging building up my stamana again.
That'll come in handy when I go back to school.
Doing crunches. But what does that really do?
How much weight is it possible to loose in a month?
I'd like to focus on ';love handles'; my hips and my tummy.
I've gotten that wierd fat on your ribs. I want my flat tummy again ):
Any advice? Or something like personal expierience,
I'd appreciate :) haha. please %26amp;%26amp; THANKS!Advice on how a 13 year old girl can loose a couple pounds?
ATKINS DIET!
lost 35 pounds in 2 weeks by restricting carbs yeah for me!!!!
i am 15Advice on how a 13 year old girl can loose a couple pounds?
your still growing...try to make healthy food choices most of the time, stay active and have FUN!!! Drink lots of water and if you feel like you want to eat try making healthy versions of junk foods that you would eat. For instance if you want Pizza, get a pita bread or an english muffin with pizza sauce and low fat mozerella cheese. They you won't need to worry at all!
try eating healthy like wheat foods, and feggies, and always eat breakfast, but when ever you eat a meal try and only eat half of whatever you would normally eat, cut out the sugars and fatty foods...good luck and keep exercising that will definitely help
I've put on about 15 pounds since the beginingg of this year.
I'm still growing I understand that but .......
in Marchh I began pigging out, I believe I was eating because of stress and emotional reasons.
Now all of this is haunting me lol. Gaining so much weight sucks! My jeans are tighter and I'm not comfortable. I'd like to loose 10 pounds.
I know that loosing weight doesn't work like magic, even though I'd wish it did it's going to take a lot of my part.
I started getting back on track, not eating junkfoood but eating healthier.
So I've been jogging building up my stamana again.
That'll come in handy when I go back to school.
Doing crunches. But what does that really do?
How much weight is it possible to loose in a month?
I'd like to focus on ';love handles'; my hips and my tummy.
I've gotten that wierd fat on your ribs. I want my flat tummy again ):
Any advice? Or something like personal expierience,
I'd appreciate :) haha. please %26amp;%26amp; THANKS!Advice on how a 13 year old girl can loose a couple pounds?
ATKINS DIET!
lost 35 pounds in 2 weeks by restricting carbs yeah for me!!!!
i am 15Advice on how a 13 year old girl can loose a couple pounds?
your still growing...try to make healthy food choices most of the time, stay active and have FUN!!! Drink lots of water and if you feel like you want to eat try making healthy versions of junk foods that you would eat. For instance if you want Pizza, get a pita bread or an english muffin with pizza sauce and low fat mozerella cheese. They you won't need to worry at all!
try eating healthy like wheat foods, and feggies, and always eat breakfast, but when ever you eat a meal try and only eat half of whatever you would normally eat, cut out the sugars and fatty foods...good luck and keep exercising that will definitely help
Girls!!Guys!!Any advice?My gf and I, have'nt spoken for a couple of days and it isn't all bad but,?
Maybe, i'm just being paranoid.First, she had her phone cut off, so I can only call her on her mobile and I did Wed night, then Thurs morning.Problem, is even though I said I'd call her on the weekend, now I'm worried, 'cos I called her last night and only got her voicemail.
Called, couple times, then sent txt, 2 say think bout her.Other thing, I know she's got kids, so, could be busy most times, or have an early night.So, you think maybe, she's not ignoring me?Or she just have her phone switched off, 'cos she want some space 'cos she's stressed with kids and bills and now her home phone cut off?Should I try her later 2nite?Then maybe, just leave for couple of days?She, hasn't got credit to txt back, so I know she's got my txts, just be good to hear she's ok tho!!Girls!!Guys!!Any advice?My gf and I, have'nt spoken for a couple of days and it isn't all bad but,?
She may be ignoring you, and yes that is a bad sign. Now you have to find out why. Don't start to make up situations/scenarios on why this is happening, but only think about the facts and what you do know - that she had her phone cut off and that you have been trying to reach out to her, and she has not contacted you. Stop for a couple of days, and she if she responds to any of your missed calls and/or texts.eye liner
Called, couple times, then sent txt, 2 say think bout her.Other thing, I know she's got kids, so, could be busy most times, or have an early night.So, you think maybe, she's not ignoring me?Or she just have her phone switched off, 'cos she want some space 'cos she's stressed with kids and bills and now her home phone cut off?Should I try her later 2nite?Then maybe, just leave for couple of days?She, hasn't got credit to txt back, so I know she's got my txts, just be good to hear she's ok tho!!Girls!!Guys!!Any advice?My gf and I, have'nt spoken for a couple of days and it isn't all bad but,?
She may be ignoring you, and yes that is a bad sign. Now you have to find out why. Don't start to make up situations/scenarios on why this is happening, but only think about the facts and what you do know - that she had her phone cut off and that you have been trying to reach out to her, and she has not contacted you. Stop for a couple of days, and she if she responds to any of your missed calls and/or texts.
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