A: Talk to their prospective inlaws or parents about it?
B: Do they ignore it hoping that it will eventually go away?
C: Do they adjust to their differences just to keep the peace?
D: Do they EVER consult a therapist?
How do problems get solved in a joint family? Does everyone pitch in and give their two cents worth?
Let's hear YOUR two cents worth!In an arranged marriage, if the couple is having marital problems, who do they consult for advice?
If you go down the line of a fully arranged marriage. The couple live with the boys parents and the new wife becomes part of their family not her old family. Now depending on how arranged a marriage is as it does vary a lot in the western world. Will depend on what they do if they have problems.
Fully arranged old style they put up and shut up. the women does as she should and looks after her husband. The husbands pays all the bills. They have children and just live there lives the best they can without much love. Wife will still give husband sex otherwise he will go and get it somewhere else. wife would not do the same.
Arranged but more modern style they walk talk it through themselves as would not want to admit to having problems may talk to say a sister for help and advice.
Arranged love marriage - the couple wanted to get married, they would talk it through with both lots of parents if they can.
Other then that like all relationships you have to try and sort out your problems.In an arranged marriage, if the couple is having marital problems, who do they consult for advice?
i prefer close relatives and person who refer to each other, don't involve friends when making final decision, close relatives are more concerned about their social status and both the parties will be very cautious in any decision,s while friends can be very liberal and that's the way to end the relationship b'case friends does not has to care about social status, this is who believes status is important in their life. I TRIED TO GET SOME RELATIVES OF MY WIFE BUT SHE HAS RELATIVES WHEN IT'S TIME TO INVITE OR GIVE GIFTS BUT NOT WHEN WE NEED THEM TO RESOLVE MANY MAJOR PROBLEMS.
They need to consult the individuals who made the arrangements and tell them that they made a horrible decision. No, they need to get marriage counseling from a professional.
I would think that it's the same as a Western marriage. Discuss it amongst themselves, perhaps individually getting opinions from their parents, and then resorting to therapy if necessary.
C: Do they adjust to their differences just to keep the peace?
Its arranged everyone is just going tell you how stupid you were for doing that. So you just deal with it....
go to whom arranged the marriage.........
anywhere, where free choice don't exist, peace of mind is absent, that's my 2 cents worth, for what it's worth........thanks for asking
i think C is appropriate for me
Holy crap....this isn't india first of all.
Second.....PHEWEEI!
Soap! Right now!
google: relationship skills
and LEARN HOW to make a good one!
get the heck out of there, fast
at first...(first 6 moths)we consulted our parents...coz we lived in the same city...then when we moved ,we grew up..lol ..now we solve it ourselves !!!!
hmmm problem ... it gets solved out like any other problem..the arranged marraige couple r no diffrent from love ones... i think the options B and C fit in .. and they fight over issues .. they r no diffrent than couples who get together with love...
in india u can,t diffrentiate between a love marraige coupple and arrange marraige couple ... until they tell u
EDIT: i have added some more stuff to my answer to ur other question.. i guess u gave it low rating so can,t see it.. didn,t mean to hurt ya but i felt saying that to u reading ur answers..
i know but was talking about genaral society..
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