Im going to a medium sized college in the northeast and am excited and nervous. Im an only child and dont know what college is really like.. Any last minute advice for me.. thx!Im going to college in a couple of days. Any advice?
Manage your time well and get into campus activities and groups if possible. They are a great way to meet new and interesting people. Having friends that are in college keeps your spirits up because they can relate to your troubles or achievements. If you need to get into a graduate school (med, law, architecture for example) getting into campus activities shows you're much more than just grades.
Time management is really important because of all the distractions. There will be some tough choices (to party or not to party...among others), but if you need to get work done procrastinating is a quick way to a mediocre grade. After saying this, you should also remember that you do need to have some fun. It makes you feel better and refreshed after a hard test or a studying for 6 hours straight. Work hard and play hard. Good luck! :)Im going to college in a couple of days. Any advice?
Don't worry too much. It is like any other school you've been too. But people are alot more serious and mature.
Thursday, December 31, 2009
Need advice! I want to be an elementary teacher, but I also want a couple more tattoos. Is this a bad idea?
I want to be a good role model and not a bad influence. I already have a yin-yang on my ankle. Should I not get anymore because I want to be a teacher? Do any other teachers have tattoos?Need advice! I want to be an elementary teacher, but I also want a couple more tattoos. Is this a bad idea?
I wouldn't have a problem with a teacher having tattoos so long as they're tasteful (no naked images, etc). You shouldn't have any problems anyway if you're willing to put them somewhere that they would be covered up while on campus -- if you wear long sleeves, nobody will see your arms anyway. And IF someone tries to bully you into letting them see if you have any, well... that's considered harassment.Need advice! I want to be an elementary teacher, but I also want a couple more tattoos. Is this a bad idea?
Would you want your kid taught by someone who was covered in tattoos? If you want to teach in elementary school then just don't get anymore that show. Having a lot of tattoos all over are certainly going to put off many of your job interviewers who, because they are interviewing for elementary school jobs, tend to be on the conservative side.
At pharmacy stores they sell ';coach tape'; If you get tatoos that are visable cover them up at school. Yes the teachers at my school have tatoots but only on there back and stuff.
Get them.
Keep them covered during your interviews.
Only let them be seen if you want to waste several hours explaining them to the kids.
What DOLT would worry about a teacher having tattoos and teaching their kids? Only a closed minded, neo-con...........
Dont worry about it............get the ink...........
I wouldn't hire a teacher with visible tattoos. I don't want my daughter thinking that it's acceptable, when in actuality women with tattoos are treated differently. Men have less respect for women with lots of tattoos and I'm not the only one who thinks so. Every man I know agrees with me and they discussed it one day on the morning show on WMMR. You have the right to decorate yourself however you see fit, but you have to realize that your looks are the first thing people notice about you, and right or wrong, they make snap decisions based on those looks.
We need more teachers. You might make a good one, if the kids see tatoos they might get some ideas. We don't want little kids going out getting tatoos. Keep it covered and if you can't, then explain that it never comes off.
Just don't have the tattoo where it is visible. And don't show it to your students. As a teacher you must be a good example. If you're planning to teach your students about having tattoos and piercings as a bad thing, then you have to practice what you preach. If it's the other way around, then having a tattoo is okay.
the school systems may have rules that all tattoos you have have to be covered. i know that a lot of other places of employment do, like department stores. i'm pretty sure teachers have them, but they aren't necessarily visible.
even though a lot of parents have tattoos, and they are becoming more socially acceptable, there is still a conservative contingent out there who might not like their child's teacher to have a visible tattoo.
They have, but this is not the issue.
You have already said it is important to you to be a good role model, so you must have already given this some thought, or have had advice that is making you think twice.
There are places of employment that frown upon piercings, and tattoo's.
I do believe piercings should be removed, and visible tattoo's should be covered with cover up during work hours.
What people do after hours is each persons choice.
But as a teacher you should be an example on, and off the job.
What teachers, and parents model is just as important, since it gives needed validity to what we teach.
Just don't get any that are too visible.
And don't sleep with the students, please.
God where were you when I was in school? Thats so so HOT!
tattoos are a statement and i would think you would encourage young people to make statements as long as no one is hurt. go for it.
Tatoos allow others to more easily judge you prematurely by sight alone. Whether the conclusions they draw are accurate or not, your interactions and negotiations with employers, parents, and students will always be inhibited by questions of your character.
Sad fact of life, but people judge on appearance, and when it comes to kids, parents are VERY protective, sometimes even irrational. Visible tatoos won't start you off on the right foot with them.
At the elementary school level, students are at an age where they are being taught to accept themselves for who they are. Body modification by their role models and mentors sends mixed messages. Tatoos also evoke certain aspects of life that young children don't need to know about. How will you feel when you reaach to erase the blackboard and your 7 year old students see the ';bullseye'; on your lower-back?
My advice: wait until you are teaching for a few years and decide then if they are appropriate.
You're a person too %26amp; you need to be you BUT.....you just need to show some tact %26amp; some class in how you do it. Elementry kids are very influenceable %26amp; it would be sad if you started them off in the wrong direction for whatever reason. Ink up!
Be yourself...if you want more tattoos in your body..go on..as long as your happy in whatever you made for yourself..but..as an elementary teacher with tattoos?..Not!..Its not good as a teacher like that..and i dont think that Dept.of Educ.are allowing you to do that...
You must think twice before you decide to put more tattoos..
Best luck to you!
I wouldn't have a problem with a teacher having tattoos so long as they're tasteful (no naked images, etc). You shouldn't have any problems anyway if you're willing to put them somewhere that they would be covered up while on campus -- if you wear long sleeves, nobody will see your arms anyway. And IF someone tries to bully you into letting them see if you have any, well... that's considered harassment.Need advice! I want to be an elementary teacher, but I also want a couple more tattoos. Is this a bad idea?
Would you want your kid taught by someone who was covered in tattoos? If you want to teach in elementary school then just don't get anymore that show. Having a lot of tattoos all over are certainly going to put off many of your job interviewers who, because they are interviewing for elementary school jobs, tend to be on the conservative side.
At pharmacy stores they sell ';coach tape'; If you get tatoos that are visable cover them up at school. Yes the teachers at my school have tatoots but only on there back and stuff.
Get them.
Keep them covered during your interviews.
Only let them be seen if you want to waste several hours explaining them to the kids.
What DOLT would worry about a teacher having tattoos and teaching their kids? Only a closed minded, neo-con...........
Dont worry about it............get the ink...........
I wouldn't hire a teacher with visible tattoos. I don't want my daughter thinking that it's acceptable, when in actuality women with tattoos are treated differently. Men have less respect for women with lots of tattoos and I'm not the only one who thinks so. Every man I know agrees with me and they discussed it one day on the morning show on WMMR. You have the right to decorate yourself however you see fit, but you have to realize that your looks are the first thing people notice about you, and right or wrong, they make snap decisions based on those looks.
We need more teachers. You might make a good one, if the kids see tatoos they might get some ideas. We don't want little kids going out getting tatoos. Keep it covered and if you can't, then explain that it never comes off.
Just don't have the tattoo where it is visible. And don't show it to your students. As a teacher you must be a good example. If you're planning to teach your students about having tattoos and piercings as a bad thing, then you have to practice what you preach. If it's the other way around, then having a tattoo is okay.
the school systems may have rules that all tattoos you have have to be covered. i know that a lot of other places of employment do, like department stores. i'm pretty sure teachers have them, but they aren't necessarily visible.
even though a lot of parents have tattoos, and they are becoming more socially acceptable, there is still a conservative contingent out there who might not like their child's teacher to have a visible tattoo.
They have, but this is not the issue.
You have already said it is important to you to be a good role model, so you must have already given this some thought, or have had advice that is making you think twice.
There are places of employment that frown upon piercings, and tattoo's.
I do believe piercings should be removed, and visible tattoo's should be covered with cover up during work hours.
What people do after hours is each persons choice.
But as a teacher you should be an example on, and off the job.
What teachers, and parents model is just as important, since it gives needed validity to what we teach.
Just don't get any that are too visible.
And don't sleep with the students, please.
God where were you when I was in school? Thats so so HOT!
tattoos are a statement and i would think you would encourage young people to make statements as long as no one is hurt. go for it.
Tatoos allow others to more easily judge you prematurely by sight alone. Whether the conclusions they draw are accurate or not, your interactions and negotiations with employers, parents, and students will always be inhibited by questions of your character.
Sad fact of life, but people judge on appearance, and when it comes to kids, parents are VERY protective, sometimes even irrational. Visible tatoos won't start you off on the right foot with them.
At the elementary school level, students are at an age where they are being taught to accept themselves for who they are. Body modification by their role models and mentors sends mixed messages. Tatoos also evoke certain aspects of life that young children don't need to know about. How will you feel when you reaach to erase the blackboard and your 7 year old students see the ';bullseye'; on your lower-back?
My advice: wait until you are teaching for a few years and decide then if they are appropriate.
You're a person too %26amp; you need to be you BUT.....you just need to show some tact %26amp; some class in how you do it. Elementry kids are very influenceable %26amp; it would be sad if you started them off in the wrong direction for whatever reason. Ink up!
Be yourself...if you want more tattoos in your body..go on..as long as your happy in whatever you made for yourself..but..as an elementary teacher with tattoos?..Not!..Its not good as a teacher like that..and i dont think that Dept.of Educ.are allowing you to do that...
You must think twice before you decide to put more tattoos..
Best luck to you!
Mix relig, couples I need help!can not find good reason to have faith in god, fiance sad/worried. Any advice?
My fiance just recently, durring some hard times has found god again and is immensely worried about our afterlives. I have never found a need to believe in god and especialy not in the rules of her religion, shes catholic. She is sad because I can not share in her enthusiasim for religion and she is worried I will be damned to hell when I die. I get where she is coming from but as of now I still dont see a need to believe other than to please her and for the selfish reason of wanting to spend the rest of eternity with her in heaven.
I would like to hear from anyone but especialy from people in mixed religion relationships (one believes in one thing while the other believes in something entierly diff. or nothing at all) on how you would or do deal with a situation like this. Could you be happy if your significant other belived diffrently or, are you happy if this is your life? Any help is appreciated, thank you.Mix relig, couples I need help!can not find good reason to have faith in god, fiance sad/worried. Any advice?
hmm while me and my soon-to-be ex wife are both atheists or at least I am an atheist and she might be an agnostic instead, I will say this...
if you really love her then if I were you, I would talk it out and tell her exactly what you want. if you dont want to change your views(cause thats what itsounds like) either she needs to respect that part of you or you need to find someone that does. Relationships are always about compromise, but honestly I wouldnt want to sell myself short just for love...Mix relig, couples I need help!can not find good reason to have faith in god, fiance sad/worried. Any advice?
Dump her. Run as fast as you can and never look back!
Scripture says that the faith of a believing wife can sanctify the unbelieving husband.
Church can not save you nor attending church but it is how you worship God that saves you. It's not the building or religion that saves either. Catholic, Baptist, Seventh day Adventist, Christians etc. are all different translation of the same ';Jesus Christ';.
Religion involves Rule's and Regulations and the different religions have different R%26amp;R. So it's not where you worship its how you worship. Church is supposed to be the place where you will get information on how to worship God, but be carefull whose teaching what.
Don't get me wrong, I am not trying to discourage you from attending church with your fiance, I am trying to encourage you to worship God in Correctness. 1Corinthians 13 is one of the best places to get one's bearing.
There is one thing that's in your favor..... A woman that takes worshipping Christ serious will never cheat on you, but the down side is religion. Some churches do teach unmarried couples that sleeping together without being married is a sin. But there is a remedy to this dilema.
So I wish you well and I hope that you both find God and happiness together.natural lipstick
I would like to hear from anyone but especialy from people in mixed religion relationships (one believes in one thing while the other believes in something entierly diff. or nothing at all) on how you would or do deal with a situation like this. Could you be happy if your significant other belived diffrently or, are you happy if this is your life? Any help is appreciated, thank you.Mix relig, couples I need help!can not find good reason to have faith in god, fiance sad/worried. Any advice?
hmm while me and my soon-to-be ex wife are both atheists or at least I am an atheist and she might be an agnostic instead, I will say this...
if you really love her then if I were you, I would talk it out and tell her exactly what you want. if you dont want to change your views(cause thats what itsounds like) either she needs to respect that part of you or you need to find someone that does. Relationships are always about compromise, but honestly I wouldnt want to sell myself short just for love...Mix relig, couples I need help!can not find good reason to have faith in god, fiance sad/worried. Any advice?
Dump her. Run as fast as you can and never look back!
Scripture says that the faith of a believing wife can sanctify the unbelieving husband.
Church can not save you nor attending church but it is how you worship God that saves you. It's not the building or religion that saves either. Catholic, Baptist, Seventh day Adventist, Christians etc. are all different translation of the same ';Jesus Christ';.
Religion involves Rule's and Regulations and the different religions have different R%26amp;R. So it's not where you worship its how you worship. Church is supposed to be the place where you will get information on how to worship God, but be carefull whose teaching what.
Don't get me wrong, I am not trying to discourage you from attending church with your fiance, I am trying to encourage you to worship God in Correctness. 1Corinthians 13 is one of the best places to get one's bearing.
There is one thing that's in your favor..... A woman that takes worshipping Christ serious will never cheat on you, but the down side is religion. Some churches do teach unmarried couples that sleeping together without being married is a sin. But there is a remedy to this dilema.
So I wish you well and I hope that you both find God and happiness together.
I am leaving for California in a couple days, Can anyone give me advice on where to go in San Diego?
I am going to San Diego first, then we are going to San Francisco for a few days. I'm going with my boyfriend, but neither of us have ever been to CA, so I'm afraid we might miss out on some great stuff since we won't know where to go. Can anyone give me suggestions? I want to go to as many scenic places as possible, and to some nice beaches, restaurants, parks, etc. Any advice on where to go, park, visit, etc would be appreciated! Also, any advice on some cheap places as well? :) We want to go to nice places, but save some cash whenever possible because this trip is costing a fortune :)I am leaving for California in a couple days, Can anyone give me advice on where to go in San Diego?
San Diego Zoo, then on way north, Universal Studios is best in LA, take the coast up north and see Hearst Castle in San Simeon, go through 17 mile drive and stop in Monterey where the Aquarium rocks! Then head to Fisherman's Wharf and do the Alcatraz Tour in San Francisco. Those are my favorite things on that trip and I have lived here for 20 years.I am leaving for California in a couple days, Can anyone give me advice on where to go in San Diego?
san diego..........the moon buffet......great place to eat.......but i live in cali so i know really kool places.......first in san fransisco you'll wanna go on a ferry to the Alcatraz. then Fishermans Wharf.maybe chinatown.......then at sunset......the beach. so romantic. talk to me.
I live in California, kind of close to San Francisco. You picked a great time to visit! The weather is really perfect right now. I live more inland, where it's almost 90, but San Francisco will be in the low to mid-70's.
Be sure to visit the Golden Gate bridge, of course. You'll be able to see for miles in this weather. And Fisherman's Wharf. That's always nice. Sausalito is nice too. You get there by crossing the Golden Gate Bridge. If you've never been to Berkeley, that would be a nice cheap sight-seeing trip, just walking around Telegraph Avenue. I grew up in Berkeley. What a trip! Enjoy your visit!
Go out on a fishing boat.
Tijuana is only an hour away.
When headed north go to Universal Studios Theme Park
To the san diego zoo...
While in San Diego, check out the Gaslamp district for lots of eating and shopping choices. We ate at a chic pizza place there called Sammy's. Horton Plaza is a really nice outdoor mall not to far from the Gaslamp district. You can also do a harbor cruise for some breathtaking photo ops of the city skyline, as well as some interesting history. Cross the bridge to Coronado Island and you'll find some nice public beaches. There is also a great ice cream place there called Moo Time Creamery. If you like museums, Balboa Park has every possible museum you'd ever want to go to, plus it's a really nice place to take a walk (or drive). If you have time, take a drive up to La Jolla -- it's postcard beaufiful! Plus there are awesome shopping and dining choices there as well.
The standard places here are the zoo, the Wild Animal Park and Seaworld. What kind of restaurants are you looking for? There is something for every taste and price. There are several different tours available, Seal tour uses an old amphibious craft and goes on land and on the bay. There is the Harbor Excursion which is pretty cool. You'll want to visit Seaport village and the Embaradero for touristy shopping. If you have any specific questions, just contact me, I'm one of the few native San Diegans left!
The San Diego Zoo is the best. Have Fun
San Diego zoo, Balboa Park, Sea World. On certain days, some of the museums in Balboa park are free. Coronado and La Jolla have the best beaches, I think. For nice restaurant (although pricey), try George's at the Cove or the Marine Room in La Jolla. They have made the Gaslamp area in downtown really nice. Fashion Valley is the best mall in San Diego. Seaport Village can be a fun place to walk around.
San Diego zoo. Also next to that is Balboa Park which has lots of fun stuff.
In SF, the whole place is an amusement park.
You have to visit the San Diego Zoo and SeaWorld. Awesome places to go!! Do not go to legoland. That's the biggest waste of money to mankind. My son hated it and the rides are beyond slow. Also visit the Aircraft Carrier downtown. It's a museum and you get to walk around and see how it feels to be in the Navy. I was on one and when I take people there they can't believe how big it is. Enjoy!!! Lot's of good eating downtown around the Gas lamp district. Also that's were a lot of clubs and bars are to.
San Diego zoo, the Gaslamp Quarter, Seaport Village, Seaworld, Balboa Park. Stay at Motel 6 on Hotel Circle. Take a qucik day trip down to Mexico.
http://www.sitesofsandiego.com/
http://www.sandiego.org/nav/Visitors
http://www.letsplaydowntown.com/
http://gothere.com/sandiego/interactive_鈥?/a>
have fun in my town!
Go to the Harbor and get on the Old Town Trolley. It is an on and off tour that can be picked up at 8 different places. It is 2 hours if you stay on and don't get off. It even takes you to Coronado Island. It's worth the ride. They tell you all about San Diego and you get to see a lot of SightsIn Downtown . You will see the Zoo as it is a stop. You can get on and off all day, stopping at the places you want.
OOOOOH! GO TO SEA WORLD! AND THE ZOO! And for great food, go to Little Italy. For a more cultural setting, go to Balboa Park....IT'S SO FUN!!!!! It's right next to the Zoo. A fun hotel is the W. HAVE FUN!
San Diego Zoo, then on way north, Universal Studios is best in LA, take the coast up north and see Hearst Castle in San Simeon, go through 17 mile drive and stop in Monterey where the Aquarium rocks! Then head to Fisherman's Wharf and do the Alcatraz Tour in San Francisco. Those are my favorite things on that trip and I have lived here for 20 years.I am leaving for California in a couple days, Can anyone give me advice on where to go in San Diego?
san diego..........the moon buffet......great place to eat.......but i live in cali so i know really kool places.......first in san fransisco you'll wanna go on a ferry to the Alcatraz. then Fishermans Wharf.maybe chinatown.......then at sunset......the beach. so romantic. talk to me.
I live in California, kind of close to San Francisco. You picked a great time to visit! The weather is really perfect right now. I live more inland, where it's almost 90, but San Francisco will be in the low to mid-70's.
Be sure to visit the Golden Gate bridge, of course. You'll be able to see for miles in this weather. And Fisherman's Wharf. That's always nice. Sausalito is nice too. You get there by crossing the Golden Gate Bridge. If you've never been to Berkeley, that would be a nice cheap sight-seeing trip, just walking around Telegraph Avenue. I grew up in Berkeley. What a trip! Enjoy your visit!
Go out on a fishing boat.
Tijuana is only an hour away.
When headed north go to Universal Studios Theme Park
To the san diego zoo...
While in San Diego, check out the Gaslamp district for lots of eating and shopping choices. We ate at a chic pizza place there called Sammy's. Horton Plaza is a really nice outdoor mall not to far from the Gaslamp district. You can also do a harbor cruise for some breathtaking photo ops of the city skyline, as well as some interesting history. Cross the bridge to Coronado Island and you'll find some nice public beaches. There is also a great ice cream place there called Moo Time Creamery. If you like museums, Balboa Park has every possible museum you'd ever want to go to, plus it's a really nice place to take a walk (or drive). If you have time, take a drive up to La Jolla -- it's postcard beaufiful! Plus there are awesome shopping and dining choices there as well.
The standard places here are the zoo, the Wild Animal Park and Seaworld. What kind of restaurants are you looking for? There is something for every taste and price. There are several different tours available, Seal tour uses an old amphibious craft and goes on land and on the bay. There is the Harbor Excursion which is pretty cool. You'll want to visit Seaport village and the Embaradero for touristy shopping. If you have any specific questions, just contact me, I'm one of the few native San Diegans left!
The San Diego Zoo is the best. Have Fun
San Diego zoo, Balboa Park, Sea World. On certain days, some of the museums in Balboa park are free. Coronado and La Jolla have the best beaches, I think. For nice restaurant (although pricey), try George's at the Cove or the Marine Room in La Jolla. They have made the Gaslamp area in downtown really nice. Fashion Valley is the best mall in San Diego. Seaport Village can be a fun place to walk around.
San Diego zoo. Also next to that is Balboa Park which has lots of fun stuff.
In SF, the whole place is an amusement park.
You have to visit the San Diego Zoo and SeaWorld. Awesome places to go!! Do not go to legoland. That's the biggest waste of money to mankind. My son hated it and the rides are beyond slow. Also visit the Aircraft Carrier downtown. It's a museum and you get to walk around and see how it feels to be in the Navy. I was on one and when I take people there they can't believe how big it is. Enjoy!!! Lot's of good eating downtown around the Gas lamp district. Also that's were a lot of clubs and bars are to.
San Diego zoo, the Gaslamp Quarter, Seaport Village, Seaworld, Balboa Park. Stay at Motel 6 on Hotel Circle. Take a qucik day trip down to Mexico.
http://www.sitesofsandiego.com/
http://www.sandiego.org/nav/Visitors
http://www.letsplaydowntown.com/
http://gothere.com/sandiego/interactive_鈥?/a>
have fun in my town!
Go to the Harbor and get on the Old Town Trolley. It is an on and off tour that can be picked up at 8 different places. It is 2 hours if you stay on and don't get off. It even takes you to Coronado Island. It's worth the ride. They tell you all about San Diego and you get to see a lot of SightsIn Downtown . You will see the Zoo as it is a stop. You can get on and off all day, stopping at the places you want.
OOOOOH! GO TO SEA WORLD! AND THE ZOO! And for great food, go to Little Italy. For a more cultural setting, go to Balboa Park....IT'S SO FUN!!!!! It's right next to the Zoo. A fun hotel is the W. HAVE FUN!
Advice for a Couple's First time having Sex?
hi, my boyfriend and i have finally decided to engage in intercourse after dating for a year. We are both over 18, and will have only been with each other. Any advice/tips you could give me on the dreaded but exciting ';first time';? Will it be uncomfortable for me? what should we expect the first time? Any Advice/tips/links would be greatly appreciated! thank you.Advice for a Couple's First time having Sex?
Make sure you guys are both comfortable with the timing of having sex and the location. MAKE SURE HE HAS PROTECTION! lol.
Do a lot of foreplay. Such as him eating you out and you jerking him, that way ya'll are both prepared for engaging in sex.
For your first time, it could be painful and it could not be. For some girls, it's unbearable pain. For me, my first time didn't hurt at all. It could depend on the size of your man and how tight you are on how much pain comes along with sex.
The first time ya'll should expect it to be... not great.. since it is your first time :-p But still memorable and special.
=)Advice for a Couple's First time having Sex?
So for your first time, he needs to go SLOW, because it will most likely hurt you and be a little painful but don't worry it's not unbearable. Take things easy don't rush to get it over with, he probably won't last very long during the actual act, but take your time with the foreplay and make sure you are completely ready for this, and relaxed. Also don't like set a day that you're going to have sex, it should be mainly spontaneous and a bit of a surprise. Obviously you should use a condom (that's a give in) or if you are on Birth control that is also good depending on how long you have been on it (making sure it will be efficient). Other than that, there really is nothing else, make sure it's what you both want and that you love each other and that you are ready to take this step, and remember : go SLOW. good luck and have fun:)
you waited a year?
Read info on the net.
Only engage in this when you both are stimulated , do everything you can to be ready for that moment, near ever have sex when your not hot, it'll make it real painful.
Do safe sex, take birth control for at least a month before hand (see your local doctor first)
Have a towel underneath you (black preferably) if you bleed.
Rule #1. Lock the door.
If you go slow it may not be uncomfortable for either of you at all. Expect a possible wonderful or possible confusing experience.
well here it is, have him take it really slow, cause its going to freaking hurt at the beginning for you because he has to rip you open more or less and for him to take it easy because it will hurt at the end for him if its his actual first time, no hand play if you know what i mean
u waited a year? Whoa
anyway just take it slow and wear protection u might want to get on the pill
It will probably hurt for you. so just make-out and stuff at first for a while until you get really into it.
yeah it is going to hurt unless he is tiny, but roll with the punches...the next time will be better
you sould go here it is for little kids but it has lots of info we used it in year 7 http://www.thehormonefactory.com/index.cfm?flashOK=1
just relax
well yea its going to be pretty uncomfortable for you. Don't expect him to last long and just take it slow... Make sure you are able to tell him when its hurting and that he will stop if you ask. Don't expect to reach as it takes time to actually enjoy it :D don't stress!!! HAVE FUN!!!
wear a condom
Have some protection, relax, don't rush and don't expect perfection as for sure not everything will go to plan
Remember to speak up and tell your boyfriend if you are experiencing any pain or discomfort - make sure you both communicate
:-)
Make sure you have privacy also!
All The Best, Take Care %26amp; Be Safe
:-)
Make sure you guys are both comfortable with the timing of having sex and the location. MAKE SURE HE HAS PROTECTION! lol.
Do a lot of foreplay. Such as him eating you out and you jerking him, that way ya'll are both prepared for engaging in sex.
For your first time, it could be painful and it could not be. For some girls, it's unbearable pain. For me, my first time didn't hurt at all. It could depend on the size of your man and how tight you are on how much pain comes along with sex.
The first time ya'll should expect it to be... not great.. since it is your first time :-p But still memorable and special.
=)Advice for a Couple's First time having Sex?
So for your first time, he needs to go SLOW, because it will most likely hurt you and be a little painful but don't worry it's not unbearable. Take things easy don't rush to get it over with, he probably won't last very long during the actual act, but take your time with the foreplay and make sure you are completely ready for this, and relaxed. Also don't like set a day that you're going to have sex, it should be mainly spontaneous and a bit of a surprise. Obviously you should use a condom (that's a give in) or if you are on Birth control that is also good depending on how long you have been on it (making sure it will be efficient). Other than that, there really is nothing else, make sure it's what you both want and that you love each other and that you are ready to take this step, and remember : go SLOW. good luck and have fun:)
you waited a year?
Read info on the net.
Only engage in this when you both are stimulated , do everything you can to be ready for that moment, near ever have sex when your not hot, it'll make it real painful.
Do safe sex, take birth control for at least a month before hand (see your local doctor first)
Have a towel underneath you (black preferably) if you bleed.
Rule #1. Lock the door.
If you go slow it may not be uncomfortable for either of you at all. Expect a possible wonderful or possible confusing experience.
well here it is, have him take it really slow, cause its going to freaking hurt at the beginning for you because he has to rip you open more or less and for him to take it easy because it will hurt at the end for him if its his actual first time, no hand play if you know what i mean
u waited a year? Whoa
anyway just take it slow and wear protection u might want to get on the pill
It will probably hurt for you. so just make-out and stuff at first for a while until you get really into it.
yeah it is going to hurt unless he is tiny, but roll with the punches...the next time will be better
you sould go here it is for little kids but it has lots of info we used it in year 7 http://www.thehormonefactory.com/index.cfm?flashOK=1
just relax
well yea its going to be pretty uncomfortable for you. Don't expect him to last long and just take it slow... Make sure you are able to tell him when its hurting and that he will stop if you ask. Don't expect to reach as it takes time to actually enjoy it :D don't stress!!! HAVE FUN!!!
wear a condom
Have some protection, relax, don't rush and don't expect perfection as for sure not everything will go to plan
Remember to speak up and tell your boyfriend if you are experiencing any pain or discomfort - make sure you both communicate
:-)
Make sure you have privacy also!
All The Best, Take Care %26amp; Be Safe
:-)
Is there any advice I should know about for a double-date where there're 2 couples?
I really want to go on a date with my girlfriend this weekend but then I guess her and her friend have made plans for a double date sort of things where it would be me and my girlfriend and then my girlfriend's friend and her boyfriend. To me this just sort of seems awkward because I barely know her friend and I have no clue who the other boyfriend is. I've been on just-us dates before with me and a girl but never where 2 couples were involved. What I'm trying to say is what're the main differences that there are with double dates and single dates?Is there any advice I should know about for a double-date where there're 2 couples?
dont hit on her friend, when the girls go to the bathroom to talk about the evening (they always do) make light general conversation. just be friendly, but not too open. the approval of the your girlfriends friends is important. and keep the pda to a minimum.Is there any advice I should know about for a double-date where there're 2 couples?
Relax, kick back and see what comes of it. You could find yourself in for a wild time swapping men around having sex in the livingroom after dinner. Maybe thats what your girlfriend has in mind???
I have never been on a double date, but I can imagine it would be really akward..... I would try to get out of it!!
dont hit on her friend, when the girls go to the bathroom to talk about the evening (they always do) make light general conversation. just be friendly, but not too open. the approval of the your girlfriends friends is important. and keep the pda to a minimum.Is there any advice I should know about for a double-date where there're 2 couples?
Relax, kick back and see what comes of it. You could find yourself in for a wild time swapping men around having sex in the livingroom after dinner. Maybe thats what your girlfriend has in mind???
I have never been on a double date, but I can imagine it would be really akward..... I would try to get out of it!!
My boyfriend can only last a couple of minutes and it's over, any advice?
He said he can't control it. I asked him to go to the dr and he won't. I thought they might have a pill. I end up crying and unsatisfied.My boyfriend can only last a couple of minutes and it's over, any advice?
There are no pills to cure this prob doll. He is just getting to excited to quick. You may be able to numb man land a little to make him last longer but that's about it.My boyfriend can only last a couple of minutes and it's over, any advice?
Yes the doctor will be able to help him, perhaps give him some exercises to do, sometimes they are encouraged to masturbate but stop before they finish, and then resume it a minute or so later to try and extend the time they can go for and build up their stamina. Good luck
there are solutions, but they all usually take a few months, if not years, to being actually working and seeing an increase in stamina
if you aren't willing to wait a year and a half for good sex you should get a new boyfriend
HE'S TOO EXCITED! lol tell him to think of other things in the process if any way possible, i know i find it kinda hard to think baseball when i have other things going on in front of me...but to relax yeah it should help...
Does he smoke? He is not that fit? Tell him to work out and get fit, that way he'll have plenty of energy.
After he's done, wait a few minutes and go at it again. The second time he will last longer.
nock him out
take him to the doctor
get it fixed
pills?
Ooh! poor guy! but what to do? no choise, throw him away..
There are no pills to cure this prob doll. He is just getting to excited to quick. You may be able to numb man land a little to make him last longer but that's about it.My boyfriend can only last a couple of minutes and it's over, any advice?
Yes the doctor will be able to help him, perhaps give him some exercises to do, sometimes they are encouraged to masturbate but stop before they finish, and then resume it a minute or so later to try and extend the time they can go for and build up their stamina. Good luck
there are solutions, but they all usually take a few months, if not years, to being actually working and seeing an increase in stamina
if you aren't willing to wait a year and a half for good sex you should get a new boyfriend
HE'S TOO EXCITED! lol tell him to think of other things in the process if any way possible, i know i find it kinda hard to think baseball when i have other things going on in front of me...but to relax yeah it should help...
Does he smoke? He is not that fit? Tell him to work out and get fit, that way he'll have plenty of energy.
After he's done, wait a few minutes and go at it again. The second time he will last longer.
nock him out
take him to the doctor
get it fixed
pills?
Ooh! poor guy! but what to do? no choise, throw him away..
What are the best advice can i give to a married couple and yet am single.?
For a divorced couple but not legally divorced, yet they want to get reunite again and enjoy life together.What are the best advice can i give to a married couple and yet am single.?
ask them to look back at the good time they spent together.... indulge into recreational activities like swimming, drawing, walking...trust me it really helps...
Hope it helps!!
KushWhat are the best advice can i give to a married couple and yet am single.?
Marriage is like a beautiful tree and the couple are the gardeners. They need to be a team. Communicate, compromise and respect each other and take care of this tree together. Groom it, love it, and take care of it through rain or shine, storm or drought.
All the best.
do not say bad words to each other,treat yourselves with kindness,don't blow all the money at the mall etc.
Don't have sex with your pets
ask them to look back at the good time they spent together.... indulge into recreational activities like swimming, drawing, walking...trust me it really helps...
Hope it helps!!
KushWhat are the best advice can i give to a married couple and yet am single.?
Marriage is like a beautiful tree and the couple are the gardeners. They need to be a team. Communicate, compromise and respect each other and take care of this tree together. Groom it, love it, and take care of it through rain or shine, storm or drought.
All the best.
do not say bad words to each other,treat yourselves with kindness,don't blow all the money at the mall etc.
Don't have sex with your pets
Couples who have been married for a long time: do you have any advice/stories for the newly engaged?
I just got engaged in July. We are both young, (17, but will be 18 soon). Our wedding is in July in 2011.
Is there any advice you can give us about marriage?
Yes, we know we are young, but we're both mature (I don't say that, others do) and know that this is what we want. Believe me when I say we've heard every ';but you're too young..'; reason. We really have heard them all.
We would just like to know some stories of those who have been married.
Thank youCouples who have been married for a long time: do you have any advice/stories for the newly engaged?
When you marry, you make a vow. This is a promise and should not be done lightly. So many people get married understanding that if it does not work it is easy to get out again. They make vows that they have no intention to keep. Their marriages inevitably fail. Understand what your vows mean and stick to them and you cannot go wrong. Mine were to be loving, loyal and faithful. This is not rocket science and not difficult to keep to.
The most important thing is to marry your best friend. Someone who you can trust without question (faithful), someone you would rather die than betray (loyal) and is in your every thoughts no matter what you do, someone you put on a pedestal (loving). See, it's not difficult at all if you both feel the same way.
Age means nothing if you get the above right. It just means that you have more time to spend being happy. At any point you need guidance on your actions, just remember your vows and these will guide you. I know, I make it sound so simple (my wife says that I'm a simple creature)Couples who have been married for a long time: do you have any advice/stories for the newly engaged?
I have been married for many years, have 3 boys, the oldest one just joined the army and left for boot-camp yesterday. With that being said, I can tell you that marriage is the hardest thing you will do in life. It's a day to day choice to stay in the marriage, to choose to love unconditionally, to trust always, to honor. At all times, put your spouse above all others. At all times, put your spouse's needs above your own. At all times, fight fair. At all times, remain calm and keep a cool tone. At all times, don't point fingers. Learn to say ';I'm sorry'; and ';I was wrong';. Work together, save together, spend together, talk about everything no matter how big or small, laugh when you want to cry, and when tears fall, be there with a box of tissues and a strong shoulder.
I thought I was a very Mature 17 yr old too..until I turned 25 and had a awakening ....good luck
I have been married 19 yrs together 23 yrs to the same man
there were may times I wanted to leave ( I got married at 25)...had I been married any younger I would have divorced this man for sure especially if I didn't have kids.
Marriage is HARD
Marriage is WORK
Marriage is FORGIVENESS
Marriage is UNSELFISHNESS
Marriage is CONSTANT TRUTHFUL COMMUNICATION
Marriage is TRUTH
Marriage is TRUST
Marriage is COMMITMENT
Marriage is LOVE-UNCONDITIONAL
You are like anything on this planet, like the clouds, like the weather , like the trees , remember that as you grow you change, You must remember that as you change you will grow apart. At this time in your life it feels like love is endless and life is forever but you will in time change so much that you will no longer no one another, With this knowledge you must remember that you must take every moment you share together as something wonderful and let each other be what you need to be. If you looked at a tree outside your bedroom window and it leaves changes colour you would not worry and try to change them back again, this is what love and each other are like, go with those changes and do don;t try to keep each other as you find each other now. This time as all time is precious
I have been married a little over 6 years. Because of our lovely financial economy and our own personal money issues, there's not a whole bunch of communication. We both are still working on this issue. We get along okay but most of our time is spent in separate areas of our home. We have 2 young children that we both absolutely adore. We still have our hopes and dreams. When we argue, it's very short lived. There is nothing that we hide from each other and while we dont have much of a romance, we are more like best friends. We give each other space to breathe. Remember one thing, the grass is not always greener some place else.. so when you get married, just make sure that you understand it is a life committment and you will be fine. So long as you both have things in common and genuinely care about the welfare of the other, you will be alright and more importantly, don't base your decision on another person's opinion...just do what you feel is right and act accordingly.
I was married the week after I turned 19. That was 33 years ago, plus we dated for 3 years before we wed.
Everyone we knew said we were too young, and that young marriages never last. We heard it all, and chose to do what we felt was right. So we went ahead with the wedding.
Life has been very good to us. We have a terrific marriage, and we have never had to work at it. I married my best friend, and after all these years, we are still best friends.
My advice to you is don't sweat the small stuff, life is too short to let every little thing bother you
I know you do not want to hear that you are too young. But this is just it: it's just like going to an amusement park and you pick the first ride because you feel that it is the best ride. And years late, when you return you try some other rides, you are amazed at the other thrills that all these rides offer. Things are really not as simple as they appear now. Check out my source and find out what these complication are all about.
Yes, there is absolutely NO advantage for a guy to get married at all. There are all sorts of reasons (liability, cost, emotional, no sex unless she wants to which will be slight after the marriage) for not getting married. Marriage is a prison for a guy like Kramer told Jerry Seinfeld
Don't rush to have kids, enjoy your youth. Travel, go to school, move to a different place, explore. Figure each other out and enjoy each other before you get distracted with the family stuff. At your age, give it al least 5 years.
Just be totally honest with each other. And make sure your finances are together.
And Read Together.
Firstly, a long engagement. 5 years minimum.
Second, never, ever ask each other for anything.
my best possible, sound advice for your exact situation, i've ever given:
DON'T DO IT
best regards.
if you want a successful relationship communication is key, talk about everything and share everything
Got married at 18 had my first child at 19 and my second at 20. The best advise I can give you is.............................
DON'T DO IT!!!!!!
Marriage is not the hardest thing in life, at all. It's actually very easy. And we have 3 kids: 7, 23 months and 3 weeks.
Were a team. We are fantastic together. We have a lot of love, laughter and happiness. We have a great time together. We get along incredibly good. We know each other through and through. We support each other in everything, especially in raising the kids. We understand each other. We listen to one another. We love each other very much and are still very much in love. We connect all the time. We do everything together. We put our relationship first. We have an amazing marriage. Were romantic. Were fun. Were silly and wild and crazy. We take care of each other. We take care of our family together. We are very close. We say I love you all the time. Were affectionate. Were cuddly. We haven't lost interest in the other. Were strong and profound. We work. Whatever we are and whatever were doing, works. And it works really well. But most of all, were very happy. We make each other happy.
We have a healthy marriage. And we don't fight. It's simple as there is just nothing to fight about.
Marriage is the best thing that will ever happen to you, if it's with the right person.
Marriage can either be heaven or hell. And you will find out soon enough which one you have.natural lipstick
Is there any advice you can give us about marriage?
Yes, we know we are young, but we're both mature (I don't say that, others do) and know that this is what we want. Believe me when I say we've heard every ';but you're too young..'; reason. We really have heard them all.
We would just like to know some stories of those who have been married.
Thank youCouples who have been married for a long time: do you have any advice/stories for the newly engaged?
When you marry, you make a vow. This is a promise and should not be done lightly. So many people get married understanding that if it does not work it is easy to get out again. They make vows that they have no intention to keep. Their marriages inevitably fail. Understand what your vows mean and stick to them and you cannot go wrong. Mine were to be loving, loyal and faithful. This is not rocket science and not difficult to keep to.
The most important thing is to marry your best friend. Someone who you can trust without question (faithful), someone you would rather die than betray (loyal) and is in your every thoughts no matter what you do, someone you put on a pedestal (loving). See, it's not difficult at all if you both feel the same way.
Age means nothing if you get the above right. It just means that you have more time to spend being happy. At any point you need guidance on your actions, just remember your vows and these will guide you. I know, I make it sound so simple (my wife says that I'm a simple creature)Couples who have been married for a long time: do you have any advice/stories for the newly engaged?
I have been married for many years, have 3 boys, the oldest one just joined the army and left for boot-camp yesterday. With that being said, I can tell you that marriage is the hardest thing you will do in life. It's a day to day choice to stay in the marriage, to choose to love unconditionally, to trust always, to honor. At all times, put your spouse above all others. At all times, put your spouse's needs above your own. At all times, fight fair. At all times, remain calm and keep a cool tone. At all times, don't point fingers. Learn to say ';I'm sorry'; and ';I was wrong';. Work together, save together, spend together, talk about everything no matter how big or small, laugh when you want to cry, and when tears fall, be there with a box of tissues and a strong shoulder.
I thought I was a very Mature 17 yr old too..until I turned 25 and had a awakening ....good luck
I have been married 19 yrs together 23 yrs to the same man
there were may times I wanted to leave ( I got married at 25)...had I been married any younger I would have divorced this man for sure especially if I didn't have kids.
Marriage is HARD
Marriage is WORK
Marriage is FORGIVENESS
Marriage is UNSELFISHNESS
Marriage is CONSTANT TRUTHFUL COMMUNICATION
Marriage is TRUTH
Marriage is TRUST
Marriage is COMMITMENT
Marriage is LOVE-UNCONDITIONAL
You are like anything on this planet, like the clouds, like the weather , like the trees , remember that as you grow you change, You must remember that as you change you will grow apart. At this time in your life it feels like love is endless and life is forever but you will in time change so much that you will no longer no one another, With this knowledge you must remember that you must take every moment you share together as something wonderful and let each other be what you need to be. If you looked at a tree outside your bedroom window and it leaves changes colour you would not worry and try to change them back again, this is what love and each other are like, go with those changes and do don;t try to keep each other as you find each other now. This time as all time is precious
I have been married a little over 6 years. Because of our lovely financial economy and our own personal money issues, there's not a whole bunch of communication. We both are still working on this issue. We get along okay but most of our time is spent in separate areas of our home. We have 2 young children that we both absolutely adore. We still have our hopes and dreams. When we argue, it's very short lived. There is nothing that we hide from each other and while we dont have much of a romance, we are more like best friends. We give each other space to breathe. Remember one thing, the grass is not always greener some place else.. so when you get married, just make sure that you understand it is a life committment and you will be fine. So long as you both have things in common and genuinely care about the welfare of the other, you will be alright and more importantly, don't base your decision on another person's opinion...just do what you feel is right and act accordingly.
I was married the week after I turned 19. That was 33 years ago, plus we dated for 3 years before we wed.
Everyone we knew said we were too young, and that young marriages never last. We heard it all, and chose to do what we felt was right. So we went ahead with the wedding.
Life has been very good to us. We have a terrific marriage, and we have never had to work at it. I married my best friend, and after all these years, we are still best friends.
My advice to you is don't sweat the small stuff, life is too short to let every little thing bother you
I know you do not want to hear that you are too young. But this is just it: it's just like going to an amusement park and you pick the first ride because you feel that it is the best ride. And years late, when you return you try some other rides, you are amazed at the other thrills that all these rides offer. Things are really not as simple as they appear now. Check out my source and find out what these complication are all about.
Yes, there is absolutely NO advantage for a guy to get married at all. There are all sorts of reasons (liability, cost, emotional, no sex unless she wants to which will be slight after the marriage) for not getting married. Marriage is a prison for a guy like Kramer told Jerry Seinfeld
Don't rush to have kids, enjoy your youth. Travel, go to school, move to a different place, explore. Figure each other out and enjoy each other before you get distracted with the family stuff. At your age, give it al least 5 years.
Just be totally honest with each other. And make sure your finances are together.
And Read Together.
Firstly, a long engagement. 5 years minimum.
Second, never, ever ask each other for anything.
my best possible, sound advice for your exact situation, i've ever given:
DON'T DO IT
best regards.
if you want a successful relationship communication is key, talk about everything and share everything
Got married at 18 had my first child at 19 and my second at 20. The best advise I can give you is.............................
DON'T DO IT!!!!!!
Marriage is not the hardest thing in life, at all. It's actually very easy. And we have 3 kids: 7, 23 months and 3 weeks.
Were a team. We are fantastic together. We have a lot of love, laughter and happiness. We have a great time together. We get along incredibly good. We know each other through and through. We support each other in everything, especially in raising the kids. We understand each other. We listen to one another. We love each other very much and are still very much in love. We connect all the time. We do everything together. We put our relationship first. We have an amazing marriage. Were romantic. Were fun. Were silly and wild and crazy. We take care of each other. We take care of our family together. We are very close. We say I love you all the time. Were affectionate. Were cuddly. We haven't lost interest in the other. Were strong and profound. We work. Whatever we are and whatever were doing, works. And it works really well. But most of all, were very happy. We make each other happy.
We have a healthy marriage. And we don't fight. It's simple as there is just nothing to fight about.
Marriage is the best thing that will ever happen to you, if it's with the right person.
Marriage can either be heaven or hell. And you will find out soon enough which one you have.
I am getting a ';teacup'; chihuahua in a couple of days, any advice??
I have spent a lot of time reading up on teacup chihuahuas (I know teacup is not a real breed). I am getting this puppy in a couple days and I know facts and information can only get me so far. Any of you chihuahua owners have anyadvice that you have learned from experience with this breed??I am getting a ';teacup'; chihuahua in a couple of days, any advice??
I have a 3 lb 5 yr old chihuahua that is the sweetest, most loving, friendliest chihuahua in the world. Everyone that meets her falls in love with her. The only health problems she has ever had, is trouble with corneal ulcers, but we use vet prescibed drops for a day or 2 and they clear right up. We have raised her from birth. A lot of the tiny ones do have more health problems, such as low blood sugar, liver problems, bad knees, etc but thankkfully we have not experienced those with her. Buy from a reputable breeder. A breeder who calls them teacuos is not reputable. I never call my small ones teacups. Also the pup that the breeder says will be less than 3 lb may end up being over 10. There is no way to guarantee the size of a pup when grown. Enjoy your new baby.
Make sure pup has food out all the time to ward off hypoglycemia(low blood sugar). I also highly recommend Nutrical, a high vitamin/mineral supplement available from your vet or local pet store. I give just a little each morning and night to the tiny ones. A chihuahua loves to be with you all the time. They are the ultimate lap dog.I am getting a ';teacup'; chihuahua in a couple of days, any advice??
Thanks. Enjoy the new baby! She should bring you many years of love!
Breeding ';smaller'; sized Chihuahuas is against the ethical breeders guide. She IS a crook. Whether she calls those ';smaller'; ones teacup or not, NO reputable/ethical/responsible breeder would EVER intentionally create a dog under the breed standard.
Anyone who would even bring up the term ';teacup'; is a crook. Perhaps you should get YOUR facts straight before mouthing off. Let me guess - the whole world is wrong except you. Nice. Ignorance of the facts doesn't make them untrue.
I have a teacup Morkie. (Maltese and Yorkie). I do have
some advice for you . Many of us like small dogs, and
to make sure your dog is really going to be small, you
should see both it's mother and father. Don't just take some
ones word for it. Most breeders charge more for a teacup
so be sure your getting what your going to pay for.
DO YOU KNOW THAT ANY REALLY SMALL DOGS HAVE HEATH PROBLEMS YOU WILL BE SEEING ALOT OF A VETERINARIAN ?
I'd tell you that Chihuahuas aren't like regular dogs. You're pretty much adopting a child, and be prepared to treat it like one. They tend to be very protective of their owners, and love to be by your side 24/7. You'll soon learn to watch where you're stepping at all times to avoid stepping on them. Good thing about these little guys is that you really have no reason to take them outside, unless to use the bathroom. They're so small that a house is more than enough room for them to play in. Good luck.
Not to be mean, but I guess I'm a little unsure why someone who claims to have done their homework would still get a dog from such a disreputable source.
It has nothing to do with it not being a ';real breed';, it has to do with it being a title used only by poor breeders and scammers. Why would you give money to someone like this? It's just morally repugnant.
My advice, don't do it. Find a good breeder or rescue group and get a good dog. Don't pay money from someone abusing their dogs (and ALL backyard breeders and puppy mills abuse their dogs on some level) so that you can have a teeny tiny puppy to carry in your purse. Be responsible.
If you refuse, then be sure to put aside thousands of dollars to care for this dog. And, be sure to donate lots of money to chihuahua rescue and the Chihuahua club for ignoring their guidelines and ethical rules.
Sometimes it's hard to get a decent answer, isn't it?
Well, I love chihuahuas! I've had a few in my day and I'm looking to have another soon.
They are diffenitely a one-person dog. They love to sit on your lap, pillow, anywhere you are. They are very protective of anyone living in the household, including children.
If you're worried about stepping on it, put a light-weight lease on it and walk it with you thru the house as you move from room to room or put a tiny bell on it's collar.
They love warmth so have a few warm, cozy blankies in a crate or a nest-bed when it's not sitting on your lap. They don't like to be alone much so always try to place the crate where s/he can see you as you move about the house. Also make sure that it's placed out of a drafty and well-traveled area.
You can have the pup sleep with you or you can crate-train it (your choice). Crate training is really much better: it's secure while traveling, it has a quiet place to go when there's alot of activity in the house, such as holidays.
Just basically use common sense and good judgement when you get your new fur-child and have fun with it.
Congratulations!
well make sure that you dont step on it and if you ahve any other big dogs begger that a chihuahua dont get one because they could step on it or harm it i wouldnt get one if you had any other pets besides a chihuahua
My chihuahua is really sweet. he used to pee all over. when you fist get him for the first couple of days put him in the bathroom.
Other than ';Don't';?
Yeah.
Save your hard earned money on that runt that will give you a whole lot of heartache and vet bills later in life. If you had any idea about Chihuahuas and how to find a REPUTABLE breeder, you wouldn't even consider buying such a dog. Save your money and find a reputable and ethical breeder. Not some moron who is selling unhealthy runts to make money.
NO YOU ARE ***NOT***!!!!
You are getting SCREWED into buying CRAP from a CROOK!!!
There's NO SUCH THING as ';teacup'; ANYTHING!!!
Anybody who says there are is,is a LIAR %26amp; A THIEF!!!
That;'s CROOK-TALK for ';Sell that UGLY POS to first MORON who's STUPID enough to pay for it!!!';
Go READ the BREED STANDARD!!!
I have a 3 lb 5 yr old chihuahua that is the sweetest, most loving, friendliest chihuahua in the world. Everyone that meets her falls in love with her. The only health problems she has ever had, is trouble with corneal ulcers, but we use vet prescibed drops for a day or 2 and they clear right up. We have raised her from birth. A lot of the tiny ones do have more health problems, such as low blood sugar, liver problems, bad knees, etc but thankkfully we have not experienced those with her. Buy from a reputable breeder. A breeder who calls them teacuos is not reputable. I never call my small ones teacups. Also the pup that the breeder says will be less than 3 lb may end up being over 10. There is no way to guarantee the size of a pup when grown. Enjoy your new baby.
Make sure pup has food out all the time to ward off hypoglycemia(low blood sugar). I also highly recommend Nutrical, a high vitamin/mineral supplement available from your vet or local pet store. I give just a little each morning and night to the tiny ones. A chihuahua loves to be with you all the time. They are the ultimate lap dog.I am getting a ';teacup'; chihuahua in a couple of days, any advice??
Thanks. Enjoy the new baby! She should bring you many years of love!
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Breeding ';smaller'; sized Chihuahuas is against the ethical breeders guide. She IS a crook. Whether she calls those ';smaller'; ones teacup or not, NO reputable/ethical/responsible breeder would EVER intentionally create a dog under the breed standard.
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I have a teacup Morkie. (Maltese and Yorkie). I do have
some advice for you . Many of us like small dogs, and
to make sure your dog is really going to be small, you
should see both it's mother and father. Don't just take some
ones word for it. Most breeders charge more for a teacup
so be sure your getting what your going to pay for.
DO YOU KNOW THAT ANY REALLY SMALL DOGS HAVE HEATH PROBLEMS YOU WILL BE SEEING ALOT OF A VETERINARIAN ?
I'd tell you that Chihuahuas aren't like regular dogs. You're pretty much adopting a child, and be prepared to treat it like one. They tend to be very protective of their owners, and love to be by your side 24/7. You'll soon learn to watch where you're stepping at all times to avoid stepping on them. Good thing about these little guys is that you really have no reason to take them outside, unless to use the bathroom. They're so small that a house is more than enough room for them to play in. Good luck.
Not to be mean, but I guess I'm a little unsure why someone who claims to have done their homework would still get a dog from such a disreputable source.
It has nothing to do with it not being a ';real breed';, it has to do with it being a title used only by poor breeders and scammers. Why would you give money to someone like this? It's just morally repugnant.
My advice, don't do it. Find a good breeder or rescue group and get a good dog. Don't pay money from someone abusing their dogs (and ALL backyard breeders and puppy mills abuse their dogs on some level) so that you can have a teeny tiny puppy to carry in your purse. Be responsible.
If you refuse, then be sure to put aside thousands of dollars to care for this dog. And, be sure to donate lots of money to chihuahua rescue and the Chihuahua club for ignoring their guidelines and ethical rules.
Sometimes it's hard to get a decent answer, isn't it?
Well, I love chihuahuas! I've had a few in my day and I'm looking to have another soon.
They are diffenitely a one-person dog. They love to sit on your lap, pillow, anywhere you are. They are very protective of anyone living in the household, including children.
If you're worried about stepping on it, put a light-weight lease on it and walk it with you thru the house as you move from room to room or put a tiny bell on it's collar.
They love warmth so have a few warm, cozy blankies in a crate or a nest-bed when it's not sitting on your lap. They don't like to be alone much so always try to place the crate where s/he can see you as you move about the house. Also make sure that it's placed out of a drafty and well-traveled area.
You can have the pup sleep with you or you can crate-train it (your choice). Crate training is really much better: it's secure while traveling, it has a quiet place to go when there's alot of activity in the house, such as holidays.
Just basically use common sense and good judgement when you get your new fur-child and have fun with it.
Congratulations!
well make sure that you dont step on it and if you ahve any other big dogs begger that a chihuahua dont get one because they could step on it or harm it i wouldnt get one if you had any other pets besides a chihuahua
My chihuahua is really sweet. he used to pee all over. when you fist get him for the first couple of days put him in the bathroom.
Other than ';Don't';?
Yeah.
Save your hard earned money on that runt that will give you a whole lot of heartache and vet bills later in life. If you had any idea about Chihuahuas and how to find a REPUTABLE breeder, you wouldn't even consider buying such a dog. Save your money and find a reputable and ethical breeder. Not some moron who is selling unhealthy runts to make money.
NO YOU ARE ***NOT***!!!!
You are getting SCREWED into buying CRAP from a CROOK!!!
There's NO SUCH THING as ';teacup'; ANYTHING!!!
Anybody who says there are is,is a LIAR %26amp; A THIEF!!!
That;'s CROOK-TALK for ';Sell that UGLY POS to first MORON who's STUPID enough to pay for it!!!';
Go READ the BREED STANDARD!!!
What advice can i use to let my dog lose a couple pounds?
my dog is six and is a labrador retreiver and how can he lose a couple pounds please answer this is urgent.i will return the favor.What advice can i use to let my dog lose a couple pounds?
Cut his food back by 25-30% AND take him for a walk, run, or throw the ball for him for at least 20 mins per day to start. Also if you have a pool or a lake nearby, swimming would be great exercise for him. Just make sure he's getting a chance to exercise every day.What advice can i use to let my dog lose a couple pounds?
Never ever feed him table scraps, and don't let other people. Also a daily walk or game of fetch should do the trick. You also might want to start feeding him the senior diet food. This is usually when labs start getting stocky and overweight, but you can control it to keep him healthy!
everyone says to cut back the food but that leaves the dog hungry. Less food means less energy in dogs. What you need to do is cut back food but replace it with green beans(i find frozen french cut works best) this way you fill the dog and don't leave him hungry. you can find more on this just google it Green bean diet for dogs.
My dog had the same problem, he was overweight. He is also a Labrador. We actually kept his diet about the same, twice a day, but a little less than usual. We also took him on nightly walks, and we still do. Or take him/her to a lake to swim. Our dog lost about 20 pounds over the course of the year.
My labbie had a little bit of a weight problem. Our vet had us reduce his food and replace dog treats with carrots or canned green beans. I know it seems weird but or dog loved the carrot treats.
We also upped his exercise. He is very healthy and happy now! He loved the carrot treats so much we kept those up (must be something about the crunch)!
Measure the amount of food you have been normally been giving your dog, then cut it back. So if he gets 2 cups twice daily, give him 1 and 1/2 cups twice daily. Always feed your dog twice a day and do not leave food out all day. Feed only dry food to cut back on even more calories. Of course regular exercise will help.
Take him for regular walks, once a day or twice a day, slowly cut his food back or put him on a doggie diet food, slowly introducing it into his diet, good luck!
Cut his food back by 25-30% AND take him for a walk, run, or throw the ball for him for at least 20 mins per day to start. Also if you have a pool or a lake nearby, swimming would be great exercise for him. Just make sure he's getting a chance to exercise every day.What advice can i use to let my dog lose a couple pounds?
Never ever feed him table scraps, and don't let other people. Also a daily walk or game of fetch should do the trick. You also might want to start feeding him the senior diet food. This is usually when labs start getting stocky and overweight, but you can control it to keep him healthy!
everyone says to cut back the food but that leaves the dog hungry. Less food means less energy in dogs. What you need to do is cut back food but replace it with green beans(i find frozen french cut works best) this way you fill the dog and don't leave him hungry. you can find more on this just google it Green bean diet for dogs.
My dog had the same problem, he was overweight. He is also a Labrador. We actually kept his diet about the same, twice a day, but a little less than usual. We also took him on nightly walks, and we still do. Or take him/her to a lake to swim. Our dog lost about 20 pounds over the course of the year.
My labbie had a little bit of a weight problem. Our vet had us reduce his food and replace dog treats with carrots or canned green beans. I know it seems weird but or dog loved the carrot treats.
We also upped his exercise. He is very healthy and happy now! He loved the carrot treats so much we kept those up (must be something about the crunch)!
Measure the amount of food you have been normally been giving your dog, then cut it back. So if he gets 2 cups twice daily, give him 1 and 1/2 cups twice daily. Always feed your dog twice a day and do not leave food out all day. Feed only dry food to cut back on even more calories. Of course regular exercise will help.
Take him for regular walks, once a day or twice a day, slowly cut his food back or put him on a doggie diet food, slowly introducing it into his diet, good luck!
I am the best man at my brothers wedding in a couple weeks, any advice for the perfect toast?
Make sure you compliment the bride. Too often, the best man will joke about the groom, etc. but remember, you are toasting to their marriage so you should include her as well.I am the best man at my brothers wedding in a couple weeks, any advice for the perfect toast?
Okay, I'm getting my reference from the movie wedding crashers when I say, it's best to just say something from the heart. Like you're so happy groom has met bride or vice versa and blah blah. It might not be the best idea to say something funny. Watch the movie and you'll get what I'm saying.I am the best man at my brothers wedding in a couple weeks, any advice for the perfect toast?
tell of a good memory. a little comedy maybe but nothing too embarrassing for the bride and / or groom.
Definitely tell a story about you two when you were young. Then, tell some sort of anectdote about how you realized how serious he was about his new wife. It's always good to mix some humorous stories with sentimental ones. I am sure you have plenty of stories that you could use to embarass your brother, but try to keep them to a minimum. The idea is to give the audience a snapshot into who your brother is, and how cool it is that he has found such a perfect partner for him.
I just attended a wedding a couple of weeks ago and the best man's toast was amazing. He is single, so he kept referring to a ';marriage for idiots'; type of manual to give advice to the groom. In the end he wished both of them all of the happiness in the world and throughout the speech he also touched on points regarding how wonderful the couple was together, and he shared a few examples of this. It lasted between 5-10 minutes, which was a little bit on the long side, but it was so entertaining that no one minded.
I thought it was good that he referred to a manual because he didn't embarrass the groom or bride with personal examples, but he got to bring humor to the speech because of the passages from the book.
Okay, I'm getting my reference from the movie wedding crashers when I say, it's best to just say something from the heart. Like you're so happy groom has met bride or vice versa and blah blah. It might not be the best idea to say something funny. Watch the movie and you'll get what I'm saying.I am the best man at my brothers wedding in a couple weeks, any advice for the perfect toast?
tell of a good memory. a little comedy maybe but nothing too embarrassing for the bride and / or groom.
Definitely tell a story about you two when you were young. Then, tell some sort of anectdote about how you realized how serious he was about his new wife. It's always good to mix some humorous stories with sentimental ones. I am sure you have plenty of stories that you could use to embarass your brother, but try to keep them to a minimum. The idea is to give the audience a snapshot into who your brother is, and how cool it is that he has found such a perfect partner for him.
I just attended a wedding a couple of weeks ago and the best man's toast was amazing. He is single, so he kept referring to a ';marriage for idiots'; type of manual to give advice to the groom. In the end he wished both of them all of the happiness in the world and throughout the speech he also touched on points regarding how wonderful the couple was together, and he shared a few examples of this. It lasted between 5-10 minutes, which was a little bit on the long side, but it was so entertaining that no one minded.
I thought it was good that he referred to a manual because he didn't embarrass the groom or bride with personal examples, but he got to bring humor to the speech because of the passages from the book.
What is one piece of advice you'd offer to a newly married couple?
Don't listen to those people who say, ';Don't go to bed angry';. If you stay up all night trying to work out a problem, both of you get more and more tired and more and more cranky and it makes it worse.
If you're angry, sleep on it. It almost always is better in the morning - especially after sometime during the night, a foot touches a foot, etc. :0)
and KEEP COMMUNICATING NO MATTER WHATWhat is one piece of advice you'd offer to a newly married couple?
Don't rely on your emotions, love is an action word. Treat eachother with love, patience and kindness everyday.
Never threaten eachother with divorce. It may seem like the last thing you'd do, but beware. The D word can be very hurtful. If you let divorce be an option, you will be divorcing.
Forsake all others, meaning, put eachother first. Don't run and tell mommy and others about issues or arguments. Work them out together.
Sounds clich茅, but don't go to bed mad. A small disagreement can lead to long term unresolved anger, so don't be to proud to say sorry or be the first one to ';give in';.
Love your spouse as yourself.
I know this was more than one piece of advice, but all of it is crucial!
May God bless your union!What is one piece of advice you'd offer to a newly married couple?
Live your love, don't just think that the words alone are enough. How? Make every day an expression of that love.
Make sure what you expect and want, or need from the marriage is the same as your partner's. Work together to achieve that.
Be considerate of each other's feelings, in the things you say and the things you do. ';How would this make my partner feel?';, should always be a consideration.
Be aware that you are both human, and will make mistakes. Work hard to forgive those failings, in yourself and in them, but do not allow deliberate hurts/slights to continue.
Remain committed to the relationship, and never allow the thought of ';What if...?'; into the relationship.
Do those little things that make your partner's life easier, and allow them to do the same for you.
Work together towards making the marrige the best it can be.
Live in your marriage. Make it a priority in your life. Put the effort into making it work. Don't be like a single person who happens to have a live in partner.
Be honest with them. Communicate your feelings. If their actions hurt you, let them know. Don't just assume that they already should, and are doing it for spite. Be prepared to listen too, when they tell you the same. Talk about all things, not just the good things.
Stay true to each other and don't let parents or anyone for that matter get involved in your relationship issues. May you have a wonderful marriage and life together.
Never go to sleep or leave each other mad. Always take time to settle it and make up. Nothing is more important than keeping each other happy.
Respect %26amp; value each other.. Although I love my husband dearly, I wish there was more respect %26amp; value in our relationship.
never go to bed mad. support each other. communication is very important.. if you argue never argue about the past. if you get really mad just go some where and cool off.
Be Open. Be Honest With One another. KEY TO ALL THINGS COMMUNCATE ALL THE TIME.
Lots and lots of Communication and always be honest with each other.
LOve and Communication all the time!!!!!
Don't sweat the small stuff. And it's almost always small stuff.
good luck
If you're angry, sleep on it. It almost always is better in the morning - especially after sometime during the night, a foot touches a foot, etc. :0)
and KEEP COMMUNICATING NO MATTER WHATWhat is one piece of advice you'd offer to a newly married couple?
Don't rely on your emotions, love is an action word. Treat eachother with love, patience and kindness everyday.
Never threaten eachother with divorce. It may seem like the last thing you'd do, but beware. The D word can be very hurtful. If you let divorce be an option, you will be divorcing.
Forsake all others, meaning, put eachother first. Don't run and tell mommy and others about issues or arguments. Work them out together.
Sounds clich茅, but don't go to bed mad. A small disagreement can lead to long term unresolved anger, so don't be to proud to say sorry or be the first one to ';give in';.
Love your spouse as yourself.
I know this was more than one piece of advice, but all of it is crucial!
May God bless your union!What is one piece of advice you'd offer to a newly married couple?
Live your love, don't just think that the words alone are enough. How? Make every day an expression of that love.
Make sure what you expect and want, or need from the marriage is the same as your partner's. Work together to achieve that.
Be considerate of each other's feelings, in the things you say and the things you do. ';How would this make my partner feel?';, should always be a consideration.
Be aware that you are both human, and will make mistakes. Work hard to forgive those failings, in yourself and in them, but do not allow deliberate hurts/slights to continue.
Remain committed to the relationship, and never allow the thought of ';What if...?'; into the relationship.
Do those little things that make your partner's life easier, and allow them to do the same for you.
Work together towards making the marrige the best it can be.
Live in your marriage. Make it a priority in your life. Put the effort into making it work. Don't be like a single person who happens to have a live in partner.
Be honest with them. Communicate your feelings. If their actions hurt you, let them know. Don't just assume that they already should, and are doing it for spite. Be prepared to listen too, when they tell you the same. Talk about all things, not just the good things.
Stay true to each other and don't let parents or anyone for that matter get involved in your relationship issues. May you have a wonderful marriage and life together.
Never go to sleep or leave each other mad. Always take time to settle it and make up. Nothing is more important than keeping each other happy.
Respect %26amp; value each other.. Although I love my husband dearly, I wish there was more respect %26amp; value in our relationship.
never go to bed mad. support each other. communication is very important.. if you argue never argue about the past. if you get really mad just go some where and cool off.
Be Open. Be Honest With One another. KEY TO ALL THINGS COMMUNCATE ALL THE TIME.
Lots and lots of Communication and always be honest with each other.
LOve and Communication all the time!!!!!
Don't sweat the small stuff. And it's almost always small stuff.
good luck
Does anyone have any advice for a couple who cannot concieve?
basically, I can no longer become pregnant and my fiance and I cannot afford the cost of a surrogate mother thru the clinics I have found listed on the web. Is there anyone out willing to help us - or anyone who has an idea of what we can do. Please no negativity - and we do not wish to adopt as he wants this child to be a blood related child.Does anyone have any advice for a couple who cannot concieve?
Maybe a sister would become pregnant for you and give the baby to youDoes anyone have any advice for a couple who cannot concieve?
If one of you have a sister or a really close friend i would think about that. It will still be both yours and your fiance baby. Good Luck..
Yes, Surrogacy and egg donation can be expensive. However you can see if family member or friend is willing to carry a baby for you...HOWEVER the egg retrieval, IVF and meds are still going to cost you in the thousands of dollars. You could go Traditional Surrogacy using IUI and the woman's eggs and your husband's sperm HOWEVER in that case she can always change her mind...in either case a contract would be essential. If you want to research these options click on the links below! GOOD LUCK!
Sharon LaMothe
Infertility Answers, Inc.
www.InfertilityAnswers.org
http://infertilityanswers.typepad.com/su鈥?/a>
I'd like more information - would it be possible to use Donner eggs, gift, etc have all these options been exceeded?
if not it would have to be a private relationship such as sister, friend,family member as a surrogate.
best of luck xx
www.fertillyfreinds.co.uk
Maybe if you want to adopt a child that is blood related to you, adopt a nephew or neice. There is no other way unless you want a child that is just related to your husband. Sorry! Surrogates cost money, you could adopt a child not related to you (not blood related), you could adopt a relative, you could ask a family member to carry your child or go through treatments that might make you pregnant (but they cost lots of money, my aunt is 54 and she has a 3 year old... she took fertility treatments in India and got pregnant). Good Luck!
Maybe a sister would become pregnant for you and give the baby to youDoes anyone have any advice for a couple who cannot concieve?
If one of you have a sister or a really close friend i would think about that. It will still be both yours and your fiance baby. Good Luck..
Yes, Surrogacy and egg donation can be expensive. However you can see if family member or friend is willing to carry a baby for you...HOWEVER the egg retrieval, IVF and meds are still going to cost you in the thousands of dollars. You could go Traditional Surrogacy using IUI and the woman's eggs and your husband's sperm HOWEVER in that case she can always change her mind...in either case a contract would be essential. If you want to research these options click on the links below! GOOD LUCK!
Sharon LaMothe
Infertility Answers, Inc.
www.InfertilityAnswers.org
http://infertilityanswers.typepad.com/su鈥?/a>
I'd like more information - would it be possible to use Donner eggs, gift, etc have all these options been exceeded?
if not it would have to be a private relationship such as sister, friend,family member as a surrogate.
best of luck xx
www.fertillyfreinds.co.uk
Maybe if you want to adopt a child that is blood related to you, adopt a nephew or neice. There is no other way unless you want a child that is just related to your husband. Sorry! Surrogates cost money, you could adopt a child not related to you (not blood related), you could adopt a relative, you could ask a family member to carry your child or go through treatments that might make you pregnant (but they cost lots of money, my aunt is 54 and she has a 3 year old... she took fertility treatments in India and got pregnant). Good Luck!
I'm feeling a bit down, most of my friends/family are in couples, I'm in my 40s and single. Advice please?
I'm in my late 40s and have never settled down. The only reason I can think of is that I didn't meet a guy with whom I thought it would work with for life. I've had a pretty good job which enables me to travel, make friends all over the place and do what I like. I know that I look pretty, often get taken for 33 and am fit too. After my ex boyfriend of many years left me 6 years ago (he couldn't get his head around marriage), I've been more or less alone, except for the odd date. But I've never fallen for these guys and had just decided I like my life alone. However, I've just met my cousins new boyfriend and realise she will be the next to marry. For some strange reason I feel isolated and sad. Why is this when I know so well that many marriages fail and are charades? Please advise me?I'm feeling a bit down, most of my friends/family are in couples, I'm in my 40s and single. Advice please?
You have to think about what you want for yourself, not what others want to do or what they thing is right for them.. but it sounds as if now, despite the many friends and the social life, the great job that allows you to travel you are feeling that something is lacking in your life..
Why not just join a club of some kind where you might meet males and females of your age group.. and activity club.. ''Hiking just as an example.. you may meet someone by chance.. or you can always join a singles club, talk to several people without getting involved too quickly. if you should happen to meet someone who seems to be a person you might want to get to know better and there is a mutual connection, why not start off as friends. and see where that takes both of you..
Marriages are all entered with good intentions. They aren't really charades but it's a lot easier to ''find someone'' than to ''keep a marriage alive and happy..'' that takes a lot of hard work. I believe there is no couple who enters into a marriage and doesn't hope this will work out forever.. but it only does so if both partners are equally committed to work on the marriage.. That's tough work.. One tends after 10 years or after quite some years together to take each other for granted. That should never happen.. .There is no guarantee for a happy everlasting marriage, but if there is mutual respect, honesty and mutual trust, and if one really has communicaton and talks about matters before they turn into a problem, then one can salvage a marriage. It happens in relationship where couples just live together also.. they stop communicating.. and drift apart. and they start to take each other somewhat for granted.. all the little things one partner does for the other and vice versa.. at the beginning of the relationship one sees them, at some point one believes ''I have a right to expect that'' but I don't believe that's true.. we should never take anything for granted.. and also let the partner know if he or she has done something we appreciate. To have a similar outlook about life.. having similar goals helps to make it last.. and to share ones hopes, dreams, joys and fears with each other.. To learn to listen and to talk in turns.
It's not paradise to be married, but it can be a hapy marriage .. there will be storms.. and I have not yet seen a rose without thorns.. but it can work.. if both partners are committed to really put a lot of effort into it.. and who says you need to get married?
It is however nice, to have someone in ones life.. that does not necessarily mean marriage is the only way .. but to know there is someone.. ''a soulmate'' that is never too late to find in life.. for that one does not have to get married .. but the same rules apply.. it takes two to tango and it takes 2 to be committed to that relationship.. no matter if it's a relationship with or without marriage..I'm feeling a bit down, most of my friends/family are in couples, I'm in my 40s and single. Advice please?
It is normal to feel that way. But you are really fine right now. Just enjoy your life here. And may be you shouldn't compare yourself too much with others. If you are a Christian I would recommend you a great site: inspiration-for-singles, where you can learn that single life can be meaningful and happy.
Well, you've reason enough to feel sad.
My advice is to seek yourself something else you can believe in. Then these thoughts won't trouble you that much any longer, assuming that they do now and it's not just a brief feeling of sadness.
I know what you mean. I think it's b/c love, with it's many ups and downs, is still what we think is the key to happiness. The feelings associated with romantic love just makes us feel...there's nothing like it in the world, which is exactly why, despite 50% divorce rate, people still take the chance.
Just remember that marriage isn't what we see in movies, nor Disney princesses finding their one true love. Also, in a bad marriage, people can also feel very lonely.
Maybe you are expecting too much out of your life. Perhaps someone that likes you and that you like hasn't appeared yet. or maybe you are not meant to ';have someone'; (no offence) don't worry, i think you should take your time and find someone that you like. if you do not expect too much and tell yourself that you are lucky that may help. most of our feelings lie in the hands of how we think. don't think that you are unlucky and that you should be like everyone else and settle down with someone. remember that each and everyone of us are unique and so we should not set a certain ';normal'; circumstance that ';should'; happen for ourselves. we should just try to be content and if we meet any misfortunes remember: it may be a blessing in disguise.natural lipstick
You have to think about what you want for yourself, not what others want to do or what they thing is right for them.. but it sounds as if now, despite the many friends and the social life, the great job that allows you to travel you are feeling that something is lacking in your life..
Why not just join a club of some kind where you might meet males and females of your age group.. and activity club.. ''Hiking just as an example.. you may meet someone by chance.. or you can always join a singles club, talk to several people without getting involved too quickly. if you should happen to meet someone who seems to be a person you might want to get to know better and there is a mutual connection, why not start off as friends. and see where that takes both of you..
Marriages are all entered with good intentions. They aren't really charades but it's a lot easier to ''find someone'' than to ''keep a marriage alive and happy..'' that takes a lot of hard work. I believe there is no couple who enters into a marriage and doesn't hope this will work out forever.. but it only does so if both partners are equally committed to work on the marriage.. That's tough work.. One tends after 10 years or after quite some years together to take each other for granted. That should never happen.. .There is no guarantee for a happy everlasting marriage, but if there is mutual respect, honesty and mutual trust, and if one really has communicaton and talks about matters before they turn into a problem, then one can salvage a marriage. It happens in relationship where couples just live together also.. they stop communicating.. and drift apart. and they start to take each other somewhat for granted.. all the little things one partner does for the other and vice versa.. at the beginning of the relationship one sees them, at some point one believes ''I have a right to expect that'' but I don't believe that's true.. we should never take anything for granted.. and also let the partner know if he or she has done something we appreciate. To have a similar outlook about life.. having similar goals helps to make it last.. and to share ones hopes, dreams, joys and fears with each other.. To learn to listen and to talk in turns.
It's not paradise to be married, but it can be a hapy marriage .. there will be storms.. and I have not yet seen a rose without thorns.. but it can work.. if both partners are committed to really put a lot of effort into it.. and who says you need to get married?
It is however nice, to have someone in ones life.. that does not necessarily mean marriage is the only way .. but to know there is someone.. ''a soulmate'' that is never too late to find in life.. for that one does not have to get married .. but the same rules apply.. it takes two to tango and it takes 2 to be committed to that relationship.. no matter if it's a relationship with or without marriage..I'm feeling a bit down, most of my friends/family are in couples, I'm in my 40s and single. Advice please?
It is normal to feel that way. But you are really fine right now. Just enjoy your life here. And may be you shouldn't compare yourself too much with others. If you are a Christian I would recommend you a great site: inspiration-for-singles, where you can learn that single life can be meaningful and happy.
Well, you've reason enough to feel sad.
My advice is to seek yourself something else you can believe in. Then these thoughts won't trouble you that much any longer, assuming that they do now and it's not just a brief feeling of sadness.
I know what you mean. I think it's b/c love, with it's many ups and downs, is still what we think is the key to happiness. The feelings associated with romantic love just makes us feel...there's nothing like it in the world, which is exactly why, despite 50% divorce rate, people still take the chance.
Just remember that marriage isn't what we see in movies, nor Disney princesses finding their one true love. Also, in a bad marriage, people can also feel very lonely.
Maybe you are expecting too much out of your life. Perhaps someone that likes you and that you like hasn't appeared yet. or maybe you are not meant to ';have someone'; (no offence) don't worry, i think you should take your time and find someone that you like. if you do not expect too much and tell yourself that you are lucky that may help. most of our feelings lie in the hands of how we think. don't think that you are unlucky and that you should be like everyone else and settle down with someone. remember that each and everyone of us are unique and so we should not set a certain ';normal'; circumstance that ';should'; happen for ourselves. we should just try to be content and if we meet any misfortunes remember: it may be a blessing in disguise.
Im gonna get a psp and i want to know a couple things would apprecitate any advice?
i want to know if a memory stick for like cameras will work for playing music on a psp or do i have to get a memory stick duo. and will a aac file type work on a psp or how can you shrink the size of the file some way using itunes or window media player to shirink the size of the file.
how much doe the wifi internet cost on a psp.
what can you tell me about the new psp coming on sale new i would really apprecate any tips you can give me cuz ever since i came out i would do some crazy shiz to get money to pay for it.Im gonna get a psp and i want to know a couple things would apprecitate any advice?
Well, The PSP Uses The Memory Stick Duo, So If Your Camera Uses The Duo, You Can Use It On Your PSP.. The Regular, Longer Memory Sticks Don't Fit In The PSP..
And If Your PSP Is Updated To Firmware 2.7 Or Higher, It Supports The AAC Format..
I Do Not Know How To Shrink Files Using iTunes Or Windows Media Player, But Unless You Have A Big Memory Stick Like A 1 Gig, Shrinking The Size Isn't Much Of A Big Deal Unless You Have A Lot Of Big Files..
The WiFi For The PSP Is Free. As Of Now, No Subscription Is Needed At All To Access The Internet For Games (i don't really any game needing you to pay for online) Or Other Internet Capabilities Like The Web Browser..
All You Need Is A Wireless Hot Spot, Like Your Own Wireless Router. If You Don't Have One, You Can Usually Find A Free Connection Somewhere Like A Mall Or Any Other Public Space, Or Sometimes In Your Neighborhood..
I Do Not Understand Your Last Question.. There Are (currently) No New PSP Like There's A New DS. There Is A New PSP Bundle, If That's What You're Asking..
For Other Tips, Here's A Previous Answer About What Games To Pick Up (1), In Fact, Check Out Many Of My Past Answers For Any Other PSP Help (2)..
And As Always, You Can Contact Me For Any Other Help!Im gonna get a psp and i want to know a couple things would apprecitate any advice?
use sandisk memorycards much better but it comes with a memory card
how much doe the wifi internet cost on a psp.
what can you tell me about the new psp coming on sale new i would really apprecate any tips you can give me cuz ever since i came out i would do some crazy shiz to get money to pay for it.Im gonna get a psp and i want to know a couple things would apprecitate any advice?
Well, The PSP Uses The Memory Stick Duo, So If Your Camera Uses The Duo, You Can Use It On Your PSP.. The Regular, Longer Memory Sticks Don't Fit In The PSP..
And If Your PSP Is Updated To Firmware 2.7 Or Higher, It Supports The AAC Format..
I Do Not Know How To Shrink Files Using iTunes Or Windows Media Player, But Unless You Have A Big Memory Stick Like A 1 Gig, Shrinking The Size Isn't Much Of A Big Deal Unless You Have A Lot Of Big Files..
The WiFi For The PSP Is Free. As Of Now, No Subscription Is Needed At All To Access The Internet For Games (i don't really any game needing you to pay for online) Or Other Internet Capabilities Like The Web Browser..
All You Need Is A Wireless Hot Spot, Like Your Own Wireless Router. If You Don't Have One, You Can Usually Find A Free Connection Somewhere Like A Mall Or Any Other Public Space, Or Sometimes In Your Neighborhood..
I Do Not Understand Your Last Question.. There Are (currently) No New PSP Like There's A New DS. There Is A New PSP Bundle, If That's What You're Asking..
For Other Tips, Here's A Previous Answer About What Games To Pick Up (1), In Fact, Check Out Many Of My Past Answers For Any Other PSP Help (2)..
And As Always, You Can Contact Me For Any Other Help!Im gonna get a psp and i want to know a couple things would apprecitate any advice?
use sandisk memorycards much better but it comes with a memory card
Advice on selling a house (bungalow) quickly for an elderly couple?
What is the most recommended estate agency in Banbury, UK?
My grandparents are wanting to sell their 2 bedroom bungalow quickly, but they need a trustable estate agency they could always rely on.
They were with Connells but they are useless (Connells never communicated with my grandparents) about the house and any viewings and they had taken their property off the market two months ago, and now they want to put it on the market again.
What should they do, any advice?Advice on selling a house (bungalow) quickly for an elderly couple?
The market has been dropping ... and buyers have been loosing their jobs and finding it difficult to get Mortgages .. and the 'smart' ones are waiting for prices to drop further ..
(which it is quite likley to do)
If they really need to sell, there are two possible answers :-
1) Drop the asking price to 10% below the current 'market level' .. and be prepared to accept an offer 10% below that
2) Go to Auction .. and be prepared to get 30% lower than the 'Market price' ..
The final option is for your Grandparents to sell some part of the house to their kids / grandchildren ... yes, I know it seems like they are paying for their 'inheritance', but at least the WILL get the house (this is by far a better choice than putting it into the hands of the 'Equity Release' cowboys .. where your Grandparents will be lucky to get 10-25% of the Market value and the kids will inherit nothing)
Alternatively, they should accept that the housing market is unlikely to recover for 5 - 10 years and they may just have to sit it out ..Advice on selling a house (bungalow) quickly for an elderly couple?
Its the Realtor that is uselsss not Connells. You need a Relator that sells properties. You have to interview your Realtor to make sure your are both on the same page. You can ask a few questions that you already know the answers to , to make sure he/she knows what they are talkling about. Make sure they can AFFORD to list your home (advertisng etc)
You need to know why your home is not selling! Go to other homes that are listed in yout area and see your competition. Price/repair your home to the competition. If there is few sellers in the area you just have to wait. Ask your realtor for the stats (#days on market, sales to listing ratio etc)
Have weekly meeting with your realtor to update the selling plan.(MAKE SURE YOUR REALTOR HAS A PLAN)
Sadly, most of the agencys are the same, and in these slow times very little to report, you might actually want to worry more about choice of solicitor when it comes to selling. - start getting some references.
in my experience, you want a non-chain one.
Preferably local single ownership... but that could be difficult at present.
However, at present all agencies are sufferening lack of income/consolodating and independant ones, if they have no letting support, are going to the wall (so a risk really).
You will have seen the makeover programmes and how to make my house sell etc.
Especially at this time, you (not the agent) will have to simplyfy and clean up the appearance of the property - invest some money to do it. Then for the handful of buyers (not viewers) still left, it will be an obvious choice.
Try and get the agents to come around again (more than one), and tell them to be brutally honest why/what will stop it selling/being someones first choice. And whatever it is, solve it.
Again, in my experience, they are reluctant to tell you..for whatever 'polite' fear of offending reasons.
perhaps give them an incentive.. the one who tells you the most faults gets the business ?
You could also go on some viewings of other properties yourself, and see the sort of mis-impression simple things can have.. and be your own critical eye.
Are any of the property cant sell programmes still on the channel 4/5 catchup websites ?
best I have to offer at present.
My grandparents are wanting to sell their 2 bedroom bungalow quickly, but they need a trustable estate agency they could always rely on.
They were with Connells but they are useless (Connells never communicated with my grandparents) about the house and any viewings and they had taken their property off the market two months ago, and now they want to put it on the market again.
What should they do, any advice?Advice on selling a house (bungalow) quickly for an elderly couple?
The market has been dropping ... and buyers have been loosing their jobs and finding it difficult to get Mortgages .. and the 'smart' ones are waiting for prices to drop further ..
(which it is quite likley to do)
If they really need to sell, there are two possible answers :-
1) Drop the asking price to 10% below the current 'market level' .. and be prepared to accept an offer 10% below that
2) Go to Auction .. and be prepared to get 30% lower than the 'Market price' ..
The final option is for your Grandparents to sell some part of the house to their kids / grandchildren ... yes, I know it seems like they are paying for their 'inheritance', but at least the WILL get the house (this is by far a better choice than putting it into the hands of the 'Equity Release' cowboys .. where your Grandparents will be lucky to get 10-25% of the Market value and the kids will inherit nothing)
Alternatively, they should accept that the housing market is unlikely to recover for 5 - 10 years and they may just have to sit it out ..Advice on selling a house (bungalow) quickly for an elderly couple?
Its the Realtor that is uselsss not Connells. You need a Relator that sells properties. You have to interview your Realtor to make sure your are both on the same page. You can ask a few questions that you already know the answers to , to make sure he/she knows what they are talkling about. Make sure they can AFFORD to list your home (advertisng etc)
You need to know why your home is not selling! Go to other homes that are listed in yout area and see your competition. Price/repair your home to the competition. If there is few sellers in the area you just have to wait. Ask your realtor for the stats (#days on market, sales to listing ratio etc)
Have weekly meeting with your realtor to update the selling plan.(MAKE SURE YOUR REALTOR HAS A PLAN)
Sadly, most of the agencys are the same, and in these slow times very little to report, you might actually want to worry more about choice of solicitor when it comes to selling. - start getting some references.
in my experience, you want a non-chain one.
Preferably local single ownership... but that could be difficult at present.
However, at present all agencies are sufferening lack of income/consolodating and independant ones, if they have no letting support, are going to the wall (so a risk really).
You will have seen the makeover programmes and how to make my house sell etc.
Especially at this time, you (not the agent) will have to simplyfy and clean up the appearance of the property - invest some money to do it. Then for the handful of buyers (not viewers) still left, it will be an obvious choice.
Try and get the agents to come around again (more than one), and tell them to be brutally honest why/what will stop it selling/being someones first choice. And whatever it is, solve it.
Again, in my experience, they are reluctant to tell you..for whatever 'polite' fear of offending reasons.
perhaps give them an incentive.. the one who tells you the most faults gets the business ?
You could also go on some viewings of other properties yourself, and see the sort of mis-impression simple things can have.. and be your own critical eye.
Are any of the property cant sell programmes still on the channel 4/5 catchup websites ?
best I have to offer at present.
To the couples who have been married for all these years do you have any advice?
Throughout a marriage there wil be spits and spats between couples like me for example I make a big deal out of something that isnt work arguing over then it turns into something big and end up talking about getting divorce. My husband is a good guy and I now I have made look like a bad guy but I dont know how to leave something alone wihout getting mad about it that gives me the opportunity to talk about it. Everyone is different and I just want to now how all of you couples have held on to each other for so long and maybe give me some advice on how to keep it strong.To the couples who have been married for all these years do you have any advice?
Hi l have been married for 30 yrs and believe me it has been full of ups and downs and quite a few suprises. Some good, some really bad but we have always managed to get past them. My husband cheated which devistated me but even that huge hurdle we are working through. Every marriage l believe has it's problems. No marriage is perfect, people are not perfect, we all have our faults. Sometimes l think you just know that you are meant to be together and regardless of what life throws at you , you always get past it. Communication is a huge part of any good relationship as well as love and respect for one another. I feel that we all seem to forget about those things at times and that is where we go wrong. As far as making a mountain out of a molehill, you are certainly not on your own. I often do it myself and l'm the first to admit it. The way l see it though, if at the end of the day you can look at your husband and know he is good for you and you love him and he loves you back, it makes your marriage all worthwhile.To the couples who have been married for all these years do you have any advice?
My hubby and I have been married for two and a half years, and dating/friends for over ten.
The biggest thing we've learned is to NEVER discuss something when we're angry. Normally, the argument gets blown out of proportion -- and you start attacking about other things not related. If something happens now, we give it some time to blow over. I take a walk, or he goes to the store. It's never worth the hurt to argue rightaway. Half the time its something silly anyways.
Good luck to you !
We have our struggles as everyone does but here is what I do.
When I feel myself getting ticked off because he has left a tissue in his pants pocket for the 1000 time that causes little pieces of tissue to fall all over the floor as I fold the wash........or when I am driving and turn on the turn signal and he clicks his tongue in time with the signal so loudly that I want to pull my hair out.......or when he refuses to believe me that his four strand comb over looks quite silly I remind myself that I am no less annoying. And that we are just human and it is hard enough getting through the day when those who don't profess to love us hurt us. So why should I bother with things that don't really matter at all. (But sometimes I do just have to screaaaaaaaaaaaam! But I do it alone and without snide comments so as to not hurt feelings.
Everyone and Every ones Relationships are different and Built on Different things!
We ALL bring things into Our Relationships-Hurt,Dis-trust,Pain,Immatu鈥?br>
Forgiveness and knowing in your Heart-of-Hearts that whatever is said can be Forgiven and Resolved By Bedtime!
NEVER go to sleep on an Argument or bad Feeling as it can manifest into much Greater things by Morning!
You will know in your Own heart if the person you are with is going to be the ONE for the rest of Your Life!!
If it's not-Then Stop pretending,get out and stop the Hurt before it gets a Whole lot worse!!
Happy Holidays!!
I have been married for almost 15 years now.But we have been together for 17 years.And I used to get mad over stupid little things.But I learned that it wasn't because of what my husband was doing.It was because of me and my immaturity.You can't get mad at him over stupid stuff or you will live your life constantly pissed off.Besides if you make a big deal out everything he won't feel has if her can talk to you about anything.And communication is key.I get into my relationship very young I was only 17.So I had to learn how to be a good wife,partner and friend.So I had to learn by trial and error.And the best advise I could give is if you love your hubby.Don't give up on him our yourself.You need to stop with the making a big deal out of things.My husband and I have been through almost everything you could imagine.From illness and unemployment to losing parents ,grandparents and even our first baby.And the main thing we have learned is that nothing is to big to overcome has long has we have each other.You need to put your love for each other first and you need to be right needs to go right out the door.Would you rather be right or feel justified or be with the man you love?And for gods sake don't ever use the D word unless you are prepared to go through with it.And Divorce should not be your easy way out.It should be a last resort.People are alway asking on here why the divorce rate is so high.Do you know why it is.It is because people don't care enough anymore to stand up and fight for each other it is easier to just find someone new.or Good Luck!
We must cherish a happy lasting marriage and believe that there is greater happiness in togetherness than in loneliness. As long as we do not have that as a goal we tend to drift on individuality. Divorce is an escapist tendency. When we cannot solve our problems we tend to walk away and feel that we are very competent. We are deceiving ourselves.
It is not about who is right or wrong but whether we can build a relationship which will last and is based on trust, forgiving and loving. Can we have true unconditional love which believes in giving than receiving?
Please think about the following:
1) Do we love our parents? Did we choose them to be our parents or did we accept them as our parents?
2) Do we love our country? Did we choose to be born in our country or did we accept all the good and bad in her and still love her?
3) Do we love our children? Did we choose them?
When we choose our husband/wife we pride ourselves in our decision making abilities. How is it that we cannot build a relationship which we chose????? I think the following will help:
1) We should reduce our ego and our individuality.
2) We should realise that everyone is unique and respect our spouse rather than try to change him/her according to our taste.
3) We should realise that men are different from women. Please read the book ';Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus';.
4) We should realise that we grow and evolve with age and our experiences. We should allow our partner to also evolve with time.
5) We should learn the timeless virtues and not worry about what is fashionable.
6) We should be sensitive human beings who will ';Do unto others what you want others to do unto you';
7) Patience is to be practised when we deal with others. We can be impatient with ourselves.
8) Financial problems cause a lot of avoidable conflicts. So we need to be financially literate.
9) We should be physically, mentally and spiritually attractive human beings. We should compete with ourselves and better ourselves than compete with friends and neighbours.
10) Develop a positive attitude and be prepared to tackle any kind of emergency in our lives. We should consciously try to learn and improve our lives. Happiness does not happen by chance. We have to make it happen.
11) We should admit our mistakes and learn from them. Never repeat the same mistake.
12) We have only one life. Live happily. Count your blessings before you count your misfortunes.
Best of luck, Hotmomma.....
Please also read my answer to a question, '; How can i make my marriage even better?does I LOVE YOU enough?';
The problems usually stem from matters that have not been addressed and dealt with.
If things brew inside and are not addressed, it builds up inside and then things explode.
Friendship, Communication, respect, consideration for each other, and trust are most important in any marriage.
When we get married, our role is to be a husbandwife.
Somehow, we tend to become fathers and mothers to our spouses and we should not.
Do not Judge, constructive criticism is more acceptable.
If both adults are mature, there is nothing that can interfere with salvaging your marriage.
Take a vow and agree that you never go to bed angry and stick to it.
If you can not change things, you must dismiss it and not let anger consume you.
Whoever can accomplish this task and it does require patience, will be happier in the end.
When I get upset at my husband about something, I ask myself how important is this? If it doesn't really matter, let it go. You had already decided it doesn't matter. And always remember that everyone is entitled to their own opinion. So, you might not always agree on something, but, its OK. Let each other have their own thoughts. Nobody is right or wrong.And last, I would have to say to accept each other for what they are and don't try to change each other. You can try to change yourself for the better, but, you cant change your spouse.You just need to love each other, and respect each other.
...married 33 years - not to Mr. Perfect...I've learned that he knows how to ';make me mad'; for whatever reason, and I recognize it by the feeling of anger coming on - so I step back and ';withdraw'; if I have to or call him on it (not much help) or ';go away';. Never underestimate the need to get away from each other. Be independent - he/she's just 1 person - don't expect too much...when you get back together, play with him/ her and be an active touching loving mate - everyone melts for that - SMILE:)
Its the spice of the thing! Been married eleven years and our fights can be the worst of the worst. Divorce is brought up, but we both know it is a tool to make the other stand for attention! We have chilled out over the years and things dont get broken, but we are both very passionate and think we are right! One thing that has helped me enormously (being female) is realizing while arguing, is this going to matter in a day? two days? two weeks? two months? 99.9% of the time the answer is NO! So what the hell are we fighting for? It really does help when the argument is over who is cooking or who is picking the kid up. But when it is worth the fight, then stand and be heard!
1) Think before you speak. Once you say something hurtful, you can't take it back.
2) Don't hold grudges...let it go...If you hold on to them, they will eat you, and your relationship up.
3) Pick your battles %26amp; realize that you can't ';win'; every argument. Even if you think you're right, take the higher road, especially about the little things.
You must be able to laugh, Laugh when your happy - cry when your sad.
Don't go to bed mad.
Fighting about MONEY is just stupid - you either have it or you don't.
Something is bothering you, tell the poor man, he CAN NOT READ YOUR MIND!!!!!!! - bring up in a calm matter, discuss it and then DROP it. He can not read your mind and if you are saying...Nothing is wrong, guess what...he believes you.
Trust is very important....if your worried he is doing something behind your back, you need to get a grip. He needs to be able to breath and so do you.
I could go on....just love him and trust him.
Good Luck
10 years and counting and I have to deal with his EX WIFE!
You sound very angry and frustrated, and somewhat immature. By your own admission you are the one who cannot let something go, but instead, must argue and fight over it. You say your husband is a good guy. Okay. So what/who is the real problem??
The easiest solution for any young married couple is divorce. In America, 3 out of 5 marriages end within the first two years. We American's have the largest number of marriage counselors on the planet yet we also have the largest divorce rate of all other countries.
True Love must begin any Marriage. Without True Love there can be no True Marriage. Marriage simply means two becoming as one.
Time and age will slowly dissolve your immaturity but you yourself must calm the internal anger and frustration you exhibit here in your question.
Compromise and Forgiveness are the two key factors that will make any marriage last. Any couple who has been married any time at all will agree wholeheartedly. We all put up with things we don't like, listen to ramble we don't agree with, and constantly, constantly compromise on just about every level and subject. We do the same with friends and family but it isn't as apparent as it is when you're married. Something about marriage seems to give many people the idea that they now reign supreme over another and that thought is completely untrue and absurd. It's never going to be YOUR way once married. It will, however, eventually become ';our'; way if you continue to compromise and forgive.
there are as many answers to your q`s as stars in the heavens, each couple have their own ways and means, some of necessity,some for other reasons, all valid, you must find your own path to least resistance, divorce is not an answer, just a cure for lack of imagination and love in the first place, advice is easy, results is hard, if need be, go back to page one and read the original script again, good luck
Been married 14 years. When we have spats, we say what we have to say and back off of it a few hours and usually we both find out we don't disagree at all. Don't be afraid to disagree and always speak from the heart.
Hi l have been married for 30 yrs and believe me it has been full of ups and downs and quite a few suprises. Some good, some really bad but we have always managed to get past them. My husband cheated which devistated me but even that huge hurdle we are working through. Every marriage l believe has it's problems. No marriage is perfect, people are not perfect, we all have our faults. Sometimes l think you just know that you are meant to be together and regardless of what life throws at you , you always get past it. Communication is a huge part of any good relationship as well as love and respect for one another. I feel that we all seem to forget about those things at times and that is where we go wrong. As far as making a mountain out of a molehill, you are certainly not on your own. I often do it myself and l'm the first to admit it. The way l see it though, if at the end of the day you can look at your husband and know he is good for you and you love him and he loves you back, it makes your marriage all worthwhile.To the couples who have been married for all these years do you have any advice?
My hubby and I have been married for two and a half years, and dating/friends for over ten.
The biggest thing we've learned is to NEVER discuss something when we're angry. Normally, the argument gets blown out of proportion -- and you start attacking about other things not related. If something happens now, we give it some time to blow over. I take a walk, or he goes to the store. It's never worth the hurt to argue rightaway. Half the time its something silly anyways.
Good luck to you !
We have our struggles as everyone does but here is what I do.
When I feel myself getting ticked off because he has left a tissue in his pants pocket for the 1000 time that causes little pieces of tissue to fall all over the floor as I fold the wash........or when I am driving and turn on the turn signal and he clicks his tongue in time with the signal so loudly that I want to pull my hair out.......or when he refuses to believe me that his four strand comb over looks quite silly I remind myself that I am no less annoying. And that we are just human and it is hard enough getting through the day when those who don't profess to love us hurt us. So why should I bother with things that don't really matter at all. (But sometimes I do just have to screaaaaaaaaaaaam! But I do it alone and without snide comments so as to not hurt feelings.
Everyone and Every ones Relationships are different and Built on Different things!
We ALL bring things into Our Relationships-Hurt,Dis-trust,Pain,Immatu鈥?br>
Forgiveness and knowing in your Heart-of-Hearts that whatever is said can be Forgiven and Resolved By Bedtime!
NEVER go to sleep on an Argument or bad Feeling as it can manifest into much Greater things by Morning!
You will know in your Own heart if the person you are with is going to be the ONE for the rest of Your Life!!
If it's not-Then Stop pretending,get out and stop the Hurt before it gets a Whole lot worse!!
Happy Holidays!!
I have been married for almost 15 years now.But we have been together for 17 years.And I used to get mad over stupid little things.But I learned that it wasn't because of what my husband was doing.It was because of me and my immaturity.You can't get mad at him over stupid stuff or you will live your life constantly pissed off.Besides if you make a big deal out everything he won't feel has if her can talk to you about anything.And communication is key.I get into my relationship very young I was only 17.So I had to learn how to be a good wife,partner and friend.So I had to learn by trial and error.And the best advise I could give is if you love your hubby.Don't give up on him our yourself.You need to stop with the making a big deal out of things.My husband and I have been through almost everything you could imagine.From illness and unemployment to losing parents ,grandparents and even our first baby.And the main thing we have learned is that nothing is to big to overcome has long has we have each other.You need to put your love for each other first and you need to be right needs to go right out the door.Would you rather be right or feel justified or be with the man you love?And for gods sake don't ever use the D word unless you are prepared to go through with it.And Divorce should not be your easy way out.It should be a last resort.People are alway asking on here why the divorce rate is so high.Do you know why it is.It is because people don't care enough anymore to stand up and fight for each other it is easier to just find someone new.or Good Luck!
We must cherish a happy lasting marriage and believe that there is greater happiness in togetherness than in loneliness. As long as we do not have that as a goal we tend to drift on individuality. Divorce is an escapist tendency. When we cannot solve our problems we tend to walk away and feel that we are very competent. We are deceiving ourselves.
It is not about who is right or wrong but whether we can build a relationship which will last and is based on trust, forgiving and loving. Can we have true unconditional love which believes in giving than receiving?
Please think about the following:
1) Do we love our parents? Did we choose them to be our parents or did we accept them as our parents?
2) Do we love our country? Did we choose to be born in our country or did we accept all the good and bad in her and still love her?
3) Do we love our children? Did we choose them?
When we choose our husband/wife we pride ourselves in our decision making abilities. How is it that we cannot build a relationship which we chose????? I think the following will help:
1) We should reduce our ego and our individuality.
2) We should realise that everyone is unique and respect our spouse rather than try to change him/her according to our taste.
3) We should realise that men are different from women. Please read the book ';Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus';.
4) We should realise that we grow and evolve with age and our experiences. We should allow our partner to also evolve with time.
5) We should learn the timeless virtues and not worry about what is fashionable.
6) We should be sensitive human beings who will ';Do unto others what you want others to do unto you';
7) Patience is to be practised when we deal with others. We can be impatient with ourselves.
8) Financial problems cause a lot of avoidable conflicts. So we need to be financially literate.
9) We should be physically, mentally and spiritually attractive human beings. We should compete with ourselves and better ourselves than compete with friends and neighbours.
10) Develop a positive attitude and be prepared to tackle any kind of emergency in our lives. We should consciously try to learn and improve our lives. Happiness does not happen by chance. We have to make it happen.
11) We should admit our mistakes and learn from them. Never repeat the same mistake.
12) We have only one life. Live happily. Count your blessings before you count your misfortunes.
Best of luck, Hotmomma.....
Please also read my answer to a question, '; How can i make my marriage even better?does I LOVE YOU enough?';
The problems usually stem from matters that have not been addressed and dealt with.
If things brew inside and are not addressed, it builds up inside and then things explode.
Friendship, Communication, respect, consideration for each other, and trust are most important in any marriage.
When we get married, our role is to be a husbandwife.
Somehow, we tend to become fathers and mothers to our spouses and we should not.
Do not Judge, constructive criticism is more acceptable.
If both adults are mature, there is nothing that can interfere with salvaging your marriage.
Take a vow and agree that you never go to bed angry and stick to it.
If you can not change things, you must dismiss it and not let anger consume you.
Whoever can accomplish this task and it does require patience, will be happier in the end.
When I get upset at my husband about something, I ask myself how important is this? If it doesn't really matter, let it go. You had already decided it doesn't matter. And always remember that everyone is entitled to their own opinion. So, you might not always agree on something, but, its OK. Let each other have their own thoughts. Nobody is right or wrong.And last, I would have to say to accept each other for what they are and don't try to change each other. You can try to change yourself for the better, but, you cant change your spouse.You just need to love each other, and respect each other.
...married 33 years - not to Mr. Perfect...I've learned that he knows how to ';make me mad'; for whatever reason, and I recognize it by the feeling of anger coming on - so I step back and ';withdraw'; if I have to or call him on it (not much help) or ';go away';. Never underestimate the need to get away from each other. Be independent - he/she's just 1 person - don't expect too much...when you get back together, play with him/ her and be an active touching loving mate - everyone melts for that - SMILE:)
Its the spice of the thing! Been married eleven years and our fights can be the worst of the worst. Divorce is brought up, but we both know it is a tool to make the other stand for attention! We have chilled out over the years and things dont get broken, but we are both very passionate and think we are right! One thing that has helped me enormously (being female) is realizing while arguing, is this going to matter in a day? two days? two weeks? two months? 99.9% of the time the answer is NO! So what the hell are we fighting for? It really does help when the argument is over who is cooking or who is picking the kid up. But when it is worth the fight, then stand and be heard!
1) Think before you speak. Once you say something hurtful, you can't take it back.
2) Don't hold grudges...let it go...If you hold on to them, they will eat you, and your relationship up.
3) Pick your battles %26amp; realize that you can't ';win'; every argument. Even if you think you're right, take the higher road, especially about the little things.
You must be able to laugh, Laugh when your happy - cry when your sad.
Don't go to bed mad.
Fighting about MONEY is just stupid - you either have it or you don't.
Something is bothering you, tell the poor man, he CAN NOT READ YOUR MIND!!!!!!! - bring up in a calm matter, discuss it and then DROP it. He can not read your mind and if you are saying...Nothing is wrong, guess what...he believes you.
Trust is very important....if your worried he is doing something behind your back, you need to get a grip. He needs to be able to breath and so do you.
I could go on....just love him and trust him.
Good Luck
10 years and counting and I have to deal with his EX WIFE!
You sound very angry and frustrated, and somewhat immature. By your own admission you are the one who cannot let something go, but instead, must argue and fight over it. You say your husband is a good guy. Okay. So what/who is the real problem??
The easiest solution for any young married couple is divorce. In America, 3 out of 5 marriages end within the first two years. We American's have the largest number of marriage counselors on the planet yet we also have the largest divorce rate of all other countries.
True Love must begin any Marriage. Without True Love there can be no True Marriage. Marriage simply means two becoming as one.
Time and age will slowly dissolve your immaturity but you yourself must calm the internal anger and frustration you exhibit here in your question.
Compromise and Forgiveness are the two key factors that will make any marriage last. Any couple who has been married any time at all will agree wholeheartedly. We all put up with things we don't like, listen to ramble we don't agree with, and constantly, constantly compromise on just about every level and subject. We do the same with friends and family but it isn't as apparent as it is when you're married. Something about marriage seems to give many people the idea that they now reign supreme over another and that thought is completely untrue and absurd. It's never going to be YOUR way once married. It will, however, eventually become ';our'; way if you continue to compromise and forgive.
there are as many answers to your q`s as stars in the heavens, each couple have their own ways and means, some of necessity,some for other reasons, all valid, you must find your own path to least resistance, divorce is not an answer, just a cure for lack of imagination and love in the first place, advice is easy, results is hard, if need be, go back to page one and read the original script again, good luck
Been married 14 years. When we have spats, we say what we have to say and back off of it a few hours and usually we both find out we don't disagree at all. Don't be afraid to disagree and always speak from the heart.
What is the best and honest advice you can give for a couple that is having problems...?
where one is willing to get help but the other is not?
the one who is willing knows and sees the lack of communication in the marriage, but the other doesn't want to talk about it.
mature advice only please...What is the best and honest advice you can give for a couple that is having problems...?
The one who is willing should get the help even if the other refuses. Individuals in a marriage can get help in working through the problems as couples.What is the best and honest advice you can give for a couple that is having problems...?
1. You cannot change another person
2. You cannot have a healthy marriage if BOTH spouses are not 110% commited.
Truths....and you have to decide, based on the TRUTH, not on what you hope.
Sometimes it's helpful if just one of the spouses goes for counseling.
It has been known to work with the right counselor and if the spouse who goes can be open and objective.
I am assuming you are the one who is willing to talk and he is not. Maybe the way you approach him makes him not talk? Maybe all you do is ';talking'; and he is tired of it? What kind of problems are you having?
the honest truth is, it takes TWO to make it work....if one does not want to try and the other does all the time, chances are the marriage is over.
the one who is willing knows and sees the lack of communication in the marriage, but the other doesn't want to talk about it.
mature advice only please...What is the best and honest advice you can give for a couple that is having problems...?
The one who is willing should get the help even if the other refuses. Individuals in a marriage can get help in working through the problems as couples.What is the best and honest advice you can give for a couple that is having problems...?
1. You cannot change another person
2. You cannot have a healthy marriage if BOTH spouses are not 110% commited.
Truths....and you have to decide, based on the TRUTH, not on what you hope.
Sometimes it's helpful if just one of the spouses goes for counseling.
It has been known to work with the right counselor and if the spouse who goes can be open and objective.
I am assuming you are the one who is willing to talk and he is not. Maybe the way you approach him makes him not talk? Maybe all you do is ';talking'; and he is tired of it? What kind of problems are you having?
the honest truth is, it takes TWO to make it work....if one does not want to try and the other does all the time, chances are the marriage is over.
Couples Counseling a last resort or just some advice?
My girlfriend and I have been together for a little over 2 years. The first 6 months together we were really in love.
Now 2 years later we are still in love and thinking about our future together. Through these last two years we have been at different colleges, we have the occasional disagreements and seem to have a very intense relationship, either extremely happy with each other or almost to the point of cutting it off. But we really do love each other and as much as I want to see what it is like, she doesn't think we are quite at that point yet...
I guess what im trying to ask is, would we be wasting a counsleors time to see if we are ready for marrige yet, set some lifelong goals, get some things off our chest and make me feel a better about popping the question?Couples Counseling a last resort or just some advice?
It might help... You two sound like me and my ex-wife. We started out great and slowly over 8 years the arguments got more intense and more frequent. If you've noticed it use to be small disagreements once in a while and it has become more frequent there might be bad feeling still being harbored from past arguments. A counselor could help the two of you find the root. Couples Counseling a last resort or just some advice?
When you both consult a counselor, many things will come out of the closet and the counselor will help you pull some out as well. By talking to her about your problems with her and vise versa, the two of you will come to realize whether you want to be together or not. Usually, when couples (married or not) reach this point, it's basically the end of the relationship.
no way would you be just wasting a councellors time.
it is a very responsible thing to do BEFORE you guys get married and then relise that your goals and ideas are completely different.
I wish that my husband and i had done that , cos now we're having a baby and we have different views on how to raise kids also different religious beliefs.
trust me - sort all that out before you get married
Counseling might help. You have to go in with a open mind and be able to listen and learn, as well as maybe go to places that are not in your favor. It will make you look at yourself as well as your girlfriend. So, be prepared. Good luck.
I admire you and commend you for having the wisdom to look into the future like this. I think that a counseling session would be good. You are on the right track!!!
That's what they are there for, you should go see one.
i think u should try it but u seem to be going in the right direction
i wouldnt see a councellor. A relationship takes 2 ppl and a councellor aint one of them. much less counsellors wld be visited if ppl actually LISTENED to their partners. what you should do is listen to her and respect her feelings. If she thinks you two are not ready for marriage then you probably aren't. its as simple as that. just continue to be open with her and give her no reason to keep back her feelings and troubles from you, and with communication, your relationship will flourish. i do admire you for wanting to settle down so early by the way, but it must be mutual. Also, i dont think you are ready either. Dont enter a marriage just to see what it is like, but do it because there is noone else that you would rather be with and you are at a point where you dont have to think: ';suppose a better person for me came along?';. When i decided i wanted to marry is when i decided that i just dont care who else is out there in the world and i am just not interested in good-looks,what personalities they have and compatabilities. i just, dont, care. I saw who I wanted for me and I didnt feel like i wld ever miss out on a thingcuz i had it all. it must be an absolute 100 percent feeling, cuz when you cross that bridge, there should NEVER be any turning back so make sure that your partner is 'IT' for you before you propose. if i were you, i'd be glad that my gf said shes not ready or you might be married right now in the 'what if' state judging by the fact that you currently want to seek counsel about this.
Now 2 years later we are still in love and thinking about our future together. Through these last two years we have been at different colleges, we have the occasional disagreements and seem to have a very intense relationship, either extremely happy with each other or almost to the point of cutting it off. But we really do love each other and as much as I want to see what it is like, she doesn't think we are quite at that point yet...
I guess what im trying to ask is, would we be wasting a counsleors time to see if we are ready for marrige yet, set some lifelong goals, get some things off our chest and make me feel a better about popping the question?Couples Counseling a last resort or just some advice?
It might help... You two sound like me and my ex-wife. We started out great and slowly over 8 years the arguments got more intense and more frequent. If you've noticed it use to be small disagreements once in a while and it has become more frequent there might be bad feeling still being harbored from past arguments. A counselor could help the two of you find the root. Couples Counseling a last resort or just some advice?
When you both consult a counselor, many things will come out of the closet and the counselor will help you pull some out as well. By talking to her about your problems with her and vise versa, the two of you will come to realize whether you want to be together or not. Usually, when couples (married or not) reach this point, it's basically the end of the relationship.
no way would you be just wasting a councellors time.
it is a very responsible thing to do BEFORE you guys get married and then relise that your goals and ideas are completely different.
I wish that my husband and i had done that , cos now we're having a baby and we have different views on how to raise kids also different religious beliefs.
trust me - sort all that out before you get married
Counseling might help. You have to go in with a open mind and be able to listen and learn, as well as maybe go to places that are not in your favor. It will make you look at yourself as well as your girlfriend. So, be prepared. Good luck.
I admire you and commend you for having the wisdom to look into the future like this. I think that a counseling session would be good. You are on the right track!!!
That's what they are there for, you should go see one.
i think u should try it but u seem to be going in the right direction
i wouldnt see a councellor. A relationship takes 2 ppl and a councellor aint one of them. much less counsellors wld be visited if ppl actually LISTENED to their partners. what you should do is listen to her and respect her feelings. If she thinks you two are not ready for marriage then you probably aren't. its as simple as that. just continue to be open with her and give her no reason to keep back her feelings and troubles from you, and with communication, your relationship will flourish. i do admire you for wanting to settle down so early by the way, but it must be mutual. Also, i dont think you are ready either. Dont enter a marriage just to see what it is like, but do it because there is noone else that you would rather be with and you are at a point where you dont have to think: ';suppose a better person for me came along?';. When i decided i wanted to marry is when i decided that i just dont care who else is out there in the world and i am just not interested in good-looks,what personalities they have and compatabilities. i just, dont, care. I saw who I wanted for me and I didnt feel like i wld ever miss out on a thingcuz i had it all. it must be an absolute 100 percent feeling, cuz when you cross that bridge, there should NEVER be any turning back so make sure that your partner is 'IT' for you before you propose. if i were you, i'd be glad that my gf said shes not ready or you might be married right now in the 'what if' state judging by the fact that you currently want to seek counsel about this.
Married couples with children: I need some advice!?
My husband and I suffer from the age old dilemma of never having sex since our baby was born. We have only been married for 2 years. Our daughter was born in April 2007. We both work full time. After chasing after my daughter all evening, cooking dinner, cleaning up, etc I am usually too tired for sex. I also take an antidepressant that I know doesn't help my sex drive.
We used to have sex all the time. It bothers both of us and it leads to arguments. My husband thinks I don't find him attractive anymore, although I've tried to explain to him what is really happening. I have changed in so many ways since I gave birth. The carefree, sexy girl I used to be has been replaced by a mommy.
We had an argument last night b/c I wasn't in the mood. I suggested to him that we have sex on designated nights on the week. I think that would work out some of our problems.
I am just curious how other married couples still enjoy their sex lives after having kids. Any tips or advice would be appreciated.Married couples with children: I need some advice!?
I've been married for 17 years and we have four children. Part of this is probably your medication and the other part is your attitude about sex and being a mother. Talk to your doctor about trying other meds that don't affect your sex drive as much. The other thing you need to do is to get back ';the carefree sexy girl';. I'm not saying you diminish your responsibilities as a mother but you need to realize that it's totally possible to be both! If you're not in the mood, you need to figure out how to get in the mood. Most of this is mental. Learn how to put your mommy self to bed and bring the sexy you out for the evening. Sometimes I do this by taking a nice hot bubble bath. Find what works for you. If you're exhausted from doing all that you do in an evening (and I know it's work) then your husband needs to step up to the plate and lend a hand. What I keep in mind (and he does too) is that we've created this life together. Us, all these children, a home. The best we can do for our kids is to maintain a healthy and loving relationship. A great sex life is a big part of this. Sex and time together should be your reward (and his) for a long hard day. The effects of sex are amazing on your body and if you do it right, it's like a natural sleeping pill. Also keep in mind that every night doesn't have to be 2 hour long, marathon sex. Sometimes a quickie is all you need. If we can't find 15 minutes or a couple hours for our spouse then what is all this for?? Ask yourself that. If it means you have to let something go, that extra load of laundry, that last load of dishes, then let it go. In the long run those things will still be there (a womans work is NEVER done) but your relationship might not. Instead of scheduling sex, schedule time for each other every day. Block out that time and get your things done before that time rolls around. Learn how to relax together and enjoy each others company, talk about your day, talk about your goals and desires. If it leads to sex a few nights a week, that's great! I promise you if you do this not only will he be happier, but so will you. Good luck :)Married couples with children: I need some advice!?
Love yourself as much as you love your family. Its nice to look after your family but you have to remember to look after yourself too. You just probably need a time management to work things out for you and your husband. Do not focus on just being a mommy. Be a wife as well if you do not want to put your marriage into some kind of a disaster. You know what I mean. Try to put your daughter to bed early, relax and try to give yourself some moment of your own so you could have energy for your husband. Its not yet too late to do something about it.
I am married with 5 kids so I totally understand what you are going through. I don't want to have sex and have to sometimes make myself do it because I know I need to take care of him too. Designated days should be the answer. You get to tell him its not your day, its perfect! As long as you come to an agreement on how often you guys should be fine.
We make each other a priority. Screw the dishes, no one is going to steal them if they are left in the sink. Buy take out some times, the two year old won't care. Learn to cut some corners, the house does not have to be perfect all the time, unless it is up for sale or a party is planned. You and your Husband should be taking care of each other as much as the two of you take care of the kid, that is called FAMILY.
I was taking one SSRI that gave me sexual side effects. Mty doctor switched me to another and I snapped out of it quickly. Please talk to you doctor; sex is a critical part of a happy marriage. Afer I switched, I turned right back into that sexy girl, and I'll bet you will, too.
don't make sex so much of a chore and make it a top priority because it'll keep ya husband faithful and save your marriage
Designated days work trust me!!!!
Have you shown him the list of side-effects for the meds you are taking?
Mommy needs a break! Im a mother of a 5 and 7 year old. And sex is a hard thing to come by when you have kids. Especially if they have sex radar and wake up when youre in mid-coitus. The best thing to do is have a ';date night';. Arrange a sitter and go out like old times, get some cheap wine, rent a room and get right and tight and tear it up like wild rabbits. That way youre still Mommy and youre his sexy little vixen too. Another thing is to jump in the shower with him when hes getting up (my husband does PT in the mornings) but nothing like a little morning nookie to put a smile on his face. Suprise sex is great for a man, where as women we like romantic warm me up and make me shiver sex. Guys like for somethign to just jump on them and throttle them until they feel good.
Maybe talk to your doc about different meds? Also don't make designated sex nights it does not work, first try a sitter send the baby away with the grandparents for the night make that night about the two of you!! Also have the hubby help with chores at night taking the load off a bit could make you less tired, but I hear you hun we have one little girl and another on the way it is tiring, but we try our hardest to not let it interfere with our sex lives.. Even if you are tired initiate sex once you get in to it you will not be tired anymore..
First off I would say that this might be something you need to talk to your doctor about. Maybe there is some other kind of medication that might not hit you so hard.
I am a mother of a two year old and have been married for three years. And for a while I was never in the mood and it lead to a lot of problems. Funny how much sex can affect every other part of the relationship, huh?
As for the being too tired to get in the mood thing, which I like probably every mother understands, have you told him about that? If you can get a little bit of help from him it would make it easier for you. Maybe he can be in charge of getting the baby ready for bed, and putting her to sleep. This way it gives you some time to unwind before it's time to get intimate. I would say to even go as far as to drop the baby off with a friend or relative for most of the day. And don't go out take out and a movie at home so you'll be relaxed and if the mood arrives you can just go for it without worrying about the baby or dishes or food.... Women have to have the right mind set to be in the mood. Men are like a light switch:)
I went through that time too, where you feel like every part of you takes a back seat to being a mommy. I do feel like the child should come first before anything else, but your husband didn't marry you ';The Mommy'; he married YOU. And although you can't go completely back to sexy no children woman again, she is still there. Your baby is old enough now that you should be able to park her little butt in front of a movie and have a little quickie with the husband. As long as you have your house baby safe then leave her in the other room with a baby monitor and take care of your husband. For a while, sex was the last thing on my mind. But I would still pull my husband aside, whenever I could because I think men need to feel like they are wanted sexually, and pretty soon he started seeing me as that sexy pre-mommy woman again. And once he started seeing me that way, I couldn't help but see myself that way too.
If you have to schedule times for sex, do it. Better than nothing. But I think that as his wife you should have sex even on some of the nights you don't really feel like it. It will make him happier, and ease some of the arguments. And it may not seem like it right now, but it will bring back your sexy side. If you try all you can and you just can't seem to get your sex life back it may be time to think about counseling. There might be something deeper here than just not being in the mood or having time. But I don't think so, it's probably just you having to get a part of you back. It won't hurt you as a mother. There's enough room in you for the loving mother and the sexy wife;)
Good luck!
i am married, working mother of 3. and i also go to gym EVERY EVENING, and cos we re health nuts we never eat junk from freeze like most people nowadays - we eat freshly cooked meals from scratch every day. it mean when i come from gym at 8 pm i also start cooking for the next day. or my husband starts cooking. and i get up at 6 am. i am usually very much tired in the late evening. but don't u love to bring joy to others? i love it. i love to buy gifts for my kids and take them places, i love to bring my husband enjoyment. for men sex is much more important than for women. so even if i am dead tired and he is in the mood i get in the mood too. i just love seeing his satisfied smiling face. after all he always does whatever i want - he takes me places, buys me whatever i want, takes care of me and kids. i love him and i will do anything for him even if i am dropping dead and semi concious.
First get one of your family members to babysit. Take a nite out go to diner,movies,or just a walk in the park. As bad as it sounds to pawn your child off you need the time away. I never thought making days and time for sex ever worked. I have 2 daughters and went throught the same things. Even a nice bath or shower together is good. But the key is dont rush when you have the chance take your time a lot of touchy feely goes a long way. Again the key is to get a nite here and there away you can not spend 24-7 with the baby you will stress your self out and that is not good for the baby or the husband.
Designated nights probably doesn't sound all that romantic, but it's not a bad start. At least you know it's coming, and you can plan something a little romantic. A candle light dinner after your daughter goes to bed can be nice.
You feel you have changed in so many ways, but remember that your husband hasn't changed. He married that carefree sexy girl hiding inside the mommy. The source of his frustration is that your no longer the girl he married.
I'm not saying he won't or shouldn't compromise. I am sure he will. It's just that he misses the old you, and there's nothing he can do to fix it. You need to let her out once in a while.
BTW, we have all been there, and it's not easy, but it will work out.
I've been married for 11 years now and have 4 kids - 3 of 'em are boys and work full time (both me and my hubby), so you can see my hands are full. But is till make it a point to make landi to my hubby by texting him every now and then just make the mood going. So by the end of the day, I know that we both are looking forward to a cozy time together. I know having kids are stressful but having time for yourself and your hubby will destress you. if you don't mind me asking, what do you think of your body now that you gave birth? because I know that contributes something to what you're feeling now. I know that because I've experienced that before when I gave birth to our first born.I got a 24 inch waistline before and got 34 after giving birth..it';s really hard to overcome but you can do it if you would only change your attitude towards it. As time passes by, I reduced my self to 28'; waist now. Hard work and determination will also help. But I gained my confidence back and I'm now happy with him. Hope you could also...Good Luck!
Lol, Yes it is quite a dilemma, but something you will overcome in time. Its one of those things you stick together on, dont let this tear you apart. Sex is important, but sex is not everything.. You must insist to your husband that it is not him, try not to put any blame on your self either. Having a child/children is hard work, But it should not stop you from having a decent sex life at one and a half years on.. YOU CAN BE that sexy, care free self again, Just because your no longer a girl, and your now a mommy, does not make you unattractive, and boring.. You need to remind your self often that your a yummy mommy, and worth every second of your husbands attention, the more confident you feel with your self, the more sexual you'll become.. I dont think designating nights for sex is appropriate, That is a turn of on its own.. Sex should be when you both feel like it, and right now, i know you dont feel up to it, but give it a go, even if you are feeling exhausted, or unattravtive, you may be suprised that your more aroused then you thought.. Everyone goes through this stage, and trust me, you will get over it, communication is the key, and babysitters, and a few glasses of wine wont hurt either *wink, wink*!! GOOD LUCKnatural lipstick
We used to have sex all the time. It bothers both of us and it leads to arguments. My husband thinks I don't find him attractive anymore, although I've tried to explain to him what is really happening. I have changed in so many ways since I gave birth. The carefree, sexy girl I used to be has been replaced by a mommy.
We had an argument last night b/c I wasn't in the mood. I suggested to him that we have sex on designated nights on the week. I think that would work out some of our problems.
I am just curious how other married couples still enjoy their sex lives after having kids. Any tips or advice would be appreciated.Married couples with children: I need some advice!?
I've been married for 17 years and we have four children. Part of this is probably your medication and the other part is your attitude about sex and being a mother. Talk to your doctor about trying other meds that don't affect your sex drive as much. The other thing you need to do is to get back ';the carefree sexy girl';. I'm not saying you diminish your responsibilities as a mother but you need to realize that it's totally possible to be both! If you're not in the mood, you need to figure out how to get in the mood. Most of this is mental. Learn how to put your mommy self to bed and bring the sexy you out for the evening. Sometimes I do this by taking a nice hot bubble bath. Find what works for you. If you're exhausted from doing all that you do in an evening (and I know it's work) then your husband needs to step up to the plate and lend a hand. What I keep in mind (and he does too) is that we've created this life together. Us, all these children, a home. The best we can do for our kids is to maintain a healthy and loving relationship. A great sex life is a big part of this. Sex and time together should be your reward (and his) for a long hard day. The effects of sex are amazing on your body and if you do it right, it's like a natural sleeping pill. Also keep in mind that every night doesn't have to be 2 hour long, marathon sex. Sometimes a quickie is all you need. If we can't find 15 minutes or a couple hours for our spouse then what is all this for?? Ask yourself that. If it means you have to let something go, that extra load of laundry, that last load of dishes, then let it go. In the long run those things will still be there (a womans work is NEVER done) but your relationship might not. Instead of scheduling sex, schedule time for each other every day. Block out that time and get your things done before that time rolls around. Learn how to relax together and enjoy each others company, talk about your day, talk about your goals and desires. If it leads to sex a few nights a week, that's great! I promise you if you do this not only will he be happier, but so will you. Good luck :)Married couples with children: I need some advice!?
Love yourself as much as you love your family. Its nice to look after your family but you have to remember to look after yourself too. You just probably need a time management to work things out for you and your husband. Do not focus on just being a mommy. Be a wife as well if you do not want to put your marriage into some kind of a disaster. You know what I mean. Try to put your daughter to bed early, relax and try to give yourself some moment of your own so you could have energy for your husband. Its not yet too late to do something about it.
I am married with 5 kids so I totally understand what you are going through. I don't want to have sex and have to sometimes make myself do it because I know I need to take care of him too. Designated days should be the answer. You get to tell him its not your day, its perfect! As long as you come to an agreement on how often you guys should be fine.
We make each other a priority. Screw the dishes, no one is going to steal them if they are left in the sink. Buy take out some times, the two year old won't care. Learn to cut some corners, the house does not have to be perfect all the time, unless it is up for sale or a party is planned. You and your Husband should be taking care of each other as much as the two of you take care of the kid, that is called FAMILY.
I was taking one SSRI that gave me sexual side effects. Mty doctor switched me to another and I snapped out of it quickly. Please talk to you doctor; sex is a critical part of a happy marriage. Afer I switched, I turned right back into that sexy girl, and I'll bet you will, too.
don't make sex so much of a chore and make it a top priority because it'll keep ya husband faithful and save your marriage
Designated days work trust me!!!!
Have you shown him the list of side-effects for the meds you are taking?
Mommy needs a break! Im a mother of a 5 and 7 year old. And sex is a hard thing to come by when you have kids. Especially if they have sex radar and wake up when youre in mid-coitus. The best thing to do is have a ';date night';. Arrange a sitter and go out like old times, get some cheap wine, rent a room and get right and tight and tear it up like wild rabbits. That way youre still Mommy and youre his sexy little vixen too. Another thing is to jump in the shower with him when hes getting up (my husband does PT in the mornings) but nothing like a little morning nookie to put a smile on his face. Suprise sex is great for a man, where as women we like romantic warm me up and make me shiver sex. Guys like for somethign to just jump on them and throttle them until they feel good.
Maybe talk to your doc about different meds? Also don't make designated sex nights it does not work, first try a sitter send the baby away with the grandparents for the night make that night about the two of you!! Also have the hubby help with chores at night taking the load off a bit could make you less tired, but I hear you hun we have one little girl and another on the way it is tiring, but we try our hardest to not let it interfere with our sex lives.. Even if you are tired initiate sex once you get in to it you will not be tired anymore..
First off I would say that this might be something you need to talk to your doctor about. Maybe there is some other kind of medication that might not hit you so hard.
I am a mother of a two year old and have been married for three years. And for a while I was never in the mood and it lead to a lot of problems. Funny how much sex can affect every other part of the relationship, huh?
As for the being too tired to get in the mood thing, which I like probably every mother understands, have you told him about that? If you can get a little bit of help from him it would make it easier for you. Maybe he can be in charge of getting the baby ready for bed, and putting her to sleep. This way it gives you some time to unwind before it's time to get intimate. I would say to even go as far as to drop the baby off with a friend or relative for most of the day. And don't go out take out and a movie at home so you'll be relaxed and if the mood arrives you can just go for it without worrying about the baby or dishes or food.... Women have to have the right mind set to be in the mood. Men are like a light switch:)
I went through that time too, where you feel like every part of you takes a back seat to being a mommy. I do feel like the child should come first before anything else, but your husband didn't marry you ';The Mommy'; he married YOU. And although you can't go completely back to sexy no children woman again, she is still there. Your baby is old enough now that you should be able to park her little butt in front of a movie and have a little quickie with the husband. As long as you have your house baby safe then leave her in the other room with a baby monitor and take care of your husband. For a while, sex was the last thing on my mind. But I would still pull my husband aside, whenever I could because I think men need to feel like they are wanted sexually, and pretty soon he started seeing me as that sexy pre-mommy woman again. And once he started seeing me that way, I couldn't help but see myself that way too.
If you have to schedule times for sex, do it. Better than nothing. But I think that as his wife you should have sex even on some of the nights you don't really feel like it. It will make him happier, and ease some of the arguments. And it may not seem like it right now, but it will bring back your sexy side. If you try all you can and you just can't seem to get your sex life back it may be time to think about counseling. There might be something deeper here than just not being in the mood or having time. But I don't think so, it's probably just you having to get a part of you back. It won't hurt you as a mother. There's enough room in you for the loving mother and the sexy wife;)
Good luck!
i am married, working mother of 3. and i also go to gym EVERY EVENING, and cos we re health nuts we never eat junk from freeze like most people nowadays - we eat freshly cooked meals from scratch every day. it mean when i come from gym at 8 pm i also start cooking for the next day. or my husband starts cooking. and i get up at 6 am. i am usually very much tired in the late evening. but don't u love to bring joy to others? i love it. i love to buy gifts for my kids and take them places, i love to bring my husband enjoyment. for men sex is much more important than for women. so even if i am dead tired and he is in the mood i get in the mood too. i just love seeing his satisfied smiling face. after all he always does whatever i want - he takes me places, buys me whatever i want, takes care of me and kids. i love him and i will do anything for him even if i am dropping dead and semi concious.
First get one of your family members to babysit. Take a nite out go to diner,movies,or just a walk in the park. As bad as it sounds to pawn your child off you need the time away. I never thought making days and time for sex ever worked. I have 2 daughters and went throught the same things. Even a nice bath or shower together is good. But the key is dont rush when you have the chance take your time a lot of touchy feely goes a long way. Again the key is to get a nite here and there away you can not spend 24-7 with the baby you will stress your self out and that is not good for the baby or the husband.
Designated nights probably doesn't sound all that romantic, but it's not a bad start. At least you know it's coming, and you can plan something a little romantic. A candle light dinner after your daughter goes to bed can be nice.
You feel you have changed in so many ways, but remember that your husband hasn't changed. He married that carefree sexy girl hiding inside the mommy. The source of his frustration is that your no longer the girl he married.
I'm not saying he won't or shouldn't compromise. I am sure he will. It's just that he misses the old you, and there's nothing he can do to fix it. You need to let her out once in a while.
BTW, we have all been there, and it's not easy, but it will work out.
I've been married for 11 years now and have 4 kids - 3 of 'em are boys and work full time (both me and my hubby), so you can see my hands are full. But is till make it a point to make landi to my hubby by texting him every now and then just make the mood going. So by the end of the day, I know that we both are looking forward to a cozy time together. I know having kids are stressful but having time for yourself and your hubby will destress you. if you don't mind me asking, what do you think of your body now that you gave birth? because I know that contributes something to what you're feeling now. I know that because I've experienced that before when I gave birth to our first born.I got a 24 inch waistline before and got 34 after giving birth..it';s really hard to overcome but you can do it if you would only change your attitude towards it. As time passes by, I reduced my self to 28'; waist now. Hard work and determination will also help. But I gained my confidence back and I'm now happy with him. Hope you could also...Good Luck!
Lol, Yes it is quite a dilemma, but something you will overcome in time. Its one of those things you stick together on, dont let this tear you apart. Sex is important, but sex is not everything.. You must insist to your husband that it is not him, try not to put any blame on your self either. Having a child/children is hard work, But it should not stop you from having a decent sex life at one and a half years on.. YOU CAN BE that sexy, care free self again, Just because your no longer a girl, and your now a mommy, does not make you unattractive, and boring.. You need to remind your self often that your a yummy mommy, and worth every second of your husbands attention, the more confident you feel with your self, the more sexual you'll become.. I dont think designating nights for sex is appropriate, That is a turn of on its own.. Sex should be when you both feel like it, and right now, i know you dont feel up to it, but give it a go, even if you are feeling exhausted, or unattravtive, you may be suprised that your more aroused then you thought.. Everyone goes through this stage, and trust me, you will get over it, communication is the key, and babysitters, and a few glasses of wine wont hurt either *wink, wink*!! GOOD LUCK
Im taking my real estate licensing exam in a couple hours ANY ADVICE?
Chill. The error rate that is acceptable is very high. You could pass with random guesses, it is almost impossible to fail the test. (the brokers license is hard though, you have to actually know a few things)Im taking my real estate licensing exam in a couple hours ANY ADVICE?
what I did, is that I went through and did the questions that I knew and then I went back and did the ones that i was unsure of...
it kndof irritated me that in class, they were making a huge deal about the test and what not, but it wasnt too bad..everything that i expected to be on the test was on the tes..then again..i live in oklahoma, where its one of the easiest states to get a license
good luck!!Im taking my real estate licensing exam in a couple hours ANY ADVICE?
Study!
Relax - and Good Luck!
take a shot of vodka nd ull fell confident ;)
gin
what I did, is that I went through and did the questions that I knew and then I went back and did the ones that i was unsure of...
it kndof irritated me that in class, they were making a huge deal about the test and what not, but it wasnt too bad..everything that i expected to be on the test was on the tes..then again..i live in oklahoma, where its one of the easiest states to get a license
good luck!!Im taking my real estate licensing exam in a couple hours ANY ADVICE?
Study!
Relax - and Good Luck!
take a shot of vodka nd ull fell confident ;)
gin
Advice for taking home in NJ area for an indian couple?
I just started working in NY area. I am desparelty looking for 1 br apartment newa Nj area. I need advice in which area i can take room that has proper environment for family(not near to kalla place) and also where i can survive with out car.my rent range is up to 1200k ..please advice ...need it badlyAdvice for taking home in NJ area for an indian couple?
Does it have to be Newark?? Try Jersey City and look for private rentals in 2 or more family homes. You may also want to try Harrison as wellAdvice for taking home in NJ area for an indian couple?
Anywhere along the riverline that takes you right to the city. Riverside and palmyra are nice you can pretty much walk or take the bus or train everywhere there. check out www.riverline.com
anywhere in new jersey Clifton, montclair these are my favorite
HEY BUDDY CANT SAY ABOUT IT.
Does it have to be Newark?? Try Jersey City and look for private rentals in 2 or more family homes. You may also want to try Harrison as wellAdvice for taking home in NJ area for an indian couple?
Anywhere along the riverline that takes you right to the city. Riverside and palmyra are nice you can pretty much walk or take the bus or train everywhere there. check out www.riverline.com
anywhere in new jersey Clifton, montclair these are my favorite
HEY BUDDY CANT SAY ABOUT IT.
Anyone have any good advice for a couple trying to concieve?
my husband and i are wanting to start a family, and we need some adviceAnyone have any good advice for a couple trying to concieve?
I say go to fertilityfriend.com and start charting your cycles. Just do a little research and you will soon be a TTC expert along with the rest of us. You will start to understand a language people would think you are crazy. Lol I love it but then again... You really need to know your average cycle length and then you can start ';guessing'; your ovulation days and fertile times and know when to have sex. The best way which I myself have not started doing yet(which I should I'm going on 6 months of trying) is BBT charting. You basal body temperature and also research cervical mucus changes. I hope I helped a little. My favorite website is mycycle.com but I use a few. Oh and when you are in your 2WW (two week wait, you will know what I mean) check out twoweekwait.com.Anyone have any good advice for a couple trying to concieve?
I understand your frustration, my dear.
Believe it or not, my husband and I tried to conceive for more than 8-months. We tried to refrain from sex for days and even weeks but it didn't help.
Worst part is, there were empty hopes - I thought I was pregnant but in the end I wasn't. It's really frustrating and I understand that.
I was in Yahoo Answers and in this section quite some time ago and I ask a question similar to yours and a person recommended me a book. It's entitled ';Getting Pregnant Bible';. I swear it's like a gift from God!
It teaches stuffs like the seven things you need to do before even you try to get pregnant to ensure a healthy pregnancy; the appropriate diet to conceive; how to increase your husband's sperm count; the ovulation cycle and many others!
I am already having my 4th child now! I really recommend that you try reading this book out. Also, they are currently giving free bonus books like fertility secrets and choosing your baby gender! It's for a limited time only!
Learn more about it here: http://xurl.jp/lom
the book ';Taking Charge of your Fertility'; by Toni Weschler is a MUST read for any woman!......I spend 3 years ';trying'; to make babies the old fashioned way...having sex whenever!....didn't work......if you know when you ovluate and you can read your own body it takes much less time in my opinion...after reading the book it only took 2 months of trying....
bd baby dance and have fun cause it might turn into a chore so keep it spicy!
I say go to fertilityfriend.com and start charting your cycles. Just do a little research and you will soon be a TTC expert along with the rest of us. You will start to understand a language people would think you are crazy. Lol I love it but then again... You really need to know your average cycle length and then you can start ';guessing'; your ovulation days and fertile times and know when to have sex. The best way which I myself have not started doing yet(which I should I'm going on 6 months of trying) is BBT charting. You basal body temperature and also research cervical mucus changes. I hope I helped a little. My favorite website is mycycle.com but I use a few. Oh and when you are in your 2WW (two week wait, you will know what I mean) check out twoweekwait.com.Anyone have any good advice for a couple trying to concieve?
I understand your frustration, my dear.
Believe it or not, my husband and I tried to conceive for more than 8-months. We tried to refrain from sex for days and even weeks but it didn't help.
Worst part is, there were empty hopes - I thought I was pregnant but in the end I wasn't. It's really frustrating and I understand that.
I was in Yahoo Answers and in this section quite some time ago and I ask a question similar to yours and a person recommended me a book. It's entitled ';Getting Pregnant Bible';. I swear it's like a gift from God!
It teaches stuffs like the seven things you need to do before even you try to get pregnant to ensure a healthy pregnancy; the appropriate diet to conceive; how to increase your husband's sperm count; the ovulation cycle and many others!
I am already having my 4th child now! I really recommend that you try reading this book out. Also, they are currently giving free bonus books like fertility secrets and choosing your baby gender! It's for a limited time only!
Learn more about it here: http://xurl.jp/lom
the book ';Taking Charge of your Fertility'; by Toni Weschler is a MUST read for any woman!......I spend 3 years ';trying'; to make babies the old fashioned way...having sex whenever!....didn't work......if you know when you ovluate and you can read your own body it takes much less time in my opinion...after reading the book it only took 2 months of trying....
bd baby dance and have fun cause it might turn into a chore so keep it spicy!
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