Couples Counseling a last resort or just some advice?

My girlfriend and I have been together for a little over 2 years. The first 6 months together we were really in love.





Now 2 years later we are still in love and thinking about our future together. Through these last two years we have been at different colleges, we have the occasional disagreements and seem to have a very intense relationship, either extremely happy with each other or almost to the point of cutting it off. But we really do love each other and as much as I want to see what it is like, she doesn't think we are quite at that point yet...





I guess what im trying to ask is, would we be wasting a counsleors time to see if we are ready for marrige yet, set some lifelong goals, get some things off our chest and make me feel a better about popping the question?Couples Counseling a last resort or just some advice?
It might help... You two sound like me and my ex-wife. We started out great and slowly over 8 years the arguments got more intense and more frequent. If you've noticed it use to be small disagreements once in a while and it has become more frequent there might be bad feeling still being harbored from past arguments. A counselor could help the two of you find the root. Couples Counseling a last resort or just some advice?
When you both consult a counselor, many things will come out of the closet and the counselor will help you pull some out as well. By talking to her about your problems with her and vise versa, the two of you will come to realize whether you want to be together or not. Usually, when couples (married or not) reach this point, it's basically the end of the relationship.
no way would you be just wasting a councellors time.


it is a very responsible thing to do BEFORE you guys get married and then relise that your goals and ideas are completely different.


I wish that my husband and i had done that , cos now we're having a baby and we have different views on how to raise kids also different religious beliefs.


trust me - sort all that out before you get married



Counseling might help. You have to go in with a open mind and be able to listen and learn, as well as maybe go to places that are not in your favor. It will make you look at yourself as well as your girlfriend. So, be prepared. Good luck.
I admire you and commend you for having the wisdom to look into the future like this. I think that a counseling session would be good. You are on the right track!!!
That's what they are there for, you should go see one.
i think u should try it but u seem to be going in the right direction
i wouldnt see a councellor. A relationship takes 2 ppl and a councellor aint one of them. much less counsellors wld be visited if ppl actually LISTENED to their partners. what you should do is listen to her and respect her feelings. If she thinks you two are not ready for marriage then you probably aren't. its as simple as that. just continue to be open with her and give her no reason to keep back her feelings and troubles from you, and with communication, your relationship will flourish. i do admire you for wanting to settle down so early by the way, but it must be mutual. Also, i dont think you are ready either. Dont enter a marriage just to see what it is like, but do it because there is noone else that you would rather be with and you are at a point where you dont have to think: ';suppose a better person for me came along?';. When i decided i wanted to marry is when i decided that i just dont care who else is out there in the world and i am just not interested in good-looks,what personalities they have and compatabilities. i just, dont, care. I saw who I wanted for me and I didnt feel like i wld ever miss out on a thingcuz i had it all. it must be an absolute 100 percent feeling, cuz when you cross that bridge, there should NEVER be any turning back so make sure that your partner is 'IT' for you before you propose. if i were you, i'd be glad that my gf said shes not ready or you might be married right now in the 'what if' state judging by the fact that you currently want to seek counsel about this.