What is the best advice you can give to a married couple?

Please be serious and ppl who don't like marriage please keep it to yourselves.





Thanks have a great day/nightWhat is the best advice you can give to a married couple?
#1 love each other


# 2 respect each other


#3 Communicate


#4 maintain a healthy sex life


#5 help each other


#6 be honest


#7 compromiseWhat is the best advice you can give to a married couple?
Marriage is cyclical - like the rings exchanged. It symbolizes what ones gives to another he/she can't be surprised at what is returned. For instance, if he is selfish and unconcerned about his wife's feelings, he can't be surprised when she is never in the mood. If she doesn't like to hold hands or kiss him, then she can't be surprised when he gravitates towards someone who does like to. At the same time, when he gives her his house and she makes it a home or when she enjoys doing for him and he can't help himself but to buy things for her - there should be no surprise in this either.





What does happen is that worldly things get in the way and the couple tends to forget about those small details. It's those small things that can make or break the relationship.
Don't take advice from strangers on the internet. Don't take that as a negative response, I'm serious! Realize that any and all issues in your marriage are personal and specific to the two of you, and no one else knows how to deal with them better than the two of you. The important part of marriage is being mature enough to know that and to force yourself to work through disagreements TOGETHER, solve problems TOGETHER, and revel in the good times TOGETHER.





I think the leading cause of divorce is laziness. No one wants to make the effort to uphold their vows, ';for better or for worse.';





EDIT: I apologize, I should have said ';no one'; wants to make the effort. I should have said ';very few'; people.
A happy marriage means that the ';newlywed glow'; should be with you forever. Here are some important tips for a happy marriage can help you get it back.





1. Make time for each other. Time to listen. Time to talk. Time to just be together. Play and work as a couple. Instead of rushing, slow down.


2. Appreciate something good about your partner. Tell him/her. Tell others, in front of him/her.


3. Share common goals and values. Work as a team to achieve them. Push and pull for the same basic things in your lives.


4. Say, ';I love you.'; Often. To yourself, your spouse, your kids, your parents, your friends, your dog and cat - anyone who is special in your life. (And, yes, family pets should be included. Interaction with them has numerous mental and physical health benefits.)


5. Smile. At yourself, your friends, your family, and strangers. Smile especially at those that seem to be having a hard day. Warning: smiles are contagious and those you smile at are likely to smile back at you.


6. Take time for yourself. Do something special for yourself each day鈥njoy a cup of gourmet coffee, take a bubble bath, or relax with a hobby.


7. Use the best things you have. Don't save them for special occasions. Wear new clothes while they fit, eat produce at its peak, use your good dishes for everyday meals. Enjoy every one of your possessions.


8. Take time for your partner. Do a good deed. Give sincere compliments.


9. Enjoy the common miracles of life. Watch the sunrise. Smell wild flowers. Listen to the birds flying overhead.


10. Laugh. Share a joke, read the comics鈥r tickle and be tickled back.


11. Celebrate each day. Find good in it.


12. Decide to be happy. Think positively. Remember that you bring about what you think about. You have control over how you feel.


13. Communication. That means talking through situations rather than bottling up or yelling. By showing respect, you can work together as a couple should. With this, the two of you can talk to understand the other person's side better.


14. Keep intimacy as a part of the marriage. Remember, this person is the one you love, the one you want to share your life with, which means letting go of inhibitions. Intimacy is an excellent way to stay close, doing wonders for any marriage.


15. Accept the flaws in your spouse. Since no one is perfect, you want to learn to appreciate the differences between the two of you. If your husband wakes up with bad hair or your wife is grumpy, love him/her, in spite of the flaws.


16. Learn to ignore the small stuff. Every marriage faces challenges, some big and some small. Remind yourself that life is precious and short. Therefore, focus on the larger battles, working through them as a team while letting go of the incidentals that in the big scheme of things does not matter.


17. Make sure you choose your battles wisely. If you are going to pick something apart, make sure it really matters. Therefore, unless the issue is something significant, learn to let some things roll off your back.


18. Time for friends is also crucial. Once every other week, you should both take one day or evening to spend time apart and with same-sex friends. This will help you maintain your own identity and appreciate the time you have with your spouse.


19. Never take your spouse for granted. Again, life is too precious. Instead, find things that your partner does well or things that please you and let him/her know. If your husband is outside working on the car, take time to bring him a cold glass of tea or lemonade...just because. If your wife has been home all day with the children, hire a babysitter and surprise her with a dinner out.


20. Be forgiving with your partner. You will be faced with tough times and you have a choice of forgiving him/her when a mistake happens or carrying it in the marriage. Obviously, if you do not forgive, the marriage will suffer. Therefore, if resolution is found, swallow your pride and forgive your mate, letting the new day be another beginning.





Notice that these things are all about you? Some don鈥檛 involve your mate at all. That鈥檚 because having a happy marriage is only partly about the other person. But, it鈥檚 all about you. You 鈥?your actions, your thoughts, your beliefs. You have the power to determine your marital happiness.


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I believe the secret to a happy marriage is for both partners to have a full understanding of the needs of their spouse, and a spirit of cooperation to meet those needs which are most important.





To that end, I'd urge any couple -- especially one early in their marriage to read the book ';His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage'; by Willard F. Harley Jr.





The book explains why having our needs met is so important, and provides exercises to help you figure out and communicate your basic needs.
First: A toast:


May you both grow old on one pillow.





Second: Be patient, be friends, listen to one another and be understanding. This person you married is not a clone of you and they have different opinions and views of things and you have to learn to talk things out including how you truly feel but that doesn't work if you both dont listen - truly listen - to what the other person is saying.





Be able to say what is on your mind, and trust one another.





Laugh, laugh, laugh and don't be afraid to cry in front of one another. Hang on to one another and love each other with your entire heart and soul. Be honest in ALL aspects of your life together.





If there is ever a problem, run to your spouse and talk about it. That is your best friend, your partner, your life you just married.





20 years of marrige with lots of love
1)Communication is overrated.....guys remember women don't think logically so be careful what you say





2)Make sure to live YOUR life not your partners . Marriage doesn't mean your prior life and friendships have ended





3) Have alone time , too much togetherness is a no no





4) Guys , expect your sex life to drop off precipitously after she says I do. Remember the food that eliminates a woman's sex drive is wedding cake





5)Don't have unrealistic expectations.. There is no such thing as a soul mate.Heck chance is what brings most of us together





6Lastly , he/she does NOT love you unconditionally . There are many many conditions attached to that love
First of all I am saying that if the husband had taken anything from the wife's father or mother, my advice is that say to him to give it back or his is in HELL.Because it is prohibited in islam and Prophet {PBUH} said not to take anything from the wife's father or mother.If they didn't take anything my advice is that ';good luck, And move in the right path that is Islam';
Realize the importance of effective communication %26amp; remember that it's not your spouse you're upset with, it's just the issue at hand so try not to take things too personally!!! AND ';the grass is NEVER greener on the other side'; so do whatever it takes to make it work with your husband and make it last forever!
Learn to have good communication and trust will be the best thing to have. It also has to be 50/50, and what I mean by that is you have to give for him and he has to give for you. Keep your life romantic like going out on dates, movies, ect.. Good Luck
Husbands love your wives as Christ has loved the church... Wives submit to your husbands. Its real simple. When men do all they can to make sure their wives are happy.... She will do all she can to make sure her husband is happy. Do unto others as you would want to be done.
Communication is the key. Talking is the best way to keep a marriage strong. Love is good, but liking them for who they are and how they treat you and others is just as important.
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say your piece





don't wait 20 yrs to tell him/her what bugs you





communication is the top key to keeping your relationship healthy and happy





Good Luck/Have Fun


communicate


communicate


communicate





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communicate , trust each other , and most important respect each others beliefs.
Be honest with each other. Always think of things that will make your spouse happy. Be sensitive to each other's feelings. Respect and accept each other as they are.
COMMUNICATION





COMMUNICATION





COMMUNICATION





Do not go to bed angry - STAY UP and argue :)





Oldson has great pointers hmm
A happy marriage is a daily work in progress. Once you stop working on your marriage, your marriage stops working for you.
Good communication is very important. When you are happy, or unhappy, talk things over.
Always keep an open line of communication , never go to sleep mad ...
it is a 50/50 partnership


never get jealous, insecure or paranoid enough that you need to snoop


follow your own goals in life


have lots of sex


communicate


and care
Compromise and patience.
Live only for each other and live every day like it is the last day on earth.
Act as if everyday is the first day you met. That will keep it exciting.
Listen to each other and do what the other person wants just as much as you .
Never go to sleep angry at each other.
good luck
Give it your all.....100-100
if it doesnt work dont try making it work because that will make it worse !!!
communicate without anger........but if you do get angry then...................makeup sex