Is there any advice you can give us about marriage?
Yes, we know we are young, but we're both mature (I don't say that, others do) and know that this is what we want. Believe me when I say we've heard every ';but you're too young..'; reason. We really have heard them all.
We would just like to know some stories of those who have been married.
Thank youCouples who have been married for a long time: do you have any advice/stories for the newly engaged?
When you marry, you make a vow. This is a promise and should not be done lightly. So many people get married understanding that if it does not work it is easy to get out again. They make vows that they have no intention to keep. Their marriages inevitably fail. Understand what your vows mean and stick to them and you cannot go wrong. Mine were to be loving, loyal and faithful. This is not rocket science and not difficult to keep to.
The most important thing is to marry your best friend. Someone who you can trust without question (faithful), someone you would rather die than betray (loyal) and is in your every thoughts no matter what you do, someone you put on a pedestal (loving). See, it's not difficult at all if you both feel the same way.
Age means nothing if you get the above right. It just means that you have more time to spend being happy. At any point you need guidance on your actions, just remember your vows and these will guide you. I know, I make it sound so simple (my wife says that I'm a simple creature)Couples who have been married for a long time: do you have any advice/stories for the newly engaged?
I have been married for many years, have 3 boys, the oldest one just joined the army and left for boot-camp yesterday. With that being said, I can tell you that marriage is the hardest thing you will do in life. It's a day to day choice to stay in the marriage, to choose to love unconditionally, to trust always, to honor. At all times, put your spouse above all others. At all times, put your spouse's needs above your own. At all times, fight fair. At all times, remain calm and keep a cool tone. At all times, don't point fingers. Learn to say ';I'm sorry'; and ';I was wrong';. Work together, save together, spend together, talk about everything no matter how big or small, laugh when you want to cry, and when tears fall, be there with a box of tissues and a strong shoulder.
I thought I was a very Mature 17 yr old too..until I turned 25 and had a awakening ....good luck
I have been married 19 yrs together 23 yrs to the same man
there were may times I wanted to leave ( I got married at 25)...had I been married any younger I would have divorced this man for sure especially if I didn't have kids.
Marriage is HARD
Marriage is WORK
Marriage is FORGIVENESS
Marriage is UNSELFISHNESS
Marriage is CONSTANT TRUTHFUL COMMUNICATION
Marriage is TRUTH
Marriage is TRUST
Marriage is COMMITMENT
Marriage is LOVE-UNCONDITIONAL
You are like anything on this planet, like the clouds, like the weather , like the trees , remember that as you grow you change, You must remember that as you change you will grow apart. At this time in your life it feels like love is endless and life is forever but you will in time change so much that you will no longer no one another, With this knowledge you must remember that you must take every moment you share together as something wonderful and let each other be what you need to be. If you looked at a tree outside your bedroom window and it leaves changes colour you would not worry and try to change them back again, this is what love and each other are like, go with those changes and do don;t try to keep each other as you find each other now. This time as all time is precious
I have been married a little over 6 years. Because of our lovely financial economy and our own personal money issues, there's not a whole bunch of communication. We both are still working on this issue. We get along okay but most of our time is spent in separate areas of our home. We have 2 young children that we both absolutely adore. We still have our hopes and dreams. When we argue, it's very short lived. There is nothing that we hide from each other and while we dont have much of a romance, we are more like best friends. We give each other space to breathe. Remember one thing, the grass is not always greener some place else.. so when you get married, just make sure that you understand it is a life committment and you will be fine. So long as you both have things in common and genuinely care about the welfare of the other, you will be alright and more importantly, don't base your decision on another person's opinion...just do what you feel is right and act accordingly.
I was married the week after I turned 19. That was 33 years ago, plus we dated for 3 years before we wed.
Everyone we knew said we were too young, and that young marriages never last. We heard it all, and chose to do what we felt was right. So we went ahead with the wedding.
Life has been very good to us. We have a terrific marriage, and we have never had to work at it. I married my best friend, and after all these years, we are still best friends.
My advice to you is don't sweat the small stuff, life is too short to let every little thing bother you
I know you do not want to hear that you are too young. But this is just it: it's just like going to an amusement park and you pick the first ride because you feel that it is the best ride. And years late, when you return you try some other rides, you are amazed at the other thrills that all these rides offer. Things are really not as simple as they appear now. Check out my source and find out what these complication are all about.
Yes, there is absolutely NO advantage for a guy to get married at all. There are all sorts of reasons (liability, cost, emotional, no sex unless she wants to which will be slight after the marriage) for not getting married. Marriage is a prison for a guy like Kramer told Jerry Seinfeld
Don't rush to have kids, enjoy your youth. Travel, go to school, move to a different place, explore. Figure each other out and enjoy each other before you get distracted with the family stuff. At your age, give it al least 5 years.
Just be totally honest with each other. And make sure your finances are together.
And Read Together.
Firstly, a long engagement. 5 years minimum.
Second, never, ever ask each other for anything.
my best possible, sound advice for your exact situation, i've ever given:
DON'T DO IT
best regards.
if you want a successful relationship communication is key, talk about everything and share everything
Got married at 18 had my first child at 19 and my second at 20. The best advise I can give you is.............................
DON'T DO IT!!!!!!
Marriage is not the hardest thing in life, at all. It's actually very easy. And we have 3 kids: 7, 23 months and 3 weeks.
Were a team. We are fantastic together. We have a lot of love, laughter and happiness. We have a great time together. We get along incredibly good. We know each other through and through. We support each other in everything, especially in raising the kids. We understand each other. We listen to one another. We love each other very much and are still very much in love. We connect all the time. We do everything together. We put our relationship first. We have an amazing marriage. Were romantic. Were fun. Were silly and wild and crazy. We take care of each other. We take care of our family together. We are very close. We say I love you all the time. Were affectionate. Were cuddly. We haven't lost interest in the other. Were strong and profound. We work. Whatever we are and whatever were doing, works. And it works really well. But most of all, were very happy. We make each other happy.
We have a healthy marriage. And we don't fight. It's simple as there is just nothing to fight about.
Marriage is the best thing that will ever happen to you, if it's with the right person.
Marriage can either be heaven or hell. And you will find out soon enough which one you have.
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