I feel a bit lonely & down as most of my friends/family are in couples & I never settled. Advice please?

I'm in my late 40s and have never settled down. The only reason I can think of is that I didn't meet a guy with whom I thought it would work with for life. I've had a pretty good job which enables me to travel, make friends all over the place and do what I like. I know that I look pretty, often get taken for 33 and am fit too. After my ex boyfriend of many years left me 6 years ago (he couldn't get his head around marriage), I've been more or less alone, except for the odd date. But I've never fallen for these guys and had just decided I like my life alone. However, I've just met my cousins new boyfriend and realise she will be the next to marry. For some strange reason I feel isolated and sad. Why is this when I know so well that many marriages fail and are charades? Please advise me?I feel a bit lonely %26amp; down as most of my friends/family are in couples %26amp; I never settled. Advice please?
I'm in my mid forties and have been married and divorced twice. I have been ';single'; since 1992 and had a long-term boyfriend in 2000 to 2004, but ended it with him because I knew it wouldn't work out. I felt the same say you did isolated and sad when my sis got married a few years back. Remember it is better to be single and happy than married and miserable. You may still meet Mr. Right, but you might be in your fifties or later. It doesn't matter. Only your ultimate happiness matters.I feel a bit lonely %26amp; down as most of my friends/family are in couples %26amp; I never settled. Advice please?
Well, I discovered most people want what they can't have or don't have. People who are married want to be single and have the freedom to chase their dreams, people who are single and successful want to be married because they feel lonely, with the exception of those who have experienced both sides of the track because they usually learn to moderate what they want and end up learning to have distant relationships and careers unless they are in politics or the public eye and marry for career purposes. I don't know anyone who has remained happily married that wasn't just putting on an act for the public. ;-)
Being alone is no fun and having failed romances is just as bad. Lucky you didn't have to add divorce to your list, it's very depressing, speaking from experience. What I found when I wasn't really happy with life was that I really wasn't happy with myself, that for one reason or another I hadn't realized that I had a lot of unsettled things inside that outside things couldn't fix. I had to learn to love myself. I had to look in the mirror and tell myself I love me outloud. I had to go through reaffirmations, good things I had written down about myself that I had to repeat for several weeks to see that I did have something to offer someone if they were smart enough to see it or at least come to peace with myself. Now I can be by myself and it don't bother me, I even enjoy my own company and I usually win all the arguements!
You should be proud that you've so successfully created your own happiness. It's a rare gift that most people don't understand.
When I read Eckert Tolle's book, A New Earth, Awakening to Your Life's Purpose it helped me understand so much clearer. As he explains it's the ego that makes us feel unsettled always wanting something else or more.





If you're having these thoughts maybe you'll benefit from reading as I did.





I wish you the best.
I don't know but you should remember that the grass is greener for everyone in some ways...I am settled but sometimes (quite often) think about how nice it might be to have a place on my own in a city that I love instead of living in the suburbs...I think about when the kids are grown up and I can be alone if I want to...not without them as such but wihthout my husband sometimes...I would like to be free and travel etc. I have to wait...you have it now. I do love my husband of course but responsibilities make it hard to get on sometimes...and I think how nice to be alone with nobody but me to please!