Any advice from WISE married couples on how to keep a relationship strong? Interested in both perspectives!!!?

This question is referably targeted to men/women that have been married for at least 10 years.Any advice from WISE married couples on how to keep a relationship strong? Interested in both perspectives!!!?
My husband and I have not been married for anywhere near 10 years, only 3 1/2 but I can tell you one good tip that was past on to us by my father-in-law who has been married to my mother-in-law for going on 35 years. Just remember to do at least one thing everyday to remind your spouse that they're imporatant and that you love him/her. The other great tip, even when you're having a disagreement, no matter how big or small because you will have them remember, that part of your ';job'; as his/her spouse is to build them up in every way you can, not to tear them down or cause pain to them no matter how angry you are at the time. Also a simple psychology side note that gets me through any situation when I am angry, remember that the root of all anger is fear, so before you yell or speak or pose your argument stop and try to figure out what it is that you're afraid of that is making you feel so angry then you can better express your feelings and understand them yourself.(my father-in-law is a pastor so he has tons of helpful tips that have dones wonders for us as a couple.) The hardest but also very important tip, when having a disagreement never use the word you, ex. You make me feel worthless....re phrase it by say I am feeling worthless, saying you will usually cause and automatic defense reaction and once that wall gos up, its hard if not impossible to have your feelings and opinion heard. Also, one of the top causes of divorce are finances, try to keep your debt as low as possible, not only is it a good thing to do anyway, its just one less stressor in your marriage.Any advice from WISE married couples on how to keep a relationship strong? Interested in both perspectives!!!?
Separate bathrooms.
it been 7 so it's close enough for me to answer. communication and respect is the key to keeping a marriage stong. you both have to have good communication skills. always talk and let one another know what's bugging or upsetting you and always be honest. and you have to have respect for both yourself and your marriage. if you don't have that then anything can and will happen if either of you let it. and it helps being the same religion no matter what it may be b/c there's a sying that goes a family that prays together stays together b/c you have to be on the same page a/b everything.





trust me marriage isn't easy but with love and patience it can and is a beautiful thing.





i learned this wise advice from my husband's aunt who was married 45 yrs until she lost her husband to cancer. she's been my teacher so i'm passing it own. i hope this anwered your question fully. it's nice to see someone wantting to have a long marriage and not just give up like most people do these days.
I would say honesty, communication and comprimise. As long as you understand that you have to choose your battles wisely. You can't always argue about everything, nobody wants to come home and have to walk on eggshells. Just enjoy each other.
I've only been married 6 1/2 yrs, but i think the key to a strong marriage is communication and lots of sex.
1.Never threaten divorce- once you say it there is no taking it back and it's the one thing that can never be really fixed.


2.Don't bring up old arguments. If he flirts with the waitress talk about it once and then let it go, don't bring it up again next time you're mad.


3. Treat your partner with the consideration and respect you would treat your best friend with, because that's who they should be to you.
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Let him invite his mistress over.