Couples advice please!!!! She left me after 4 years and I'm so heart broken?

Hey Guys,


The love of my life just left me again for the third time in 4 years.....long story short we both passionately love each other very, very much. The thing is though I'm 28 and shes 30 and well I guess I don't love myself yet enough for me to love another......even though she loves me so very much and always says I wish it was you, I know you're going to be an amazing man she leaves. She broke up with me 3 weeks ago and I'm so HURT and my heart is so BROKEN...she ended it by saying I'm not shutting the door on the idea of us getting back together its just I feel you need time to yourself and grow and if its meant to be its meant to be...PLEASE ANSWER ALL QUESTION........what is that?? why does it have to be that way?? What do I do to get over her or wait a min. to get her back?? Do you think she'll come back?? Bc Im scared of like 1 year passing and her fall in love with someone elseCouples advice please!!!! She left me after 4 years and I'm so heart broken?
Hi,


First, I would like to apologize for all of the pain that you must be going through. Heartbrake is the most horrible pain to feel, especially since it's a wound you can't see.


Let me ask you something: were you always sad or depressive about or around her? Because usually, ';I feel you need time to yourself '; is what someone would say to someone having difficulties. I know some people who are so happy-go-lucky that they just don't want to hang around moody or sad people because it feels like it drains their energy or it's too much work. Awful, right? I find that a wrong reason to leave someone... unfortunately, some people are like that.


However, my advice is that you should one day pull her aside to talk to her. Not on the phone, but in person. You have to tell her and, most importantly, SHOW her how much she means to you and how much you need/love having her in your life. Do things for her: make her happy, subtly and romantically remind her that she needs you to be happy and that she can be happy with you for a lifetime if she'd go to you. Prove yourself! Do NOT hold anything back if you're going to wear your heart on your sleeve and pour yourself out like a tea-pitcher. You NEED to explain yourself, inside and out till you're blue in the face, so that you can try your best to help her understand you. If you take 5 steps, she should meet you half way. Don't just pleed and beseech, make the effort! And this is the important part: Get the point across, clear as crystal, that SHE is what will help/makes YOU the ';amazing man.'; SHE is what you feel will make things better for YOU, which will make things better for HER, and you BOTH.





I don't know why that is. I don't know why it has to be that way. But I believe that if you both try to understand eachother, and make it known that you want to work to make things better, then everything will be what you want it to be. And why are you waiting 1 year?! Go get her NOW! As soon as you finish reading this!!!





If you both love each other passionately then don't lose hope. You're both just in a bind, here. Time will pass, but don't just give up!


You have to give the rest of us hopeless romantics hope too!Couples advice please!!!! She left me after 4 years and I'm so heart broken?
even if she does fall in love with someone


the only way you can get over her is time


time is the only good true healer


discard all contact with her


delete all memories of you guyz being together


n get out more with your friends


and try to date some other chick wen u feel like you are ready
can you please go answer some of my questions, no one is helping