To married couples: Whats your BEST advice on keeping your marriage strong & healthy up to this point?

I want to know...To married couples: Whats your BEST advice on keeping your marriage strong %26amp; healthy up to this point?
Be the kind of person YOU would like to come home toTo married couples: Whats your BEST advice on keeping your marriage strong %26amp; healthy up to this point?
Been married 31 1/2 years. To keep your marriage strong and healthy make sure that you talk to each other. It is ok to get mad at each other but be sure to tell the other your reasons for being mad. Don't keep stuff locked up, and Don't lie to each other.





Marriage is very hard and you must work at it every day. There is a lot of give and take in marriage. Respect one another and listen to one another.





I did not got into my marriage with the thought that well if it doesn't work out I can get a divorce like so many people do today. Lots of Hard work will make your marriage strong and long lasting.
Don't believe that because everything isn't 100% to your satisfaction that you can find someone that you can because you might be kidding yourself. If you have a spouse that even if you do have a lot of arguments but manage to work things out in the end is a good hint that you will get better at working things out without a heated argument in the future. It is hard in the best of situations for a marriage to work. I also think it is good to advise that you aren't going to like your spouse everyday but if you never do that might be a high watermark of a couple needing to seek counseling or a divorce attorney. You will never hear me say ';I'll never get a divorce'; because one or the other of us could kick the other to the curb at any moment. I know that every person still alive that was at our wedding years ago are still shocked that we are still together especially getting married at 17 and 20.
I have been with my husband for 5 yrs. Two yrs in the marriage and 3 yrs. together.





Communication. Loyalty. Commitment. Considerate to each other. Share. Love. Have fun with each other. Be ready for any change in your marital relationship as well as family issues on both sides of both your families.





Just learn to love each other.
The secret to our marriage is the same thing that is terrible. My wife will not discuss things and I will not leave her. Her lack of discussion means that we don't fight. The fact that I won't leave means that we are still together. So there are lots of unresolved hurts and BS, a lack of intimacy, and no fun, but we are still together!





Every time I try to make things better, she says that I am manipulating her for sex. So she shuts down. And if I do nothing, she does nothing. So we have no sex, and it's not fun!!!





So I'm a terrible person to ask for advice. But if I had to guess what would be better, is that you need to have a hard man and an easy woman. That combination should result in robust action.
Respect each other. If you respect the person you're with and treat them the way you want to be treated, your marriage will last a lifetime because you don't cheat on anyone you respect, you don't call people you respect names, you don't lie to people you respect, etc.
always be open and honest, you both know your faults and such, just communicate and work with each other, keep things real and fun,do not try to change one another for it will not work. It will always be a give and take situation, Just remember when you two first started dating, how you would give her flowers, go on dates etc... sometimes just go back and re trace your steps and flourish with them.


good luck.


T-man
Yep... lot's and lot's of communication. Always honesty. The ability to compromise when you can. The biggest I think is enabling yourself to feel secure in the relationship. Without your own security your partner won't feel secure, leading to jealousy and other nasty things... which goes back to communication.
My mother always has said that a strong marriage has balance and compromise. If one person really feels strongly about something, the other will back down. I've grown up witnessing this my whole life. They do this for each other even with the little things! Like what movie to go see. My mother wouldn't complain if my dad really wanted to see Iron Man. Of course there are other things to keep in mind, like trust. If you can't trust your spouse then there will naturally not be a balance.





That's what I think! :)
communicate is #1 but something people over the past 40 yrs forget more and more is that life is not always perfect or even great, there will always be hard times and there will be times you cant stand each other but you need to work through it rather than run away as soon as the high is gone.
NOTHING comes between you. That means job, kids, friends, etc....





God is also an important part of any marriage. It is like a 3 legged stool with each party being one of the legs. Without one of the legs, the stool (marriage falls).
Honesty, Communication, Trust, Compromise, Respect, Affection, Romance, Appreciation, Loyalty, Being Faithful, and Compassion!
Communication, shared interests, and spending lots of time together.


Oh...and lots of LAUGHTER.


Having private little jokes between ourselves is one of the best parts of our marriage!
Before marriage, make sure you know who you are marrying and that you share the same goals and values. After marriage, make sure you put your spouses happiness high on your list of priorities.
My advice would be communication, intimacy, relating, compromise, negotiation and understanding, and of course a great sex life!


Not always easy but its in your reach!
1.Pray for each other.


2.Talk to each other.


3.Never stop dating.


4.Put the other first.


5.Marriage comes first, kids come second.
Don't compromise your beliefs.





If you have to bow down and change your ways you will loose yourself and end up unhappy and wanting to leave.





You should be upfront on who you are and how you are before saying I DO!
Communication, honesty and SEX. Sex is one thing that women tend to forget once they get married. Very important!!
COMMUNICATIONS is key....I have been married for 6 years and the last year and half have been the worst way too much arguing and not enough love kissing and sex...I can not stand it anymore
God and God alone. it is only by the grace of God that a marriage can thrive :o). Open your Bible and seek truth and seek God.
ALWAYS pay attention to each and be honest. Don't hide things behind each others back caz then you make the other person feel like everything is a lie.
honestly, communication, affection, appreciation, acceptance, love, understanding, patience.
COMMUNICATION , HONESTY, SEX
Wouldn't it be easier to solve all the worlds problems first?





I know I'll get thumbs down for this but it's just how I'm feeling today!





haha ...thumbs up means I'm not completely wrong.
Lots and lots of sex.
Communication, Honesty, and not overwhelm each other.
COMMUNICATION!!! Being truthful, have a date night.
communication and honesty.. and church counsuling.
Jesus and praying for each other.