Advice on couples counseling?

My boyfriend of 3 1/2 years and I have decided to start couples counseling next week. We both love each other very much but have some issues-old and new- that are really affected our happiness these days. I know that part of couples counseling is to have sessions together and then individually. I didn't tell my boyfriend that part because I was afraid he would change his mind if he knew that. I'm just going to let our therapist approach that strategy. I know that I have some personal issues I need to work on and I really think my boyfriend does to if he will open up. So, our issues range from communication to lifestyle to addictions to sex. We are across the board. How do you approach that first session with so many things to talk about? Is someone out there willing to share thier experience (good or bad)? I have a feeling that my boyfriend feels like I'm the one with most of the issues and I admit I kinda feel that way about him. But we both want this to work. Thank you!Advice on couples counseling?
Great question, I can understand your hesitations as you go in to spill your guts to some person whom you have never met. Congratulations on going! It shows both of you care.





The therapist will begin by going over some paperwork and maybe by telling you what he/she does in the sessions. Then the big question will most likely be asked, “So…what brings you in?” From that point on, the therapist will simply want to get an overall picture of the situation. Just say what is on your mind. When one has talked enough, the therapist will ask the other, and he/she actually should be quite good at leading the conversation.





I would not worry about who needs the counseling more, I would just be glad your boyfriend is going. It is ok for him to think it is for you, whether it is true of not.





I have been to two therapists, am one myself, and this is what usually happens.





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Don't expect the counselor to say much. Mostly they will ask the other person, ';Well, how do you feel about that?';