I need sex advice (couples)

Before I met my boyfriend I loved having sex, I always wanted it, I loved it and always iniaited it with my ex boyfriends more then they did with me !


When I was first with my b/f we had sex every day sometimes twice a day, as time went on things began to slow down, but normal 3 - 4 times a week. Almost a year after we started slowing down, I just started to feel like I didn't want sex, I thought it was a phase but it's been going strong since then which has been a year. At one point we were having sex once a month (i was working 16 hrs a day though!) Now maybe once a week we try to average


What happened? I want to have sex but I just find I'm too lazy, and just have no desire to.. I've also gained a lot of weight recently and don't like my body, my b/f is also over weight, first over weight guy i've dated. Anyway I'm just wondering why was I a horn dog before and now I'm ok with hardly ever having sex!!.. How can I reconnext with my boyfriend sexually, because I really love him and he is the best man ever with great qualities we just lack in the sex department (and he's always all over me too! :( )I need sex advice (couples)
You say he's always all over you, well it's not rocket science but if your not feeling like doing something and your always getting groped it will definitely make you feel like having sex a whole lot less. The weight thing could be a problem, causing your self esteem to plummet along with you working so much. Not to mention i am sure he's not quite as perfect as you are saying, it all adds up.. Do a little soul searching and then have a long talk with him.


I need sex advice (couples)
You need to take care of your physical body. Being even a little bit overweight can put a huge damper on your libido. Get on a healthy eating plan and more importantly, get on a good exercise plan to energize yourself. You'll be surprised at how quickly your libido returns. Your boyfriend may follow suit.
Hmmm... it could be something hormonal or it could be a sub conscious thing with your weight. Maybe he's not satisfying you. It's hard to say based on what you've said. I'm sure if you look deep inside you'll find your answer. Face the problem head on. Good luck!
You answered your own question, you work too much, and you both porked out, time for a change. Change your priorities,





1. God


2 Family


3. Vocation





When work, and money are number one in a persons life, all else goes down the drain.
Lose some wieght, feel good about yourself and get off the couch and stop eating cupcakes. Tell your boyfriend to do the same. You will both live a much healthier/happier life style. Sounds harsh, but its the truth.
I too was like you, but years and childbirth have put pounds on me and I just sort of lost my desire for sex. It's a sex image thing for me, maybe its the same for you....
you and ur bf need to start exercising and getting more active.... weight gain and laziness drag sex drives to the ground... sometimes you will be too tired to have sex because of work and thats normal.... i was once like that.. i gained like 35 pounds and my girl did too... but she has upped her physical activity and exercise and ive lost like 42 pounds... since then we cant get enough of each other... weve been togethe for 8 yrs and we still act like bunny rabbits on viagra...lol
It could be hormonal b/c of your weight change, or just simply self-image. It may also be the fact that you have been together for so long, and maybe the spark is dimming. You need to put some romance back in your life. Have him take you out, show you that he still finds you attractive, then see if that helps. You may also want to talk to your doctor about depression/stress...it can also cause a drop in your sex drive....believe me, I know. GL!
I had the same problem but I read this book called Kosher Adultery, I am not Jewish but it made alot of sense to me. I thought my problem was weight but after reading that book I realized that it wasn't!





First they talked about being honest with yourself and your partner by telling them things about you that you don't like and things about them that you don't like. Since I didn't feel that comfortable talking to him face to face about those things, we started to talk on the phone alot about things that people would not ever talk about with their spouse, we talked about sex with other people and things that we liked and didn't like sexually. You would be amazed at hearing about someone that you are in love with having sex, in detail, with some else can make you feel. Surprisingly makes you want them even more, it makes you look at them completely different.





Anyway enough about me, read the book it will do wonders. I promise



Your sex drive is low because you are tired and insecure. What you need to do is put the insecuirty aside- drink an energy drink and let him have u in an new and exciting way. Do it in a place you may get caught, buy some sexy new lingerie or work out a fantasy. Sex is a fantastic thing in a relationship, dont throw it away. You need to tell him that you want to spice up your sex life- guys get really excited if you ask them what they want to do to spice it up.